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Heaven for me, Hell for him?
OK so the sweetie i've been crushing on for months now asked me to dance last night and one of the monthly dances we have in our town. It was perfect, although it didn't last long. The only problem was that I feel like he was forced into asking me. My friend decided to have a chaperone ask him to ask me to dance. I got mad at her and said i dont want him to ask me if he doesnt want to. so she told him that and he said i really really like her as a friend so i'll still ask her. i sent her back and told her to tell him not to unless he really did want to. so she came back and said he wants to talk to you. so he came up to me and said do you wanna dance? i told him he didnt have to ask me to if he didnt want to and he said he really did want to. so i danced with him and we talked and he said he didnt want me to feel bad and i told him i wouldnt have felt bad if he didnt ask me. i said i would have felt bad if he didnt want to dance with me but he did anyway. someone kinda bumped into us and we like, broke apart. he looked kinda sad and just said "oh, is that it?" i didnt really know what to say so i just shrugged and he slowly walked away. im not sure if he actually wanted to dance with me or not, so i was hoping someone could help me out. thx and sorry its so long!
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if he said that and looked sad at the same time, i'm pretty darn sure that boy likes you. make a move!!! good luck
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He definetly did want to dance with you if he still said yes after you telling him not to two times. I also think he was geniuinly sad that your dance ended as well. However the reason he just walked away is probably because of your attitude towards him. I know you were probably just trying to play it cool but he probably got the impression that you didn't want to dance with him because you told him he didn't have to three times and you simply shrugged when he asked if the dance was over. Next time you see him, tell him thanx for dancing with you and that you should do it again sometime, then smile at him and talk about something else. That way the damage is repaired and there will be no awkwardness.
Hope I helped, hope you two get together eventually :-)
Claire xx
Ps. Love the title!!!
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He asked you to dance with him- not to marry him! I would try not to worry about his intentions so much... or you'll scare him away.
From what you described, it sounds like he likes you, but that he's on the shy side. So having the chaperone and your friend encourage him to ask you to dance probably helped. Then you responded negatively (even though you thought you were protecting yourself, you'd have been better off keeping your mouth shut and just enjoying the dance). So now he's probably feeling discouraged, and that's why he walked away.
If you still want to pursue this guy, you'd better make a move that shows him that you like him. Nothing big, but just talk to him, flirt, that sort of thing. And at the next dance- go ask him to dance. If he says no, then you know that I was wrong, and he's a jerk, and that's that. If he says yes, then try not to make the same mistake again, and just enjoy being with this sweet guy.
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