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So, I recently moved schools and I met this guy. He was the first to talk to me in my History class and I liked him from the start! As time passed he grew more distant. I asked him to join me and some of my other new friends on a trip but he declined both times. I stopped asking after that in fear he was getting annoyed. I have a really hard time talking to people so whenever he would talk to me there would be awkward moments if silence. If I get to know a person in definitely a lot more outgoing, it just takes time. Now he doesn't even talk to me or acknowledge me and I'm too scared to go up to him in fear of annoying him again. Its been a while now and I'm still upset about this. I have listened to a few of his conversations and we have a lot in common. This also might be turning to a slight obsession. I'm just so worried why I always worry what he thinks about me! Any advice on how to take care of this problem? (link)
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Hiya! Dr.D here, and there is nothing to fear!
Your "obsession" is nothing more then the yearn of friendship. You probably dont know that many people, and this guy was the first out of the crowd to talk to you. So you want to make friends and be part of the school. I can tell you now that I dont know this man. But you do. If you have a lot in common then he is the right person to make a friend out of. I suggest next time you talk to him, you make a strategy of what to say. Like conversation topics like:
1. How is your day?
2. Whats your opinion about that teacher(or something)?
3. Hey have you ever heard of (your favorite thing)?
Questions like that. Dont let this temporary division get between you two. I bet he will give you another chance, and see the person you really are. Smile, laugh, and talk. My personal three things to make a friend. You got a friend in me. So if you need help, go ahead and ask! I am always here to help :-)
-Dr.D
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I started taking lamotrogine/lamictal on the 23rd of April and I barely upgraded to 100mg yesterday. Each time I eat I feel nauseated. This happened last time I took lamotrigine so I stopped taking it, and eventually had to take it again due to bipolar disorder. The nausea started the first week when I started taking it and lasted for nearly 2 weeks. It eventually subsided but now it seems it's coming back.
I am also eating about 50/60 carbs a day and I have been doing this for a week or so.
My blood sugar is now running in the low 100s or lower. I'm experiencing nausea and lack of appetite (which I suppose might be caused by the medication) Again, I've been eating low carb for a week or so and I've had no problems.
Could it be from the medication or from the diet?
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Hiya! Dr.D here!
Let me see if I can help.
To me, it sounds like you get the lack of appetite and nausea every time you do take the lamotrogine. Its probably best you find a second option. Its really hard for me to really find out what the case is, because if your having a reaction to this, then there might be a physical reaction that can be seen. Its probably best if you go see your doctor, and get prescribed for a secondary medicine to take to better treat your symptoms. But what scares me most is your blood pressure. I mean yours seems healthy, but if it continues to drop you will also want to see your doctor about that. Now if you ever feel suddenly dizzy, light headed, or like your about to faint. There is a simple thing to do to help you. Mustard and Garlic. Its not the best taste but it will bring more control and get rid of them. Its been used thousands of times to help patience who are shock slowly work down to their regular selves. I hope I helped. You should really go see your doctor though. Best of luck.
-Dr.D
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So I have this long-term friend and we got in contact again recently after a while of not speaking, and he told me he was depressed so I wanted to help, but I can tell that he lies about a lot of things. For example, he told me that he might have Alzheimer's and Dementia and he's only 17! He's said too many things to even name, but his lies are becoming more convincing as though he's trying not to get caught. He says he is depressed but he's OK when I'm OK and unhappy when I'm unhappy, and when something happens to me he'll make up a story about something going on in his life to make his situation sound worse than mine; he'll complain all the time about situations that probably aren't even happening! All his friends have cut him off because he's sent them pictures of his self-harm and saying he was going to kill himself, but I don't want to cut him off, I just want him to stop lying to me and attention-seeking! What should I do?
PS. My social anxiety makes it difficult to confront him because I'm too shy. (link)
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Hiya! Dr.D here!
Sometimes its hard for people to make interactions with others. To make friends, and to keep them. Your friend sounds like he has a bad habit of lying though. And your afraid of what will come if you stand up and tell him the truth. But the only way to make him stop, is if you tell him the truth. You must tell him to stop lying. I had a friend and he always lied, said crazy stuff like "my father owns a gaming company I get everything free." and stuff like that. I know he lies. So I sat next to him and said to him:
"I know all of it is a lie. You can either find a way to prove it to me. Or you can stop, and admit. And we can still be friends."
Unfortunately, he didnt own up to his act, and still lies to people to this day. I see him and now he has no friends.
Dont let your friend do the same. Tell him to either say the truth, or dont be friends. Because a true friend does not lie to others to impress them. He has to be himself. Good luck.
-Dr.D
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First off, I do plan on seeing a doctor for this if it continues, but I wanted to get other people's opinions on it first.
For years off and on I've had this issue come up with my knees where if I walk more than one mile, go up more than a couple flights of stairs, or otherwise put strain on my knees that they'll feel as if they're dislocating. One is usually significantly worse than the other and it gets so painful I can't walk or put weight on my knee(s). It's even worse when it's cold outside.
I hadn't experienced it happen in about 5 months, but today I moved to a new apartment that's 3 stories up and had to make probably around 8 trips up and down the stairs and by the end of the night I was limping and could barely walk.
It didn't hurt going up the stairs nearly as much, mostly down the stairs, but it was still incredibly painful.
I would have seen a doctor sooner, but the issue is the pain is usually gone the next day. There's also never been any swelling, redness, or other visible symptoms and because I'm young I don't feel like a doctor would take it seriously.
I'm also worried that this is normal after putting stress on your knees?
Am I overthinking it that something might actually be wrong?
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Hiya!
A little knee pain you say? Dont worry, at your day and age, I dont think its anything severe. Now if its only at your knees which this happens. I can think of a few things that might cause this. If you do a lot of physical work, our muscles produce a substance called lactic acid. Which is the waste product of oxygen which was turned into ATP. But this liquid drains out later, through your urinary system. Though, sometimes, after doing lots of work, lactic acid builds up, and doing work over and over can cause lactic acid to stay. If you over work your knees, lactic acid might be building up, which causes the pain and the lack of mobility. there are supplements that help clear out lactic acid and keep you working functional. I could tell you other things that may be linked to this. But I dont think you have any of those cases.
Hopefully I helped. But still go visit your doctor and get his/her opinion.
good luck!
-Dr.D
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Ok, long story short, what's the meaning of this when the boy tells that, i like you, in fact very much when we're out with our uni friends but when he said that we're alone meanwhile when we went to buy drinks and snacks he insisted to pay like he always does. i tried to pay him back the next day but he goes on and says, no it's alright, i'd like to spoil you, buying things for you. he's going away for a few weeks. he says he will miss me very much. we're friends but also i can feel that he likes me a little, least a little? no idea though. we tease each other loads. is he hinting anything at all? i felt like saying stop saying you like me and miss me otherwise you're going to fall in love with me but i just couldn't didn't have a courage to say that. So, what do i expect here?
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Hiya!
Sounds to me like this man has it hot for you. reasons could be that:
1. pays for all your stuff
2. says he will miss you
3. teases you in a playful manner
4. says that he likes you
He may be sending mixed signals. But I can tell you, one of those signals is pretty clear. I suggest try getting closer. Do you like this guy? If so get closer. Who knows, maybe its meant to be. I been single since my girlfriend died a few years ago. And how we got together, was by talking. We talked and talked and learned a lot about each other. Talking turned into conversations on our interests. And that into what we had in common. And that into a friendship. We got so close, and it was so beautiful.
So what ever happens. If you like him. Dont be afraid to nod yourself into his direction. Life is to short for you not to risk the chance of something amazing.
I wish you the best of luck.
-Dr.D
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Here's how it is, you're my darling, aren't you, he says. Go to different uni but we're friends. Laughing, joking and talking is always there between us. He normally uses my name to call me but lately he's been calling darling a lot or either dear. He says he's joking, at least that's what he says but I told him he's flirting. We just backfired at other. Now, calling friend a dear and darling and you're my darling meaning something at all?? (link)
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Hiya!
Adorable! It doesn't take much to understand whats going on. He is flirting with you. We men can not resist the urge to give a little hint to our crushes that we like them. Because we want them to like them back.
Actually, quick story, to get my crush to notice me I had my friend make a mess of these heavy logs on her lawn when we had a bond fire. So I picked up one of these heavy logs at a time, and carried her on my back to get her to have fun, and to notice me.
I think thats what your friend is doing. He likes you, and is trying to hint at it in a funny way. How do you feel about this man? Do you like him back? because it never hurts to give a hint back.
Good luck deary!
-Dr.D
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I've gotten into a terrible rut with procrastinating all the time on everything and now my sleep schedule is messed up because of it.
I have two jobs, one of them is a work at home and the other I travel to the next city over for usually twice or three times a week.
My issue (although lies in me) stemmed from my first job. It consists of working on projects that are on time as long as they're turned in before my boss gets to work the next day (I send them in online). My boss usually sends over my work around 3pm. I'll start on it around 4 and then usually take a break at around 6. However, I then procrastinate on finishing it until really late at night just because I know that technically I can. Sometimes I don't even start on them until 1 or 2am in the morning and then I'm awake working on them until usually 5 or 6am. Then this turns into me sleeping until 1:30pm in the afternoon or on really bad days like today I slept until 3pm.
This of course ruins my entire schedule and turns into a pattern because now I don't get tired until around 4am.
Another example is that last night I worked for my first job until 5am then went to bed and I knew I needed to work a night shift at my second job today so I made plans with a friend in the same city to meet up with him before I went into work, but that didn't happen because I slept until 3pm. Then I had to get up, take a shower, get ready, get something to eat, check the mail, and get gas. I KNEW I also needed to do laundry, but I need to be at my second job around 6:30pm which means leaving at 5:30pm and I don't have time for laundry now because laundry takes two hours and it's already 4. Now I'm wearing some dirty clothes (mixed with clean) for the second day in a row because I keep procrastinating on doing laundry. That means I'll be wearing dirty clothes tomorrow too because I won't get home until 1am tonight and the laundromat closes at midnight.
This kind of madness gets extremely aggravating on Sundays because by the time i wake up everything is closing within two or three hours so I can never utilize those days to their full potential.
Ideally I want to be going to sleep at 2-3am and waking up at 10 or 10:30am. I keep setting my alarm for these times, but I just hit snooze without even thinking about it every time until it eventually turns off altogether.
Help! How do I fix this!
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Hiya!
uh... That was a lot to keep track there. haha XD
But I think I can help. What you need to do is simple. What I do when I got a lot of papers due at a certain date, I dont wait. I do it all as soon as I get it. Because I know that if I do it on the last day, it will be rushed, sloppy, and stressful. Get what you need to do done soon as possible. And then right after, you can relax a bit.
Now for your sleeping problem. Living on this kind of schedule is very dangerous. A human needs 7 hours of sleep, no more or no less. Because if this continues there are consequences that develop, like depression, hunger, drowsiness. One day of little to no sleep raises your blood pressure. If this continues, it can cause heart problems which then could lead to death.
So this is what I prescribe to you, go to sleep eight hours before the time you do get up. You need a few hours of actual sleep to stay healthy. So get the amount of sleep needed, then slowly go up in your times so you can wake up at a more reasonable time.
I hope I helped. Sweet dreams!
-Dr.D
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My best friend (ella) and i have been best friends since 2p13 ( we were 13) and we now 17. She finished school two years early and came to visit my school for a week last week. She became friends with a girl in my friendship group mia. mia told ella that we leave her out at school but we dont and now mia and her have become really close and talk on the phone constantly. It feels like ella is becominf closer to mia than me and it sucks. The worst is mia isnt even who she says she is. Shes changed all her opinions since when ella came to visit and trys to suck up to ella. I dont know what to do. I really dont want to lose ella as my best friend. (link)
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Hiya! Dr.D here! friendships can be tough. I had a best friend, but he was into sports and I was(still am) a complete nerd. But that didn't get between us. We stayed somewhat close. We dont see each other as much. But we are still good friends.I dont think thats happening to you though. It seems like two of your friends, are becoming good friends. You have nothing to worry. She wont replace you. They are just bonding, and are coming together to form a friendship. And if anything, all three of you will now be closer to one another. I see this as a good thing. You take care. And I hope I helped. Have a nice day. :-)
-Dr.D
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I'm 13 years old and I'm pregnant. I don't know what to do. Please help. (link)
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Hiya!
Its okay, stay calm. Thats what matters right now. If you are sure that you are pregnant(for sure), then first, you need to consult with your parents or legal guardians. Tell them this. They can at least set a plan and comfort you if you do so have a baby. Now the next thing is, and there is no way to tell you. But there is no way you can get a abortion. Your going to have to except that your having a child. Its best that if you dont want the child, then you sign it up for an adoption care facility. There really is no way of getting rid of the child now. I highly suggest you just stay away from drugs, sports that center around anaerobic exercise, and live on a healthy diet. Away from most junk food.
There is no way I can help you. And I can't point you to anywhere to help you release yourself of the child. All I can prescribe is a healthy diet, and stay away from the things I mentioned, and anything that damages your body.
I wish you good luck. If you need advice on what you need or how to take care of a baby. Feel free to message me back.
-Dr.D
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So long story short I live in an apartment that I pay for through my college and I paid 2k for summer housing and was told I wouldn't have any roommates.
I was really excited because I've been living with my current roommate for a year and until about 3 months ago we got along fine, but then she started becoming more and more irritating. She would constantly invite friends over until 3am in the morning, was having her boyfriend live in her room (and trying to pretend he wasn't), was becoming a huge slob completely wrecking the kitchen to the point it was so gross I didn't want to step foot in there, got in an argument with my dad twice when he visited (which was only twice), and invites her ENTIRE family to stay in the apartment without my permission.
Obviously I feel very uncomfortable with her now and I was really looking forward to her being gone and having a place to myself for 3 months (I'll be getting new roommates in August). Well summer started two weeks ago and she's STILL HERE and I'm very aggravated.
She was supposed to be gone by latest last Friday. Last night I walked into the living room and her family was sleeping on the floor, which made me angry.
I feel like I cant go to the kitchen or even leave my room so I keep having to eat out when I just bought groceries to avoid running into her or her family.
I want her OUT! She has all her stuff all over the living room like she's planning on leaving, but she doesn't. I feel like she just plans on staying until the school finds out and kicks her out.
However, I also don't want to make a scene if she managed to get late stay and I just wasn't informed since I'm actually moving into a new apartment in 4 days.
Should I just wait it out or should I ask her when she's leaving? (link)
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Hiya!
Your roommate sounds very impolite, messy, and, a child. She clearly does not sound like an adult. Or act like one. I say ask. Dont say it in a rude way, just say: "I thought you were suppose to leave Friday? And are you staying here longer?"
Because its true, she is violating the agreement made when she is suppose to leave. Also, you seem to have more power over the apartment. You pay for it clearly, but how is she? You can't have her treat you like this. Ask, and if she is staying, then go down, and make the place kick her out.
Over the summer I had my nephew over, and trust me, I love the guy. But sometimes he can be a slob, and doesnt do anything to live here. So I went straight up to him and said to him "If your gonna live here, you need to play by these ground rules. And you need to make a contribution to this place."
I hope it helped. Help yourself, not that parasite.
-Dr.D
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So usually i am on this site, to give my advice. I come to my fellow website friends to ask a question in hopes to find a answer that will finally bring my brain some ease. So to make this story brief as possible, i have been seeing a gentleman for about 8 months now. It started as a friendship. Spending endless hours talking and exploring life in ways that we both agreed we have never been able to do with another human being before.He is a deep, emotional type person. He prays to the universe and loves the rain. He is the type of person i have been looking for my entire life. After about 3 months of me and my "friend" being able to escape these moments that would happen, we finally kissed. The type of kiss that i never thought actually possible. The goosebumps giving type. After this we spent many days together, from the moment we were off work until crazy hours in the am. He got me back into writing, and taught me to play guitar. We would watch every documentary we could find. I feel like every person i have loved before now, i am completely over. Because the way i feel for him is absolutely a feeling i have never had. Now for the twist of the story.
He is Married.
With three children.
Most of our talks in the first months, were about how he was stuck in his relationship and how he was very unhappy. But he choose to stay with her for the kids. He would actually say "i feel like life is longer for me, but to just please the people around me".
He works away from home, he spends monday-friday here and goes home for weekends.
I guess my question is, how come he has not left his wife yet if he was so unhappy. Do you think i am getting played? He says to me often that its just very hard for him to just leave because he has so much invested, and he is so scared that his kids will think less of him. In which i have been telling him, take your time to do things right. I made him promise to me that if he leaves him wife, he has to do it 100 percent because its best for him. And i should be absolutely not a part of that decision.
Do you think i am still a very horrible person? Because i get in this mood, when i start to really think about it, and i feel like the worse person to ever set foot on this earth. But most of the other time, it was his choice. And now i am deeply in love with him and i cant imagine my life without him, but what do i do now. He says every weekend he leaves basically, that this may be the weekend everything happens. But it still hasnt. Please give me some insight on what i am to do. (link)
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Hiya!
HOLY CRAP DON'T LISTEN TO THAT FIRST GUYS ADVICE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I read that first sentence and just grabbed my chest! I can't believe he said that!!!!!!!!!!
Now hold the phone, and now give it to me. he is right about one thing, this man could have the potential of cheating. But you said you feel something deep for this man. And you feel the echo of it being reproduced from him. Love... is such a tricky thing.
Ever heard the Greek tale the Iliad? To sum up the point, this man named Paris, can either choose to be with his love, who cares for him, loves him, and he deeply loves her. Or be with the most beautiful women ever to live on Earth. He chose the most beautiful women on earth. Will say the most beautiful women ever to live(helen) represents his current wife. And the man(paris) represents him. And finally, you represent the caring, and loving one(Oenone(probably spelled that wrong)). How the story goes, is that he could not stand Helen anymore, for they were nothing alike, and only stayed together because he faught a war for her. But in the end, he crawls back to Oenone, dying. And wishes to be with her once more. He is through with Helen. But still Oenone says no for him leaving her the last time. And so Paris dies, and he is thrown into a funeral pyre. And Oenone walks to the edge of the woods and watches him burn. But in tears, she puts down a veil over her face, and runs and jumps holding hugging the body. as they burn together.
To me, that is more beautiful then Romeo and Juliet. Becuase its to teach, that even if you choose the one not for you, you will always go back to the one who truly loves you. And that seems to be what I see. I see Oenone, and Paris.
I say wait, and when he comes back, tell him that he must make the decision now. and that you are tired of waiting. you need an answer. And if he chooses you, then good. But if he chooses his wife. that's good. Because you dont want to be with a cheating man. You want to be with the man of your dreams.
Your happiness comes first. I wish you good luck. And I hoped I help.
-Dr.D
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This guy that I have been friends with for 5 years broke up with his gf a few months back. During that time, he always texted me, always talked to me, etc. He was going through emotional trauma.
Everything was fine up until I started liking him. I didn't tell him though because I knew it wasn't the right time. Conveniently, I started liking him the day him and his gf got back together -_-
He found out that I liked him, and immediately told his gf. This was bad because she's the possessive type. After that, there was a shit load of drama between me and him, me and his gf, and all 3 of us in general.
3 weeks ago, I started ignoring the guy. I did this because my feelings for him grew and I didn't know how to get rid of them, so I avoided him in attempt to avoid it all.
I felt bad a week later, so I texted him because sincerely honest about everything. I told him that my feelings for him grew and that I want to rebuild our friendship to make it stronger (because we were having slight friendship problems.)
He texted back the next day, "Hey look, my gf is getting mad you're saying this all to me." I replied with "I'm sorry?" because I really did not think he'd respond that way.
He then said, "You need to stop saying that you like me because I'm dating another girl and it's sorta inappropriate. I don't like you like that."
I was really triggered. I said he misinterpreted my text, and I told him that I just want to be better friends with him. He said, "Well I'm sorry, but I don't think we can be as good of friends as we were before." I asked, "Why not?" and he never responded.
He's friends with one of my close friends, and he told her he will not be my friend anymore and just avoid me.
It has been 2 weeks. I'm very sad. I miss him, but at the same time, I don't want to resolve things with someone who doesn't want to resolve them with me.
What should I do? :( (link)
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Hiya! awww. you poor thing. People can be so rude! How you can talk to him again, off the bat? Thats something I don't know. I'm sorry. But I know how to fix some of your problems. Time heals wounds. Physically, and emotionally. Let time pass and let him ignore you. But everything has its end. Maybe he is doing this only for the sake of his girlfriend, for them to stay together. Maybe right after this relationship, he is going straight back to you. But till then. stay strong, and dont focus on him. Because there are plenty of other men in the world. about 4.5 billion to be more exact. And I bet many men in that 4.5 billion are as lonely as you.
I prescribe you look for someone just like you. The man who wont leave you. He may not be prince charming, but its in the inside that matters. Lower your expectations a few. try different guys, and find who is right for you. dont let one guy get to you.
Hey, if ya need anything else, I'm glad to help. :-)
-Dr.D
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Well, sorry it's bit long but straight to point, he says he trusts me and I reckon, he's been chatting about me with his friends because when i saw his few friends in town they said, (mentioned his name) he says you're kind and he loves you, we mean, he loves your personality, I looked at them and we all just smiled. However, we hardly text unless we have to but when I text him saying hi or hello, he don't seem to be into it, he does reply though. When we see each other we're like non stop chatterbox and joking with flirty comments. I ain't got a clue with this boy. I absolutely wish to confront him but not sure enough. Anyways, we've known each other for quite a while now. Good friends. Right guys, so him saying he trusts me and his friends saying he loves me, means anything or nothing at all?? Do guys talk to their friends when they are into girls and are the girls has to be trustworthy?? Thankyou. Terribly sorry it's really long.
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Hiya! I'll see if I can help :-D
see in my opinion, we guys really never share are feelings. Its never come up to conversation with me and my friends. But we do like to talk about the girls we like. Not saying like we have a crush or what not no. But we do like to bring them up.
I say, if you like this boy, ask him. ask him out. Dont be shy, and dont be afraid to be shot down. Because if he likes you, he is bound to say yes. And to me, you make it sound like you guys are always flirting and are really close.
Hopefully this helped. I'm not the best with this kind of advice.
-Dr.D
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he comes online on WhatsApp, clearly he sees my messages but takes forever to reply? why???? its making me so annoyed , I get this feeling he is talking to someone else (link)
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Hiya! Doctor D. here! I'd like to help. But can you give a bit more information? Like is this your boyfriend? A crush? Have you known each other for a while?
I'm always ready to help. But I need a bit more information. Go ahead and message me if you do want more or rather better advice from me.
-Dr.D
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We do not go to the same school. We talked twice... through text. I only saw a glimpse of him a long time ago in real life. I have his numbers, I might give him a call or text him. How do I ask without sounding weird or creepy? He knows I like him and yes I really do need those pictures.
Oh and just a heads up, he has a girlfriend.
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hey!
wow, that is hard. Trying to get a picture without sounding creepy. Well I will tell you what I did when I texted my first crush. I asked her to send me a picture of herself so I can put it as her contact information. And it worked!
Hopefully I helped you. Good Luck! :-)
-Dr.D
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I am 16 and have been babysitting my younger siblings/cousins for years. I want to start saving for college and just need money I enjoy babysitting and was looking for tips to start a business with one of my only skills thank you for reading this (link)
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hey! I frowned when you said only skill. I bet your very a very talented person! :-)
I know a thing or two about starting a business. First, with all the people you baby sitted for, ask their parents to spread the word about you to your friends. Spread around the word to get people conscious about you.
Next, start a website, I dont think its really required, but if you can make a website with pictures and personal information, I bet people would love to see the kind of person watching their kids.
Next flyers. puts flyers around your town to see that their is a baby sitter and she is ready to watch your kids.
Really, its just getting the word around about you is how to get your business started. but I also suggest, that when starting slow, make yourself cheap. And as you get more popular around this, start raising up the price.
Good luck!
-Dr.D
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I have been cutting now for a while. Before you start hate typing please finish reading. I have had a series of my mothers boyfriends be abusive to me and my siblings since our dad left when I was about five (14 now) I have been moved all over the country several times for my mothers countless lovers and cutting seems like the only thing I have control over. But now it is getting a bit out of control any ideas on how to stop would be helpful. (link)
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Hey! Dont worry, Doctors on the case! cutting issue, aye? I can tell you one thing. your life is valuable, you shouldn't inflict harm to yourself. A friend of mine got caught cutting and now she has to therapy every three days a week, all her sharp items in her house have been confiscated, and even when doing her work, she cannot have a pencil after her working hours. trust me. Its not the way to go with your struggles.
Their are other ways to get out your inner pain, I personally like to punch punching bags. Another way is crying(i dont know if it works but it might). or enjoy a hobby you do, like drawing, singing.
I know life is difficult. But we all can get through it, we are here for each other. If you want more advice, go ahead and message me back. I'll be here to help. :-)
-Dr.D
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Well I'm a 22 almost 23 yr old female, and well I met this guy on the dating app Tinder at the beginning of February around valentines day.. he's from the same country as me so we share the same cultural interests..
Ok straight to the point from that moment we clicked on straight away our banter has always been jokes and till this day we still speak everyday, and lately but slowly I've started becoming more and more interested in him. We flirt but we don't make it so obvious,so I start to get the impression that he's into me.. don't get me wrong he seems like a great guy, we only just met up for the first time on Friday which was so out of the blue and it was a first for me because I never meet anyone from Tinder, it was a meet up.. but it felt like a date he paid for everything and we ended up kissing towards the end.
He's the type of guy who's not really 'soft' or romantic, so its so hard to know if he's into me or not, I don't wanna ask or say that I'm into him because I will feel that I'm coming off to desperate. He said that he's been soft with me, caught a soft spot, fair enough but its annoying when the guy you're into isn't the sweet type.. he was affectionate towards the end of the meet up which I loved we hugged etc... and there was a lot of eye connection which was very flirty..
my problem also is the fact that he is the type of guy that loves going out a lot, I don't mind but it kinda makes me uneasy.. because he's very attractive, he goes clubbing whenever its a friends birthday which has been often..
Sometimes the way we speak makes me feel like he wants me, then in the back of my head I feel like he's also speaking the same way with another girl..
I feel like we've had a great connection even before meeting up, but I also don't want to waste my time
I don't know how to feel or what to think , I've started to catch feelings for him... (link)
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Hey! You seem tense. Dont worry! sit down, relax, doctors here! seems you got a hard choice with you and this man. He doesn't show much emotion toward you both, but yet he does. Its not easy, but the only thing to do, is ask him. Ask him if he likes you in a relationship way. Its very hard for us to get the nerves to say it. but there is no other way to ask. who knows, if he says yes, then congrats! But if he says no, dont worry. He'll understand you like him. And he'll think about you more often.
Good luck!
-Dr.D
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I really do love my cat, but cleanliness to me is more important.
Ever since I got him from the SPCA I've been battling fleas wit him. They'll go away and come back and they FREAK ME OUT. I've spent so much money already on getting rid of them only for the next batch to be born a month later and have to do it all over again. I obsessively clean to make sure there aren't any, but one or two will always still survive.
I feel like I can't have a boyfriend because what if he slept over and a flea jumped on him??? That would be disgusting and he would think I was a dirty person.
Other than this I'm tired of his litter and always cleaning it out and how bad it smells every time he takes a poo. I bought candles that I burn all the time and a Glade scent sprayer thing and you can still smell his poop! It's so nasty! Also he tends to use the litter when people are over and then it's really embarrassing when they smell it. I clean the litter every day and use scented litter. I'm tired of the litter going everywhere even with an enclosed litter box and a litter mat. My bathroom looks gross all the time because he throws litter all over the place.
I also hate that his fur gets everywhere, especially on my dark clothes. I hate that he put his food in his water bowl for no reason. I hate that he tries to drink out of the toilet so I have to constantly put the lid down, which causes mildew.
I hate that he always finds ways to get to the food container and open it up even when he has fresh food in his bowl.
I'm moving into a new apartment soon where I'll have new roommates and have to share a bathroom and there's NO WAY I'm keeping his nasty litter in my bedroom where I'll smell it all the time.
I feel like I need to rehome him because I'm at my wits end.
Help! Who/Where can I give him to?
P.S. Please don't try to give me ways to cut down on the smell and other stuff, believe me I've tried EVERYTHING and it's just not possible.
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Hey! I may not be a veterinary, but I can tell you a lot about the dangers of animals in the house. Cats with flees are very common carries, flees can attach themselves to their skin, and live off oxygen that goes through their blood streams. And flee removal can't always take care of that. And the worst part about it, is that when a flee does survive through the process it will thousands of eggs every hundred days. Your cat is a nest, and their are types of shots you can get which can put a small amount of poison only enough to kill flees.
Also, when it comes their litter. its nasty and stinks. But that's not the worst part. All humans waste is more then what we eat, it is also a good removal for dead cells or things cells no longer need. But a cats feces are worse since they just sit and are not disposed. A quote from the animal health department:
" The infective form of Toxoplasma gondii deposited in cat poop are called oocysts; a single infected cat can deposit millions of oocysts, each of which may survive in moist soil for 18 months or longer. It's thought that it only takes one oocyst to infect a human, which is concerning."
And if you say you smell cat poop often, you are breathing in waste that will make you sick. do yourself a favor, and either get your cat the proper shots needed, and find a better and safer way for your animal to dispose waste. Or get rid of the cat.
I support you in whatever decision you take.
-Dr.D
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Me and my bestfriend have been bestfriends since we were 13. My best friend was bulimic when we were 13 qnd didnt really eat much. She was a model so she had high self esteem problems. We dont live in the same city anymore but im here now on vacation and she eats alot more now. But i know that bulimics eat a lot and then vomit it. So far everytime weve eaten shes gone to the bathroom straight aftereven if she just went before we ate but she says she just pees alot. How can i know if shes bulimic if i dont live in same city? How can i find out? (link)
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Hey! That is a great question. But really its a long long list of signs that can show you have Bulimia. But here, go to this website. It will show you what your looking for:
http://www.bulimia.com/topics/bulimia/
Good luck!
-Dr.D
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