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Q: why doesn't it show the groups i'm in on my myspace?

It's probably set not to. Go to "Account Settings" on the home page (next to your picture). Then go towards the bottom and click on "Profile Settings". The very first things should say "Display groups I belong to on my profile" or something like that. Click the box to enable it. If that doesn't work, it could be the layout you or using, or the age you are might prevent it.

Q: I just got my braces off and got a retainer yesterday i forgot the case and put it in my bag with my gym clothes so i didnt think anything would happen to it.(but i was wrong.) So i go 2 put it in at night and the front wire is all croked. So i was able to bend it back so it looks normal now its just a little tight. I'm just afaid it going to bend my teeth in way i don't want it to cuz i might have bent it back wrong. Should i tell my mom (even though she'll get really mad) and go 2 the ortho asap or just wear it @ nite and tell him next app. in likke 4 weeks??? thanks for the help!!! i need it!!

Tell your mom. She will definitely be more angry if you wear the retainer and it ruins the teeth she paid for you to have. She'll probably be mad at first, but in the long run, it's worth it.

Q: hmm im not sure what to be for halloween.
i'm 13, so i don't want something too revealing, but not all covered up, you know? i really have no ideas all the ones i saw in catalogs and stuff i'm not interested in. and dontt tell me to make my own, i have no idea how to make anything halfway decent.
k thanks

Be a ninja. Make sure to get a sword and dress in all black.

http://www.chickenshop.co.uk/acatalog/SM98805.jpg

Q: I'm going to be 17 in a couple of months.-yet, I've never had a boyfriend, kiss, etc. this is DEPRESSING. and i don't mean to sound conceited..but why are there ..*not as pretty* girls that get alllll the guys?! whhy? i mean, this totally hurts my self esteem-I have like NONE. and i keep it all boiled up inside of me because i don't know who to tell it to because it's embaressing..:(

my other question--well, i like this guy..and it's weird because even when i'm not looking, i can sense when he's near me..and so i turn around. isn't that SO weird? and it's soo weird how like he stands out of everyone..like i can spot him in a crowd? why is that? sorry if my questions are retarded. :\

First of all, looks do not matter when it comes to dating. At least, it shouldn't. You shouldn't let yourself feel low, because you haven't dated anyone. The right guy will come along, if you wait patiently. I personally don't date because I don't want to. Trust me, it's so much easier to not deal with the stresses of having relationships. Also, you definitely shouldn't date just to get kissed. Imagine how amazing your first kiss will be. Embrace it. I wish I hadn't given mine up, and I wish I had never dated before. Think positive. Wait for the right guy.

It isn't weird that you can feel the boy's presence. Everyone has a dinstinct feeling. Also, when you like someone, you can pick them out of a crowd easily. Trust me, it isn't that rare.

Q: im 15/f. i turned 15 july 25th. i've been getting my period since i was 12. i dont know why but ever since i was on the verge of turning 14 goin on 15 i've been feeling depressed before i get my period..its crazy i could be happy all month and forget about my issues but at the end of the month it's like i feel so bad and miserable. and i dont have a really bad attitude and i think im too young to have PMS. i hate that feeling when im miserable cuz all i do is cry and just bring my self down but at least i can blame it on my period and try not to be so down but i just wanted to know does anybody relate to this.

A lot of girls can relate to this. You are definitely not too young to have PMS. Your hormones are raging anyways, because you are a teenager. PMS just twists all your hormones around, and makes you feel different. Try using Midol PMS. It really can help. Also, don't continually tell yourself that you are going to be different when you are PMS'ing. You have control of your emotions, but it does get hard sometimes. Stay positive, and I promise it will get better.

Q: the area below my breasts.. has gotten big.. it used be where it would be flat there and then would go my gut.. or belly.. now its just all one thing that goes straight up and down.. i guess im getting fat and thats whats making this happen. i was just wondering if there are any specific excersises to get rid of that.

if you are having any pains or anything, you should go to a doctor and get it checked out.

but, if you just think you are gaining weight, crunches work wonders. do 50 every morning and 50 every night. also, if you drink a lot of cokes, you should try to cut down to one a day and drink sugar free kool-aid [with splenda] and water instead. also, it's summer which means you can go to the pool and swim laps or just do things to get active.

Q: First question is: Aren't oppinions the same as advice? Is an opinion just an indirect way of giving advice?

Second question:
I am considering a career in law as a defense attorney. My Xgirlfriend (XGF) said that defense attorneys cannot ethically do their job in the event that their client is in fact guilty if they know that their client is guilty.

She then said that it is incorrect for me, as a personal trainer, to give unsolicited advice to someone who is performing an exercise improperly(assuming that I know the correct exercise).

My XGF says that advice should only be given when asked for.

But she seems to think that a proactive approach is the only ethical solution to an obvious injustice.

My XGF thinks that the attorney example is somehow different from the exercise example. Is she right?

I feel like she has to be wrong since it is not possible to be proactive and wait for a solicitation for advice.

an opinion is what you would do if you were in that position.

advice is an opinion given when asked for.

Q: i have no idea if people have asked this before or what, but even if they did, please try to answer? its somewhat long; i apologize ahead of time.

ok, so i'm pretty much an athletic person. I play almost any sports and play on two teams at school. However, even though im not that bad with sports and i totally love playing, i have a horrible issue with running/conditioning. Like, i can run short distances really fast, but i cant run for very long. I can run longer if i have breaks inbetween too. but if i run consistently without stopping, my legs start to burn and i cant breathe.

I cant stand miles because afterwards i end up not being able to breathe for a while. Like for one practice we ended up running a lot of laps and by the end i couldnt really breathe properly for ten-twenty minutes. Is there a way to like... help me run better? Or not get as tired by the end/able to breathe normally? During games and stuff i almost never get tired. Its only during long conditionings and whatnot.

please help!! i have training all summer and i rather not die from lack of oxygen anytime soon. i'll rate high for helpful tips.

i used to have the same problem. the way i handled it, is by pacing myself. a lot of people start running their hardest at the beginning of a long run, and towards the end they get burned out. start out jogging, and if you can't breathe well, slow your pace to a slower jog. speed up and slow down as you wish, but try to keep a steady pace.

Q: i am tryin to find a cute summer layout for myspace but i cant seem to find a beachish one or something summery. can anyone help me out please?!

go to http://www.myspace.com/dropkickk_lyts and add them as your friend. after they have accepted, go to the layouts and look at paige's F.

Q: Do guys like it better if you wear lipgloss when you kiss/makeout with them? I"ll rate i promise!!

lip gloss is sticky and makes a big mess when you make out. but it does attract boys to your lips. i usually wear lip gloss until i know the boy is about to kiss me and then i wipe it/lick it off.

Q: I am 16 /F. Last week i visited my girl friend, she told me they are naturalists and celebrate all week ends as a naturalists and they wear nothing at home. So I went their to see and I was astonished to see all of them nude (Dad, mom, my friend, her 12 year old sis and 19 year old bro). Is this kind of thing allowed? Isnt it a kind of incest?

on their private property, it is fine to wear absolutely nothing. if they do it in a public place, it is against the law. but, as long as they don't touch each other or exploit each other, it is not incest. incest is sexual nature. if they are simply going about a regular routine, but they are nude, there is nothing wrong with it.

Q: i have two dresses for prom (which is today :0) & one seems more appropriate for prom but i have one question: is one shoulde rcompletely out of style? it's only one shoulder. would i look weird? i know it's kind of last years style, so should i not wear it?

i don't think one shoulder is out of style. you have to decided if you want to wear it or not. make sure you're confident in it, or you'll be uncomfortable the entire night.

Q: what is it? is itt illegall? can you get caught? just tell me basically ab it.

iill give 5s

limewire itself isn't illegal. it's supposed to be used for files and such. but in the terms of service, it says specifically to not use it for downloading movies, music, etc. illegally. and if you get caughtit would be very bad. but it's not likely that you will get caught.

Q: does anyone know how to get more than 12 pictures in the view more pics section on myspace? a code or website would be greatly appreciated. thank you.

you get 4 extra pictures if you buy the myspace cd. but also, you can use www.tinypic.com to get a short tag and put it in the caption of your picture. you will have two pictures instead of just one.

Q: I have little red bumps on my legs, I'm pretty sure they're from shaving. Is it because I shave up my leg instead of down?

And how could you get these to go away?

you are supposed to shave up. do you use shaving cream? if not, you really should. make sure you put the cream on thick enough, so you won't get razor burn. also try to find shaving cream for sensitive skin.

Q: My bedroom is white and boring. I've been thinking about redecorating it. mostly painting the walls. I just have no idea what color to paint it. My favorite colors are pink and black. I'd be scared to paint it black and plus, im not allowed. but im not sure if i wanna paint it pink. Please help.

What colors would you suggest to paint a bedroom.

I'll rate 5's for anyone that tries.

i painted my room pink when black and pink were my favorite colors. but mine is BRIGHT pink. if you paint it pink, get a really soft pink. trust me it gets brighter on the walls. but i think teal or torquise would be beautiful in a room, and i know it would make me happy. :]

Q: Would you ever meet someone in person off of myspace? I know most of you are going to say no but what if it's a friend of a friend?

i have met someone from myspace and fortunately he didn't do anything. i wouldn't recommend it if it were a complete stranger. but since it's a friend of a friend.. it should be okay. but still.. don't go alone. you could take your mutual friend to introduce you.

Q: hey i really love emo mucic i just dont know any good bands and if you have any id love any bands. thanks.. ill rate 5's

weezer, senses fail, silverstein, chiodos, halifax, my american heart, from autumn to ashes, daphne loves derby, something corporate, don't die cindy, forever changed, further seems forever, just surrender, mozart season, etc. those are just a few.

Q: If I run on my treadmill which of my muscle groups am I working out, on what part of my body?

mostly you are working your calves [the lower half of your leg]. but you are burning calories, so it should help slim you down in more places than just that.

Q: where can you get good myspace layouts, like, the cute black and white ones with pictures of little kids and whatnot? i cant find anyyy
thanks ___xo*briana

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bio

I'm Katelyn. Not Katie Lynn.

PERSONALITY:
-God comes first.
-I am Pro-Life.
-I put others before myself.
-I'm usually nice.
-I don't cuss and I don't gossip.
-I'm not perfect, but I know God is.

APPEARANCE:
-I'm short.
-I have a mullet.
-I have freckles.
-I change my hair often.
-I have green eyes, not blue.
-I'm usually considered cute.