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Q: But the problem is I don't know how to ask for it. My dad is so completely clueless when it comes to me & my mother is not around. I've told him I'm depressed & that I think about killing myself all the time. But how do I straight out tell him I want to get help before I actually try to kill myself?

I think you've just answered your own question. Straight up say "Please get me some help, I'm really worried, and I don't trust myself right now."

Q: hey i was thinkin of after my shower putting gel in my wet hair and scrunching it. do i need to blow dry my hair as/after i do this? can i just let it air dry? thanks

You can either let it air dry, which is fine, or you can blow dry with a diffuser, which is a thing you put over the end of the dryer. it has holes so that your hair gets only the heat and doesn't get tossed about.

Q: what are some good fruits to eat to get healthy and lose wieght ?

Pretty much any fruit you eat is going to be healthy. Fruits are great for weight loss, because they keep you full and they are low in calories and high in nutrients, and they are sweet so people actually eat them. I especially like apples, grapes, watermelon, canteloupe, bananas, and peaches.

Just make sure you keep your kitchen well stocked with them, and some veggies too.

Q: HELP!! My semi-formal is on the 17th and I justtt got a cold yesterday and now I have a runny nose, stuffed up. It would be OKAY with me, except I have to sing at graduation!! What do i do?! Its LESS than a week away now..Im so mad and I dont know what to do. How can i get better besides resting?

TAKE ZINC AND TAKE IT NOW! Or, go buy cold-eeze and take like 4 a day. They shorten your colds if you take them quickly enough, so go take them NOW. NOW!!1

Drink TONS of water, and get plenty of rest. You'll be fine.

Q: Hi, Im going to the Vans Warped Tour in Milwaukee this summer. Its gonan be hot, so what should I wear? How long does it go until? Are there a lot of drugs? Am I gonna get beat up if Im sorta preppy? (im a girl) Let me know! thanks!

You won't get beat up, a lot of people go to these things, from all backgrounds. I reccomend a nondescript black tanktop, jeans, and either tennis shoes or skater shoes or something converse-y. At least that's what I would wear. Make sure you are COMFORTABLE. And don't wear dangly earrings.

It will go until late. Very late.

Whether or not there's a lot of drugs depends on where you are, as warped tour is huge.

Have fun!

--EDIT--

Oh! And carry your ticket, some cash, maybe lip gloss, cell phone, little items that you need in your pocket and leave the purse at home. It will be so much easier if you don't have something to keep up with at something like warped.

Q: hey i just have a question... my boyfriend watches pron and he tells me about it does that me taht is wants to be with other girls and isnt happy with what i am givin him or is it jsut a guy thing?
pLEASE HELP

It's a guy thing. Guys like porn. Don't fight it. He'll just get annoyed that you're being so paranoid about somethine he does without thinking. It has nothing to do with you or what you're giving him or other girls or any of that, so don't worry.

Q: Who are some famous Jazz singers/bands? Im doing a project and I need people! Thanks a ton in Advanced. Same rating as number of people you give me!

Google!!!

Q: In my school in Social studies we always have to do projects. And the teacher assigned us to be partners with somebody. I got this boy and ever since i have been working with him for a couple days and everytime we work he gets closer to me. I dont know if he likes me and i dont know if i like him. im all confused.

Um... well, first, I suggest deciding whether or not you actually like him, and going from there. His feelings are irrelevant if you aren't sure of your own. If you like him, you can pursue it, if not, then not.

Q: What's the best hair gel to use to scrunch hair that is really frizzy? Thanks.

If your hair is frizzy when you scrunch, you're waiting until it's too dry. Try gelling and scrunching it when it's a little damper. Also, you can run a liitle bit of your conditioner throughout your hair beforehand to make it smoother.

Q: hi, im 16/m and me and my gf have been talking about having sex for a really long time but i want to make it special for her. does anyone know any good positions or things i can do to make her feel good or turn her on? i rate high if theres a good answer!! thanks

TAKE YOUR TIME.

Don't rush into anything. Hold her, stroke her, make her feel like a princess. If she seems apprehensive about anything, stop, don't pressure her.

Don't rush into intercourse, foreplay is really important for girls. Try to delay your own orgasm until hers, if you can.

If she's a virgin, it might be painful for her, so be extra gentle. Don't jam anything anywhere. Nice and slow. If you concentrate on making her happy, I'm sure you will.

Q: Well I like this guy and he has a g/f but he secretly likes me and when he is not with his g/f he talks to me and hugs me and jokes around with me but when he is with her he never looks at me. His aunt tells me he likes me and I like him secretly too. He always trys to stare at me when his gf is not looking but his g/f is one of my good friends. What should I do?

Ooooh, a scandal! Sounds like a lot of fun to me. My take on romance at your age (and mine) is that it really doesn't matter, so, hey, go for it. ;) Kiss him on the lips

Q: Hey,
well my mom has been reading this book "the rules" and my friend told me the rules of dating and she told me about it and i was like "that cant be right!" so now i'm totally flipping out cause i sorta do the opposite, and no guy has asked me to the prom this year and everyone has to go with someone, and i dont want to be with someone that picks their nose.. you know? so i need some flirting, relationship, ect. advice. Even though i'm really good at giving advice to other people, i cant for myself which is sorta weird.. well please help. I'll rate high!
oh and also if anyone needs advice, i'm here. Thanx!

*Jill*

Find someone you like and think you have a chance with. Be around him a lot. Spend a good bit of time together. Make yourself suddenly unavailable. Don't make it apparant that it's on purpose. Just... be busy a lot. Then come back in time for him to realize he misses you and likes you. Gets 'em every time.

How was "The Rules", btw? I've been wanting to read it.

Q: I was just wondering where tears came from? Why do our eyes water whn we feel sad or get hurt? Why does our nose start to run and we get choked up? And why do they taste salty? I know this is a random question, but I'm very curious!

Tears come from your tear ducts on the inner corners of your eyes, those litte pink fleshy things. Your eyes water as a result of tears being produced, but not enough to run down your face. Tears are salty because they have salt in them. :P

Q: if your going to make fun of me please dont answer this question. I feel like if my hair dosent look good,or i got bags under my eyes,because of my friend. I feel like she controls my life and if i dont use a cirtain shampoo in the shower,she'll no and make my hair look bad. Its so weird i dont want to feel this is makes me hate her,i dont want to hate her..But she also always has a good time with friends and leaves me out..could this be a part? I need help! **rate high**

DUMP HER!

DUMP HER NOW!

Get out as soon as you possibly can. She has enough control of your life that she can make you feel inferior with the snap of her fingers and it's terrible. I know, I've been there. Start hanging out with people that DON'T make fun of you and make you happy. This girl is toxic to you.

Q: Im still in love with my ex boyfriend, he was the first love of my life. We went out for almost a year, and we loved eachother so much.Well we were really serious about eachother and we had so much fun and it was so crazy, and I knew he loved me. Well until the beginning of this year he went to a different school district and he completely changed...But I know thats not him and thats not how he wants to be because he jsut completely changed the 2nd day he started going to his new school..well we eventually broke up, and then went back out 1 or 2 months after, and he wasnt the same and he hurt me. But I know thats not him and thats why it makes me so upset. And ive tried giving so many guys chances and it jsut doesnt work cause I think about him all the time, and ive waited for a guy that i actually like to come along. And im so confused cause I see my ex every now and then and I see him just looking at me. And my friends tell me he still loves me cause he cant go from loving me one day to completely not loving me and he told them that he loved me cause they are his friends too. And im just so confused cause hes stuborn, and if he does love me why doesnt he tell me? Because I know if I asked him he would be too shy and wouldnt tell me because he hurt me..

Please help me....

Gahhh!!! Guys are so dumb!!!

I'm so sorry, I know how bad all of that sucks. I've got a friend in a similar situation. They went out for a long time and were totally in love, then they broke up and she still loves him, but he's really cold towards her.

Sometimes you just have to accept the changes in people, even if you know they aren't right. You say it isn't really him, but it may well be. I know how much it sucks to watch people change in ways you don't like, but it happens.

If you still love him, and I mean the new him, not what you remember him as, it sounds like he loves you too, so go for it. Talk to him. Let him know you care. If not, that's the way it goes.

Goodluck.

Q: This kid Brandon, my cousin's friend,and i think he is totally hot! But the problem is that he's 15 and I'm like 13, and a little bit, he flirts with me like, a lot. Does anyone know signs guys can give when they like a girl? He's gone wayy to far on me trying to touch my chest and stuff, and I'm not into that. But its like when he has other girls around, im not even there. what should i do? and now he moved to arizona for the summer, skipping the rest of school this year.now i dont when hes coming back, but probably in august, and i know i'll see him. he is also a trouble-maker, egging ppl's houses and stuff, breaking windows. (etc.) how should i act?

He sounds like a jerk to me. When I was your age, I liked someone just like that. A really fast guy who ignored me around other people.

Please just ignore him. Get interested in someone else. He isn't worth your time, babe.

Q: How come im so shy?!?! >:O i guess if your outgoing your "popular" but i am outgoing sometimes,and it dosent really help! Any tips on becomeing,well i guess popular?

Please, please don't try to be "popular." If you have good friends, that's all you need. Popularity will mean NOTHING soon. I'm going to guess you're in Junior High. In high school, there isn't really popularity. The closest thing to being "popular" is being preppy, and everyone except actual preps hates that group. In high school, everyone has their own little group, and everyone thinks their group is the best. End of story. I promise, the second you step into ninth grade, no one cares at all what you were in middle school, it's a whole new deal. You're so much better off just having friends you really love and having a good time. I tried for years to be popular all through elementary and middle school, and then my freshman year, something clicked. I realized none of it mattered. At all.

Q: does anyone know good tricks to getting blood stains out of clothes? thanks

Rinse with COLD water as soon as it happens.

If it has dried, use hydrogen peroxide, which is good for blood.

I alse heard a rumor that if the same person who bled on it spits on it, it'll help, but I don't know about that one.

If all else fails, the dry cleaners will get it out.

EDIT

All of you who didn't know how someone could get blood on their clothing are dumb. There are a lot of ways. Perhaps she is on her period? Perhaps she cut herself and got it on her clothes?

Honestly, I think 95% of this website is composed of morons.

Q: My hair is really long and wavy, and my face shape is round. Will my hair make my face seem longer (which is what I want) or is there another style that can do that?

Try hair styles with fullness and height at your foure head or try off center parts. Short hair styles with a swept-back direction or hair styles that are longer than chin length. By layering the top to achieve fullness and keeping the rest of the cut relatively close to the face, your face shape will appear longer and narrower.

Q: My boyfreiend abuses me!!! I mean like he doesn't mean to but like we will be messing around and he'll grab my hand to hard and I get brusies, and I dont bruse easily!! I tell him it hurts but I know he doesnt mean to!! help!!

Well, if he truely doesn't mean to, he should stop after you tell him that he is hurting you. If he doesn't stop than it IS intentional and you NEED to break it off with him, I think you know why.

Don't forget that there are adults who love you if anything super bad happens. Parents, teachers, counselors.

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My name is Deanna: aka manrashi, banana, deanimal

I'm 15 and I like answering questions. I try to be as competent, coherant, and helpful as possible. Everyone is welcome to ask me questions personally, as it it makes me feel special.

I LOOOVE cooking and drawing and other artistic type things. I also like altering photos and making avvies/icons in photoshop, so I will take any requests for those as well. (email or IM me).

Please rate my advice, and rate it fairly. If I deserve a 2, go ahead and give me one, you won't hurt my feelings.

Pet peeve: people who answer questions just to say "That sucks, I don't know. Sux 2 B u."(If you don't know, why are you answering?) and people who say "Hope I helped!" (Obviously, or you wouldn't have an advice column)

Haha, sorry.

I'm out.
>>-Deanna->