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So there is this boy in my class, and he sits next to me. and hes a junior and im a senior. and i kinda knew him, well i knew he was but we never really talked. so one day he made fun of me for getting an answer wrong. No big deal. Then the next day we had a test, and he came in and told me he was going to copy off me. whatever. then after the test we talked about random stuff. lol. then the next day he like kept kicking me, hitting me with his id, then he kept trying to knock my books and stuff off my desk. he kept hitting me arm when i was trying to write. and like when i was trying to pay attention in class he would like say my name but kinda whispery and then if i didnt look at him he would keep doing it. so do you think he likes me? or is he just annoying? lol. (link)
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Classic signs of when someone insecure likes you. That's what the insecure do. They try to hit you, tease you etc. I would say yes he does like you, but be bold and ask him. But I agree with the other answers... he sounds very immature and to want to copy off you? Hmm
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okay;; well i havea huge issue with trust
but its only with this one boy.
i really dont care about anyone else
well. anyways.
okay.
sometimes i dont belive he loves me
i mean theres a differnt bewteen
"thinking" you love someone
and "knowing" you love someone.
and i KNOW i love him.
and he said he KNOWS he loves me
but i dont believe him
and he asked me how can he prove it
but i dont know how?
so do you got any advice on what i should do with
telling him to prove it.
like any ideas. (link)
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I know a lot of the time love is thrown around like a frisbee and not meant, but if you continue to doubt how he feels about you, you'll end up losing him.
He can't just think he loves you, because if he just thinks it, then he doesn't really feel it.
Ask yourself why you are so insecure about his feelings for you. There is obviously something going on within you that is forcing you to not believe what he says.
Once you have figured this out, sit down and talk to him as an adult and explain to him why you doubt the way he feels about you.
I know guys don't always do things that show how they feel, but sometimes, just sometimes, they do tell the truth about their feelings.
learn to trust him and not be so insecure. You're probably afraid of being hurt and are closing yourself off and not allowing yourself to believe that he does love you, which is not good for either of you.
Deal with your inner issues and then deal with this.
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Me and my close friend like the same guy. But she threatens me that if I ask him out of some sort she'd get people after me.
When I walked into the Art Room [He's in her class] He called my name and hugged me, then she got upset at me and called me a trature..I dont get her..Can anyone tell me whats her deal? (link)
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Her problem is you both like the same guy. Generally, when 2 friends like the same person, if one of them gets him, the other is going to extremely unhappy about it.
Ask yourself how you would react if it was the other way round. I don't think you'd be very impressed if he paid more attention to your friend than to you.
However, if she is going to threaten to get people after you for asking out a guy you like, then I wouldn't consider her much of a friend to begin with.
Guys will never let a female come between their friendship and us women should do the same. If he's going to come between you and your friend, then he's not really worth it, but at the same time, if you're friend is going to get you beaten up for dating a guy, then she isn't really worth it either.
My advice... forget about them both and find something better
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So.. wow this is kinda embarassing..
Since I'm the one usually giving advice, and now I really need some! Please help :)
okay, well I heard that when people are stressed/depressed or stuff like that they can either start eating a lot, or eating less and getting an eating disorder.
Well today was really bad, and I just want to keep eating food, and I dont know why, I feel hungry, but I dont want to get fat. I'm upset, but ahh how do I control this? (link)
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How often do you feel like this? Is there an underlining problem that needs to be addressed? If you know you are getting stressed out by what life is throwing your way, find a way to destress... something that will take your mind off wanting food. Different things work for different people, but what works for me, is either playing with Paint Shop Pro or sitting on the sofa with a colouring book. Destressing is probably the key. Sounds like comfort eating to me, which is no good for anyone, but is understandable. Just try to remember to eat in moderation. It's not what you eat that can make you fat, its how much of it you eat in the first place.
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19/f. Me and my b/f have been havin sex for over a yr but it still hurts. My docter doens't think theres anything wrong but another suggested a pap. What do you think could be wrong with me and does any one else have this prob? (link)
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I am unsure what a pap is but I'll give this a go. There are a lot of reasons as to why sex hurts even though you and your boyfriend have been sexuality active for some time. One reason is that the hymen hasn't fully stretched. I think the best advice anyone can give to you is to visit your doctor again. If you dont go back when a problem persists, they're not going to know it is still there.
Visit your doctor again and tell him it is still a problem. If he still refuses to do anything, tell your doctor you wish to seek a second opinion.
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hello, my freind spends to much time with her nanny and she's becoming one , what do i do (link)
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How do you mean your friend spends too much time with her nanny? Does she socialise with her nanny? And is that wrong for her to do? Is it more a case that you are jealous that your friend isnt spending all her time with you?
Does she want to be a nanny?
Maybe you should tell your friend that you would like a bit of attention too... and do your best to be supportive of choices your friend makes, no matter how difficult it may be
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This may sound a little stupid bit i dont know what to do. For what me and my friend did,we might of caused everyone in our school to get their myspace accounts caceled! It all happend when my friend made this fake girl named Alison a profile. She did it so this boy that is a total loser who is obbsesed with me could start liking her and not me anymore. He liked this "girl" Alison soo much that he gave her his adress,number, and wanted to meet her so he could take her out! Hez so stupid! What if it was like a 40year old guy!EEEWW! So he gave her(really me and my friend) his password and we changed his profile and wrote pretty funny stuff and changed his password,lol. Anyway,now he was obbsesed with her, and at school that is all he would talk about!Then oneday,he found out from someone(?) that she wasnt real! He was pretty mad and humileated(however you spell it) for a while, but then he got over it. Then oneday he started sending some pretty harsh things to my fiend because she is a little overweight and her sister found out and was SOOO mad. She sent him a message telling him that they(her friends) were going to beat him up,lol. The little wimp told his mom whotold the principal and now my friend is in trouble because she took the blame for her sis.But then, he mentioned the Alison thing and said my name!!! They are going to call my dad,afer he had JUSTseen all that bad stuff about myspace on the news!What the hell should i do!!! IR5s!!!! :0 &hearts he'll be so f****** pissed! (link)
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What you should do here is simple. Sit back and take the consequences of your actions. Clearly you know that you were wrong in humiliating this boy so much. Your father may appreciate it more if you accepted your punishment and the fact that you had done wrong. It shows maturity and responsibility on your part.
If it was me, I would go and tell my father first, before the school ever had a chance to do anything about it.
I do hope you have learnt a very valuable lesson about all this though. Its not fair to humiliate someone so much, just because they have feelings for you and you dont feel the same. If it was the other way around, chances are, you would never want to go out through the door again. Did you really expect him to sit back and do nothing, knowing that you and your friend had messed with his head and his feelings this way?
Like I said, come clean to your father. He will be very mad at you, of that there is no doubt, but it will show you to be mature enough to admit where you are wrong.
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I am 14 and female. I am in year nine now, and when i was in year 8 i had a big crush on a boy in my class. the feelings were reciprocated but we decided not to go out coz we weren;t ready for a relationship. we were ace friends, he would knock on for me and we would hang and stuff and it was cool. but he was a prat around his mates and i said that i didnt like him anymore because of his immaturity. i broke his heart. and now i understand that it was a pathetic reason but now, i think i like him again and i have become more immature so i think we would suit. we were perfect for each other but i spoilt it. and it is totally annoying, normally i would tell him but he hates me now because i was mean. what should i do? i really think i am falling for him again :'( i need help on this, then i have a load more relationship issues you can help me solve. and sorry for the length :S (link)
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The first thing you should do, is never change who you are to suit anyway. You claim you havent changed for him, but you're supposed to be more mature is you get older, not the other way around, so I think deep down, you have allowed yourself to become more immature because you think its what he wants in a girlfriend.
I get that, at 14 years old, this can seem like the end of the world, but believe me, its not. Life will only get harder the older you get. But I suggest you talk to this boy, tell him how you feel, and apolpogise to him for how you behaved previously. If he refuses to forgive you, then you can move on with your life knowing that you tried. Do you really want to sit back and always wonder what would have happened between you if you had apologised to him?
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Ok I am trying to eat healthier (cutting down on sweets...nothing extreme) but my family always has candy in the house, where it is hard not to grab some as you walk by the cabinet. Also, my parents love to treat us to ice cream, and bring home ymmuy baked goods, and i just have a hard time declining them. How can I gain more self control over eating sweets? (link)
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In order to gain more self control over this, you need to learn to say no. It is difficult to turn down the things you love, but if its what you want, then you have to do it. Ask your family to be a little more aware of your new healthy diet. You can still eat the little sugary treats you love, but its all in moderation. You could even try sugar free or fat free products.
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20/F.
So I’ve been with my boyfriend for just over a year now. We have a great relationship and we usually tell each other everything. However, two weeks ago I found out that he has been hiding something from me throughout our entire relationship (that’s not the problem though...).
I was at home when it happened. My boyfriend’s college suite mate called me and asked me to come over right away. He seemed worried, but wouldn’t tell me anything over the phone. I drove to their dorm room, and just as I was about to go up the stairs, I heard someone mumbling. I looked underneath the stairwell, and there was my boyfriend. He was sitting on the floor, with his head in his hands, crying, and freaking out.
It took me almost an hour to get him to calm down. Once he finally did, I asked him what had just happened. He told me that he suffers from mild depression and anxiety. He had been having a massive panic attack. He takes medication for both conditions, but he told me that recently his anxiety had been getting worse.
I’ve never seen him, or even anyone, have a panic attack before and I don’t know anyone else who suffers from anxiety. Nonetheless, I tried to be as supportive as I could. He told me that he had been having trouble sleeping because of the anxiety but that talking to me usually helps him calm down. I ended up spending the night in his dorm, and I haven’t left here since.
He’s been to the doctor, and all they’ve done for him is increase his medication.
He has told many times over the past two weeks that my staying with him, in his dorm, makes him feel more at ease. That when we’re together, he’s able to function like a normal person. However, he still has anxiety when he’s about to go to bed, and sometimes we stay up and talk for hours before he’ll finally fall asleep.
I feel immensely guilty for saying this, but I’ve never been so exhausted, emotionally and physically, in my life. I work full time as well as go to school and this whole situation has really taken it’s toll on me. All of my attention has been focussed on him and I’m constantly worrying about him when we’re apart, but five hours of sleep a night (sometimes less) cannot be healthy.
I’ve tried to tell him that eventually I’ll have to go home, but then he starts to get anxious about the thought of me leaving him alone.
I love my boyfriend and I want to be there for him when he needs me, but I would like to have somewhat of a life of my own. Ugh. I feel selfish saying that...
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I think the first thing both of you need to address is why this started and when. Clearly something has happened to him in his past that has caused him to be this way. The key to making things better, is finding out what started him off with the anxiety and depression and working on that. Perhaps a psychologist might be able to help. But maybe he will open up to you. You need to ask him when this first started and establish what was going on in his life at the time. It could be anything from a divorce to abuse. But ultimately you need to find out what started this off in him. I feel that then, and only then will you and your boyfriend be able to move on from the anxiety and depression.
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i really need to get tan in like a month and i cant go in a tanning bed is there any other way to get really tan in like a month? thanks! (link)
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There is a little thing called a spray tan.. you spray onto your body and then leave it to dry.. be careful though... if you do it wrong, you might end up a little orange
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what's rape? Is it forcing someone to have sex with you?? Cause i don't totally understand what is it. (link)
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Rape is a very horrible thing for anyone to have to go through. It is forced sex. When you dont want to have sex with someone, but they refuse to take no for an answer and they force you into doing it, causing, emotional, psychological and physical harm.
There is also such a thing as statutary rape, where someone who has sex with someone under the age of consent, be they over that age or not, can be legally convicted of statutary rape, whether the sex was consensual or not.
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i cant stand my mom no more she has to no everything. she is ruining my life.i hate her so much. it has got so bad to were i live wit my gram. so how do i get her out of my life? (link)
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Everyone falls out with their parents. Its perfectly natural. But to want your mother out of your life is silly. Come later on, when you're an adult, you will need your mother for MANY things.. and she wont be there to help you.
Fact of the matter is, your mother does know more than you. She's your mother and its her job to. Its her job to guide you when you go wrong and to be there for you when you need picking up.
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My friend had larengitus and a fever for about 1 and a half weeks. She's finally recovering, after she was sick for so long. I think I may of caught what my friend has, but I am drinking lots of water (you wouldn't believe how much I'm drinking) and I stayed home today and rested.
Do you think that I will recover faster than my friend? I actually don't feel all too bad, and I don't feel like I'm getting larengitus or anything. Is it possible that my friend just didn't take care of herself properly? (She never drinks any water, just a few sodas, she eats alot of junk food and she didn't rest when she was sick because she had to play soccer.)
I'm not even sure if I definitely have what she had or not. In fact, my mom says I got sick from worrying so much that I was going to. But the big problem is: I have a birthday party tomorrow that I cannot miss or my friend will practically die. It's only about 2 hours. Will I probably be okay if I keep hydrating?
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Just because your friend had laringitis, doesn't mean you have it because you feel under the weather. If thats what you think you have, visit your doctor who will probably prescribe anti biotics.
You probably did get sick due to worrying so much. Worrying can actually make you feel icky. And as far as this birthday party goes, if you're sick, and don't go, your friend will have to get over that. She cannot physically hate you for being sick, and if she does, dump her as a friend. I say, only go if YOU feel well enough to do so.
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Heather, I have been on birth control (orto-tri-cycilin) for about 2 years now. The first year was deifnitally rough constantally missing pills, so my period was always off. Anyways, I have been very consistent with taking them for over a year now, this past week was spring break and insted of taking them at 8am before school, i was taking them around 10am. Also, I ended up missing one half way into the week. I then started my period 2 days after missing it, and that lasted about 3-4 days. Two days after that I woke up the next morning and was bleeding again. It was from the night before. Then it stopped for that day and the next full day. Then it started again, and stopped for a day. And last night I woke up and have been on my period since last night.
Does this sound normal? I mean, could all of this be because of that one missed pill? Or should i definitally go and see a doctor.
Please help. Thank you.
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There are many things that can mess up a menstrual cycle, stress being a major one. But missing a pill can have this effect. As someone said, it depends on the window you have. With mine for example, if I miss one today, I can safely take 2 tomorrow, but beyond that I would have to wait until I started my period.
If you are at all worried about it, you really should speak to your doctor as he/she will be able to explain to you better the causes of this and what can be done to stop it.
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My friend recently got on the Depo-Provera shot. She got it on April 2nd. She lost her virginity around the end of March, and didn't use a condom. Her period was 3+ weeks late and she said it was really light and really short (not enough blood to use a tampon and only two days long.) Ever since then, she bleeds after she has sex. It's happened twice. The first time she said it was alot of blood, but nothing like period blood. The second time was tonight and she said it wasn't too much and it's always after she goes to the bathroom. I can tell she's worried even though she says she's not and I am worried for her. Can anyone tell me what they think is up? I will rate high! Thanks so much!
♥ Christina (link)
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The problem your friend is having could be a side effect to the Depo Provera shot. If she is worried at all about any aspect of this, she should visit her doctor, who will be able to diagnose her better than we can.
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my dog is scratching his skin like raw...I dont know why. It's gotten so bad that by his eye, he actually bleeds sometimes. Im really scared for him and it bothers me to see him with blood. I wipe it off, but I hate looking at the bloody tissue. He gets scabs now in that area. Why does he do this? COuld his nails be too long? Is there anything I can do to stop it? (link)
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sounds to me like some sort of skin reaction. Your best bet would be to take him to the vets and get him diagnosed properly
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ok so, my school is having a dinner dance. my best friend and i were going to ask the ppl we like to it today after school. BUT these to guys, who we are kinda friends with and like us, asked us to the dance. but when she went on the bus today, she asked the 2 guys that we like, what they would say if we asked them. they said they would have said yes!!!!! what the hell should we do? we are in need of some serious advice!!!! thanks
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What answer did you give to the 2 guys who had already asked you? If you said no, then you're clear to go with the 2 guys you both like. But if you said yes, it's very unfair to cancel on those 2 guys for someone else. I say go with the ones who asked you if you already said yes. You wouldnt like it if someone agreed to go out with you and then changed their mind because someone better came along. Make sure they are aware that you're only going as friends.
Alternatively. You could ALL go together. There is no rule that says you have to go to dances with a date.. so you could all go together as a group of friends. That way, the guys who asked you get their way, and you get your way by going with the guys you wanted to ask.
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I am mad at my best friend. I don’t want to be but I am. She has a new friend that I don’t know I guess I like her and I’m fine that they are friends and all. But lately shes been ditching me for her other friend. We were supposed to hang out and she ditched me. she has ditched me twice in the last week for her. Now she is doing cheerleading with her, and before she started being friends with her new friend she used to tell me how she would never do it. shes changing a lot. I know I cant live without her because she has always been there for me and she knows more about me then I know about myself and vise versa. we are “not friends anymore” and its killing me. to tell you the truth all I really want from her is an apology and I guess we could move on, but I have a feeling she wont say shes sorry because she is the type of person who wont admit they are wrong. for the past two years she has been ditching me for her boyfriends and I haven’t done anything about it. Now that shes ditching me for “her new best friend” im really fed up with it and I did something about it, but it seems sooo wrong. (link)
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I have been through this myself lately.. where a friend who myself and my boyfriend helped a lot and then suddenly we didn't seem to exist to her anymore... Tell your friend how you feel and how much she is hurting you, but try and be diplomatic. I know that is very difficult to do, but in situations like this, diplomacy is the best option otherwise the whole situation escalates to a point where it doesnt need to be.
If your friend cannot accept how you feel, or understand that she is hurting you by doing what she is doing, then perhaps she is not the kind of friend you need. Even though she has been there for you when you need her and vice versa, friends should always make time for each other, and if she cannot do that, then she probably isn't the type of friend you first thought she was.
But I do suggest you try and talk to her and explain to her how she is making you feel. She might realise how she is upsetting you and apologise. And then you can all be friends together.
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Hello, I just turned 24 years old 2 weeks ago. You think I would be happy but I am not. I have never had a boyfriend in my life. I have never recieved and gifts from a man or even been out on a date. I have never even kissed a man. i remember when i was 16 my friends would laugh and me because i had not done ane anything yet. I thought i was a loser back then but now that I am 24 I don't think i am in the loser catergory any more. could it be that no one pays attention to me because I am over weight? (size 16) If that is true then why do I see girls who are way bigger than me with a boyfriends. Is there something wrong with me? Or am I just a loser? (link)
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There is nothing wrong with you, nor are you a loser. I myself went through school without ever having a boyfriend etc, and now I have a great boyfriend who I have been with for nearly 2 years. It will happen for you eventually. A lot of people try too hard to find someone, and I have found the trick is to not look. You could even try dating sites on the internet (although I would be VERY careful with that as you never know who you are meeting). Perhaps you are rather shy and don't have the confidence to approach a man... this could be a good way to make that connection.. but you need to up your confidence first.
Be patient, be yourself, and I'm certain that one day soon, someone will find you interesting.
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