Ever since I was little, I always loved talking to my family about their problems. I love being able to help people. I maybe young but I am very good at giving advice on Love life. I am very mature for my 14 years of age and I want to help people with their questions and problems. SO if you have a question, don't hesitate to ask because of my age
I am also a huge Band Geek/Color Guard person, and I love music and writing. So if you also have questions on those I could help you out!
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I am a 25 year old female and I haven't been to a wedding since I was 13 years old and my cousin who is a preacher is getting married September 13th of this year and I don't have any idea what to wear . (link)
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I went to my first wedding this year, beautiful. Absolutely stunning. Now my suggestion would be a nice dress (not TOO fancy) a nice pair of shoes (heels or flats, your decision) and maybe a cute clutch purse. Just keep it simple and classy :)
Have fun with it!
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I feel weird calling my boyfriend baby or babe. It just doesn't flow right. I can call him baby/babe over text with no problem but in person or over the phone it makes me cringe. I know this is petty but with my other boyfriends it came so easy and I would even forget that they had real names cause I was just always calling them baby. Does this mean anything? Or am I just reading too much into it? I'm 24 btw and I've only been dating this guy for 6 months. I dated my last boyfriend for over 2 years before he ended it in April (link)
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I believe it doesn't meant anything. I feel weird calling my boyfriend babe/baby (i do it sometimes) but I feel totally fine calling my best female friend babe. it's just a pet name. I feel weird calling my boyfriend pet names in person.
My boyfriend calls me "Honey" and every once in a while baby.
I call him "Lover-boy" and "Honey"
We both call each other "Snugglebuddy"
Pet names are very cute and fun in a relationship. It is also something you shouldn't feel weird or forced to do. So it can be easier with some people, harder with others.
Just don't over think it :)
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this is kinda stupid but i want to be a cheerleader in high school but i have no excperiance in gymnastics or anything like that and i kinda need some advice on how to prepare for this with out my parents finding out cuz i dont want them to think im becoming a snob so if you can help me thank you nd if not thank you anyways for trying im a 13yr old girl (link)
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Well here's one thing. If you want to do something extracurricular, you are going to have to tell your parents. From what I've heard cheer-leading (like all clubs and sports in high school) costs a lot of money. And you shouldn't have to hide things from you parents. And that's stereotyping "I don't want them to think I'm a snob"
Now, about the gymnastics/dance. You said you have no experience. How do you know you will like it? Just because of what you've seen on TV or in real life even does not mean you will love it and it is all it's meant to be.
So i would go and try out gymnastics separately first and see if you will be able to like it first. If you like or love it great maybe cheer-leading would be great for you. If not, at least. you tried before spending a lot of money on something you don't like.
Also, stretching and trying anything physical for the first time, will hurt. So be careful.
I hope this helped to some degree.
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You answered my question about making a job change recently. After initially accepting the offer, I recanted and turned it down. Later that day the HR Manager left me a voicemail stating management really liked me and wanted to sweeten the offer. I called this morning. Instead of making an offer, she asked me what it would take to get me to come. I gave her a number that was 6% more than what Iwas offered, but still well within the stated salary range. She later sent an email saying she gave the proposal to management and that they were going to pursue other candidates. They didn't even make a counter offer, and said they really didn't think I wanted the job. I thought it was bizarre. (link)
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I would call her or email her and ask exactly what is going on.Do they want you to take the job but felt like you weren't interested? Clear it up and see where that leads you :)
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i was 16 that time and i was fingered for the first time with my lobg time boyfriend. when he fingered me i didn't bleed until the next day he do it again no bleeding happen again .. my question is am i still virgin? right now im 17 and i never try even just once a sex. (link)
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Look up Laci Green, she is a "sex educator" on youtube and I highly recommend watching her.
Now I'm going to tell you what she says and I believe it too.
Virginity is a social concept to define someone's sexual behavior.
Losing your virginity depends on you.
Some people say that having vaginal sex is losing their virginity.
What if you can't have vaginal sex?
Some purple might say that fingering or hand jobs count, sometimes even oral.
But all that depends on you.
My opinion says that yes you are still a virgin, but that all depends on what you define "losing your virginity" as.
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11 year old female
Ok, so I really like this guy, but he goes to a different camp, luckily the camps like to combine to help us for middle school. Every time we have a trip where the camps combine, I think I'll get dolled up and talk to him. I get dressed nice, and get all worried about how my boobs are so small (I am just able to fit it the smallest training bra, and I haven't got my period yet so I could barely call myself a women) and my hips are big, and end up shying away. There's a girl in my camp who gave him a flirty look, and he smiled back but more politely then romantically he automatically stopped after a second, and that was that, but that means that girl likes him, right? And she is the biggest flirt in the grade, she hangs out with boys 24/7 also she has a much better body she's actually got a nice one I'm skinny as a twig until you get to my hips, wich looks like complete shit, then my ass is no ass. The only time I had a conversation with him was on a feild trip at school where all the district's 5th graders combined and we did activities together, and I ended up pairing up with him for thumb wrestling and we talked. Also we exchanged a smile that lasted for a while on spotlight night, where the district's 5th graders got to buy books for summer reading, and a tour of the middle school. But on that feild trip I talked to him I was whispering to my friend about him and I was trying to point him out, but she didn't know which one was it, because he was in a group of boys so after a while I got pissed off, and when he ran close enough to hear me,I was like, no,I like him loud enough for him to hear me, and I'm thinking, oh shit, the moment he can hear me. And that's like, THE WORSE POSSIBLE THING THAT COULD FUCKING HAPPEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!! What happens when the camps combine I stay close to my friends and whisper, and he stays close to his friends and whispers, I'm just waiting for him to make the first move. What should I do with my pathetic love life? (link)
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I'm going to be honest, You're eleven. You shouldn't be focusing on a "love life" but I know crushes are a big part of growing up.
When you like someone, you should just talk to them, try and get to know them. I would just walk up to him and strike up a conversation about something you have in common. If you don't know what you have in common just something that's going on-
"Hey did you here about that--"
"What did you think of--"
Just be friendly and polite :)
Now i want to address one more thing. Body image.
We females, are very critical of our appearances. It's a part of everyone, boys too. WE just focus on it more.
You are very young, and I can't tell you not to focus on your body. But you shouldn't make it one of your priorities.
Having a big chest,or a "nice ass" is not what will attract a boyfriend. It will attract boys, but not the ones you want to be with. The boys worth your time are going to be attracted to your personality .
Believe me I've had my share of body-related insecurities.
If you have to focus on your body focus on the things you like.
Like for me, I focus on my eyes and my hair.
Saying negative things about yourself will just make yourself more miserable.
How you look now will not be how you look forever. You haven't hit puberty yet, you will have MANY years to change. Inside and out.
Everyone is beautiful in their own unique way.
Now one last piece of advice,
Before you can love someone else, you need to love yourself first.
-Hardcore-Band-Geek
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I asked a question about the right time to lose my virginity, and I got that answered, so when we are ready, I meen me and my gf, i actualy dont know how to lets say ask if she wants to have sexual intercourse? I really need an answer because we were even shy to express our feelings to eachother. thanks :) (link)
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When in a relationship; you need to be able to talk to each other, COMMUNICATION is key!! If you think she is ready just sit her down and ask her. It's that simple. Just be straight forward and polite. DO NOT PRESSURE HER into sex. At all. Noe excuses. You need to show her you respect her. In the end though, if she doesn't want to have sex you can't change that.
Bottom line though You need to work on your communication skills, and remember to be a gentlemen :)
-Hardcore-Band-Geek
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what does it mean to be a teenager .Teenagers start to hve rlationships (link)
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Well... A teenager is a young person, typically from ages 13-17. (at 18 you're typically legally an adult depending on were you live) Not necessarily all teenagers are in relationships. I've known people for many years, that are teens, and have never been in a relationship. Being in a relationship does not make you cool, or a legitimate teen.
Is that what you are worried about?
here is my advice, Don't care about what any one says (besides your parents lol) just be who you are.
Just because some teens get into relationships at this time of our lives does not mean EVERYONE has to be in one
-Hardcore-Band-Geek
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I want to go swimming and I cant unless I wear a tampon but I am scared that my tampon will fall out while swimming. Will it?
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It most likely won't. I was worried about that too, and it never has. You have nothing to worry about :)
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I am worried that I cant breath proply (link)
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None of us on here are real doctors, so my advice would be to schedule an appointment with your actual doctor, ok?
Good luck!
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So this is my first year doing color guard for marching band and I'm really excited. I love to spin, but sometimes I really don't understand the new work we are learning. All of us incoming freshmen feel the same way. So we are all partnered up with a senior guard partner and they help us. So mine is really, really, really good at spinning and she is so friendly and funny. We practice and meet up more than other color guard partners do on our team. We also always make funny memories during our private practices. Like 4 weeks ago when she told me all these stories about her first year spinning. Or like last week when my mom called me in the middle of our practice to tell me my grandpa died of cancer, and she asked if I was alright and I told her what happened and she hugged me while I was crying and she told me about her grandma who died of cancer only a couple months ago. And my favorite which was 2 days ago, after practice, we walked down to the village which is near our high school and we got ice cream at Ferches. We talked about band camp and color guard on the way there. But on the way back, we talked about personal things. She makes me laugh so much and I love to hang with her. But, are we really friends? I never had a real friend before because everyone just likes to be around me to see me do something stupid because I'm a klutz. I am really smart, but I am not common sense smart. I'm not sure if she truly is my friend and I don't want to ask her because that would be rude. I need help!!! (link)
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HI! I'm in color guard too!! And i don't see any reason you should doubt a friendship between you and this girl. I wouldn't over think it :)
I'm a sophomore on my 3rd year, of guard. I love spinning with the marching band too :)
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Honestly,I'm really frustrated because of my looks. I'm 162 cm tall,65 kg,blonde hair,blue eyes. I am a bit chubby but I'm not fat. I tried dieting,exercising,Herbalife products but nothing helped. Yet I feel like I don't stand a chance next to all those pretty girls out there. I see them always having a boyfriend and nobody notices me. Recently I confessed to a guy on college and he said he likes me too but treats me as just a friend. He is a shy person and he said he needs time but I think that if you like someone you don't need time and excuses such as that. I think he is put off by my body. I have a good face,I dress nice,I know what suits me but I still have no one who likes me in a romantic way. I wish some guy would eventually look beyond my unflattering body. Are there still guys in the world who care about personality? I am caring,reliable,compassionate,funny,smart,helpful and many other good things but it seems it simply doesn't matter. (link)
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If someone won't be with you because of how you look then they aren't worth, they aren't the type of people you want to be with! You would want to be with a guy who loves you for you, not your body.
Your time will come. Maybe somebody likes you and you just don't know it :)
Believe me we've all been there.
Good luck, and love yourself!!
P.S You're beautiful, you just need to show the world who you are!
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So I've had the same boyfriend for about a year and I just don't love him like that anymore. He is nice and all but I just don't feel it anymore. It'll break his heart if I tell him. He's just too sensitive and needs me too much. I need someone stronger than that because I am NOT a a girl who will baby you. I don't take no shit. I speak my mind and I'm not much of a people pleaser but I don't want to hurt him. Is there a way I can tell him without hurting him. I don't want a boyfriend right now and kinda do better on my own because I can be more independent. If anyone was any ideas I sure could use em.
P.S I'm 15 and my boyfriend is 15 also. (link)
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Honestly, You'll just have to break up with him. Don't be wishy washy about it. You will just have to be honest and straight to the point. If you're not happy, that's not his fault. No one is forcing you to stay with him.
Yes it will upset him, but it would be worse to fake it through your relationship.
Good luck!
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I'm female-14, my boyfriend asked me to go to the beach with him tomorrow and I said I would go, but then I got my period, an I've never used a tampon. plus I've heard that you shouldn't go in the beach with a tampon, but i don't know. my mom said she would show me how to use one and to just wear shorts, but I'm not so sure... (link)
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I had my period for about 2 and a half years before i started using tampons and i strongly suggest them. I'm a perform so when I'm on my period id on't feel and don't get distracted. My biggest fear was using them in water. It's really not a big deal. Very easy, just let your mother show you and try it!
But if you don't like tampons, that's okay. They're not for everyone! :)
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Basically I like this girl and she's a lesbian, I'm also not straight (female 15). She started dating this other girl in our grade and on the day I was going to ask her out she told me all this and how much she liked the other girl. I cried all day after school. They have been dating for 2 weeks and I'm dying. I don't sleep. I want her to be happy but at the same time I am so unhappy. I don't make things awkward by saying I like her, because I know she likes me too (she flirted heaps). The other girl she is dating I used to be friends with a year or so ago, I was so jealous and mad at her at first, but I am not really anymore, I tried talking to her to try be friends again. My question is, what should I do? I know I sound like a stupid 15 year old and "I'll grow out if it" and maybe I will, but I would like advice now because telling me I will grow up isn't going to keep me going. Please help (link)
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I know it's hard, but you'll just have to accept it. I would try and be her friend for now. Trying to break up their relationship (I'm not implying you would/want too) would make the situation worse and her not trust you.
I know it hurts. I do, I'm your age. It sucks doesn't it?
You should get involved in school, join a club, start a hobby, meet new people, ANYTHING that will keep you busy and that you will enjoy. If you keep busy, the pain will lessen.
I wish you the best of luck :)
-Hardcore-Band-Geek
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how do i address him about this? do i ignore it and pretend it never happened? what was he thinking about me laying my head in his lap that turned him on? (link)
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It's 100% normal for your boyfriend to get an erection. I honestly wouldn't let it bother you.
-Hardcore-Band-Geek
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Earlier this year one of my guy friends had a bad breakup with his girlfriend and she started dating one of his friends. He turned emo and started cutting himself. He became atheist and more reserved. He had so much hatred to his ex-girlfriend(my friend)and his friend(also my friend)I helped him through it and got him to stop cutting, become Christian, and become more comfortable with people and also to forgive them both and he is now friends with both of them again. He is a completely changed person now. But he seems to have a bit of an obsession with me.He asked me out but I sadly rejected him because I felt nothing for him. I only did the things I did because he was my friend and I hated seeing him that way. He now has a new girlfriend but he acts like he doesn't like her. He says things about her that he think is weird and awkward. He flirts ALOT when we talk over facebook but the thing is I feel extremely guilty. I feel like im making him cheat. Ruining his relationship. Ive told him countless times that I only want us to be friends but he acts like he forgets that. He says im flirting with him when im just joking around with him. He says "I love you" but I try to take it in a friendly way because he says it to all of his lady friends in a brother-siter kind of way. He says things like im his "future wife" but adds "lol" just to seem like he's joking. He constantly reminds me of the things ive done for him when he was at his lowest point. Thanking me millions of times.He calls me beautiful. He gets jealous easily but he tells me things about his girlfriend and other girls to make me jealous. He has done many attempts to get me to fall for him. Extreme attempts that it almost ruined our friendship. Besides the flirting he is a very nice person(obnoxious at times)but very sweet. He has given me many gifts such as food he has cooked (he cooks a lot)and flowers and teddy bears (before he started dating) He told me he was giving me these things for "appreciation for what I have done" and if I didnt accept them, he made me. He is my best friend. He is very protective and defends me if someone is bullying me. He is very caring. He asks how my day was and sometimes good morning messages. He makes it his job to message me everyday and is always the first to start a convo. We will talk for hours on end just about silly things and joke around a lot. He comes to me when he needs someone to talk to and is going trough something and I do the same for him. He says that he will always be there for me if i need anything. He just the bestest friend you could ever ask for. I just feel like im taking advantage of him. Im trying hard to make our friendship work because I don't want to lose him. But he is constantly testing it. He tells me he's not over me even if he has a girlfriend. He treats me like I am his which I have told him to stop but he wont. Nearly everyone in the school knows of his crush on me. He tags me in posts on Facebook that say things like "Tag the most beautiful girl you know" or "tag a girl that you think is adorable" I just don't know what to do anymore! How can I save our friendship?! He was not always like this. Thank you for reading! I know it was long! :(
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You both want different things; You want a friendship and he wants a relationship with you. It's not going to work.
He is not respecting your wishes. You've made it obvious you want him to stop. he hasn't. It's all really disrespectful to his girlfriend. She doesn't deserve that.
It's obvious what he has been doing is making you uncomfortable. He. Needs To. Stop.
You might need to sit him down and say "Hey what you are doing is incredibly disrespectful I'm done. Either you stop,m or we can't be friends anymore"
With whatever you choose, I wish the best of luck to you.
-Hardcore-Band-Geek
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Okay, hi! This is my first time here so please bear with me, and I just need advice. So, I'm a 20-year old girl and in a relationship with this guy I met on a social networking site (sorry, I don't feel like naming which one). We've been together for like 2 months, and we're actually close. Not iterally close as living near each other. We've never seen each other in person, but we do know what we both look like. I've shown him a picture of me, and so has he. And things were going smoothly. Until earlier. We were talking about gaming online together, and then he said it would be better if we could talk while gaming. I said I don't have a mic, because my brother is really anxious about me talking or being in contact that way to other people from different countries. And he asked for another picture, in which I responded I'll send him one randomly one day, because I don't really feel like sending one but decided that I wanna surprise him. But his friends think I'm a dude. Because of those two reasons plus the fact that they think I'm full of crap for making stories to keep him with me. It wasn't long until he too, actually thinks I'm a dude. What should I do? Should I just ditch him? I hate that his friends think I'm full of crap for "making up stories" and that he actually got his mind influenced easily by his friends, ending in him not actually trusting me and ignoring my decision. Should I just forget about us? (link)
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Long distance relationships are hard. It also so really hard, when you've never seen the your partner.
You should let it go. You might not be ready for an online relationship. Also if he would let his friends influence his feelings for you, he is not worth it
Hope it all works out for you.
-Hardcore-Band-Geek
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Long story short I still talk to my ex in occasion, and we get along OK. Since we broke up we've been in touch to some degree. I see him as a friend and solely a friend. He's now engaged which is great. Problem being is on several occasions since they've been together he's tries to get me to send "dirty" pictures of myself to him. The first few times they had just started dating, I said no but never said anything to her. Just recently he's started asking me again, which I said no, they are due to get married in 3 months. Should I tell her what he's up to or leave it be? I still have the messages in case. (link)
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I would talk to him. tell him that what he is doing is not cool, disrespectful to you and his fiance and if he is serious about his relationship with her he would NOT be doing that! Also if it really bothers you, tell him that if it continues you will block him. If he doesn't stop, then tell her about what's been going on. In fact, i would consider it, but you might just want to tell her first. Show her you are on her side.
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do you think its alright to date someone your best friend used to? they did about 2years ago and i thought he was cute but nothing more than that because that was who my friend talked to. by the way thats how him and i met when they dated, but 2 years later. we hung out this past saturday with our frat brothers and sorors and he kept putting his hands on my waist and when we went inside he sat next to me and was talking to me the whole time. he got nervous and went outside for a while when our frat brother put him on he spot and told him to ask me out and told him why are you being shy when i haven't seen you take your eyes off her and you have been telling me how beautiful she is the whole time since she got here. i think he is sweet and i am attracted to him but is it wrong. i do no't know how to tell my best friend even though she is getting married the 1st of august this year to someone else of course laugh out loud (link)
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My first boyfriend (currently dating) used to date my best friend. I met them a few months after they broke up. So that was before my time. I just made sure it was okay with my best-friend and she totally approved :) I would just make sure she's cool with it. TO be honest though, If she's getting married it shouldn't even matter. Good luck :)
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