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do u think its ok for someone who is fourteen to hide a boyfriend from there parents i dont have one yet but in the futrue is it ok because i think my parents dont want me to have one but is it ok because its wut teenages do
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I wouldn't recommend hiding it from your parents. If you have to keep your relationship a secret because your parents wouldn't approve, things could get messy and blow up in your face. Relationships are great learning experiences, but at fourteen, it might not be worth the trouble you could get it. But ultimately, this is up to you. Just make sure you think this through, and be willing to accept any and all consequences. (:
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Hi hunny,
I think you should really talk to your parents about this. Just tell them how you feel and ask them what they think. If they didn't want you to have one, maybe now that you talked to them, they might feel different about it. If they don't want you to have one, then yes, I think it would be ok for you to hide it for a little bit. But if the relationship goes on for a while, you might want to sit down with your parents and explain to them that you have a boyfriend that you would really like for them to meet. They would probably like that. I hope I helped at least a little! x3
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No. And here's why:
If you have a boyfriend, you should have no need to hide it from your parents. The man you are dating should be respectable and friendly enough to be liked by your parents. If that man (or more likely in this case, boy) doesn't meet that requirement, maybe you just shouldn't be dating him.
I could elaborate FAR more on why this holds true for the most part, but don't feel like doing that unless you ask specifically here, or on AIM.
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my parents are the same way... i once really liked this guy but i didnt want to go out with him bc of my parents but then when i told people that i wanted to just not tell them and hide it they wouldnt let me go through with it.. they put it into a diff. point of view as in like every1 always thinks its stupid when your parents ask where your going when and with who but if i hid my boyfriend from them i would always be lying and sooner or later something would happen and i would get into trouble... so they told me it was just easier to talk to them than risk the chances.. and me.. im shy so its hard for me to but the more you think about it and the more you like they guy you'll know when the time is right and if you like him that much you'll talk to them.. but dont let anyone pressure you into doing it before your ready..
i hope i helped if you need anything else let me know .. love ya
xoxo* katie
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no one ever said you had to tell your parents. but as parents usually do, they might eventually find out. i think it'd be okay, but they can't control you anyways, so what's the point? hope i helped!!
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I think it's fine not to tell your parents your business, unless ofcourse your boyfriend turns out to be a real dickhead and tries taking the reigns in your life.
If I had a child, I'd personally want to know who she was dating and yet I'm torn becuase when I was 14 I didn't want my mom to know I had a boyfriend. It's kind of like a torn ground.
But I bet your parents would really appriciate it if you tell them what's going on in your life. Sometime or another they're going to find out anyway right? So why not just spill the beans ahead of time.
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I don't think you should hide a boyfriend from your parents.
I think you do need to sit down with your mom and find out if its okay for you to date and if not when...all that important stuff. You need to know!
She may not want you dating any boys one on one but may not have a problem with you dating along with several others in a group.
Talk to her and find out whats okay and what isn't. You will be much better off following the rules. :)
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My parents didn't want me to have a bf because they think it would distract me from my education. I hid a bf from them once. It didn't really work out between me and him though. He broke it off because he "didn't get to see me much" and it was only for a week. If you don't want to get caught by your parents I wouldn't guarentee doing it unless for sure you know that the relationship will work out. Because it was hard for me to hide my feelings when me and my ex broke up. But my parents never knew about it cause I was slick like that. Lol. j/k. But seriously, if your postive that the relationship will work out go for it. No one likes to be alone. If not, then don't let yourself get hurt. I really hope this helped.
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Don't hide shit from your parents. You may think it's unfair, but they always have reasons for what they do (unless they beat you). If they find out, which they probably will, you'll just be in more trouble than if you had one anyways. Don't be all "badass teenage rebel", it's really not as cool as you think.
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You shouldn't do it because 'teenagers do it', do it only if your parents dont let you date a guy you like. Thats the only way i think its okay.
♥ Melissa
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It's not 'what teenagers do' so much as it's what some teenagers do. And just because the masses do it doesn't make it okay. Personally, I think that if you're 14 and you want to have a boyfriend that's okay. It's normal at fourteen to be dating. But I think lying to your parents about it will only cause trust issues. If your parents found out it'd be harder for them to let you have a boyfriend the next time and harder for them to trust you when you want to go out with friends ect.
Instead of hiding a boyfriend, I'd suggest first finding a guy you really like and who likes you. Then, as a friend, take him home to meet your parents, maybe with a group of friends. Make sure to establish with your mom and dad that you're mature and responsible. A good way to do this is by doing your homework or cleaning around the house. Then tell your parents you like him and ask if you can date. Be mature about it and don't cry and scream. Parents are much more likely to listen that way.
Hiding a boyfriend is just going to make them trust you less and that's a bad thing and can impede on future plans. If you're just honest and act mature and present your case (I should have a boyfriend because of a, b and c and I can handle it because I can handle a, b and c) you're more likely to get the freedom you deserve--now and later.
Good luck. :-)
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Just because other teenagers do it, does not mean it is okay to follow the crowd. I think you should talk to your parents before you hide anything. Ask when is it okay to have a boyfriend, you might be surprised if they dont care at a certain age or something. When you ask your parents, you'll know their rules on dating..it's your choice to break them or not. =)
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