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Hey all! I'm 15, almost 16 *August 5th* and I go to Utica High School. It's a decent school, but living in Michigan is a downer seeing as we have the most sporadict weather ever. But, I still love it. I wouldn't move if I had the chance. =) Anywho, I love Forensics, It's my biggest hobby I probably have. And no, it isn't CSI or any of that stuff, it's Competitive Speech, but not like debate. I do the drama portion of it. Haha. I also love to sing. It's my dream to grow up and sing for a band for be solo, far fetched, but I can dream dammit! I like anybody who can make me laugh, and hate people who are 'stuck up' and 'serious' all the time. People need to learn to let loose, you know? I'm also a Christian, because God is effin' cool. He's cooler than you, remember that. Also, highschoolers really need to remember : "Save yourself for the one God saved for you." There are so many sluts in my school, it isn't even funny. Rather sad if you ask me. Other than that, I'm a pretty normal teen.
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I'm 16 years old and want to start going to a gyno. I've had sex once in my life, it was actually a mistake a few years ago, and I know I was very young. (He didn't really go in that far and I doubt even my hymen is broke) My mom is fine with the idea and thinks nothing of it but just that I want to make sure everythings fine down there. Also, I sometimes finger myself and I don't even know if my hymen is broke. Will the gyno tell my mom I'm not a virgin or that my hymen is broke? If my mom found out I had sex or finger myself, I'd be so embarrased. Is it all confidential?
Shes your mom - She'll understand, and if you go to the Gyno, i'm sure you could ask him/her to keep everything confidential. Finding out that your 'cherry is popped' and that you 'finger' yourself, is embarrasing, but i'm sure it's happened to your mother. She has seen it before, i'm sure. There is nothing in you she hasn't seen or heard of. So don't feel embarresed if she finds out, or and just so you know, the Gyno cannot find out if you 'finger' yourself, though he/she can find out if your Hymen is broken.
Good luck.
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its my friends birthday on sunday.. n im going to her party saturday to sunday.. i have no idea what to get her!! shes a punk girl who likes soccer.. so if u could give me ideas thatd b great!! i'll rate u!!
How about getting her something soccer oriented. Like, maybe some Hip soccer-ball earings, some cute socks (Every girl loves them) And then maybe some jelly bracelets. Those are awesome. Or, you could get her a soccer ball, and decorate with like names of her faviorte bands, and her name, and stuff like that. Just be creative with whatever you do, because i'm sure she'll love it!
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Ok I know this may sound wierd and all but the other day I was searching around in my parents room and i found strange things like handcuffs, whips, and wierd looking masks. I remember watching something on television about this sort of thing but im not sure if its really happening with my parents. Can somebody tell me what i should look out for.
Those things you found in your parents room, are 'toys' they use to make the sexual intercoarse more fun - gross, I know.
You don't have to look out for anything, treat them no different.
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Ha! Weird.
I liked an answer you gave to a question I was also answering, so I clicked through to see your column. And I see you're from Utica...and I bet you're also the one who was asking me about where in Michigan I was from.
Weird to run into you, but interesting.
Hm. I'm utterly confused. Do I know you?
Okay, this is a weird question, I'm sure...but I figure I may as well see what y'all say.
Okay...my boyfriend kind of has a thing for "dirty talk" and I think it's totally ridiculous. I start laughing whenever he says something and expects me to respond. I think it bothers him that I keep giggling, but I can't help it! To me, it just seems so totally fake and stupid...
I mean, I've tried playing along, but I just feel so awkward and stupid, saying things like...that...
Should I try to do something about my giggling problem (lol)? Should I tell him I just can't do it? What do you guys think?
Tell him the truth-you don't like it. Straight up and simple, it'll let him know, and chances are he will cease the nasty chatter.
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Hey, this guy told me how much he really liked me the other day and I turned him down because I wanted to be single but now he is goin out with my best friend and I changed my mind I think I'm jealous, but what should I do
You most likely are jealous, because he jumped from you to your best friend. You should stay clear of him, because you don't want to truin ties with your bestfriend. Remember, no boyfriend or date is worth that of a friend. You should stay away from him, and don't let him know that you like him.
The old saying 'boyfriend stealer" is a bad thing. You could really hurt your friend and make her feel bad if you tell her you like this guy. She might feel bad that he jumped from you to her. She also might accuse you of jealosly, and you two could have a huge fight, which you don't want. Best thing to do, is just forget about him and get someone that isn't with your best friend.
Plus, this guy is probably a loser anyways. He obviosly didn't like you that much, if he can just forget about you and go to your best friend.
What a loser, seriosly.
Forget about this sleez-bag and get a real man, not an immature boy.
Have a good one~!~
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i have a friend lets call her janis. janis has been acting really strangley lately. like leaving me out of our three person group by talking about classes she has with the other person so i cant really say anything, judging everything i say, constantly talking about things like global warming and other things like that to sound smart. I always thought she was smart so she doesnt need to do that kind of thing. the other day she even said something about mt.kilamanjaro but spelled it kilamanjari and i corrected her and she said she typed it that way just to see if i would catch it. i have another best friend jared and he was an old boyfriend of janis last year, she never acted like she was that hurt that he dumped her until now where now she acts like he killed her mother. anyway when she said that thing about kilmanjaro (sorry this is really hard to follow )was online and after she said that i told her she wasnt acting like the old janis and signed off. now she won't even look at me. what should I do? I want my old friend back....:-)
You need to tell your friend, what you told us-you know she's smart, she dosn't have to pretend.Ask her why she is flipping out about an old boyfriend, when they broke up long ago. Just ask her why she is having a sudden change of heart in everything.
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I have a friend who recently broke up with her boyfriend. They decided to just remain friends. She is troubled because he's everything that she could possibly want in a future husband and he feels the same way about her in viewing her as the perfect wife but for someone reason feels god doesn't want them to be together right now. She is trying everything to show her love to him? What should she do? She feels a lot of hurt and is heartbroken over this? She's willing to do a lot to have him?
This is outside my answer, but why are there sentences, with question marks at the end of them, when they're not a question?
Anyways, She feels that God has broke them apart. I don't understand your question, but what I think you should do is let the situation be. If she believes strongly in her religion, then she'll know that if God wants her and her boyfriend together, then they will be.
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Okay...my friend who is 13. Recently just went oit and got hammered..on whisky. and its not like this is his first time either. He is my best friend..and yeah i kinda like him. He said a lot of things when he was drunk..but i wouldnt know because i got up at 2:30 am and walked alone, all the way home..and he just stuck his head out the door and said :make it home safe: well..my step sister said that she mothered him the whole night. he drank half a bottle of whiskey. He said that he wanted to fuck me, that i was going to be so pissed at him..a lot of shit.
Should i beleive anything he says? he keeps on apologizing to me..
well my question is, how do i tell him that im really dissapointed in him without making him feel shittier then he already feels?
What a person says when they are drunk, can be over exagerations of whats really going on. When he said "I want to f*ck her" he most likly meant in sober-talk, that he likes you, and when he said "she'll be pissed at me" he probably meant, you'll be dispointed in him.
Seeing as how you're best friends, i'm sure he knows that you're disapointed in his actions, just let low from him for a while, make sure you let him know that you don't like the drinking, and espically talking about you when he's drunk.
Don't tell him you're dissapointed in him, because i'm sure he already knows, considering he is your best friend, and best friends know a lot about eachother.
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I was really good friends with this girl named madeline.... today she came up to me and punched me in the face in school(i still am in school right now) for no reason at all! I fell on the ground and didn't hit her back! I should of (well i think so at least) And i didn't! Should i of went after her or did i do the right thing by not hitting her back?
You did the right thing. The old cliche "two wrongs don't make a right" applys here. By hitting her back, you could have ruined everything between the two of you. Meaning, SHE'D have to apologize in order to be friends agian and you wouldn't.
Maybe you should ask what caused the anger-induced punch-maybe she misunderstood something you did? It'd be best to figure out what you did...before you do anything else, and plead your case. If you don't believe you did anything wrong, ask her what the hell is her problem, and tell her she needs a more mature way to exert her anger, rather than flipping out on you.
The best of luck, dear.
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hey i have a problem, there are these 4 guys and they all like me 3 of them are friends and the other one is seperate and doesnt know them... the thing is I don't wanna hurt anyone of them... help me plz... what should I do.
Well, pick the guy that YOU like. Perhaps it would be best to go with the guy whom isn't friends with the other 3. That way, you'll have a better chance of not having the 3 friends fight over you.
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there's this guy who i've met at school and we're getting really close. we like eachother but we didnt start dating... yet.
well his parents and grandparents died and he really doesn't have a permenant home, he just goes wherever and is constantly out on his own. he doesn't really have anyone to support him and buy him clothes and stuff
but im afraid if i date him, my parents will not approve because we've always been brought up from good homes and families. it doesnt bother ME at all but my parents always look down upon "poor" people. also, what should i do/say to him? he doesnt know that i know. i feel bad. should i offer anything? help! thanks
No. Don't offer anything. I'm sure he wouldn't want a rich girl,feeling sorry for him. Espeically one he likes, because he'll think you don't like him that way, you were only feeling sorry for him.
Thing is, you can't really do anything about him. Let him be his own person, and date who you wants, you 'rents aren't there to down every guy you day, espically based on if he is 'poor'.
The best of luck, Dear.
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what does it meen if a guy gives you beads? my cousin was all talking about how slutty these gurls were because they were sitting by their boyfriends with a whole bunch of beads around their necks. i didn't know but laughed along with her with no idea on what she was talking about. i know it must have somthing to do with sex but what? p.s. please don't delete!
Girls will recive beaded neclaces if they show men or anyone there breasts. At Marty Graws, thats very popular. Girls 'flash' or show there breats, for beads.
if a guy likes two girls... Ones 19 ones 15 and his 19... He likes both of them equally... Which one should he go out with... Or should he go out with both
The 19 year old, only. Because one-being with the 15 year old is illeagal...and nasty. And 2 you'd probably have fun with the girl his own age, not someone 4 years younger than him.
The best of luck, dear.
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Ok me and this guy went out in 7th grade i went out with him not cause i liked him cause my friend wanted me to go out with him... Well we went out for like a week and i broke up with him... Well now 10th grade... And i have the biggest crush on him and he likes me too... But he said he doesnt want to go out with me till the middle of the year cause he liked this girl.. (thats now going out with his close friend) But my friend is going to hook us up...Should i go out with him or no
No, you shouldn't be a rebound for him. Find another guy that will go out with you now, not later because he is waiting for someone else.
Sorry so short.
The best of luck, Dear.
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well i just got my period yesterday and i wear pads but i have gym today and im scared the pad will fall out/off when we are running , ect! HELP!
Thats not going to help, lol. As long as it clings to your undies, it should be fine. And if not, ask your teacher in private about your problem, maybe he/she will let you out of it.
Maybe you could try tampons?
The Best Of Luck, Dear.
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My dad got a job in San Antonio, Texas. I'm EXTREMELY happy!!!!! But the thing is, in a way, I don't want to move. I live in Central Pennsylvania, so its definitely a big move. I know I can't stop my rents from moving. But, I'm just going to miss my whole life. I grew up here, I'm going to have to start all over. Is this normal?
Of course it's normal. No one wants to pick up a good life, with friends and family around them, and then move to a strange new town, surronded by people they don't know. It's very normal.
But, you'll make new friends, as clice as that sounds, you will. And you'll love them just as much as you will your old ones.
You'll love it in San Antonio, love the nice warm weather! You'll make lots of friends, and probably go to a nice school, plus Texans have great accents!!
The Best Of Luck, Dear.
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I really really like my boyfriend but he's always doing things on the weekend to do with scouts and his church and things. I don't think he's only saying that to avoid me but I really want to spend time with him. What should I do?
Respect that he has things important in his life to do. You're important aswell, but maybe he'd wish to do these first.
Ask him if he'd like to schedule a time to spend with you, other than Church and Scouts.
Tell him what you're telling us, that you really like him and you really wanna spend time with him-if he dosn't take the message, kick him to the curb. You deserve time to.
The best of luck, dear.
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My friend who is a guy (tom) told me that my boyfriend (jon) had been in touch with one of jon's ex's. He said they'd been sending each other dirty texts and that jon had said if his ex didn't live so far away he'd break up with me and go out with her. I asked jon about it but he said Tom was lying. I want to believe him but why would Tom lie to me? Tom keeps trying to get me to break up with jon but he's one of his best friends, what should I do?
You need to talk to your friend Tom, maybe he's jealos of your realationship with Jon, you never know.
Next, try to talk to this ex girl. Ask her whats up.
Talk to Jon more, try to put him in a situation where he might confess to cheating on you, then agian, Tom might be lying.
I think it's unliking though, because you said he is Jons best friend, and that you trust Tom and Tom wouldn't lie to you.
Also, get your boyfriend, and Tom together. Have Tom, tell Jon what he's been telling you. Make sure you're there. Because if Tom dosn't tell him to your face, Tom was probably lying. You'll get good answers if you do it that way.
The Best Of Luck,Dear.
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okay i was just wondering if it's normal that i 14 and dont have my period....i was at the doctors and he said that hey will have to investagrate to see wuts wrong if i dont start sooner but then again in my eyes hes a gay doctor and i dont like or will ever listen to him. but from experienced ppl and everything is it normal that i haven't started? i will be 15 soon in january. thank you guys in advance.
First off, someones sexuality, does not denote there practice of work-You have to trust your doctor, because right now, he's the only one that can see whats wrong with you.
You'll probably get it soon, don't worry.
The best of luck,Dear.
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