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AY YOO!! my name is sara & i can give some pretty sweet advice =]. i guess i'm supposed to talk about me here .. soo yeah here ya gooo =]

my room's always messy & i hate capitalizing my i's. I'm a picky eater but i eat lots of food (mainly junkfood =D). i am very unorganized and i usually forget my homework, but i'm working on it. i don't like concentrating because i'm not good at it. i'm obviously not perfect, but then again who in their right mind would say so. i like using big words, and yes i do know what they mean. i'm a pretty good speller and i like acting literate when i'm actually not at all. i don't bother with people who don't like me. if you have anything against me, i'm simply not going to waste my time trying to get you to favor me.. in my opinion, its your loss. i type really fast and i use the backspace button alot even though i don't like to. i wish my eyes weren't blue, but i would never get colored contacts. i eat too many famous amos cookies and i love kettlecorn .. mmmm =] i know that i do not have all the answers to life, but i will try my best to help you people out. i'm pretty good at giving advice on friendship related things, because i think i'm pretty good at being a friend; considering i have no enemies. i'm not so good on school work related questions, but ask me them anyway & i'll give you a website where you can try to find what you're looking for =) i hate writing english papers because i suck immensely at organizing my thoughts. i am very gullable & easily influenced. i judge people way too much even though i'm not that confident. i need to stop that. actually, there's several things i need to change about myself, but you're not perfect either. i talk alot and sometimes i mumble because, i don't know why but i just do. i think i do it when i get nervous and i talk real quiet and it's annoying and i hate it. i also talk fast which is another thing i need to stop. i always have something to say, and i won't hesitate to say it. alright i'm done, bye.

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Is giving head considered Anal Sex?

nope lol. i think you might be confusing it with oral sex. giving head is considered oral sex. =) ♥

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There's this really popular guy who's in lots of my classes (I'm 13 and so is he) and seems to act strange around me. He acts like kind of a smart ass towards me, but in a funny, playful way that he doesn't to anyone else, and says stuff like "I like your necklace." It's hard to describe, but it feels like he's flirting. But I'm worried I might be taking it the wrong way. I never really flirt back because if he wasn't flirting in the first place, I'll look like a fool. Also, he's got a girlfriend, and I don't want her to get mad. How do guys flirt???

guys flirt in all sorts of ways, and even though he does have a girlfriend, it sounds like he was flirting with you. =) it's okay to fliry back ♥ i don't think his girlfriend will get mad. just make sure you don't like hang allll over him, and only flirt BACK. since he has a girlfriend, don't start the flirting. like if he were to start flirting with you, it would be okay to do it back since he started it, but since he DOES have a girlfriend, i wouldn't start any of the flirting. only do it back when you really think he is. have fun =) lol ♥

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My boyfriend and I were fooling around, we never had sex and my hymen isn't broken. Things got a little carried away and we were rubbing our "private" parts together, but my stuff never touched the top of his. Is there any way I'm pregnant? I've been freaking out because my period is late, but I am so irregular that I normally miss a few months anyway. I'm just worried, so any input would be great.

well there's always a possibility, but i highly doubt it. he would have had to get sperm on you and it would have had to go inside and it doesn't sound like it did. if you're still worried, you can get a pregnancy test JUST to be sure. but i really don't think you are =] ♥

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My bf lives out of state and he is coming to see me for valentines day. i am taking him dancing and i already have this very cute dress. I tried to scrunch my hair... which is what i want to do for valentines day but my hair wont stay. It is naturally straight and wont hold a curl no matter what. I have tried hairspray, gel and mousse. any ideas on how to get my hair to hold without getting a perm or going to a salon? Any particular products that work for you? I really want to scrunch my hair but it isnt holding. It will hold for about 1 minute then it will straighten back out.

I rate high!!

okayyy well what you could do it towel dry it so it's damp but not like soaking. get the knots out (you can use your fingers or a comb) and then like spray gel all over your hair. and make like little messy buns .. haha i don't know how to explain it but take a chunk of your hair, put gel in it, scrunch that little section and clip it to your head. do that all over your head and maybe put some hair spray in it when you're done. take them out and it should be scrunched. sometimes i wear my hair in a messy bun and i use gel. so i put my hair in a ponytail, scrunch the ponytail and tie it up like that. when i take it out, it's really scrunched so i'm thinking if you do that all over your head, it will look cute =] hair spray helps ♥. sorry if it's not the best answerr! i triedd =\ ♥

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i know this sounds weird, but can a girl have sex when she has her period?

yeah but it's kinda discustingg lol. cuz she wouldn't be able to have a tampon or anything in, and it would be reallyyyy messssyy. plus most girls don't really like it. ♥

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i am 15/f highschool, and i want to have sex, badly. i know that i'm ready for it. but my boyfriend and i both agree on waiting til theres a time where we dont have to worry about getting caught, and when he can actually love me after and not me have to leave, you know, well, i live in wilson. and i'm also afraid itd going to get around, but its weird cuz. i trust him. and dont think that he will tell anyone, but i dont trust myself.. kinda. i meaan, i told people when i gave my ex a handjob, and shit, but i kinda think sx, is a diff, story, you know, my mom would kill me if she found out.

confused& hatin hormones

um well i really don't wanna sound rude or snotty, but i'm not sure what your question is =P so my advice for this question is to im me again and clear up your question. sorry! please don't rate me bad if this is bad advice, lol. i'm just not sure what you're trying to ask. ♥

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13/f i like this guy lets call him coby who never talks to me at school because he is really popular but at hebrew school we flirt and talk and laugh. He is the "speedy type" who is only 13 but has had a blow job and i really want to be speedy to. Should i ask him out and does he like me??? what should i do because i dont want to make a fool out of myself? i rate high!

okay well first to answer the question that's your subject (who should i like) you can't control who you like. if you can control that, then it's just a physical attraction and you don't really like them. liking someone should come from your heart .. not whoever you wanna like. kinda like how you can't just stop liking someone. you have to slowly get over them.

don't just go up to him and ask him out out of the blue. you didn't give me enough information for me to say whether or not he likes you too. guys flirt shamelessly and all the time. (i'm not saying that he doesn't like you, i'm saying guys flirt and mean nothing by it, and they can flirt and mean everything by it.) so i would ask your frinds and his friends to get information, hang out with him more and look for clues. maybe get a bunch of friends together and go to the movies and sit by him. then, if you're starting to think he likes you, maybe if you feel like it, ask him out.

DON'T be afraid to make a fool out of yourself. life if too short and you're only 13, (i don't mean that in a bad way i meant that you have another 60 or 70 years to live .. maybe less, maybe more) you have ALOT more life to live. if you never ask him, you'll never know. but if you're afraid of being shot down, then do what i said in the paragraph above. snoop around and look for hints.

good luck babe! :D ♥ life is too short to worry about looking dumb. have fun with your life to the fullest extent and take risks (not like risks where you could die lol) but you get the idea. life's short, live it up ♥

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what is oral sex

haha um sex that involves the mouth. lol that's the only description i can give without getting like pornographical. but like a blow job for example is considered oral sex. other stuff too but this is an advice column not like a porn column =P

sorry if it's not a very good answerr, but um google it. be careful of getting porn though! lol ♥

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I play field hockey, which mostly requires running, but now I'm off-season, and I need to do track.


In order to try out, you have to do push ups, sits ups, pull ups....all that fun stuff.

My question is, how exactly can you improve the amount of push-ups you do? I can do a few, but I want to be able to do more.

like danika (charmed3fanatic) said, start off with 'girl' push-ups. you get in the position to do a normal push-up, but you know how your knees are normally off of the ground? bend them. here's a picture of someone in the position to do one: http://www.thebodysculptress.com/Members/Exercises/pushup-girl.jpg have any more questions, ask me or im me or ask your gym teacher♥

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Well, ok, here's the deal. I'm fourteen and i have a group of really close friends. I don't get crushes on girls, but my one friend has really nice, larger breasts and I like to touch them. This is because I am on the smaller side. Occasionally she lets me feel her, but sometimes she laughs it off. I enjoy it when I'm able to touch her. But, I just get turned on by things like this and horny.. Does this happen to anyone else? Also, there's this girl that touches me alot in those areas and it gets me really horny. I jsut like experimenting. Can someone please help me out? Thank you; I'll rate all fives.

like you said you just like experimenting. i think you're just growing up and getting more curious lol .. nothing to be worried about ♥ =] x0

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sorry, i have a limmeted time online, but how do you deleat songs off your ipod nano?just deatailed directoins will do, thank you!

well this is what you do for the mini .. you go to iTunes and the songs that you don't want anymore, delete them off of iTunes and then hook up your iPod and update it. and it should work =] hope i helped! ♥ (it was the best i could do since i only have a mini)

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heyy.. im like totally not fat.. really im skinny like my clothes are xs and stuff like that.. but for some reason whenever im around my friends who are smaller or im looking in the mirror i ALWAYS think that im like hhuuggee like im really fat or something..idk whats wrong with me cause one day ill be like ok im not fat im skinny.. but then another day ill be like IM SOOOOO FAT !! idk what to do !!!

okay well whatever you do, don't start thinking that you're anorexic or something. you just need to get confidence and stop comparing yourself to other people. i know it's rreally hard, but try and you'll feel 100 times better about yourself. i used to get like that too sometimes. i'd be at home by myself and i'd be like wow i kinda look okay right now. but then when i would get with friends who are prettier then me or something, i'd be like wow i was wrong. then i decided to stop comparing myself to everyone else and i realized that everyone is different. some are skinnier, some are fatter, some are prettier, some are uglier - everyone's different. so again, just try not to compare yourself to other people .. you need to learn to love yourself ♥ i'm sure you can do it =] hope i helpedd!! *x0

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i am twelve years old, almost five feet and 87 pounds. i eat junk food like all the time so i know im not anorexic but is this normal for my age?


thanks, ill rate

yes i'd say it's normal ♥ you shouldn't eat so much junk food because it's fattening (not the kind of fattening where you get 'meat on your bones' where it makes you unhealthy)

as your doctor to be 100% sure.

ps. you are NOT anorexic. if you were anorexic you'd know it. you would be like 30 or 40 pounds. (a 21 yr old w/ anorexia weighs around 50 pounds) anorexia is when you are obsessed with the fact that you think you're fat even when you're like ALL skin and bones. it's completely in their head and it is a disorder and people with anorexia usually can't even live at home. you do not have anorexia. ♥

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13/f
is this werid?
i take off my clothes and look at myself in the mirror and want to do stuff but i dont kno what? it feels good being naked what should i do. i like my boobs and others ppl's boobs. i want to have sex or something what is hapening

aw it's no big deal lol. it's just your hormones kicking in. you're getting older and more curious. =] ♥

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ok im 12 years old.. five feet..and im 98 pounds.. do you think thats normal.. or do you think normal would be around ..idk 80 ??

well since you're 5 feet, i'd say it's pretty close to normal. remember NORMAL ISN'T ALWAYS HEALTHYYY.

if anyone tells you to go to any kind of website that tells you if you're too fat, too skinny, or too anything, don't. because those sites are over dramatic and if you're 'too skinny' they'll tell you that you're anerexic and if you're 'too fat' they'll tell you you're obese. so don't go to ANY of those sites because they don't know your body.

the best way to find out if you are over or under weight is to ask your doctor because your he or she will know WAY better than me what the healthy weight is for you and what's not.

sorry if this answer wasn't very clear, but i tried! hope i helped? lol ♥ =]

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what does it mean if a guy is "Studley?"

theres a servey thats like.. do you like

studley hot or cute

i want a real answer.. and don't say you don't know please.. if you don't know please find out!! hehe thanks!

well a stud is someone who's like a preppy jock type. so a buff football player who wears hollister, abercrombie and stuff annd dresses preppy, and if lotsa girls like him, then he's considered a stud. =] hope i helpedd ♥ (thanks btw =*)

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my gf lives kinda far away and my dad wont take me to go see her. she cant come over unless shes got another girl friend with her. being that as it may that defeats the purpose. any suggestions on were i could get some time alone. p.s. 14/m and the movies wont work cuz ive alredy tried.

i don't know if guys would like this but you could meet your girlfriend at the mall! haha i'm sure your g/f wouldn't mind that =] you could go out to dinner or something? i would have said the movie thing but you said you tried already. idk if you tried this, but bring friends to the movies with you guys and when you all get there, you and your girlfriend could go 'watch' a different movie =] hope i helped?! ♥ *x0

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I was shopping yesterday and I bought a shirt and my total was 17 dollars and something cents. Well I grabbed into my wallet and thought I pulled out a 20 and gave it to the casher.


I don't know if she wasn't paying attention or what but after she put the bill into the register, she asked me what I gave her. I said it was a 20 because I thought it was.


When I was at home I was looking through my wallet and I REALIZED THAT I GAVE HER A 100 DOLLAR BILL!


Now I don't know if it's too late to go back tomorrow and see if I can get my money back. Would they give it to me??

they might give it back to you if they look on the security cameras and if they're able to see whether it was a $20 bill or a $100 bill. they'll probably give it back to you .. definitely if they know that it was a 100 and not a twentyy .. make sure you bring the receipt and maybe the shirt & it's tag? idk if the shirt would help, but the receipt most likely would. good luckk! ♥ :D

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ok i clicked on my friend's myspace & it was a virus cause there was porn on it..yeah disgusting but like im running a virus scan now. is there anything i can do from preventing this?? er anythingggggg else?? are their virus's like major er what.

thanks!!

well before you click on links, right click and go to 'show hyperlink' that way you'll know what you're really clicking on. like those viruses that go around on aim like look at my pictures! or something .. don't click on those things and if you're ever unsure, just right click 'show hyperlink'. then if that's the right site that you intended to go to, you can click 'launch' and it will take you there. hope i helped =] ♥

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Hey guys! I need help. I need to know about having sex, you know, the kindsof sex, how to do it, how it feels, consiquinces. You know! Any advice or websites I could go to? Il rate 5's to every answer.
Michaela

i'm not gonna search it for you because it would probably give me like tons of porn sites so here

only search advicenators.com


look there ^ =] (you can change the text obviously lol) ♥

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