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Am i still vergin
i was 16 that time and i was fingered for the first time with my lobg time boyfriend. when he fingered me i didn't bleed until the next day he do it again no bleeding happen again .. my question is am i still virgin? right now im 17 and i never try even just once a sex.
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It all depends on how you define the word "virgin".
Have you ever heard of a forest referred to as "a virgin forest" ?? It means a forest untouched by mankind yet.
It can also mean that you are new to something like going out bowling for the first time with others who have done it before and you could call yourself a virgin bowler.
Most people think virgin means that someone has not had penis in vagina sex. That once you do, you are no longer a virgin. If that were so, then at what point are two gay guys or two lesbians no longer a virgin? Two penis'es or two vagina's can't have penis in vagina sex.
A person's sexual experience can be a variety of things that occur over time or all in one setting. There's also fingering, oral sex, hand jobs, etc.
When you go to a buffet/smorgasbord type restaurant, do you put a serving of everything on your plate to eat for dinner? A few people do but most people only choose what sounds interesting or something that they like from the buffet line. Its the same with sex, it doesnt have to include everything the first time you sample something from the 'sexual menu'. You only had fingering. I would say according to my interpretation, that is something off the sexual buffet line and therefore you are no longer a virgin. But really its for you to decide to label it what you want.
If your question is more about bleeding and your hymen,
then I will share that a hymen can be stretched by using your fingers, using a tampon or using a dildo. Sometimes, instead of stretching there is some minor tearing and that is normal too. There shouldn't be any pain. If there is, let me know and I have something else for you to check on if thats so. Otherwise, its a good idea to purchase a personal lubricant like KY jelly or another brand for any fingering done to lesson the amount of friction that can pull at and tear skin.
It can happen with couples who've been sexually active for decades too. A females fluid if she gushes, or ejaculates like a male does with orgasm is much more watery than the early lubrication juices she creates when first aroused and these fluids can wash away the thicker personal wetness or any lubes used and at some point either the man feels the friction pulling at the skin of his penis or the female feels a pulling, grabbing sensation at the entrance to or in the vagina and this comes right before a tear if one doesnt stop to apply more lube. Don't worry about any blood, just make sure to use lube.
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Look up Laci Green, she is a "sex educator" on youtube and I highly recommend watching her.
Now I'm going to tell you what she says and I believe it too.
Virginity is a social concept to define someone's sexual behavior.
Losing your virginity depends on you.
Some people say that having vaginal sex is losing their virginity.
What if you can't have vaginal sex?
Some purple might say that fingering or hand jobs count, sometimes even oral.
But all that depends on you.
My opinion says that yes you are still a virgin, but that all depends on what you define "losing your virginity" as.
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It all depends on what standard you wish to follow. By today's standard a virgin is someone who has not had penis to vagina intercourse. In other words a penis has not entered a vagina. If you are a girl until a boy puts his penis in you vagina you are a virgin. For a boy he is a virgin until his penis enters a vagina.
In the traditional standard having caranal knowledge of another would mean loss of virginity. By definition fingering, BJ's, HJ's are a form of caranal knowledge.
By today's standard, which is the one most all acknowledge is the proper one, you are still a virgin. Bleeding and loss of Hymen have nothing to do with loss of virginity,
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Yes, you are still a virgin. Though, some peoples view on virginity loss can vary.. I would say if a penis enters a vagina, the virginity is lost. Though, it's just a word.
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