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hi.. okay well i like this guy ALOT! like i am in love with him and i would do anything for him and we r like good friends and we talk alot... but i no he would never like go out with me and he knows i like him and i really really like him so like wat should i do? thanks

Hey Sweetie,

Sorry to say this but if you EVER think in your right mind that if your going to go out with your best friend it wont work even if he give in and decides to make things work it wont. Believe me I felt sooo uncomfortable with my bets friend it was like almost impossible for us to talk. You should just tell em how you feel if that doesnt work just move on cause at least you kno he wasnt for you anyway!!Hope I helped!!

-StephAnie

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so here it is...
I flirt alot ! but only with guys i know well... not with this guy i like.. i dont flirt with him... but i flirt with likes guys who flirt back so i think they think that i like them.. but i dont... how do i stop flirting with ther other guys and flirt with the guy i like ?

Ps when i try to even talk to the guy i get really red and cant think of anything to say...
thanks

Hey Sweetie,

Truth is your just a Flirt. You cant do anything about it, your kinda like me sometimes when you dont have that special somebody you tend to go to guys for comfort. I used to have lil moments when me and my bf would break up and like try to get eachother jelous and I would always run to the same boy for comfort. Its a natural instinct. But bout you gettin red when talkin to a guy, Just think of them like any other person like your best friend just like a best friend you never really met b4 that you have to get to know!! Hope I helped!!

-StephAnie-

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My friend Felicia just invited me over her house in like 30 minutes..the problem is, I don't want to go. I just don't feel like going...What excuse could I possibly use? I can't say my parents are making me go somewhere because they're both at work. I can't say I'm hanging out with friends because all my friends are out of town. Please help!

Hey Sweetie,


If you dont wanna go out with your friend, Then just call her and tell her your not feeling well. I have the same problem all the time, I just dont have any energy to do anything sometimes. And just tell her your not really up for it an you will come over another day when your feeling more yourself. And im sure if she is a real friend she will understand and you to can rescedule! xOx Hope I helped xOx!!

-StephAnie-

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I have never smoked and this is my first time smokeing. I smoked 3 full ciggs. Can that make you sick or will I be okay???

Hey Hun,

Im guessing your very young and you just started smoking. Well if you think smoking is going to make you sick, Ive heard it makes you sick if you do it over and over again. But considering your so young ask yourself if you think smokin is the right thing for you and just try and think about what you will have to go through in the future if you smoke. My grandfather smoked Constantly at a young age and he is soo addicted he cant stop, But he recently just got surgery done and has a hole in his throat, Its a scary thought and scary period. You should def. Stop its not worth it!! Xoxo Hope I helped oxoX!!!

-StephAnie-

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ok i don't really have acne just a few pimples here and there..but when they go away it leaves a red spot behind and they take forever to go away! and my skin is like red and splotchy looking is there any way to get rid of this?

Olay will work my lil sis uses it and it works for her and she has the same prob as you!!! xoxox!!

-Stephanie

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Whats a fast results, easy way to lose jiggle in my butt and thighs?

Do butt stretches look on google.com! But If you like do stretches where you can feel it actually workin out the muscles in your buyt then it should help!

-StephAnie

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What if I wanna have sex but I have tan lines from my tan how do I get rid of it without going to a tanning salon or tanning naked?

You can probably use a tannin spray stuff but your prolly gon sweat. Iuno i cant really help u on that one?!

-StephAnie-

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This is really embarrasing but...
"Down there" i think has a bad odor (i'm a girl)
Is there anything I can do to stop this? I heard certain foods can make it smell bad, is that true and which ones? Also, is there anything i can put on it or in it or something to make it smell better?

Try Doucheing for a week...My friend said that but dont use it like over n over just prolly once a week and clean all your underwear and etc.!!

-StephAnie-

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Ok, last week my 3 friends and I got in a fight, them vs. me. It kinda sucked cause i was like, definatly on my own and no one coul dback me up on anything, so we arent talking, none of us. And I want to talk to them so bad I just cant because I dont think they even like me anymore. One of those 3 friends was like my friend since 3rd grade so I see her as a BFFFFFFF. And shes the one who doesnt even want to TRY to make it work again. She even told me that we should just give up and that we arent gonna be best friends again. Hmm. what do i DO?

I had the same exact problem with my friend we were friends for a good while. And we got into an argument over something said like bout money or something. Its pretty gay but girls can be that way. Its just how girls are, Like if you think about sports its kinda funny cause if you notice it girls they hold grudges and stuff on the field and the guys they just go and beat the shit outa each other on the field lol and they are kinda cool and then after the game they are all talkin and stuff. Girls just hold grudges she will get over it. If not do something sweet send her flowers and write what your friendship means to her. And im sure that will work. As for the other girls just write them letter to and send them to em or something or e-mail them but your best friend you should def. send flowers to an write and extremly nice and sweet letter exsplaingin yourself. Sorry Hun hope things get better!!!

-StephAnie-

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what is cyber sex?? and how do i do it?

(my bf wants to do it while hes in a illinois)

Its something you do over the net, You kinda say sexual shit and he prolly lol has lil moments with himself while talkin to ya!! xoxox!!!

-StephAnie-

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im 19 m and my gf is 18 and 7 months pregnant..shes emotional as hell and cries all the time..even when im with her..im away alot cus i play baseball and thats what i do for a living and she understands..waht can i do to makes her happy? please help me..thanks

Alright best thing to do is next time she is crying tell her how much you love her and how you hate to see her down and crying. But sometimes you never know because she might have stress from the baby its crazy my friend she had to literally move out of the state to go stay with her dad because her mom was always crying and arguing with her. I think its natural but next time it happens just ask her to go out or like randomly suprise her and like send her flowers and tell her your gonna like pick her up at whatever time and take her out to dinner. It will definetly make a girl feel happy to recieve flowers. Anyway hope it gets better!!!

Always,
Stephanie

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17/f ..all the time i cry..about little things and i get upset very easily sometimes i jsut sit in the bathroom and cry...i think about my life and whats going on and i just break down..does anybody know what i can do.or have an idea whats wrong? please help i rate high

You probably have Depression. My little sister its crazy but she is only 10yrs old and she gets sooo mad at the littlest things, And she always talks down on herself. I feel bad that I cant do anything to help her to. But you should really consider goin to a Doctor or even try talking to a close adult and mayb they could help you like figure out whats wrong with you and Guidance Counselors at your Highschool will help to! Sorry hun I wish thinngs were better for you!

Always,
Stephanie

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Me and my boyfriend had a massive argument and he hit me. he has never done that before and he was really sorry and said he loves me i broke up with him and he wants me back should i go back to him or move on.

16 f

Well its always like when the girl gets extremly mad and hits the boy. I think if you and him both love each other like you said he even told you he loved you. Then you should def. forgive him but if you feel and your mind is telling you it may/might happen again best thing to do is wait things out till you feel comfortable gettin back with him. Sorry hun! Always here for ya my aim screenname is MOMMYSLILBOO if ya wanna talk!

Always,
Stephanie

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Im a fairly avid musician that has somewhat recently purchased a brand new LTD-B55 bass (if you are unfamilliar with the product - its a five string) from a local music store. Well, i've been prolonging it for quite some time, but its inevitable. I need new strings.

I need a cheap-reliable online source (the local music stores only carry 1 brand of very overpriced, bad quality strings for a 5-string) to get strings, im looking for a set of 5-string GHS Bass Boomers.

Any help is appreciated, thank you.

http://www.music123.com

They have the best and cheap stuff in really good condition too!!

Always,
Stephanie

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Hey. 14.f.
ok so we learned about cutting and stuff in a class in school and how its wrong, but i found it a bit intresting.... so i was really mad one day so i tryed it and it didnt make me feel any better. But, i do have a little cut on my arm. Does this mean that im a cutter even though im not going to do it again?

Not at all your not a cutter, Lol thats kinda the same thing my friend did. She seen the Degrassi episode and she decided to start cuttin herself. Then the next time her father got mad at her for something stupid and got her all worked up she thought mayb if she took the pain out in a physical way like cuttin it would work and she said she felt nothing she didnt feel like she released any anger. Its just some ppl react to diff. Things and your probably the type like me you dont go to stuff like that you probably enjoy going out to get your mind off of stuff like playin a sport,playin an instrument,sports. All sorts of things. But no your not a cutter unless you do it all the time, And if you feel like thats the only option to release your pain! Hope I helped!!

Always,
Stephanie

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My Chest and Back area had been braking out this summer realy bad. My Hair is realy oily and i think that is why. Anyways...
Last Night I bought Clean&Clear (Daily Cleansing Pads). I used it and this morning its dry but still showing bad and i see lil dots so that means more acne! Has anyone ever used this or known/know someone who has? How long does it take? It says Daily Cleansing Pads but does anyone do it more than once? HELP IM GOING TO THE BEACH IN A COUPLE DAYS AND I DONT WANT TO LOOK LIKE A *F*R*E*A*K*!!!!


-13/f-

Signed,---
---Freak

Daily Cleansing Pads dont work, I used Proactive and it worked right when I started using it. If your willing to stop the Acne while its beginning try Proactive, Holldd on I got the number too lol sorry if I sound like a crazy person!! Anyway the number is 1-800-270-4488, Call that and just follow the directions and stuff they ask you! Anyway best of luck hope it gets better if not just go buy a cute tank top that matches one of the colors in your bathing suite bottoms and you will be fine!! Best of luck!!

Always,
Stephanie

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ok so i wrote before about this boy that did not text be back and basically loads of people gave me good advice and thank you for that the one that said he wanted to be with me.One of the advice was to phone him so i did and his mum picked up his phone!!! so i just put the phone down.Do you think his mum took his fone away or maybe she now has it please could someone advice me why did his mum pick his phone up?

There are random reason asked to why she picked up his phone. Maybe grounded,not home,busy, I know my mom picks up my phone or my lil sister when im outside or something like playin soccer or even at my soccer games. You shouldnt of hung up just try callin back and im sure it will work out just be extremly polite and you know say thank you and etc. Lol hope I Helped!!!

-Stephanie

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Hi, Im Andrea 15/f Ok, i've basically lost my best friends. I dont know what to do at all. I love them so much and I hate just not talking to them for a DAY so whats it gonna be like the rest of my life? And I mean, I just wish one of them would text me or IM me or try to talk to me because I feel like they don't even miss me. I don't know what to do, and right now I have NOONE to go to because i dont have any friends now. So how can I get them back? And what should I do? AAAA. This is ruining my life. I cry every 10 minutes and I've NEVER cried over friend problems before. I just dont wanna lose them, they mean so much to me. OMG. HELP!

Hey Sweetie,

Hang in there it will be fine, I still remember my first day of highschool. I have lived over by the beaches since I was born and went to school there until 8th grade I had to leave. And it sucked really bad. I cryed my whole first day of school. But all you gotta do is talk to ppl and stuff if not try talking to your friends if you miss them that bad. I still keep in touch with my best/good friends because that shows how much they mean to you and care about you. I know how you feel Ill pray for you!! Best wishes hope its gets better!! :-'(!!

-StephAnie-

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I have real sweaty hands...does anyone know anything i can do to prevent, or block this? It is so bad i cant even write without having my pen slip or having my paper become wet. Please Help.

If its extremly bad lol my cousin has sweaty hands and she actually sprays like a lil deoderant on her hands and uses it as if it were lotion! And it works! xoxoxox! Hope I helped!!

-stephanie

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Me and My friend want to do hot oil treatments, what exactly do we need and what are some step-by-step instructions to doin them? We'll rate! :)

OOOOH i love hot oil treatments, Lol I do em alot. All you need is the hot oil treatment stuff and what you do is like run the water in your sink and let it get really hott and sit the little hott oil treatment tubes in there and wait like 5 min! And then put it in your hair rub it around let it sit bout 2min then rinse it all out! And then your hair will be nice and pretty! Xoxox! Hope I helped!!

-stephanie-

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