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im always embarassed when i get called on in school. my face gets really red and thats even more embarassing! ugh i dont like school :( its torture!!

im 15/f

Yeah, I don't like getting called on in class either, unless it's like a group presentation, then I'm fine!! haha.

A lot of people are like that though, they get all embarrassed when they get called on, so don't worry you're not the only one!

So, just think of it as you're reading outloud to yourself or a friend, like you're reading them something that you wanted them to know (like out of a magazine, newspaper, or note), don't think about everyone in the class. And plus, so many people in your class are like that too, and half the time people don't even pay attention when others read!

I hope this helps you and if you need anything else, just leave a message in my inbox.

♥ Kourtney

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i like this guy...well i wouldnt say like him just REALLY ATTRACTED TO HIM! lol but you see the problem is ...so is everyone else =(
and like when i go to school events i think "im not that bad lookin..i think im kinda pretty" (not tryin to sound full of myself) but then when i get there, there are sooo many WAY prettier girls than me..and im like im never gonna get this guys attention. and i couldnt sit by him because he is always packed in with everyone else..with nowhere to sit..and the problem is i dont even know him. havent talked to him once. got any suggestions!?
ThANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU!!!

Aww, I know that feeling. I went out with a guy who EVERYONE thought was hot, I didn't like it much haha.

Just dress cute (not slutty, you'll get a bad repuation) and just get over by him (before or after the party or at school) and try talking to him. If you're not comfortable going by yourself, go with a couple of friends or whatnot. So, that way you'll be more talkative. And when you see him, give him a smile. A smile that's like "Wow, you're hot."

And when you talk to him, just be flirty and giggly.

The first step to liking someone, is getting to know them.

The guy I went out with (the one that everyone thought was hot), there were people around me too, he knew I was single, so he just came right up to me and started talking to me. Maybe thats what you need to do. But, don't just shove your way in there and interupt haha.

I hope this helps and if you need anything else, just leave a message in my inbox.

♥ Kourtney

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does anybody know of any cute *name brand* jeans other than american eagle (i basilcly have all of their jeans!) that has *petite/short sizes* that come in zeros!
thanks!
i rate high!

Yeah, I wear 0 too.

Try:

Bebe
Guess
Express
Abercrombie
Lucky
Hollister

I hope this helps and if you need anything else just leave a message in my inbox.

♥ Kourtney

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I really dont like my smile! My mouth is really small in the beginning and then when i smile my eyes get really squinty and i have like really high cheekbones so i have two like bulges under my eyes when i smile haha. and so when i see some hott guy i would LOVE to smile but since i dont like my smile what should i do? =( i really sucks!! like you know how you are suppose to smile alot when you flirt..well i doo but i feel so self-conscious cuz i hate my smile! i even had braces for the longest time and my teeth are straight but yeah i dont kno. hope ya get what im sayin babes.

Yeah, I have braces too!! Wouldn't know .. huh? haha.

I get mine off pretty soon though.

People say I have a pretty smile, but I feel like I have your problem too!! So I know how it feels haha. But, I smile all the time, so I just got over it.

I'm sure your smile is fine, it's just you (and alot of other people) pick out the stuff they don't like about themselves, when really it's fine!

Just smile! People won't even notice it, I don't notice things that people hate on themselves. If you point it out to people, then they may realize it, it's like pointing out a zit on your face that no one can see but yourself, then once you point it out, they notice it! haha.

So, when you want to flirt, either just smile or smile with no teeth, either way you're smiling =D

I hope this helps and if not, just leave a message in my inbox.

Have fun flirting ;)

♥ Kourtney

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HEY BABE!
well ok i have a problem..
everytime i makeout or do somethin like sexual (not sex or blowjob or anything) but like just anything with a guy i feel so guilty especially like with my parents. i feel like i did something bad and i also feel like that when i drink a lil bit. =(
im 15/f.
what do i do?!

Hey sweetie!!

Everyone (well most people in that case) makeout or drink. I personally don't drink that much, don't really like it.

Your parents even drank and makeout when they were your age, psh they still do!! haha. Gross to think of it.. but they do!

Don't feel guilty, makingout isn't against the law or anything. You're having fun! Just don't do anything you're going to regret or anything.

&& if you drink, just drink alittle, just don't get drunk. && If you had too much to drink, stay at a friends house.. don't drive and don't get in a car with someone who's had too much also!

That way, you're not really doing anything wrong!!

I hope this helps you and if not, just leave a message in my inbox.

♥ Kourtney

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im gettin my haircut tomorrow :) yay! haha and i usually get lowlights to try and make my hair darker..and i still wanna do it but it always makes my face look so much paler. haha but yeah i only have one more tan left until christmas (then i get more :) but like i dont wanna use it tomorrow because im doing stuff this weekend (upcoming weekend..x-mas break) and im gonna see alot of hotties there so i wanna use it towards the end of the week.
any suggestions to make me look less pale?

Aww, that sounds cute!!

Try using a bronzer.. it's a miracle worker =)
haha.

You can buy it anywhere. Any brand is good. && try wearing like XXL Maybelline Mascara in Black. So people notice your eyes (if you want that). But if not, just go with the bronzer, it'll totally work.

You can always try asking your hair stylist if you should get another color in your hair so you don't look to pale either, she'll know what to do.

I hope this helps and if not, just leave a message in my inbox.

♥ Kourtney

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this may sound really mean but seriously you dont know what this girl put me thru..
okay..
well im goin to this game for highschool on friday and im going to see this one girl that use to be my friend but not anymore because of what she did to me..but thats another thing. and i wanna like show her that im so much better than her haha sounds really bad i know but i just wanna seem like miss outgoing and i wanna say something to her that would make her jealous of me..i really wanna get back at her
any ideaS?..

Nope, doesn't sound mean =)

Girls do that to one another .. makes me so mad lol. High School drama.

But anyways, like you said, be outgoing. Talk to EVERYONE, wear a cute outfit, flirt with hot guys, and say right in front of her like "This really hot guy asked me out on a date!!!" or something like that. I'm not sure what would make her jealous because I don't know her or anything.

But, just do things like that. I hope this helps and good luck!! If you need anymore ideas, just leave a message in my inbox.

♥ Kourtney

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im 15 :) and me and my best friend go to diff schools.
thought maybe it'd help?
haha anyways..i think one of my best friends guys friends is really cute! and my friend is in sports and like i go watch but the guys she knows or is in one of her classes goes to them too

Hey sweetie.

No, I didn't think you sounded conceited don't worry!!

The one you think is hot, goes to the games you watch.. right?

Well, if he does, try sitting next to him or something. Then just casually try talking to him. Just be like "I ALWAYS see you here! Who do you come to see?" and smile when you say it.

If he plays in the sports, then when you see him just smile and him and then walk pass him and be like "Good game" and smile. Just make sure you smile alot =)

&& as for your friend, just talk to her about the boy thing, just be like "You're pretty! You need to have confidence, just smile at him a lot" Just try giving her the same advice I gave you!!

I hope this works and good luck. Tell me how it goes.

If you need help with anything else or I left anything out, just leave a message in my inbox.

♥ Kourtney

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i have this problem..
im like addicted to the computer
and like i never get any of my homework done! i feel really guilty when im on here or AIM and im suppose to be doing homework but then if i get off for a bit do a lil homework i wanna come back on here again and so i do and then i get distracted! i like come straight on when i get home and ughhhhhh what do i do? haha its hard for me to stay away from it too.

Don't worry, so many people are like that. AIM is really addicting. 8th grade, I used to always be on it, because that's when everyone was on it lol.

But, turn your computer off or something. && when you get home from school, get your homework done, and then when you're done you can get on the computer.

Or, if you don't have any homework, try going out with friends after school. Like going to the mall or going to get something to eat, or going to there house.

You could always just get on AIM at night or after school, then do your homework.

I hope this works and if you need anything else, just leave a message in my inbox.

♥ Kourtney

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4 more days of school left till x-mas break :) haha yay! but i dont think i can handle it seriously..me and school do NOT get along and lately we have been doin really hard things like we've been workin on this really hard and confusing essay in english and we're gonna have to work on it over break..DRABB! but i dont know if i can go thru with this 4 days it seems like forever! AND i know we are going to have a ton of test on thursday because thats just how our teachers are--having tests all on the same day. its just really stressful and school is sooo boring im gettin really sick of it and the people! any helpful ways to get thru this?
thanks gorgeous.

AHH! I know how you feel.

So much drama and work and finals!! It's killing me, I'm deffinatly ready for Christmas break!

Just study, study, study! Pass your classes. =)
You can do it! I BELIEVE IN YOU!! Hahaha.

Anywaysss, enough with jokes and what not haha.

Well, you must be excited for Christmas, try making a christmas chain =) I used to do that all the time! Everyday rip one off, childish I know, but you'll look forward to ripping it off everyday, and everyday it gets closer and closer to your break.

Every night, just study, really hard. Then when the test comes, just pretend like you're studying, then the same with the next class. Bring a magazine or a book or write a note to a friend to kill some time when you're done to make the time go by faster.

I hope this works!! If not, leave a message in my inbox and I'll try to help you out =)

Good luck on the tests and MERRY CHRISTMAS!!

♥ Kourtney

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ok well im 15 and im pretty tall maybe 5'8ish maybe a lil shorteR?!
anyways..
i havent weighed myself in awhile but im guessing i weigh about 120 pounds. i mean i feel FAT tho. i know im not but i always feel like i have to be working out or something..or like i shouldnt eat alot!! i feel really bad about doin this because i know im not fat! even people think i should gain weight but i dont want to - my stomach already seems to be gettin a lil chubbier but i dont know if its just me?!
ahhh im really messed up right now.. =[

Aww, sweetie!! It's okay.

You're right, you're NOT fat. You're really skinny and tall!! I'm 5'5 and 105 pounds! But, I eat all the time. && I'm sure you're like that too!

If you feel like you're "fat" just do like 25 situps every night (that's not alot) and just eat healthier, not all the time.

But, don't weigh yourself, that's good that you're not. Just try not to think of your weight or anything, but make sure you eat. It's not good to stop eating because if you do and then start eating again, you gain more weight. You should have 3 balanced meals a day. So, make sure you eat, just eat healthier. && just do some situps at night or you could always walk your block!

I hope this helps and if you need help with anything else, just leave a message in my inbox.

But, sweetie, it's okay! You're not messed up a lot of girls feel like that about themselves. But, you're not fat!

♥ Kourtney

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Hey babes.
Okay.. soo my friend kinda likes this kid. but she also likes another kid too haha its kinda confusing. and like ive seen one of the guys she likes and he is super HOTT and seems really funny. and i wanna meet him but my friend is wayyy to shy and i dont wanna be like yeah lets hang out with him and she'll be like why? and i'll be like i dunno..i mean she knows i think he is cute! but she wont have the nerve to hang out with him. i dont wanna wait to meet this kid he is sucha cutie! and then i will feel bad if i do meet him that we will start to flirt or something or he will look at me (sorry i dont wanna sound like selfish or anything) but then IF he does do that what do i do? i would sooo wanna flirt back but then i dont want her to get mad..but ugh i dont want to wait for her forever to make a move you know? i dont even know if she would get mad! and i dont wanna ask her..like what if he flirts with me or something because i dont wanna sound conceited. well i hope you know where im coming from
xoxo

Hey sweetie.

AHH!! I hate those situations. Well, your friend thinks this guy is hot (the one you like think is hot too) and another guy is hot. Sooo, she shouldn't be too hurt.... right?

Buuuut, I think you should try talking to her about it. That's just the right thing to do, so she doesn't get too hurt, mad, upset, etc.

Just be like "I know you like _______ and ________, but I think _____ is hot. I really wanna meet him and hang out with him, so I can get to know him. But, I don't want to just hang out with him if you don't want me to. We could always hang out together like me and ____ and you and _____"

Just say something like that and see how it goes!! It's not like you two can't be friends either ;)

I hope this helps and if you still need help, just leave a message in my inbox. Tell me how it goes.

♥ Kourtney

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well i shave "down there" or like the bottom part i do..i dont know its confusing but anyways how often should you shave it? or like keep it clean..everyday? and is it normal to feel kind of itchy and like prickles down there .. lol thanks.

I shave down there every like 3 days.

When you shave, you need to use LOTS of shaving cream or LOTS of soap. Shave like the opposite direction of what the hair is growing in.

If you want to, when you're down shaving down there, put on non-scented lotion.

I hope this helps and if you still need help, just leave a message in my inbox.

♥ Kourtney

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Yes i have kind of a problem...

so theres this cutie in one of my classes and like usually he "flirts" with me.or i think its flirting? but the kind of flirting he does is aggressive..like pushin you around and stuff..ist that considered flirting or considered "i dont like you get away from me" and then today like jokingly every time i walked by him he would like push me around and be like ya lil BiaTch! and then i would say somethin back..like "take it back" "take it back" and hes be like NoooOO! and then do you think he does this to flirt or does it because he doesnt like me?! hope ya can help!
thanks love

Hmm, boys are so confusing, seriously haha.
Frustrates me.

The whole like pushing you, jokingly, is kinda flirting. Kind of a weird way of flirting though.

But the whole lil Biatch part, wow dumb on his part.

So, tomorrow when he goes to push you, just laugh it off. When he calls you a "lil biatch" just ignore him or say a smart ass comment. Make him feel dumb when he says that haha.

But, if you like him, just flirt with him. But, he needs to stop calling you a lil biatch, not funny lol. He's probably trying to be funny, but it's not lol.

Hope this helps and if you need anything else, just leave a message in my inbox.

♥ Kourtney

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well im goin over to my friends this weekend..and what could i suggest to do..because most of the time we only sit on the computer..and i usually wanna go out and do stuff..hang out with guys and just have a good time!! but now we wont have a ride because yeah so i dont know how we could go anywhere? so any good ideas of what to do without a ride haha . thanks

Well, do you have any friends who can drive?

If not, you could always just invite people over. Girls and guys.

&& just hang out.

Watch some funny or scary movies and make a big bowl of popcorn. Play twister (so funny).

If you have a couple of people there, you'll think of more stuff to do, you always do!!

If there are stores around you that aren't far, you could always walk there and get some stuff, shop around.

I remember when my friends and I couldn't drive yet, we would walk up to Walgreens or something and get alllll this candy and some drinks (like energy drinks or something) my friend Ryan was giving me a piggy back ride. Just do fun stuff like that.

I hope this helps and if you still need ideas, just leave a message in my inbox.

Have fun!!

♥ Kourtney

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do you think having brown eyes and hair is ugly!? cuz usually the boys go for blue eyes..ughhhh i dont know? what could i do to make my eyes like shine and just very big and bold! i dont know how to do the smokey look or whatever so that doesnt help =\ any other suggestions!?
thanks

NO!! I think girls or boys look pretty with brown hair and brown eyes. My sister has brown eyes and hair.

If you don't like your eyes being the same color as your hair, you can try getting contacts. My sister got green ones (she has some green in her eyes to begin with).

Or, you could try getting Maybelline XXL (black) Volume mascara. To make your eyelashes look bigger and people will notice your eyes. You can also try using like a bronze (brown) eyeshadow. Then alittle bit of eyeliner on the bottom && top if you would like.

If that still doesn't work, just leave a message in my inbox. Hope this helps!!

♥ Kourtney

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okay well one of my good friends likes this lil hottie! and yeah ive never met him b4 but ive seen him around and shes told me alot about him. now i want to help her try and get him..what can i do? because she is wayyy to shy to go up and talk to him you know..even tho she talks to him in school i guess? im afraid that if i meet him or my friend wants me to talk to him or something that maybe he will start flirting with me..then what do i do?! im soo bad at like just blowing off hot guys..well not blowing off just not flirting back. because i would LOVE to flirt back but i DO NOT want to hurt my friend at all..what do i do!?

AHH. Tough situation.

Yeah, I've been in that situation before. It's hard.

Well, maybe have your friend go up with you while you guys all talk.

Get a conversation started with them, like something you think they'll have in commen (try asking her what his interests are and stuff) and once they realize they have stuff in commen, be like "Hey I'll be right back!" and let them be and let them talk and flirt and stuff.

But, let your friend know you'll be doing that so she doesn't freak out and tell her to flirt with him, so that way it looks like she's interested.. you know?

Well, I hope this helps and good luck for you friend!! If you still need help, just leave a message in my inbox.

♥ Kourtney

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whats somethin cute to wear sledding..like i dont wanna really wear snowpants?! embarassing?! lol but i dont really have that many cute things for outside! and i dont even think i have boots..haha but i dont wanna go buy any! DRAGGGGG!! lol i dont have anything cute..anything that i could put together that might look cute?! because if we see guys i still wanna look cute :) thanks babe

Hmm, well sweatpants are always soooo cute. I ♥ wearing sweatpants.

Guys also like girls who wear sweatpants because I guess they like your butt in it haha I don't know boys are weird.

So, find like sweatpants (comfy, cute, warm). Then wear like a thermal shirt, cute little gloves, a scarf, and ear muffs!! Sooo cute, that's what I would!!

If you don't have some of that, try asking a friend to see if you can borrow something for her so you're not cold!!

I hope this helps and if you still need more ideas, just leave a message in my inbox.

Have fun sledding!

♥ Kourtney

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Do u also have the problem that your hair tie/scrunchie slides out? I getting sick of it! please help! XO

I used to have that problem && I hated it so much!! UGH haha.

But, I don't anymore =)

Try using: Scunci. No Damage. Firm and Tight. Comfortable all day hold.

Try looking for that, you can find it anywhere, Target, Drug Store, anywhere that sells hair products!!

I hope this helps and good luck. If you need anything else, just leave a message in my inbox.

♥ Kourtney

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okay..well i kind of like this kid i dont even kno if i like him its just that im really attracted to him!!..he doesnt know yet tho..i dont know if he even knows me? maybe what i look like! haha anywaysss he likes to do stuff with girls i guess. or he has "gotten stuff" if ya kno what i mean. this makes me jealous because i know that he thinks other girls are hott! and that makes me really jealous..even tho i havent really even talked to this kid before but he is just hilarious and just a lil cutie! what do i do?! i really wanna makeout with him =0 thats a problem tho since i havent actually met him yet and i wont see him for AT LEAST about another 2 weeks..bummmer! but yeah and then when i see him its only for like 2 hrs and hes always talkin to other people..blahh! what do i doo? im really shy so that doesnt help..well when i first meet someone i am lol but i LOVE to flirt..just not right when i meet someone..well i do but yeah i dont knwo if you get it? and lately this guy is all i can think about seriously.. and i havent even met him i dont even think he knows i exist! but yeah .. when i go to bed i think about him every night before i go to sleep..like us bein together DREAMIN heheh.. maybe sounds obsessed? i dont know.. ahhh..got any ideas for me to get this guy!!
haha thank you dear

Well, when you do see him just go up to him and act all flirty. Like you said, yeah, you're shy when you first meet someone. BUT, if you really like him, then you'll go up to him. I mean, if you're not like that (doing stuff with guys) I wouldn't hook up with him, because he'll want to do stuff with you. You can always just make out with him I guess haha. But, when you see him, just make sure you flirt with him so he doesnt notice you since you don't think he knows you exist. && once he see's you I'm sure he'll be like "WOW" haha. But, trust me, don't hook up with a guy who's always thinking girls are hot or always doing stuff with girls (getting some), etc. they're no good. I've hooked up with a guy like that, got hurt. You don't want or need that. But, if you really want to just make out with him!! But, the only way you can talk to him is if you over come your shyness. If you really want to talk to him, you'll over come this, trust me. I hope this helps and if you need anything else or need more help, just leave a message in my inbox.

♥ Kourtney

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