I am a person who believes that negative criticism never does anything right and only demoralizes... I have been through a lot... but everytime I have fought back...There should be a certain way for making someone show the correct path...and I believe that it should be unbiased and free from personal grudges...this is what i am trying to do...where they will see me not as another columnist just trying to give advices rather see me as a friend whom they can rely upon blindly and be a support when they need a true friend...
But its a request not to use any abusive languages...
Gender: Female Location: India Occupation: Research scholar Age: 28 Member Since: February 13, 2013 Answers: 72 Last Update: September 12, 2023 Visitors: 7524
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Please anybody help me how to die very hardly and wierdly.Because i hate my life and now death became my best dream friend.I just want to meet my best friend.Sorry GOD......... (link)
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There was a time when I seriously wanted to die.. I tried to search all sorts of painless ways to end my life.. but believe me there is no such way..one of my friends tried it.. and the next thing was that he became blind though he survived.. why dont you ..make a bucket list and start doing some challeging and weird things while you are alive..and then see life change
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i am 15 years old and i have a bf we have been together for 9 month and some days we havent been seeing each for a while but it seem like the less were together the futher were moving apart what should i do (link)
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There is nothing much you can do dear except give it some time..9 month is a very short time.. Dont worry..at just 15 yrs you have a whole life ahead..Observe, note and evaluate...dont hasten up..
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So, I am about to have a baby and someone mentioned that there are a bunch of places that will send you baby stuff in your mailbox if you just ask for it? How do you do this? Is there a list of companies that do this, or do you just have to write everyone and hope they send you something? LOL! (link)
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please clarify your question..
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I dont know what to say ,i want to know whats the purpose of my life,like what am i made to do.ive been cheated on ,ive been bullied .i doubt any one would answer so just hear me out,i dont know what to do,how do i find my purpose ,and i also need to make new friends!! (link)
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First of all you have to find out what work do you enjoy the most...once you find that out indulge into it completely..once you work on what you enjoy you will become a much happier person.. so what are you waiting for? run for yourself..enjoy the journey ,face challenges..other things will come in place..and this is not a one time thing...keep in contact.. i need to know more about you like whats your age...are you a student or in some job...what are your problems..we need a detailed and continuous discussion..
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I am 29 years old Indian boy.I live in dubai.At 20th Sept 2012 I got for a sex relation with a sex worker.I used the condom but there were some scratches at the under part of peni.After 6months of this meeting I suffer from the flu when I got the medicines of the flu it recovered but the headache in the back starts and also suffer from dirrea.then I went for the test which was negative but the problems of headache remain continue ,I went to India and May 2013 get elesa test but all were negative , Aug 2013 I get the card test which also negative, Oct 2013 elesa test negtive , march 2014 hiv1/2 negtive but headache , sore throat , neck pain still and morning temp 97.3 evening 99.1, Next month i am having a plan to get marry a girl. Please tell me if I should postponed the marriage? Waiting for your reply (link)
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First of all, I would like to know which tests have you done? Is it only for HIV or other tests too? Your sexual encounter was in Sept. 2012 and March 2014 it came out negative. I would also like to know whether You have only done ELISA or western blot test as well? It does not seem You have HIV , since a HIV positive person cant test negative normally after 18 months .but you may have contradicted any other disease or any Sexually transmitted disease.Have you been to any doctor? You need a thorough check up. Donot stick only to HIV tests.It will be good if you answer my questions when you read my reply. As for marriage , you should not even think of it, before your diagnosis is done. I am not going moral, I am not even telling you to think about that girl, but for instance you have any other Sex Transmitted Disease, its diagnosed after your marriage, you transmit it to your wife before that,you get treatment, you are cured, suddenly it seems your wife starts showing the symptoms, in the mean time you recontradict the disease from her.. its all cyclic my friend.Marriage right now will complicate matters. first focus on your diagnosis.
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One of my boyfriend's former friends sent me some threatening messages on Facebook. So I blocked him...
However, I really don't want him to have my full name in his messages.
Is there ANY way to get these messages he sent me deleted on his end? (link)
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report them as spam
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This guy I'm 90% sure I'm in love with. (Its the only explanation I can find for the way he makes me feel) I've known him 2 years. But he lives a few hours from me and I'm not sure we were ever meant to cross paths. But I just cant get over him. No matter what I try. Can someone please give me advice. (link)
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First of all make sure that you really want to get over him before even trying to work this out? Destiny helps people who help themselves. But that dusnt mean that you will always be successful. But try enough so that you have no regrets later on.. but if you still want to get over him you have to make yourself strong.. Spiritualism may help..
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Ive just had my ninth hiv test its come back negative, my last exposure was 14 months ago, but im still getting stomache pains and a pain on my liver side, im now worried that ive been ci-infected and have hepatitus c aswell even though that result came back negative and now i have a fatty liver but it comes and goes this pain near my liver, what if both viruses have notg shown any antibodies because ones masking each other, i still have tongue ulcers about 4 , my eyes are dry with a dark circular ring around my iris.
I think i may have aids even hep c even though they have all come back negative after 14 month. Or are they antibodies not quite developed yet stressed (link)
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Firstly you should show a good doctor. You cant go on testing your self based on assumptions.Your symptoms possibly indicate some sort of viral infection mainly affecting your liver. And there are many viruses apart from hepatitis and HIV. A doctor after examining you and your medical reports may possibly give you some other tests. or wait for some time before conducting other tests.You surely have some sort of medical problem. You need a thorough check up. And most importantly dont think too much before anything serious comes up.Because pshycology is intimately linked with your physical well being.
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Hi. I'm 13 and I'm texting my friends and just recently my dad was doing a phone check and found out I was texting a black boy. He started going off on me and he said I wasn't allowed to text him anymore or I would be in trouble what should I do? (link)
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I am no sort of a rebel.. but I find this rebellous enough.. What is wrong is wrong and racism is certainly wrong.. If people like us keep our mouth shut and accept the wrong then we should accept that we are non-entities and merely clones. We dont have our own rational thinking..Go and tell your dad what is wrong.. and how is it wrong.. try to make him see the point. And if he doesnot just tell him coolly that what he thinks that is his thinking.. and according to you his thinking is wrong and just because he's wrong. YOU ARE NOT GOING TO DO THE WRONG THING.
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Hello friends!! Am bhuvaneswari of India.Am 20 doing my engineering final year.I met a boy in my first year of college.He was not that much smart but something impressed me and i have proposed him.He too accepted.But after a moment i proposed i felt so bad why did i proposed him because basically i hate this love because my parents are so much strict. But he started to love me truely.Many times i have admired him because of his care and affection towards me.Many times i just really feel like hating him because of his very much possessiveness, appearance and attitude.Even i feel very shy to tell my friends he is my boyfriend because he is not that much smart and not that much talented studieswise.Whatever he does like caring me whenever am not in need of it, i feel like irritating but manytimes i will miss him like hell when am much depressed and i will search him only when am in a problem or when am very much sad. Also i never think off to make him suffer in anything and i will be helping him everytime but i fail to care for him whenever he is in need of it. Always the matters between us ends up in a great fight.but always he apologizes and come to me even the mistake is mine because he loves me truely and he never allows me to face any kind of bad situation.even many times i have felt him he is my god but i feel like hating him sometimes and am not takng care of him. am not that much worryng even he doesn't eat and i dont worry about his health. Why am doin like this ? He is such a nice guy i always try to love him but am unable to do it. He is suffering a lot because of me but i feel like i want him in future but not now because i dont want him to make suffer by my foolish thoughts because he is such a nice loveable guy.Am scared that i will miss him in my future if i make distance now because i feel that no girl will get such a nice character boy in her life.But am unable to care for him wholeheartedly now and also i dont want him to suffer like hell because of my stupid character. And now my parents have come to known about my love but they dont know that am not in deep love.They have started to be strict and i also wanted to develop my family by studyng well.At this critical situation this kind of concept of love is killing me.. What to do at this situation?I dont want to miss him in my life because i cant lead happiest life without his care and affection towards me.But at the same time i dont feel like i love him dont feel like caring him i feel hatred that my parents have bad impression on me that their daughter had fell in love. I really dont know what am doing;(so much depressed unable to love and care for him wholeheartedly and unable to get out of his life.He is suffering like hell because of me i cant see that;(plss give any good solution for my life plss:( (link)
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You dont love him.. you are just attracted to him and he is just a sort of pain killer and support for you..becoz you know that he is always der for you and will never leave you.. so you take him for granted.. leave this guy.. it would be better for him and you.. He deserves some one who loves and cares for him.. and you need to get out of this tricky situation.. If you cant love and respect him while he does.. Neither of you will be happy forever in the long term...
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Is it possible to get a std if I've never had sex and neither of my parents have a std
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No..STD means sexually transmitted disease and if you dont have sex they wont be transmitted...but there are some diseases which can be transmitted by sex as well as by other routes.. but these can happen to any othwr normal person which is as general as any other person and probability is the same for all person and vulnerability depends on other factors.. dont worry about them..
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I tested hiv negative on march 20th 2013, after exposing myself to hiv last april 27th 2012, i have was being sick, vomiting mucus and having aches pains, high temp for about 1 week if i remembet correctly last late april beginning of may, this was at home, did not go to hospital, sludgy diahorrea and a lot of trapped wind. Since then i have had hiv test in may 2012 , june 2012, august 2012, october 2012, november 2012, jan 2013, and my last one 25th march 2013 athis was using blood from my arm, what tests are the ones ive had and when they were negative, showing no hiv antibodies, are they accurate and am i definately hiv/aids negative? i still have a neck rash little clear bumps and reddy marks. My tongue still has 4 ulcers in the centre at back of.tongue, my dry cough and dry eyes are still with me, the clinic said to me that i should have been assurrd afyer 3 months window, but as you can see ive had 6 tests over 10 month now its coming close to a year, am i hiv negative or should i be worried still because of some symptoms. I had anal and oral sex last year (link)
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I dont think you have HIV. but you definitely have some problem..show a good doctor..may be you are suffering from some other immunodeficiency disease..or any other viral infection
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Hi,I am Jhim.I am 26 years old.I want to die,because my boyfriend hurt me day by day.He do not leave me,but he just talking me very rudely.I love him very much from 2008 that means 5 years.That time he was with out money,with out job.He prayed me to be engaged with him.I did not want any time to be engaged because my parents wanted arrange marriage.He cried that time day by day,I was a soft minded girl so I made a friendship with him.That time also his grlfriend left him.But I did not like him because he was that type of character that I did not like,I did not like his family culture also.But one day I came to know that his office life would be end because he did not work properly in office.So I accepted him.We were happy couple.I thought that as he had not money so what I will do a job.In this long time we met any where but did not spend day by day.Now a days I came to his office to do a job.But he makes rough behaviour with me every day.He make me cry every day.He told me that he will make a house but as I am not a family member of him so I can not make any decision about this.He also told me that after buying that home I have to pay money for emi or for his house as he has not more money.I am telling him day by day to marry me but his family and he just delaying this matter and telling me they will do it immediately.But months go,days go they do not came to any decision.I have 2 sisters and I am elder,there is a problem to make marry for my old parents.They are in tension that when my boyfriend will marry me?They are dreaming.I can not suffer this situation as he make very rough talk with me.He told me that I can not talk any thing in his personal matter.I want to die but my parents will cry for me as they love me.But I am not happy.What can I do?please tell me. (link)
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These days Indian Bengali films have the dialogues shown in English at the bottom of the scenes.. I suggest for you a film called " Hemlock Society" . that can end your intentions regarding suicide.. And I dont think you casn live your life with a guy who will hurt you every and you cry your whole life
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I'm in such desperate need of you're advice. I have reached an extreme breaking point and I kindly ask for as many responses as possible!!!
In April 2012 I met a guy and told him very clearly that I did not want a relationship. He kept pushing tho and I was an idiot who couldn't resist the attention. Long story short... we're still together. I realize leading him on was a huge mistake. I don't need anyone telling me I messed up. However please note that he knows we're not an official couple. I've made it clear!!
I do love him but I've been trying to get him out of my life for months and months and here's the awful part; he is 11 years older than me and his parents finally kicked him out of the house around the same time he got fired. He was a chain smoker and alcoholic and so are all his unreliable friends. He has no where to go and at this point no friends or family to turn to.
He has done so much better with the smoking and he rarely drinks now and says its because of me. And before I move on I must point out how literal I am when I say he has NO friends or family he can turn to... so you can imagine my predicament... I'm stuck. I do love him very much, I can't just throw him to the streets. :( what kind of person would do that to someone they love?!
He has been in and out of state working and when he's gone I feel so free and happy. But now he refuses to go out of state again and is having a hell of a time finding a job. I feel like if he just had a job then I could leave cuz he wouldn't rely on me so much but as of now he has no car go find a job so he needs mine and he has no phone so on his applications he puts my number. ...he is 35 and he relies on a 24 year old!!! I hate taking care of him.
He has 2 weeks before his unemployment stops coming in and he won't be able to stay at the extended stay hotel we've been in for 5 weeks. If he doesn't have income by then, he's homeless! I'm leaving the country in June for a month so he will have no where to go. My roommate hates him so he can't stay at my apartment. Which I'm kinda grateful for!!
I don't know what to do. I'm so stressed that I've actually has horrible thoughts of him dying and the burden being lifted... which I definitely don't want to happen but its awful that those thoughts are there.
If I just leave he will be alone in this world and I'll be a bitch. Or I can stay super miserable and keep taking care of him but at least he'll have a roof over his head and food to eat.
Please help. Please!!!! :'(:'(:'(:'(:'(:'(
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One thing you can do is take the help of a female friend and ask her to make friends with him and start helping him the way you do.. at the same time you be extremely nice to him verbally but stop helping him by some excuses.. this way you can find out whether he truly loves you or not..but this will take some time ..may be a year..when you finally get the answer you may get the answer to all your questions
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I have always been jealous of my childhood best friend (we haven't really been friends in the past few years). I still compare myself to her even though we're very different people.
What really irks me is how fake she is. She puts on this act, does things specifically to get a certain reaction out of people, works on her reputation, etc. Thanks to all of the above, though, she's popular and has a great group of friends.
I don't try to be popular, I don't want to be the type of person she acts like, etc. But I do want people to like me and admire me and think I'm cool. I thought college would be my escape, but she's going to the same college as me. It's a big school and I just know I'll see her and hear about her.
How do I get over my jealousy? (link)
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The only way you can do this is try and improve yourself in every aspect in which you can manage..You are saying that she is fake so already you are far ahead of her in terms of being a good human being...Stay true to yourself... Try to make friends who are genuine and will supprt you even if you are a princess or a pauper... Friends attracted by popularity are not real ones..Genuien people will surely love and admire you for the person you are..popular girls are found in thousands in every city but true and nice people are just 1 in a lakh people...remember that and you will find that ther's no need to be jealous of her. Focus on your own life..
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what can i say to people talk behind my back? (link)
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These people who fear to speak at your face are cowards... let them talk..
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me and my boyfriend were watching a movie at home together. my parents were supposed to take my 5 year old sister for ice cream so i could be alone with him but they never went.so he leaned in to kiss me so we did. my little sister saw it all and yelled that we were kissing and he asked to go and left. (link)
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This a situation which should come as a funny situation..whats embarassing about it? she's a baby and what else can you expect from her?If you had been at that situation when you were 5 yrs old, you have certainly done that.
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found out that my BFF had gotten her period over night. Oh God-I've never had a period myself so I don't know what to do. My friend is crying on her sleeping bag trying to figure out what to do. She says her sister has pads in her bathroom, but she's scared to use them, even more scared of the concept of a tampon and telling her mom. Do we tell her mom or sister? How long to periods last? Will she get it at school? What if she gets hers at school, and what will happen if I ever get mine at school (or any public place?)? Does this mean she gets to get out of gym class (some of our other friends have gotten out of gym by giving the lady gym teacher an accused note)? There's a dance in about two weeks, and she's scared that her period might come up again like while she's dancing with her boyfriend or something, or that she won't even be able to go at all. What do we do? Oh yeah, she's a twelve year old girl (one year younger than me) and I'm asking this question since she don't have an Advincinators account. Any information will help, we go back to school tomorrow. Thanks! (link)
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There's nothing to be tensed about it..its just normal..Tell her mom and she will show her how to use a tampon.. A nice superabsorbant extralong tampon will serve the purpose plus ultrathin for super comfort..Remember to change it every 4 hours or whenever you feel its feeling wet or notice the tampon filling up.. For starters periods may last for 4 days or about a month or more for the initial months..but later it shortens down to 4-5 days normally and 7-8 days for some women which is not a problem...If she has pre-menstrual syndrome issues like abdominal pain, swelling of breasts and nipples,irritative behaviour,soared nipples, etc.she might see a doctor..It normally occurs once a month after an interval of 28-40 days...normally 30 days..please tell her to mark the date every month..she needs to be more careful at that time.. and dont worry about gyym or dance classes.. every successful female dancer or player has periods and still they rock..!!!And dont worry about your periods starting in public place...if it happens, its for the first time and then take note of the date and be careful around those days from the next month.. take lots of water and if it bleeds a lot take iron tablets but only after consultation with a doctor..
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So today there was this girl that i like and was in a bad mood, but i tried to make her feel better, but i dont think anything happened, so my question is: if a girl is sad, angry, crying or something like that, what do you tell her and how do you tell her like this she feels much better? (link)
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Make her feel warm... sometimes its just not necessary to talk...just hold her hands making her feel that you are there for her and sit...give her time...if you know her truly, you should know about her interests..like stuffs which she is crazy for or passionate about...talk about them...but talk in a general sense...dont make her feel as if you are trying to lift her mood...gradually she will feel your warmth...then she can talk about her probs...but let her do it spontaneously..dont go on nagging asking about what happened...it will seriously irritate her and she may not pour out her mind to you at all..have patience...if you can be a true friend she will definitely trust you and open up...
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So I like this boy but I'm not sure if he likes me back!? Like we held hands kinda before and we sit next to eachother in class but I think he likes this other girl .he always try's to sit next to her and when I asked him if he liked her he said no I'm fine with like a gross out face... He stole her jacket today and was like wearing it and I got kinda jealous but at the same time he STARES AT ME ALOT!!! Soo I like that part.. And he always like gives me compliments and he knows my brother so I'm. NOT sure if he is just being nice or if he likes me.please help
P.s I'm in 7th grade and he is in 8th
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Sorry dear...but he's just being nice..
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