well my parents are like totally over protective of me so i can hardly do anything im lucky that i even get to leave the house, but thats only for skool, and church other wise im stuck at home! im like 16 and ive NEVER EVER EVER had alcohol, i know its hard to believe but its true! so i was thinking i could drive down to the bar and get some but im sooo not 21 and i could pull that look off real easy but do those kind of places check you for ID, and if they do how much trouble would you get in if they caught you with a fake one?
You're sixteen. It's illegal to consume alcohol until you're 21. Logical course of action? Wait five years.
Alcohol is not the end all and be all of life. It's not a big deal. I'm 20. I'll be 21 in just over a week. The legal age where I live is 18. I've still never tasted alcohol. I could if I wanted to--I just don't see the point.
And maybe my choosing not to consume alcohol yet will make you completely disregard my opinion. That's your prerogative.
But really, drinking isn't as big a deal as people make it out to be. It does little more than make you act like a fool.
-Daimeera, 20/f
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I am going to deliver a persuasive speech ("Support indie films") next week and I have absolutely no idea how to actually "persuade" my classmates. I have my speech plan, but I don't think it's enough. What can I try doing or saying on the actual delivery? I need tips! I suck at public speaking, belive me.
Thanks in advance!
Believe what you're saying--thats the number one thing. If you don't believe it, convince yourself that you do. Have faith that you're right (at least while you're giving your speech) and that no matter what, your position on the topic is the correct one.
Keep your chin up. Breathe. I think breathing is the number one piece of advice I give to people, and it sounds cliche, but it works. It will calm your nerves, steady your voice, and you won't run out of breath halfway through your sentence.
Project your voice, and talk slowly. If you think you're talking too slowly, chances are you're doing it just right.
Pretend you're debating one other person. Concentrate on what you're saying, not who you're saying it to, or why you're saying it.
It really is about believing in your speech, and believing what you say. Fake it 'til you make it' if all else fails!
-Daimeera, 20/f
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i am looking for a english bulldog puppy or a pug. ive tried looking for everywhere but have not succeeded at all so far. i am also looking for a somewhat cheap price because i am on a budget as well. if anyone has puppies in il please let me know thanks
19 f
Consider adopting. I don't understand why breed is so important to you, but if you must go for one particular breed, look at shelters anyway--there are even some rescues for specific breeds.
But please remember that if you don't have the money to spend to purchase a dog, you might not have the money to care properly for the dog when you get it. A dog needs food (preferably not that cheap crap you get on sale at Wal-Mart), toys, and a nice big vet fund. If you can't provide that, ask yourself if you really have the right to take on the responsibility of a companion animal at this point in your life.
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My boyfriend thinks I am cheating on him. I love him and I would NEVER cheat on him. I just can't believe that he would even think that!! I am so stunned. I don't know what to do.
How can I tell him that I am not???
Ask him why he thinks you're cheating. Then you can explain your actions and show him what your intentions truly are.
If he refuses to believe you no matter what, it's not a good sign, and it probably isn't a relationship you should be in.
But definitely try and talk with him, not at him. Don't try and guess what he's thinking. Ask specifically why he thinks you're cheating. Ask if there are any instances that stand out in his mind. Ask if there's something else bothering him about your relationship.
Just don't go too far to keep him. If he wants you to dump your friends, don't. If he wants to be able to talk to you 24/7 whenever he decides, don't let him. It's a fine balance, and make sure his paranoia doesn't make you miserable.
Best of luck.
-Daimeera, 20/f
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I am 13 yrs old and terribly embarrassed that I wimper, cry, sob, and sometimes faint when I get a shot. After I get it I feel silly, but when I get the next one, I have panic attacks. Any help please??
I can completely sympathise. I've had more blood tests now than I can count, and they still bother me.
A lot of what helped me (and I'm definitely doing better than I was for a long time) was gradual desensitisation. I also request a place to lie down before, during, and after, so I don't pass out.
But back to the desensitisation. It's a little difficult to do with this particular fear, but perhaps you can start just by thinking about it for a few minutes. Then maybe stand outside the hospital or doctor's office or wherever you get them done, just to be comfortable with it. Even better, if you can hang around inside, that would help. Consider looking at pictures of syringes, maybe.
Breathing is a huge help. I concentrate on my breathing when I'm getting my blood taken (as well as getting needles). I think about just slowly breathing in and out and pay attention to nothing else. If that doesn't work, try having someone talk to you as distraction, or focus on a poster or particular spot on the wall. Whatever you do, don't watch as they do it. That almost inevitably makes things worse.
You're not alone. Best of luck, and don't be too hard on yourself.
-Daimeera, 20/f
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i thnk i walked around school all day with a blood stain on the back of my shorts. that is just so embarasing and then my friend just came to see me and i walked away and he was in the car, i know he deff saw that tho. like its overwhelming,what do i do to get over the embarasmenttt?
Embarrassing? Yes. But I bet you at least a few other girls in your school have had the same thing happen. And remember, menstruation is a natural thing. It's a good thing. It's a healthy thing. It sucks that it was revealed to the world (if in fact people did notice), but you are a female. You are in the 50% of the population that menstruates, once menstruated, or will eventually menstruate.
Even if people did notice, they'll forget about it soon. Try to blow it off, hard as that might be. Laugh if you can, if they bring it up. If someone says something cruel, stand up for yourself. It's a natural process. Keep reminding yourself of that.
-Daimeera, 20/f
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what does hemp have to do with weed
Hemp, incidentally, can also be eaten and is a very good source of nutrients. It has no intoxicating effects and is entirely legal, not to mention tasty! You can get it in various forms--hemp seed nuts, hemp oil . . .
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Well, I'm 15 and a sophomore. I'm also a girl..I'm a good student and polite to people.
And I have this HORRIBLE fear of talking to teachers, one-on-one (especially if they're male..or strict O_O). Whenever I find out I have to ask them to fix something or for help, I get extremely tense and stressed out. I can't do anything at that moment, and I have to ask a million people for advice. Anxiety overcomes me. I don't know, honestly, what the hell I'm afraid of. Does anyone have the same problem? Do you think it's easy to overcome it? :(
I'll be honest--no, it probably won't be easy to overcome. But it is worth doing. And it might not be as hard as it seems, either.
Can you decide on a teacher you think would be easiest to talk to, and then take action? Start by saying hi with a big smile when you enter the classroom, or be purposely slow leaving the class when the bell goes so you can be the last one. You don't even have to say anything at first.
Maybe after that you can ask an easy question you already know the answer to (or one you don't, for that matter), ask for clarification about an assignment or concept . . . something basic. As you get more comfortable with one teacher, you can branch out.
The key is to try and practice before it's a necessity. If you overcome it gradually by slow deconditioning, it'll be easier in the long run.
Best of luck. I have a history of anxiety, and I know it's difficult to deal with. But trust me, it's well worth the effort.
-Daimeera, f/20
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i have a small thingy and i was wondering if girls even care
I think more girls will care that you feel it necessary to use the word "thingy" rather than penis.
Personally, I don't think it would bother me. Less pain involved. It's not the size; it's how the guy performs, and even more important, the kind of person he is.
Try to be brave and confident in who you are. That's what matters.
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I want people's opinions on this. Do you think people should wait to have sex until their married. Do you think People would regret it? I mean because like youve waited and now your wondering like "what would it feel like with someone else?" On the other hand i hear people having sex when there 14 and having STDS and they probably should've waited. idk
Opinions?
I would be reluctant to marry someone I hadn't had sex with. Sexuality is an important part of an individual, and it therefore affects any relationships the individual might be in. In order to have a successful relationship, I believe that two people have to be sexually compatible.
I can see why some people would wait, however. It offers a certain measure of security, and some people see it as a measure of morality.
But to answer the question, I don't plan to wait until I'm married. I plan to wait until I've found someone I love and who loves me. If we are safe and care for each other, that's what I care about most.
-Daimeera, 20/female
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i have the video game ddr (dance dance revolution) and i would definitely get bored and lose motivation quickly doing a regular running/walking workout. so do you think if i did ddr for a set time daily or like 5 days a week that i could lose a few pounds? im only looking to lose maybe 5, at most 10 pounds. im not in a rush but the sooner the better. im trying to eat healthier also, but thats a different story. if it would be a good cardio workout, how long should i do it for daily? a half hour? 45 minutes? im willing to try to fit it into my days if it will help. thanks
If you're moving, you're burning calories--it's as simple as that.
The number of calories you burn, and therefore the effectiveness of the exercise, depends on the intensity you choose. If you're willing to really work--sweat, tire yourself out--then you will see results. If you just sort of bop around, you'll be better off than if you were just sitting around, but it won't be a particularly good cardio workout.
Do what you can to start with, and build up. It's hard to make recommendations without knowing your current level of athleticism. Push yourself just past the point of being tired, without exhausting yourself. A general guide of intensity is to be able to carry on a conversation, but unable to sing.
Best of luck. And remember--any exercise is good exercise (provided it doesn't hurt)!
-Daimeera, 20/female
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Well I got these One a Day Flinstone vitamins and I was wondering what would happen if I took more than one? Would there be a lot of harm or fatal harm?
Cuz I remember my cousin had these long time ago and when she wasn't looking, I'd grab like a handful and shove them in my mouth because they taste so yummy and frankly I'm having a hard time right now trying to avoid that.
Actually, extreme overdose of certain vitamins can indeed kill you, or cause severe damage. Google "vitamin overdose" and you'll bring up many, many pages. This one in particular might be useful to you: http://www.chemo.net/newpage35.htm
An extra one now and again won't hurt you, but it's not a very good idea. If you feel the need to munch on something sweet, you'd probably be safer going with low-calorie hard candies.
-Daimeera, 20/female
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I am a British teenage girl and I love writing comedy. I have published some of my material in the school magazine and recieved a lot of praise for it, with someone who works on television actually telling me it was high enough standard to be on TV. I regularly post Myspace blogs with things I have written and people are always telling me that they enjoy it. I plan to pursue a career in journalism but as I am still young and still in school, that is a long way off yet.
Is there anyway I can get my material out to a wider audience/published somewhere?
Consider submissions to national magazines. You might want to start with youth-oriented ones as they're most likely to accept works from youth. I'm not sure what magazines are popular in Britain, but I have no doubt that they exist.
If you have specific interests, for example, if you're a knitter, you might be able to submit to magazines or other publications dedicated to these subjects.
One thing you should be aware of is that although the internet is a great way to get readers, you should be careful about what you put online. Anytime you publish something on the internet (and publishing is defined as making it viewable to the general public), you lose first publishing rights. Most publishing companies only want first rights--in other words, they want to know that the people reading it will be reading what they publish and earning them money. Putting things online can be great for exposure, and I'm not recommending that you refrain from doing so, but it's an important piece of knowledge that isn't as common as it should be.
If you write longer works, you could even consider polishing them and submitting them to major publishers.
One site that might help you is Preditors and Editors (http://www.anotherealm.com/prededitors/pubabout.htm). It's oriented toward the United States, I believe, but it could be useful nonetheless. It contains sensible advice on things to look for--and things to avoid.
Best of luck.
-Daimeera, 20/female
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I was born with a born disorder that makes me underweight. With the help of medicine that my doctor gives me, I weigh 110 pounds at 5'10".
I want to know..would girls think that I am ugly? Please be honest.
Thank you.
Honestly, I'm pretty fond of skinny guys. I mean, I wouldn't pass up one who weighed more, but I find lighter guys physically attractive, assuming that it's not done in an intentionally unhealthy manner (in other words, an eating disorder doesn't attract me because of the complications it brings with it).
The right girl either won't care, or will find it attractive. If you have a sense of humour, demonstrate intelligence, and are comfortable with yourself, you'll be hard to resist.
-Daimeera, 20/female
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Okay, so there's Storywrite.com, which I'm addicted to. But anyways, I am still in the process of writing a story for one of the contests. I was going to make it around 5000 words, but I kind of underestimated how developed I was going to make my story. Now it's over 10,000 words long and it's not completely done. I mean yes, I can end it where I am right now but there are problems with that:
X-I'll have the strongest urge to write an epilogue
X-Story will feel incomplete [lose points]
X-I won't be satisfied
X-It will feel like I rushed things at the end [again, I will probably lose points]
So my questions are:
1)Would you be annoyed/pissed off to read like a 15,000 word long story if you were the judge of a writing contest? [The judge hosting the contest has no word limits]
2)Should I just submit it or make it shorter?
3)If I should make it shorter, should I make it into chapters, just shorten the whole story, make it into prologue, story, and epilogue, or what?
AHH please help me. I asked the judge what he wanted and he hasn't replied yet. The contest ends in 5 days and I'd like to have plenty of time to make adjustments...
Without reading the story, it's difficult to make stylistic recommendations. Generally, if you're inclined to do a certain thing, that's probably the right thing to do--intuition is very often bang on.
As for being annoyed at reading lengthy work, well, that would depend entirely on the work itself. If it was interesting and well-written, I'd be glad for the extra opportunity to immerse myself in a good story. If it was poorly written or generally weak on plot and/or characters, I'd be desperately wishing it was over once I got two paragraphs in.
Quality first.
Chances are, when you edit it (and please do edit it), you'll lose some words. Keep that in mind too. And don't be alarmed if you do lose the words; that's normal, and generally a good thing.
I realise that wasn't exactly a straight answer to your questions, but it's the closest I can get without reading the work in question.
-Daimeera, 20/female
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I'm 14 and I was wondering what piercing I should get. I have my first holes, my top hole on my cartilage, and one a little below that in the middle. I want another piercing, but where. If on my ear, where and what type of earring ?
I honestly don't think that's a question you should be asking here. The perfect piercing for you is the one that will make you happy, not the one that someone else recommends. Decide based on the care required, the level of pain you're willing to endure, and even where you live and what is expected of you. In an ideal world, piercings shouldn't affect how you're treated, but the fact is, they do.
If you cannot decide on your own which piercing you want, then perhaps you shouldn't get a piercing just yet. Make sure you really want it before you act, otherwise you might live to regret it.
-Daimeera, 20/female (and proud bearer of three piercings per lobe, after years of thought and careful consideration)
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if i want to crush a sleeping pill so it would make me fall asleep faster would that be a good idea?
Check with your pharmacist. Chances are, the answer is no. Generally, you should take your medication exactly as it is given. There are exceptions, however, and your pharmacist should be able to answer your question--if not, then your doctor would know.
Please don't do so until you check with a professional. Tampering with medication could cause serious damage. If, for instance, it's supposed to be slow release, releasing it into your system all at once could be very dangerous.
-Daimeera, 20/female
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so i got my kitten 2 and a half months ago and she was great. then she started gettting very fierce. like she starts biting me and scratching me. i cant even pet her anymore! she bites pretty hard. i cant do anything with her cuz then she attacks me. what should i do?
and i cant have eye contact with her because she wont even look at me in the eye. like she would and then quickly turn away. she just doesnt like me. i cant pet her or touch her or hold her carry her nothing cuz then she starts biting me and scratching me! any advice?comments? anything?
thanks!!!!!!!!!!!
Depending on her age, she might be teething. Don't hit her, because rather than associating pain with biting you, she'll associate it with you in general.
Make sure you're playing with her enough. She might be trying to play with you; that's how kittens initiate play with one another. Give her plenty of toys and one-on-one time, make sure she has something other than you to chew!
You might want to take her to see the vet. Because this is new behaviour, it might be a sign that something is wrong with her health. If she's experiencing pain, for instance, lashing out might be her way of expressing it.
Best of luck.
-Daimeera, 20/female
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14/f
ive recently lost weight and my period has been gone since march. i am kind of worried but i hear that its not serious unless its over a certian period of time. the thing is that im worried it might affect my bone stregnth and future "egg" situation (pregnancy). i dont want to not be able to get pregnant because i missed my period for too long. i do't want to have frail bones because i have abstence of calcium. And the thing is that I used to drink 2% milk like water, now i drink skim milk maybe 2 times a day. should i drink more milk? should i buy calcium supplements? should i just stop freaking out and wait for my period?
You should talk to your doctor.
You're right to be concerned. It can cause all those problems that you listed. It's not something you should try and fix yourself since it's been gone for several months.
Better to be safe than sorry when it comes to your health. Your doctor might tell you to wait and see, or he or she might take aggressive action to fix it. The important thing is to find out.
-Daimeera, 20/female
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I am a little concerned about my parents. It seems that most of the romance in their relationship is gone, and I have a feeling that this might lead to something unpleasant in the future.
Some things just plain bother me: I have never in my life seen them kiss. I only saw them hug 5-6 times in my 16 year old life. Mind you, my parents aren't very romantic people, and I don't think they never do cute couple things because they are too conservative to show off their affection in public. Some of my friends at first thought that my parents are divorced. I mean if we go somewhere, my dad always walks next to my brother, and my mom next to me. Unlike most couples who walk together, holding hands, and their kids walk in front of them. At the movies they never sit next to each other. Nor at the dinner table, even at a friend's house.
They don't hate each other. They rarely ever fight. My dad works all day, from home, but he never has time to talk to us. My mom is very irratable, and a lot of things my dad does annoys her. Like him chewing loudly, yelling into the phone, stomping, not showering immeditately after he runs, etc.
The only romantic thing they do frequently (about once a week, sometimes more) is drink wine together in the living room, talking. Oh ya, they do have sex once in a while. =X
Should I be worried? Or is this normal? Do you think they will get divorce sometime in the future? What should I do to make their romance alive, or should I do anything?
Unfortunately, there's nothing you can do in this situation. You love your parents and they love you, but whether or not they love each other, well, that's for them to figure out.
I wish it was easier than that. I wish you could influence their relationship, but ultimately, it comes down to how they feel and what they want.
Try not to worry about it too much. It's out of your control. I sincerely hope it works out well for you, but if it doesn't, remember that it's about them, not you. It does affect you, but it's not something you can influence.
-Daimeera, 20/female
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