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My moms bff called me up the other day and said her nephew was moving in with her and she wants to hook us up! I mean I'm really excited because I havent had a boyfriend in over a year. But my ex and I are in love but he is with someone right now...ok I mean im really scared because you know im scared by dating him i might mess things up with my ex and what not...just i really dont know what to do?? what should i do? go for it and date her nephew or stay single and wait for my ex?
Go for it, If he is with someone then you should be allowed to be with someone. But if your excited to meet him then try it out, it may not work out, but you never know until you try, and y it may be better, and you may like him better. I hope I Helped -Kaitlyn
HELP! Please! I have a problem...see, I don't get out of the house much. Well let's just say AT ALL! Ever! I have dropped out of school awhile ago, and no job but my mother supports me. I have no friends at all. I try to communicate with them but nobody ever seems to want to hang out with me. And I don't think it's because I've dropped out...I did it a LONG time ago and this is just starting to happen. I never get asked out on a date, and my friends never talk to me. I've basically just become a bum and all I do all day is sit around home on the computer watching tv. I hate it. I know it wont be like this for the rest of my life but can somebody please tell me if this is semi-normal?! I want to know that I'm not a freak of nature.
Our town is really small, and I don't get along with too many of them so socializing is really hard for me. What can I do to make myself feel better about this? Any tips on not being so shy also? Thanks so much!
Try involving yourself in something like dance, gym, get a job it should help you meet new people then you can get out more. Or what might help, Go back to school ( probably not what you want to hear) If your comfortbale with yourself you may find it easier to socialize, I hope I helped! Good Luck! **KaitLyn
I'm a chick.. I always stay with my best friend when she is home alone.. latly she has been asking me to experiment with her.. we have made out/french kissed.. you know, nothing "down there".. but she asked me if I ever wanted to experiment "dowthere" so we did.. just fingering.. but now she wants to emo.. what the fuck do I do?!?!
Do whatever you feel cofortable with, if you don;t want to do it tell her that. But if your fine with it, Go for it what harm can it do to you?I hope I helped -Kaitlyn
Okay, I'm 16 and I've been a size 13 in jeans, ever since last year (and awhile before that...). And everytime I put them on they're fine, but then like an hour later, they're really big on me--in the butt and the thigh area, and sometimes the waist. So recently I've switched to an 11 (I've lost 3-5 lbs, but is that enough to drop a pant size?)...they were fine at first, but lately I've been having the same problem--they get baggy...but the waist is fine. I don't like how my pants get all baggy on me, whats going on??
They get bigger because they stretch as you wear them, and I think it would be enough to get smaller jeans, but don't go to small, you don't want to be uncofortable.Kudos on the Weight losing though, but it doesn't sound like you need it.I hope I helped -Kaitlyn
me and my boyfriend have been going out for 8 months We havent frenched. Is that pathectic? Actually know one needs to tell me so cuz i know. But how the heck do i get him to kiss me he always talks about doing it like well actually it hasnt been mentioned sense this past summer.
Its not pathetic you will do it when your both ready, and if your really want to do just don't plan it go for it. If he has mentioned it before hes ready for it so its all up to you. I hope I helped - Kaitlyn
ok its a long one. i just moved to this state 2 months ago and everyone is contry as hell i mean gold teeth, 10,000$ rims on a 1976 impala contry i had trouble meeting pepoel that i could relate to. (im from the east coast)Now i have found three man they each have what i am looking for one is a firefighter ,the other works at the radio station but is in school for broadcasting(his dad is a broadcaster at the local station) and the last has a great job he graduated and is making serious money. they all want me. i dont know who to choose the one who graduated takes me to fine restarants and we drink wine and go to the do theater which has always been my dream but he cant kiss to save his life. the firefighter is older has his own home and well older man know how to make a woman feel right opens doors,pays the check, ect. Now the youngest is very outspoken and tells in how it is which is good for me he keeps me grounded and in the real world they all have what im looking for. if i knew who loved me more thats the i would choose so does anyone know away i can test their feelings please let me know. all confused
Follow your heart, go with the man you feel most comfortable with and the one you can't be without. Don't go by there Money..Its not worth it in the end and you don't want to do somehting you will regretI hope I helped -Kaitlyn
16/f. I've been really curious about tanning salons. I really want to go to one, but my mom is kind of hesitant to let me do such a thing. Aside from it looking "fake", is it as dangerous as a tan from the sun, or is it less harmless? Also, my arms are tan (I have a "farmers tan") from wearing short sleeves, but I can't wear tank tops, show my stomach or even wear low cut tops (I don't want to wear TOO low cut tops, but right now, everything under my neck line is white...) and I want to get rid of that, so how would I even it out in a tanning bed?
Either way you tan its still bad for you, but I would say go in your back yard and try and even it out, prevent yourself from using a tanning bed, you don't want skin cancer.I hope I helped -Kaitlyn
16/f/California. When I'm at the beach, or when I'm out in the sun for long periods of time, I never wear sunblock (if anything, I use like, a tanning lotion or something)...and I tan easily (I have mostly Dominican in me, and we're able to tan easily), I rarely burn. But lately the whole "skin cancer" thing is freaking me out. I like being tan, and the fact that I tan easily. If I wore sunblock, can I still get a tan? I heard that you can, it just blocks the bad sun rays...is this true? Or does sunblock completely block the sun??
Well if you tan easily, you should be able tp wear sunblock and still get a tan. You don't want to risk getting skin cancer, so I would say wear sun block and keep yourself safe -Kaitlyn
Is it wrong to cry if your dog died and you've known her since you were a toddler? My friends would think it's silly, and when you think about it, it kind of is. Does anybody else think it's silly?
No its not wrong to cry when your dog or any pet dies, you become relly close to animals as you grow up with them, its not silly, don't worry what your friends think.-Kaitlyn
a couple weeks ago my parents went out of town and me and my sister had the house to ourselve. so we invited some people over. this guy came over and we endin up having sex but he has a gf. i think im startin to like him. what do i do? and do you think his gf should know?
Talk to him about it, and If he wants to make a relashinship with you then tell him he can only be with one of you.But to be honest eh doesn't seem like a very trustworthy person, he did cheat on his girlfriend, I think You should tell her though. I hope everything works out for you
Kaitlyn-
I have a friend who is SO not over her ex but really pretends to be. They both really like each other and flirt all the time and they still act like they are going out. What should she do, or what should I tell her to do???
Ask her and Him whats going on and if they just like flirting then let them, but if they both still like eachother and you know this for sure then tell them to try again. Hope I helped Kait*
Can any one tell me how to shut little sisters up and also i keep a diary and it's impossible to have any privesy in my house does any one have any good ideas to stop little brats getting their hands on my diary! Thanks for any suggestions Joolz (plus i rate high)
Try Hiding it, Sry..but there isn't much You can do to get away from a Lilttle sister.. they will grow out of there little bratty annoying stage, but keep everything very hidden until then..Kaitlyn
I loathe myself, every tiny detail about myself. I hate my appearance...My
hair, my face, my teeth, my hands, my eyebrows, chest, stomach, back, arms, etc...I
hate every characteristic of my personality, every last one. I think of my self
as stupid, incompetent and worthless. Everything that goes wrong is my fault. I
suck at every thing I do. Seeking professional help is not an option for me, and
neither is getting help from a trusted adult. Even if either were an option, I’m
much, much, much to timid to ask for help...I don't think I even deserve to have
people waste there time on me to help me anyway.
Degradeing yourself is not going to get you anywhere. You need help obviosly and you have to talk to someone. No one should feel that way about themselves. You really need help, Talk to someone. There are people who have it worse then you, just always think of that. Keep Your Chin Up!
-Kaitlyn*itsallkaitlyn
I am a thirteen year old female and I don't want to live my life anymore. My ex boyfriend and ex best friend are almost going out even though they know I still have feelings for him. My sister has ADHD so my parents have to give her alot of special attention and there are about three family arguments a day. I gave up self harm about a month and a half ago but now I have started again because I am so depressed. I make constant threats of suicide and I suffer from very low self confidence. I am rarely happy and when I am it is short lived. I desperately want my ex boyfriend back and keep thinking that if only I still had him then I would be happy. I have a male friend who I talk to about almost everything and he is very supportive but he can't help me. What should I do?
Suicide is never the answer, this may sound bad but it shows you are weak. I understand about the SI thing, I used to be a cutter too, and I understand it is very hard to stop. You know what you should do though, tell your parents and get help, its the best thing to do. I know it may not seem it but trust me you don't want to regret anything. Be strong. Keep Me Updated! I hope I helped Kaitlyn*Itsallkaitlyn
I think I have depression, I've got almost all the symptoms on this website, and I've felt like this for about 5 months. I don't know how to tell my mum; she's so old fashioned and she thinks that young people can't get depression, and I'm 14 so she won't believe me. I started crying this morning for a stupid reason but I was feeling depressed, and she just said, "oh, here we go." She won't believe me if I tell her. I don't know who to tell, my friends are immature and won't understand - or they'll laugh about it, 'cos I'm good at hiding how I feel and I smile when I'm feeling bad so no-one notices. I can't make a doctors appointment myself, and I don't know how to get a counsellor, and anyway I also think I've got social anxiety so I wouldn't be able to say anything for them to help. How can I get rid of this depression because lately I've been considering suicide and looking on the net for ways to go about it. Thanks xo
Try talking to a guidance councelor at school or a school physchologist, if your mom won't get you help. Don't look on the net to find ways to kill yourself, that will make you feel worse. Okay, about your mom tell her that you really want help, and if she doesn't help your going to find a way to do so,maybe then she'll take u serios and get you help. I hope I helped..Keep me informed Itsallkaitlyn
I'm a really shy, boring, ugly girl. Don't say I'm not ugly, believe me, I look awful - frizzy hair, horrid skin, big teeth - you'd be sick if you saw me. I don't have a life. I don't ever go out or have fun anymore because the friends I have are so immature and I don't really like going out with them because they always end up bullying me or asking random guys out for me, it's so embarrassing, and the boys say something like, "No way, she's a minger". I can't make more friends because I hate talking so much and I feel sick just thinking about it. I have 2 best ever friends in the world but I moved house and I can only speak to them on the phone, I want to move back because I hate it here - but my mum won't budge. I really want a boyfriend and I'm lonely but I'm so ugly and boring that no guy would ever be interested. Why is it I'm so ugly, what have I done to deserve this? I hate being me. I don't know what to do because I can't change the way I look and I've always been shy. I'm 14 and never had a bf, and I know I'm not the only one who hasn't but I feel ready. No boy would ever like me :/ I don't really see the point in life because I never have fun, every week is the same, and my grades are slowly going down at school because I can't sleep at night any more. I just want to feel loved.. sorry if that sounds pathetic but that's what I feel like. They say there's someone for everyone out there, but I guess some people were made to be single. I don't want to be single, and with Valentine's Day coming up I feel even more depressed. Also if you can help, I really need to 'let myself go', like I want to have fun but I get worried I'll look stupid so I don't do it, how can I stop being scared of everything Sorry I have so many stupid problems but please help :'(
Hey Girlie. keep your chin up.. Don't degrade yourself like that, there is a point to life and you will find someone and people that will like you for you. If people don't then they aren't worth it, trust me things will change for you, good things always come for those who wait.. I hope you feel better about yourself..Keep in Touch Itsallkaitlyn I hop I helped u!
i have problems. LIKE I AM A VERY NICE EASYGOING FUNNY PERSON BUT I DONT HAVE any friends.(sry cap locks was on!!) like there are people that are nice and i eat lunch with them. but i want a friend thAt i can tell stuff to hang out on the weekends stuff like that. i call people but there always "busy" when i call. since i dont have any friends and im lonely and have alot on my mind my grades are dropping.and since my grades are dropping my parents are getting mad at me. and i am always screaming at them and there always screaming at me. i cant talk to them they would like eat my alive. i cant tell my problems to my friens because i dont have any. i cry so much. i cry myself to sleep. i sometimes think about sucide. i have no one to talk to. i need some love! what do i do?
~unloved and unwanted
Maybe u should give the people you hang out with a chance, you may find they are really similar to you and then you will become great friends with them, don't kill yourself..you don't know how many people would miss you even if you having problems with your mom because of your grades.. Tell me how everything works out and Kepp You Chin Up!
well lately my friend, we can call her susen, has been really depressed lately. teachers have been noticing and she is starting to cut herself, when her other friend we can cal her lily goes to theropy for that now! she shows me and there not to deep but she told me how shes started to do it more now and shes scared. how can i help her? i mean i told her when she feels like doing it to call me and talk to other people. i dont no what else to do. i dont want to tell anyone becasue she might get mad and i told her i'll b here for her. what else can or should i do?
xo briana
Get her help, no matter what you don't wanna wait. Even if shes not doing them deep, if she is hurting herself she needs help, so try talkin to her more, then tell a guidance counselor or her parents or a teacher, but get her help. Im me anytime *ITSALLKAITLYN* -KAITLYN
How do you get rid of styes in your eye? I have one in each eye right now and they hurt so bad and it hurts to blink. You can't see them but they hurt like heck. How do you get rid of them and what are they? How do they form and what are some ways to prevent them?? Thanks.
Go to the doctors and get medicine, and then to prevent them, don't share makeup and try differnt brands of makeup, it might be an allergic reaction Hope I helped *KAITLYN*
my friend is 6 months pregnant and shes only 13 but i dont knw wot to do. i know i shudnt get involved but i'm the only person shes told and she has no intention of telling any1 else. her bf's a prik so he aint worth telling. i jus dont want sumthing to happen to her or the baby when i cud of helped by telling somebody. i dont want enyfin to happen but i dont want to loose a m8!
Talk to her more about it, and if she refuses to get help, help her, don't risk it she needs help,she can't do this alone and she shouldn't have to Good luck to you and your friend, and I hope everthing works out *KAITLYN*