I asked one of my close guy friends to prom. he said he doesn't know if he wants to go because he said he can't dance. he also said that dances aren't for him but he said he would think about it. how can i persuade him to take me to the prom?!
Why don't you offer to give him some private dance sessions before it? That way, he has no excuse by saying he cant dance. Plus you'll be able to have some fun while your at it and then he'll realise that even if he doesn't like dances, he has lots of fun with you and that will shove him towards thinking of coming. Good luck
Claire xx
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Okay I dont know what exactly to say about this but I'll try. I have this problem. Everyone makes fun of me becasue I sitll think about it all the time but its something hat has really gotten into my mind. Well... I am a music freak, and I love to sing, and everyone tells me that I can sing.. and everything.. but then the person whose opinion matters the most to me just recently told me that I cant sing and in all seriousness. I want him to think that I can sing.. that I can do just as well as any of his other "favorite people" that CAN sing! It tears me up that he thinks that I cant sing... All of my friends tell me that this person is just joking and that I'm good and all.. But I still dont believe them ever since this person told me that I cant sing... I feel so horrible over it.. like I dont even want to isng anymore.. what should I do? Much help needed... And please only serious answeres for this one.
If all your friends tell you that you can sing, then you definetly can sing. I know that this guys opinion obviously means a lot to you, but if he knows this and still said that then he is truly heartless and is not worth your time.
Do you fancy him? If you do then maybe he doesn't like you in that way back and this is just his way of trying to put you off him. Im really soz honey if this is the case, but you have to be aware how horrible this guy is. Even if he was joking, it was an incredibly cruel thing to say and you could do so much better than him.
However all of this aside, you have to get your confidence back. Record yourself singing and play it back. You will then be able to hear how great you are and be sure to tell yourself this out loud. Plus, think of all those times other people have told you how good you are and keep replaying them in your head.
Hope you feel much better about your singing ability soon. You know your fab, no matter what
Claire xx
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OK so the sweetie i've been crushing on for months now asked me to dance last night and one of the monthly dances we have in our town. It was perfect, although it didn't last long. The only problem was that I feel like he was forced into asking me. My friend decided to have a chaperone ask him to ask me to dance. I got mad at her and said i dont want him to ask me if he doesnt want to. so she told him that and he said i really really like her as a friend so i'll still ask her. i sent her back and told her to tell him not to unless he really did want to. so she came back and said he wants to talk to you. so he came up to me and said do you wanna dance? i told him he didnt have to ask me to if he didnt want to and he said he really did want to. so i danced with him and we talked and he said he didnt want me to feel bad and i told him i wouldnt have felt bad if he didnt ask me. i said i would have felt bad if he didnt want to dance with me but he did anyway. someone kinda bumped into us and we like, broke apart. he looked kinda sad and just said "oh, is that it?" i didnt really know what to say so i just shrugged and he slowly walked away. im not sure if he actually wanted to dance with me or not, so i was hoping someone could help me out. thx and sorry its so long!
He definetly did want to dance with you if he still said yes after you telling him not to two times. I also think he was geniuinly sad that your dance ended as well. However the reason he just walked away is probably because of your attitude towards him. I know you were probably just trying to play it cool but he probably got the impression that you didn't want to dance with him because you told him he didn't have to three times and you simply shrugged when he asked if the dance was over. Next time you see him, tell him thanx for dancing with you and that you should do it again sometime, then smile at him and talk about something else. That way the damage is repaired and there will be no awkwardness.
Hope I helped, hope you two get together eventually :-)
Claire xx
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ok the guy I'm crazy about is also a good friend of mine. And for the last week I've noticed he's been hanging around with B and I thought he liked her a lot. And today I saw him writing a note that and he was asking her out. Then after school I talked to him and said, "So did u give it to her?" and he said "yeah, but it's because I'm being forced into it." and so I asked him what was going on, and he told me that B's friend W has been driving him crazy trying to get him to go out with B, and he's sick of it so he asked her out and really only wants to be friends with B. (which made me really happy by the way... ) so my question is, what should I do now???
You have to talk him out of his relationship with B. It's not fair on him or B to carry on as they will both end up being very unhappy. You also have to sort this bitch W out. Either get your guy to come clean to B about it and let her sort W out or do it yourself. If you decide to do it yourself, tell W that everyone has the right to choose who they love and go out with and although it may hurt B because she likes him, your guy just isn't interested in that way. Tell her that she doesn't have the right to force him into anything and should be ashamed of her behaviour!!
Then leave it a couple of weeks and if your really brave, why don't you ask him out?? It sounds to me as if you really like him, so take a risk for love if your feelings are that serious. You'll regret it if you don't, I promise you that. Good luck honey
Claire xx
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16 female. See I have this feeling like i need to choose between these two guys, and i don't know why because i have nothing to choose from. The guy im with loves me and the other guy doesn't even think about me in that way(anymore), and I know that for sure. And a person once told me, never leave the one you love for the one you like because the one you like will leave you for the one they love. And thats true and some very good advice but in my case the one i'm with isn't the one i love.
So pleaseee tell me why i feel the need to choose when i have no choice to make.
Your head is telling you there's no choice, but your heart is screaming at you to leave the one you like for the one you love, no matter what the odds. Your obviously not that happy in your relationship because of your other love, so I think you should dump this guy even if it means you are alone. If you stay with him, it is like you are using him to take your mind off the one you love. Then you should just get the one you love and tell him how you feel. I know you say that he doesn't like you anymore, but you have to tell him how you feel just in case there is a slight chance that he does like you or at least in the future he might. Remember, where there are guys concerned, if it's for you it won't go by you.
Believe me, you will regret it if you don't tell him how you feel. I do. Good luck
Claire xx
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Here’s the information you need to know before I tell you the problem.
-The people who are involved are me, my brother, and our friends M and G.
-Our parents are on a benefit basketball vacation because we all play.
-I give my brothers team there plays
-M is on the opposing team and my brother and G are on the same team.
-M asked me to the formal before all this happened.
Day 1) okay well it was the Friday my dog got put down, my brother had a basketball game, and I went into a crying fit so M and G tried to help. then I went over to Gs and I went home afterwards and M came over to be with me because it was storming.
Day 2)I made the winning shot at my basketball game, M gave me a hug before I could get to G, and I broke away from him to get to G. we went out to lunch, I walked home with G, just the 2 of us. M got mad. I got home and before I got there, my friend called and told me that M said yes to this girl for the formal. so I flipped on him and ran outside and then he came after me and said he wouldn’t have said yes if he knew i liked him, cuz he thought I wanted to go with G. and then I told him he hated me and he said no, i love you. so I dont know.
1 and a half weeks later)another bball game, for the boys. M got a technical, and so I said, its ok M. and he was like, I love you, and he yelled it to me and the ref thought he was talking to him, so he said ok that’s it get out of here. and then M was like, why I was talking to my gf. and he was like right, I am sure she’s your gf. so he came over and gave me a really long kiss, and G got upset. So the ref resigned the technical. But that doesnt matter.
I don’t know what to do, at all!!!
A guy loves you girl, be very happy!!!! He wouldn't lie to you about loving you, especially since he even declared it in public. This shows he really has strong feelings for you. However, you haven't said if you fancy M or if you fancy G. If you fancy M, the world's your oyster. Sit him down and have a serious talk about where you go from here. However if you fancy G, you will still have to talk to M and explain that you value his friendship very much, but that you don't love him in that way. Let him down very gently and then give him some space to get used to the idea. Then you have to talk to G and tell him how you feel. It sounds like he really likes you if he got upset at you and M's kiss, so I think you have a very good chance.
Good luck. Hope everything turns out for the best and that you get your dream guy. YOUR SO LUCKY!!!! you have two guys after you, so enjoy it while you can girl.
Claire xx
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ok i have a friend that is so called in love with this boy they only met once and she though that they will last forever but now he doesn't even try to call her he calls me non stop and now she thinks i like him but i don't. i don't want to loseany of my friends as of right now. so what should i do
First off, does this guy know how your friend feels about him? If he does, you have to get together with him and remind him of this fact. Then you have to tell him that in order to keep your friendship, he has to back right off or you may risk losing your friend. It would also be helpful to find out if he likes your friend back, so that you are able to advise her properly.
Then you have to talk to your friend. Tell her that your friendship means the world to you and that you don't like this guy. Also say that even if you did like him, you would never do anything with him as that would mean betraying her and you could never do that. However if she still doesn't believe you, it would be helpful for you to gently point out that she has only met him once and is she really willing to put a guy that she has only met once before your friendship. If she says yes, then she isn't really your friend. I know you don't want to lose her, but is it really good for you to have such a jealous friend?
Good luck, I hope everything turns out okay for you
Claire xx
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i guessed my mom's password for her email and it was right.. i know i shouldnt have, but i looked at all her emails with my aunt. i've been having a hard time lately w/ cutting and things and i didnt want my mom to tell anyone (she found out, bc my school found out and yadda yadda..im seeing a theripist..not important)but in these emails she told my aunt all about it. i am kinda mad but i cant say anything bc I wend snooping. im feeling really guilty and dont know what to do..any sugestions =/
I know how you feel, I always feel really guilty if I do something like that. I know your in a lot of trouble already but maybe it would be best if you were honest and just tell your mum. That way you would have one less thing to worry about and you would be able to stop your mum telling anyone else.
Alternatively, if you don't feel up to confessing to your mum, you could always tell your therapist about it and get her to tell your mum. They would be able to explain it in a nice way and you would therefore avoid most of your mum's anger.
If you keep it bottled up, it will just add to your problems and make you feel even worse. I hope you sort out all your problems, hope you feel much better. Best of luck
Claire xx
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ok so theres this guy that i "talked" to for a few weeks, and we went on a couple dates, then one night it went a lil further...then the next day he stopped calling me as much and stopped texting me, and we never hang out ne more. But wenever i see him at school he comes up and gives me a hug. Which sucs cuz everytime i see him he like takes my breath away...but for the past week i've been trying to play it cool and pretend like i dont like him, n wenever he gives me a hug or talks to me...i just pretend like i don't care...but the truth is I'm insanly attached to him, and i miss him sooo much. So i still call him like every night, n he used to pick up and we'd talk for a few hours, now he doesnt even pick up...I dont know what to do...he broke my heart, n now he said he's back with his Ex..how do i get over him...he drives me insane,I just want to be with him, but i know i can't.
-broken hearted-
Honey, this guy completely used you and he is worth nothing. He is shit and you could do so much better than him!! One thing I would say you could do is write 3 lists; things you like about him, things you don't like about him and reasons why you shouldn't go out with him. Burn the list with what you like about him and keep the other two pinned up on the wall so that you will be reminded of them every day. When you find yourself thinking about him, slap yourself hard. You'll soon stop thinking about him as much. Also, go out guy-spotting with your friends, it'll make you feel much better and you may even end up with a couple of phone numbers ;-)
All these have been recently tried by my friend and believe me, they do work! You are a beautiful and unique person, remember that. He is not worth your tears, you deserve so much better. Good luck honey
Claire xx
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ok I am a 16/f and there is this kid that I am close to being able to say like I love him but not quite. And I introduced my cousin to him, which was a big mistake. Because shes now dating him or whatever, which is total bullshit. Because she knows what was going on between him and I and how I felt. I confronted her about some shit but she just doesn't understand and doesn't see what shes done she thinks shes miss innocent does no wrong. What do I do? The guy was one of my best friends on top of it and now doesn't even call me anymore, like its all screwed up. Can someone help me please I would really appreciate it. Thanks
That's horrible that your cousin would do that to you! Getting through to her sounds as if it isn't working so I think you have to talk to him and explain that ever since he's started going out with your cousin, you feel as if he's left you behind. Point out that you understand that he has a girlfriend, but that's no excuse to dump his mates. Once he's gotten used to the idea, arrange to go out with him, just the two of you as 'mates'. You have to be supportive of him and stay really good friends with him if you hope t have a chance with him once he dumps your cousin.
You could always try speaking to your cousin again and don't be nice about it, speak firmly and don't stop talking until you have said everything you need to say. You need to show this bitch whos boss!
If that doesn't work, well I know it's crap but your just going to have to be mates and simply flirt for a little while longer until they split up. Good luck. Really hope you two get together
Claire xx
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Ok, Recently i told this boy lets call him kyle i like him and i really have major feelings for him and he told me he has serious feelings for me we keep writing to eachother and flirting but i have a boyfriend... lets call him justin and kyle and justin sit at the same table at lunch and usually justin walks me to gym and he forgot about me and i forgot about him and is that a sign to break up with justin and go out with kyle? please help me i know this is confusing but i really need help! i'll rate high!
Just because you forgot about your boyfriend forgot to walk you to gym once doesn't mean that you should break up with him. However the fact that you really like kyle and he really likes you is a sign. Before you do break up with your boyfriend I would actually speak to kyle about it and make sure that if you were to break up with justin, kyle would then ask you out. It would be really crap on you if you were to dump justin and then for kyle to turn round and say he isn't planning to ask you out because justin is his friend and he doesn't want to hurt him. Then you will have no boyfriend and two guys who probably won't be very happy with you.
I do think you've got a really good chance though and you have to dump justin anyway if you aren't that happy in your relationship. Good luck
Claire xx
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While I was dating another guy, I told my ex-boyfriend I loved him. He said he loved me. I broke up with the other guy just yesterday. My friend told me that she heard my ex-boyfriend say that he doesn't want us to stop being friends if we go out again. My question is "Do you think my ex-boyfriend will ask me out."
Don't wait for him to ask you out, guys like to take their time and by the time he convinces himself that you may say yes, you will have convinced yourself that he doesn't like you and went through weeks of pain. Save yourself time + pain and pluck up the courage to ask him out. At this point in time you just have to believe what he told you and forget what your friend said. Loves a risk, so go for it!! Good luck, you lucky person having someone you love love you back. Have fun
Claire xx
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I have been pretty depressed. I dont know why. On the weekends I pretty much just go to work from 11-4, come home, watch tv, do homework, eat and maybe get online or talk on the phone and then do it again the next day. My parents dont like me going out too much. Then on weekdays I go to school from 7:55-2:15, stay after school sometimes till 4 or just go straight home. Or if I can I get outta school and stay after till 4 call my bf n hang out w him till 8. I just needa know whats going on, like why am I go DEPRESSED n how can I get over it?
Perhaps the reason your depressed is because your daily routine is always the same. What you need is something new and exciting in your life. Why don't you try dancing or a martial art or join a club that specialises in something you like, eg. a tv programme.
Alternatively, if your parents don't like you going out too much, why don't you have your friends over to your house more often?
If you still feel depressed, please tell your parents or call a helpline for your area that are usually found in the problem sections of magazines. Don't carry on feeling this way, get help and get it sorted so that you get on with your life.
Email me on csbubbles@aol.com if you need anyone to chat to whenever you feel really low.
Good luck, hope you feel better
Claire xx
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we dated earlier this year, very breif.
i love him so much and value his friendship so much, problem is, i still have feelinsg for him as more than a friend. i havent acted on them and wont right now but i really want to get together with him again.
hes currently dating a girl who i dont like and he knows im not a fan of the situation but i'm still supporting him.
hes helped me deal with other boys and stuff like that so we're able to talk openly about other relationships, however, he admitted to a mutual frined that he still liked me a little bit, he doesnt know that i know that.
what do i do, is there a chance we could get together in the future again....do you think he really does still have feelings for me a bit??
what do i do right now?
any suggestions to change his mind (hes not head over heals for this girl, we're 15 so its just basically a "ooh shes the flavor of the week for me" and all his guy friends dont really like the girl either.
Hell yeah you've got a chance in the future!! You and this guy sound as if you are really close and I'm sure that he will split up with this girl eventually. However I wouldn't go trying to split them up because he may find out and that would completely ruin your friendship, so it's not worth the risk.
However you haven't said why your relationship was brief. If you broke up with him, your fine. If he broke up with you, then your going to have to have a chat to find out, if you don't already know, why he dumped you last time and what you can do to fix those problems so that it doesn't break you two up again.
If he has talked about still liking you then I'm sure he still has feelings for you. But right now you've just got to be patient, be supportive and wait for him to break up with that girl. I know it's really annoyin having to wait around for him, so why don't you start flirting with him again? Let him know you still like him and if he doesn't tell you to back off since he does have a girlfriend, he definetly still fancies you.
Good luck, hope you get your guy. I'm sure you will :-)
Claire xx
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Alright, these past two nights I've been crying myself to sleep because of my boyfriend.
I RARELY get to see him because we go to different schools, maybe once or twice every TWO/THREE months. :/ But we talk on the phone like every 2-3 days, and on the computer a lot.
So, a few days ago..Thursday, I was expecting him to get on the computer, but he never did..and I didn't call, because, I dunno. i just hate calling when he doesn't tell me to right at the moment..even though he told me I can call anytime. So, I don't know..I just started crying because I was so upset and stressed out from not seeing him anf stuff. Tonight, he hasn't gotten on, and I started crying again. I think a lot of you won't understand really, because you don't know how much I miss him, you have to know the situation better.
But..what do I do? Because, he hurts me a lot. I mean, this has happened multiple times. But like..a couple days after this goes on he finally comes online and says 'hi', and I CAN'T be mean to him..or tell him that he just made me cry. I don't know why, I just can't do it. It's like emotional abuse, and i just don't think I can take it anymore.
Aw hunni you deserve so much better than him. I know it'll hurt because you will never get to see him but carrying on in this relationship will just hurt you even more. He is messing you about and it isn't fair on you. Dump him and start looking for a new guy, preferebly someone who lives nearby or is in you school. I'm sure once your single again you will have loads of guys lined up wanting to ask you out. Good luck hunni and remember no man is worth your tears, the one who is won't make you cry.
Claire xx
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My bestfriend is being cruel to me. She likes to show off. She also acts to me like i am her slave. She is a suckup and don't know what to do. We have been friends for so long. I am moving far away soon and she is either really sad and is mean to me or she doesn't care that i am moving. I don't know. She use to be so nice. But know she is trying to be popular and mean. PLEASE HELP!!!
You should ditch her as soon as possible. She has no right whatsoever to treat you like this. Something tells me that talking to her in this situation won't help matters and I know it's hard but sometimes friendships fall apart because the two people change a lot. It's crap but it happens and the sooner you end this friendship, the happier you'll be. I'm sure you have lots of other great friends who love and respect you, so go with them. Besides you are moving soon, so you have a chance for a fresh start and new friendships.
Good luck and I hope your new home is great
Claire xx
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okay I really dont know what to do..
Heres a little(a lot) about me. Im not gona say alot of details because i know a couple people on here
Okay well im between 13-18 and a guy. I'm in honners classes but doing really bad in them. My parents expect me to be just like my crazy smart sister. My teachers just had a conference with my mom, it went really bad. MY parents are really strict, and they're not the understanding type of parents because they didnt grow up around here. Thats why i can't figure out a way of telling my parents I have ADD everytest I took online (about 25) said that i was ADD positive. Some people think I have it all because of their current job positions and family income. But I really hate my life, n o one knows what it is like to be me. I have 3 or 4 really good friends. But i can practically never hang out with them. I can't have a girlfriend.
I listin to my music all the time, and am forced to study because of my grades. I think of suicide all day, and I am constantly depressed. the other day my room was partially messy(bed not made) and my mom gets really mad( i think she is bipolar) And makes me tear apart my whole room and makes me stay up till 3AM on a sunday cleaning and i had school the next day. My life a always a drag, its basically a set schedual. I can't change anything I have to be what my parents want me to be otherwise I will be looked down upon.
I know I jumped from topic to topic im really sorry. please reply..i need peoples help
I know it's hard, but you really have to talk to someone about this. I'm sure that as strict as your parents are, if you tell them everything and be completely honest they have to understand. If you don't want to talk to them, try talking to an adult that you are close to or perhaps one of your teachers. Also you could phone one of the many helplines available or if you want someone just to chat to in general you can e-mail me on csbubbles@aol.com.
I have a friend who has ADD and at first it was bad, but he got help and he's doing so much better. He even managed to get all Credit grades in his Standard Grades. It's hard to accept at first, but you can work your way through it and become much better.
Also, suicide isn't the answer. Things seem bad right at the moment but you have so much more life ahead of you and you could use your experiences to help so many people, think of the difference you could make.
Remember, you are a unique and special person. Although your parents may not accept you for who you are and what your special talents are right now, they love you and they'll see one day what a great person you are.
Please email me and let me know what happens
Claire xx
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i liked this guy and all of my friends knew about it. i was talking to my friend one day and she said that he had a girlfriend and today i was asking my friend who she liked and she said that she was going out with the guy that i like. i'm really mad but i dont know if i should tell her.
I wouldn't tell her if I were you. It'll just make you sound really petty and may ruin any future chance with this guy should they split up. However, I wouldn't count this girl as a friend. She knew you liked him but she still went out with him without even asking you if it was ok first! She isn't worth your time, so I would distance yourself from her and spend time with your real friends who treat you with the respect you deserve. Good luck and be happy :-)
Claire xx
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what do girls look for in guys. It doesnt really help me because im a guy looking for what qulities like only girls answer please
Well honesty always a good thing. Also defending the girl if someone else is slaggin her is a gd thing. Plus being really nice to her, givin her hugs, making her laugh and paying her compliments are things I like. Being a bit dirty mindeds also gd. Soz not so much qualities as things they do, qualities are more specific to the girl. Try doing some of these though, they should attract the girls. Good luck
CLaire xx
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hey well this guys broke up with me cuz he thinks that im to popular for him thats y he broke up with me n he said y would a guy like me want to go out with a guy like him n i realki like him thats y i wouldnt of went with him!!!!! well give good advice!!!!!
You have to talk to him and convince him that you do really like him and that it doesn't matter how popular you are. Don't leave him alone until you convince him of that. If you want to prove how much you like him, ask him out. Good luck
Claire xx
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