I'm a twenty year old chick from Wisconsin. I could sit here and ramble on about my life, but I'm not going to. I'll spare you the boring details. God knows we've seen one too many profiles with "OMG, I HAVE A BOYFRIEND. AND A DOG. GOD I LOVE THEM BOTH, I CANT CHOOSE WHO I LOVE MORE. IM SO COOL. I LOVE MY FRIENDS. SHOUTOUTS LYKE THX!"
So lets cut to the chase, I'm only here becuase a friend reffered me and I have a knack of giving advice. I'm very blunt and in no way am I going to paint some pretty picture and tell you things that you want to hear.
Have fun kids.
Gender: Female
Age: 20
Member Since: September 21, 2005
Answers: 184
Last Update: December 20, 2005
Visitors: 8547
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I will rate fives for all answers! In about 12 days it will be my boyfriend and I's one year anniversary. I was really low on ideas so I got a fleece throwover blanket embroidered for him, it has our names and December 22nd, 2004 on it and it also says I LOVE YOU. I dont' know, is this a good idea and if it is, what also can i get him to go along with it. I bought all kinds of things to make him a card and I just think maybe a lil' something else will do. thanks! -sahara (link)
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If you and your boyfriend are really committed and such I think it's a good idea, otherwise I think something like that might scare him or be considered sort of corny and clingy.
What other things is your boyfriend into? Video games? Cards.. like playing cards or sports cards? Is there any movies out that he wants? You could always wrap the movies and little gifts and the blankets.
Or you could get some nice fluffy pillows to go with that blanket?
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Yea ok so heres the story .. very tragic.. something happened that id never imagine.. my sisters brotger was at his friends and there was some sort of gas leak and the house like exploded... her brother is only 12 and she is only 10 shes so upset and everyone is so worried were not sure if hes gunna make it hes got so much wrong w/ him.. he has head trama collapsed lungs, punctured spleen and a punctured liver and 50% burns that are VERY severe.. the thing is i barely know this kid since he lives w/ my step sisters mom but when i found out i cried and cried and i just cant stop i dont really understand it since i only met him like 3 times but still i mean hes juts a kid n hes been through so much i dont even know why thiswould happen to someone like him expecially a kid!!! i dont knowwhat to think about it everyones praying and stuff n its like ive never prayed and had ne results so i dont knwo what to do or how to feel.. some advice or stories or ANYthing would be helpful at this point and time .. thatnk you for any help! ... (link)
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I'm really sorry to hear about that, it's really sad that something like this had to happen to anyone so young.
Every year, for the past five years, I've lost someone close to me. Wether it be friend or a relative.
Last year it was my grandfather. He was diagnosed with stage four cancer, which meant there was no saving him, they doctors gave him an estimated time that he'd live. Which was sometime before Thanksgiving. All you can really do in a near death situation like that is spend time with the person and hope for the best.
Im not a person who prays either but it's funny how sometimes in situations like that some of us will start praying for some sign of hope. I prayed.
My grandfather made it to see Thanksgiving, he even made it to see Christmas, and New Years. He proved the doctors wrong, and he beat the odds of his life span. In Febuary though he had passed away, which was a relief and I know that sounds terrible but he was suffering so much. He was slowly dying and he was trying his best to live for all of us.
I guess the point in my story is that a person can really pull through and beat the odds that are against them, no matter how horrible. I'm sure that there might not always be a full recovery for some, and that your life may never be the same... but at least sometimes, they'll still be with us.
Be there for his sister more than anything. She probably really needs someone during this time.
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For Christmas I'm looking for some good books! I'm 14 years old and I love real life diary books. I love those books when after your done reading them, your like "I dont' want it to end!". Anybody have any good suggestions. ? thanks (link)
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I know it's not 'real life' but the diary of Ellen Rimbauer was really good. It's a fictional diary about a girl's life in a big.. evilish house. Ever read Stephen King's Rose Red or seen the movie? It's like a spin off of that.
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there is this guy in my grade (8th) who is always flirting with me and my friend. he is cute, but he has a girlfriend of like a year who is in 9th grade. in the class that we all have together my friend and i will sit on the couch in the room and put our feet up on it. he will come over and just sit on our feet and grind his buttbone into my legs. he has sat in my lap, too (against my will). a couple of years ago, he liked me and i kinda liked him. we went to a banquet at a church camp together, but we never were boyfriend/girlfriend. we have been pretty good friends since, but he keeps flirting with me. he and my friend argue all the time, but it is just messing around not seriously. he flirts with other girls so much! his girlfriend is close to my friend, and his girlfriend flirts with other guys behind his back, too. why does he flirt so much and keep sitting on us? everyone says he and his gf wouldn't last but some people say they are just staying together to prove us wrong...they don't really like eachother. does he like me? what should i do? i'll rate 5's! :):) (link)
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Guys around that age will flirt with whoever they can, if they get positive responses and giggling girls it boosts their egos and makes them feel like Mr. HotShot and they'll continue to do so.
As far as him liking you, he may just be being overly friendly without any sort of intentions of getting with you. Then again, maybe he is interested, when it comes to this sort of thing it's hard to read what people are exactly thinking or what their intentions are... so the only way to find out truly is to ask.
Honestly if he's flirting with other girls and he has a girlfriend I wouldn't want to be involved with him. That's a bad sign already.
I've found that people date a lot in highschool just for the status, so it may be true that him and his girlfriend don't like eachother, they're just with eachother to say.. "I date such and such." It's sad that people will get together for reasons like that and end up flirting still with anyone else they can.. but that's highschool.
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I've been having a sore throat for about 3 days now... Is there any ways to make it go away? It feels like I'm always trying to clear my throat but I can't. Should I just drink a lot of water? I can't sleep because it feels like I can't breathe. (link)
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Try some Vix vapor stuff on your chest, this will help you breath.
Also I'd get some throat spray, I can't think of the name but you'll be able to find it at most stores. It will numb your throat and really soothe the pain and such.
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Yesterday i just put god in my heart, because my life was going bad and i was doing alot of bad thigns that i shouldn't have been doing. and i'm going to follow the path god wants me to now and do what i think he thinks his right. And i was just wondering if there was anybody out there who could give me some pointers on what to do and not to do because i am new at this. And could you please name some christian bands cause i used to lisen to metal and i dont' want to anymore because i think it would go against god because of the stuff they say i dotn'w ant to lisen to any more hate singers anymore. Please help i'll rate 5's for good anwsers. (link)
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I believe the best way to follow 'God' is just by being true to yourself and doing what you think is right. Listening to your own heart. God gave you a mind of your own, he lets you think for yourself and gives you the power to make your own life and descisions. I think doing what you think is best is maybe the best way to follow God, though a lot may disagree with me.
As long as you have him in your heart and you believe in everything - as far as religion, God, ect. Then you're set.
On a side note I know a lot of people who are very deep in the Christian faith and try following it to the point where they end up depressed becuase they've become afraid of their actions being thought of as sin and whatever have you. I'm not trying to knock the religion, I think it's great if you have something that you believe in like that.
Just try not taking it to like a high level to where you've quit doing what you want in life and started living a life that a book says is right, or that other people say is right. Like I said, God gave you a soul, he gave you a heart, he gave you a brain. You're allowed to live for yourself.
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do u think its ok for someone who is fourteen to hide a boyfriend from there parents i dont have one yet but in the futrue is it ok because i think my parents dont want me to have one but is it ok because its wut teenages do (link)
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I think it's fine not to tell your parents your business, unless ofcourse your boyfriend turns out to be a real dickhead and tries taking the reigns in your life.
If I had a child, I'd personally want to know who she was dating and yet I'm torn becuase when I was 14 I didn't want my mom to know I had a boyfriend. It's kind of like a torn ground.
But I bet your parents would really appriciate it if you tell them what's going on in your life. Sometime or another they're going to find out anyway right? So why not just spill the beans ahead of time.
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ok....im not a very social person, at least not anymore, see...i used to go to this awesome school where i had like tons of friends and stuff but then i had to move so now im at this new school and its sooooooo much different. now i dont have that many friends. i mean like its not like im a nerd or anything, like people like me but theres only like 4 or 5 people that i can really call my friends. all i want to do is just make more friends but i dont really no how. HELP PLEASE. (link)
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More friends isn't always a better life style. Honestly if you have only 4 or 5 people that's more than enough. This decreases drama and such between you guys.
But okay, if you want friends, you're going to have to go out on a limb and start talking to someone who you think would be pretty cool to hang out with. It's not the easiest thing in the world to do, but people aren't always going to come to you.
So lets say you have class with someone, you find someone that may be friend material.. just start talking to them about class to get the bond going. Then you can talk about personal life and such and bam. You have an aquaintence. Then maybe ask them if they want to hang out after school. Then you start the entire 'friendship' thing.
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ok... i have a step family that i live with. like i live with my mom and with my step dad and with 3 step sisters. i get along really well with all of them but the youngest one(jody) is a little younger than me. we get along pretty good infact we are pretty close.sometimes. but other times she gets mad at me for like the simpelist thngs. like if i were to just be like wow your ugly, and then say just kidding she would get mad at me. or something like that.but im older than her. shes not supposed to boss me around. but if i say something to her or talk back to her she tells her mom(which absolutely hates me)and then jody gets even madder at me. just help me please. im sick of getting bossed around of somebody younger than me. help! (link)
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The best solution is just ignoring someone. The only boss of you are your parents. If you ignore Jody and don't listen to what she tells you I promise you it's going to piss her off and she'll eventually realize that she can't boss you around anymore and that she's going to try doing it to one of your other sisters now.
If anything you could always sit down and talk to your mom or step dad about it so they know what's going on. This way Jody can't go back and tell them that you're being mean when you're just trying to ignore the problem.
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Hey there. Uhh...there's this guy at school who I think looks really hot. He's a grade above me and I am friends with a lot of people he knows. Some people say he's conceited, but he doesn't really seem like it. I really wanna talk to him and get to know him, but I dunno what to say at all. I dunno if he even knows I exist or whatever. I just don't wanna look like an idiot in front of him. I'm not that good at starting conversations. What can I do to get his attention so he'll start talking to me? (link)
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Well if you're friends with his friends then you're kind of already one step in the right direction.
Why not see if you all can hang out sometime? I know that in a group it may not always be easy to get the attention of one person, but maybe out of school and such he'll see what kind of a cool person you are and want to talk to you.
Smile if you can't talk to him. When you smile at a guy, he'll normally know something is up and it will really get his attention. Once you build up the confidence start saying Hi, what's up.. things like that. Do you have any classes together? You could always sit down and talk to him about that. It's just something to get a conversation going.
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ok, my friend andy invited me to sleepover on friday night. hes having a sleepover and i really wanna go. the only thing is... im a girl... and andy is a guy so my parents will probably say no. my friend tia is going too... but i dont think that will help convince them much. im thinking about saying im sleeping over tias and then going with her to andys... but im scared my parents would find out... what should i do? please help me... (link)
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Being the rebel that I am I would lie about it and say you're sleeping at Tia's house. You may get in trouble but how long can they really punish you for? And is whatever punishment they can give you worth staying at a guy's house?
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My back hurts really bad. I mean when I sit at my desk it hurts right in the spine of it! What can i do to make it stop hurting?? Thanks! (link)
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Maybe you need a new computer chair or something or your posture in your chair could really be causing it too.
If your rents have insurance try to get into a chiropractor(sp?) They specialize in all your bones and such and could probably do something to make it feel better.
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Okay, I'm having this Halloween party and I don't know what to do, I told them to ware their costumes, and to bring some warm clothes incase it is cold, but I don't know what to do! There are going to boys and girls, along with my parents, little sis, and my boyfriend;) I don't know what we should do that would be fun for kids our age. We are all 13/14 and we want to just have fun, do you know what we could do? ( please don't make it expensive, my family doesn't have verymuch money right now.) thanks! (link)
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How about a night of scary movies? Or when it gets late how about some flashlight tag? I know that it might seem lame - recently I've really wanted to play, haha. Sit in a circle and tell some scary stories. With only candles lit around you. Some people play with the Ouija board for kicks too.
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SIgh... I've being rejected.. and i'm taking this harder then i thought i will. My feeligns were always under control, and all of a sudden... I'm just notr eally depressed, but i can't really do anythign either.
can you guys help me? (link)
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That's always a horrible feeling and you have every right to mope about it becuase it's quite hurtful. Everyone deals with it differently.
I think it's probably best to just let your emotions roll. Start a journal or something to write down your feelings and get it all out.
Try finding something that will make you happy. Make yourself get up and go out with friends or something. You'll probably be like "Wow, I'm glad I went out. I'm having a good time."
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Okay so theres this new guy to our school and hes a Junior and Im a sophmore and hes the classic bad boy he's been in trouble with the law, hes not a virgin (i am)he parties ALL the time. But hes really sweet and i truly try and stop myself from getting wrapped up in him bc to him im probably just another "girl" well whenever i get online hes the first screen name i look for and in the hallways i always look for him. But hes a major flirt and i know you guys are gonna tell me to just forget about him and i know IM TRYING. =/ basically, what im trying to say is should i even give him a chance to see me for who i really am or just give up while my hearts all mine? Like and sometimes i think hes too bad for me. He asked me this weekend to go with him to street racing with him and he doesnt have his license or permit it got taken away and i made up an excuse. Should i hang out with him? (link)
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Okay so here's the deal.
I think you should give him a chance but do not let your guard down and don't put your heart out on the line. Find out what he's about. Sometimes it will only take that one special girl to change a person totally around.
But remember that a person cannot be so easily changed and you can't force them to be different.
Maybe when you're around him more, get to know him more and view his actions and such you may wonder why you thought about him so much in the first place. That was the case with me and a lot of guys I was into.
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Okay I had a weird situation.... I've liked this guy for like 7 months, well I love him.... he's bisexual, but has a crush on someone else.... which dosen't really bother me much cause we're EXTREMELY close! Anyhow, there's this new guy at work...only problem is HE'S 15 and I'm 17. Everyone says I like him or whatever, but I like to hang out with him cause we're VERY ALIKE (To the point where it scares me)....so I dunno whether or not I'm crushin on him, and then at that, there's a girl I've been thinkin about more than usual...like she's cool or whatever...but I dunno if I'm lookin at her cause I've never been successfull with males or whatever...but I dunno, I dun wanna be BI, I'd rather stay straight, but my luck with guys is horrible...but this whole thinkin about her thing has just started, it's weird....I dunno. ANY ADVICE WILL HELP.... just tell me what yall think.... (link)
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Just go with what you feel. Try not to think so much and just go on a feeling. Being BI isn't something you really can control, it's a feeling and desire.
Maybe you should get to know this girl more and talk to her.
I dont see your age as a problem either with a guy at work. I'm three years old than my man. Hehe.
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Well i have this friend lets call him albert.. well okay (SORRY IF THIS IS LONG ILL RATE 5s FOR SERIOUS ANSWERS) so i have known albert since 2nd grade.. and well i need opinions on this.. okay so
1.) Albert is always flirty, touchy, smiley, etc. around me
2.) I asked his friend how he was around people he liked and he said that list above (but thats how he always is around me so im not sure)
3.) Me albert and melinda (other friend not really important) were playing in the snow.. and he always kept tackling me and throwing me in the snow and jumping one me and not letting me get up.
4.) Once i was saying about how no one liked me and stuff and he said thaat i was wrong and i told him he couldnt argue and he said he could etc.
5.) One day albert was preforming in some kind of club and he came over and was talking to me for most of the time and poking me etc. and then hugged me later on.
6.) One morning before school he came up to me and he put his arm around me (lower back not shoulder) and just stood there.
7.) Once when i was mad at him he asked all of my friends why and my one friend told me that he "flipped" out and was asking why he was mad and stuff like that
8.) He complimented me on my earings at my friends party
9.) He kind of kept moving towards me at my friends party and kept poking me and when he was sitting down he kept telling me to sit next to him.
10.) He told me that i should go to my friends party (more than once)
11.) I told him that some kid said to me i hate you you suck and he was like his life and face suck and that he hated him..
12.) He once told me if anything was seriously wrong i would be one of the first to know
13.) Once i asked him who he liked and he told me he couldnt tell me and he said his friend would tell me the next morning and his friend was like can i tell her can i tell her and he was like no.. and then he said something to him and he was like okay.. and he said some girl and then i found out he liked someone else too.. but he wouldnt tell me who that was.
WHAT IN YOUR OPINION DO YOU THINK? DO YOU THINK HE LIKES ME AS MORE THAN FRIENDS OR JUST AS FRIENDS?
thnx 4 your help (link)
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I think Albert digs you. Try doing all those little things back to him and see how he reacts. I really think that he thinks more of you as a friend though.
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i was wondering if you could tell me at what age you had sex. not a lecture to wait or what can happen,, just what age you had it. thanks. (link)
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I was sixteen.
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A lot of my friends are very religious, and thus have many different beliefs (religiously, politically, and otherwise) than I do. Lets just say I cried on November 3rd last year (the day after), and they pretty much jumped for joy. Sometimes when I make a comment about issues that are happening in the world they look at me oddly, like I'm a complete idiot or something. They enjoy listening to Ashlee Simpson and the like while I listen to classic rock from the 60's and 70's. In the past this hasn't bothered me much, but lately its been nagging at me a lot. Don't get me wrong. I love my friends to bits, they're the nicest people and so fun to be around, but is it possible to love them as people and completely disregard how different their mentality is from you? Do your beliefs and interests dictate who you are as a person?
(Sorry if this question doesn't make much sense.) (link)
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Having friends that are different from you can be a good thing. It will really mix up the relationships that you have with eachother a bit. I think someone who had a lot in common with you could be fun, but at the same time it could get pretty boring.
I think you beliefs and such makes up a small part of you as a person. The beliefs of others, and your friends will make up another small part of you.
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Okay so the guy I like, I was with him today and he was talking to his friend and he was saying how he'd f*cked this girl and whatever and the way he said it totally put me off him.
But like, my friend said he could've said it just to make himself sound cool which is what alot of guys do but I dunno.
I really like him but I don't want to TRY to get involved if all he wants is to get in my jeans, you know?
So, what should I do? (link)
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Try and figure him out a little bit more. See if what he's saying is true or if it's something that's just for show. If he really is a dog, then just drop him and give him the cold shoulder.
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