Q: my little sister has a habbit of thinking that our cousins are cute. the ones that we dont get to see that often. she likes our cousin J.R and our cousin Michael. I can't figure out how to get her to stop. I have told her that they are our cousins and its nasty. But she won't listen. She has even told me that she wants to kiss J.R. I mean yea hes a good looking kid (i dont like him...ew!) but hes our cousin so thats just nasty. I have tried explaining the whole cousin thing and she still doesn't understand. Please help.

Q: * My Weird School Dealy*
Posted Monday November 15 2004, 1:30 am
Okay. here it is. I was raped a few days ago. By my neighbor. He lives like three houses down. We went to a house that my brother broke into, so they could have a cigarette break before going to the gym. Well they brough some alcohol and we started drinking shots of all kinds of stuff. I done atleast a whole bottle of GIN! I was drunk of my ass. We played some games. I wasnt all together. My neighbor who is 16 and is my NJROTC Commanding officer, locked me in a room when i was drunk and raped and he had a condom. (how and why did he have a condom i have no idea) I remember him shovin his dick down my throat when i was on the ground and chocking me. The picked me raped my ass and the detective said i passed out and he raped me in my vaginal area. I was so sad. I went depressed after a while. Almost scuicide but i told my parents. The cops and detective wanted to arrest him. They had SOOOO much evidence its not funny. But the detective went to the state and the state said i wasnt drunk enough and dropped the case. Can you please explain to my why would they do that to me? and isnt that wrong? Now im locked in my house and cant go to school. What should i do?
Any one who helps me the most ill leave them a GREAT COMMENT and A BIG RATE!
-Unknown-

Q: thank you for making me a fave columnist
kim

Q: hi ive had this horrible sore throat for like 6 days. ive tried everything and nothing seems to work. ive stayed home 4 days from school and am really far behind. what is there to do ive watched like every movie and slept but i get so tired, how do i cure this and what can i do while im sick

Q: ok well i like this guy and he likes me the problem is im not sure wut to talk to him on the phone about. i always have to make up excuses wut should i do? is this bad? i rate 5!

Q: Well see i'm 15 and i'm a female and i'm not going out with this guy, but i gave him head and he ate me out at a football game in the back of his van. I was caught up in the moment and now everyone is calling me a slut. I have no idea of what to do, should i stick up for myself or just ignore them. The advice would be very helpful. thanks!

Q: How old do you have to be to give up on finding a girl friend. The reason I ask is that im 24 ill be 25 next may and ive never had a girlfriend or been in a serious relationship, I Know im not ugly and I can send you a pic to prove it, and most of the time i can talk to girls just fine, but it always ends up the same for me, they always say that im a real nice guy and that one day ill find the right girl for me and then the dreaded "LETS JUST BE FRIENDS".

I just dont understand what im doing wrong. and when i think about it it makes me real mad, that
there's girls out there with boyfriends that beat them, abuse them both phisicaly and mentaly,
they cheat on them and treat them like crap, but when asked why the girl stays whith him the anwser is always "cause I love Him". Life is just so f*cked up, how can guys that treat their girl like shes lower than crap get so much love, but a guy like me that alwas treats women with respect and is always nice and honest and caring
have to feel like hes going to be alone forever?

Ive had sex, but it was always one night satands and its not about sex. its about love, I want to love some one, life is just so empty and meaningless when you dont have anyone to sahre it with.

Now im getting to the point where the girls i meet are close to my age and want someone with experiance, witch i dont have.

So i figured if by the time i turn 25 i dont have a girlfriend i should just give up and not waste anybodys time.

what do you think?

Q: ok i dont rly have a problem with it im just wondering im 13.f and my boyfriend is 15.m and this other guy that likes me is 16.m but see i dont kno why all these older guys want me?? does anyone kno why they would?

Q: I'm in my early twenties. I was raped as a teenager and never told my parents. Should I ever tell them? If they knew, they might be able to understand me better (I've got some psychological issues) but I don't want to upset them - if they knew, they'd be so so sad and would probably feel like it's their fault somehow. Is it worth it to tell them, or is this something that's best to keep from them?

Q: ok so this bitch find out a bunch of shit about her ex... and her ex is the one that i like.. A LOT and i was raped like 3 days ago and she knows all this. so she gets off at the wrong bus stop and totaly cusses him out and totaly bitch slaps him accross the face. shes got sum nerve! now she knows i'm mad and wants to fricken fight me! i am so0o not affraid of her, and i wanna hit her real bad. but i dont know if i should.. ya kno??? _amanda

Q: I am always always depressed. I find myself constantly upset and moody. I have very little self confidence and right now I am in a rocky patch with my friends so I feel even worse. My boyfriend and everyone around me tells me that I am pretty and people like me but I don't feel that way.

Q: my belly button is red and has like pus stuff coming out of it sometimes..it scares me..anyone know what this is or how to treat it? ive been putting Lubriderm Aloe Vera Body Lotion on it

Q: I'm 15/f. Ok, so my sister recently had her Bat Mitzvah and a ton of family cane up. So this one family, who is related because their mom is my mom's cousin, and their dad is my dad's friend (before they were married), and their kids are my 3rd cousins. Well they have two kids, one whho is my age and didn't come to the Bat Mitzvah, and one who is 13, 8th grade. So this kid came over to our house after the party with a ton of my other friends, and we all had a blast. The problem, what if i like him? I don't want to because many people will find it gross. I know it's not incest because sometimes first cousins don't even count as incest. Also the fact that he is two years younger. Some people find that really wrong. The next time I'm going to see him is at his Bar Mitzvah at the end of November. I don't know what to do. We had a great time together, and my friend wanted us to "hook-up." But I don't think he hates me, i think he thinks I'm kind of cool. When we were surfing vodeo clips he kept saying, "I think you'll like this one" I mean, if feels like he would be perfect if he was my age and not my 3rd cousin. Are these feelings gross or weird? What should I do? please help. I'll rate. Sorry it's so long.

Q: Well I'm meeting Jon tomorrow and I want to make a bit more of an effort than usual. I normally just wear jeans and a top and have my hair down but I want to look a little different. We're only meeting casually not a big date or anything, what are some casual ways I can do my hair in and what should I wear? NO SKIRTS!!!

Q:
I am no stranger to the behaviour of most guys. Very sexual, like the jokes about sex but I have a slight problem, I don't know how to react. I have a few guys that are bothering me at this time I will explain. Well this boy called karl right he's 17 and i'm 14, well basically he wants sex and he keeps pestering me he tried to touch me up and I don't know what to do. Some boys just fancy me and I can take that. There's this other boy called Steve who's 16 but he thinks i'm going to go out with him and tries to get me to cheat on my boyfriend and his girlfriend which gets me in trouble with his girlfriend. Another boy I don't see but he's really nice, prob is he calls me all these names and keeps asking me out. A little younger boy who's a few months younger than me is asking me to strip i don't know how to answer these there a no but how do I say that assertively?

Q: Hi, my friend works hours that are from 2 a.m. to noontime, and she never has any time to hang out cuz it's everyday. I'm sad not hangning out with her anymore we've been friends for like ever!! What do I do?

Q: Ok, there's 2 people you'll have to know for this there's:

Steph: she's a sweet 9 year old girl, she lived next door to me, and she moved 4 months ago

Adam: He is Steph's big step brother, he's 14. he came every other weekend to Stephs house.

well, I had this biiig crush on Adam,a nd I was soo sad when they left. it all hit me as i watched the moving van drive off, that I loved him, I started crying remembering all the great memories. we've played spin the bottle he kissed me, that was my first kiss. and my last. it was just a kiss on the cheek, but it really ment a lot to me. well, a few weeks after Steph moved, I IMed Adam, and told him I Liked him. we hadn't talken ever since. or at least till yesterday, he e-mailed me. he told me that he really loved me back, and that he was going to tell me in real life, apperently he came over last Saturday, but I was at a biig choir performance. I couldn't belive it, i'm about ready to go nuts!!!I don't know what to do, he lives 3 hours away, I dont' have his phone number or anything. sombobdy please help me, I'll give out 5's!!!

Q: yesterday i had sex with mi bf.we have had sex b4 but we hadnt ad sex in about 3 months.he is quite big.it hurt when he entered me and after we finished the condom has split and the end had came off n gone inside me,im not worried about bein pregnant because i am on the pill but this mornin i went to the toilet and the condom came out and i was bleedin like it was mi period.i had mi period like a week ago so i dnt no y this is happenin.please can someone explain this too me.thanx.

Q: He loves me!!!!!! he told me he loved me...all my problems are solved!!!!! thanks for all the help you gave me...I hope stuff works out for you too.
Rainbowcherrie xxx

Q: Ok. You must get so incredibly frustrated with me and my pointless questions but, yeah it's rainbowcherrie again.


Well, as you know, I go out with Jon. He's great, I know he really likes me and I'm ok with that even though I know he doesn't love me just yet, things are going well.


The only thing is, we have this game we play where we plan our future, our children's names and where we will live etc. I know it's just a game and I know that it wont ever happen, I'm only 13 and all. I just can't help wishing and wishing it wasn't just a game and that I could marry him and have his children. None of my friends or him know I feel this way, everyone would say it was just puppy love but...I don't know.


Sometimes the game just gets so real you know? He keeps saying things like: 'I don't care what we do as long as I'm with you.' and yesterday I said: 'You'll have got bored of me by then.' and he kept saying he wouldn't and how he thought I was pretty and he wanted to be with me and all.


If he really means all that stuff, why doesn't he love me??? And I'm always so paranoid that he's lying to me. I don't know what's wrong with me, it's just a game, why am I feeling like this? Please don't tell me I wont feel like this in a few months or so and that I'll have moved on from him and that it's just a fling because that's not how I feel. I think I really love him and I wish wish wish the game was real.

I'm sorry to bother you again but I can trust you and I can't talk to my friends about this. Remember, you can always ask me when you have a problem :) Rainbowcherrie

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