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is he cheating?
My friend who is a guy (tom) told me that my boyfriend (jon) had been in touch with one of jon's ex's. He said they'd been sending each other dirty texts and that jon had said if his ex didn't live so far away he'd break up with me and go out with her. I asked jon about it but he said Tom was lying. I want to believe him but why would Tom lie to me? Tom keeps trying to get me to break up with jon but he's one of his best friends, what should I do?
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This one is kinda tough. Its one of those moments when you think should you believe wut you hear or believe wut he says. If you really like him or even love him then you would believe him. To be in a relationship you have to trust each other trust me ive learned. Maybe ur friend likes you and that is why he keeps telling you stuff. just sit down and talk to ur b.f.
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rite... maybe tom is jelous and he likes u or sumtin. either that or ur bf is really doin dat. well, just tawk wit them together or seperatley.good luk.
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You need to talk to your friend Tom, maybe he's jealos of your realationship with Jon, you never know.
Next, try to talk to this ex girl. Ask her whats up.
Talk to Jon more, try to put him in a situation where he might confess to cheating on you, then agian, Tom might be lying.
I think it's unliking though, because you said he is Jons best friend, and that you trust Tom and Tom wouldn't lie to you.
Also, get your boyfriend, and Tom together. Have Tom, tell Jon what he's been telling you. Make sure you're there. Because if Tom dosn't tell him to your face, Tom was probably lying. You'll get good answers if you do it that way.
The Best Of Luck,Dear.
AskMegan
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i think Tom is jealous and likes you. hes trying to break you and jon up....but thats just what i think. talk to tom about it
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Hmmm sounds like there's a couple possibilities here.It sounds like Tom may like you himself,and whether it's true that Jon is texting his ex or not,he's telling you and encouraging you to break up with him,therefore making you available! It is also possible that Tom is making it up to break you up,and if so that's a lousy thing to do.I would trust your man for now but kinda be on your toes.Watch how he acts,like if anything seems different or anything.If need be,talk to another one of his friends and see what he says!Let your man know that you're not gonna let him play you,and that he needs to be straight with you.You deserve the best,and you deserve honesty!But it really sounds to me like Tom likes you himself!!!
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The motives for lying to you could be many things - there is no way to really know, though. He could think that by breaking you two up, that he could move in and have you for himself. He could also just be jealous. Or he could just be a jerk. Being that I don't actually know any of you, it is hard to guess... but those are my thoughts.
My advice? The next time this guy starts into his "break you up" routine, call him on it - make him well aware that you don't appreciate his dirt digging and that you perceive his comments to be deceptions. Let him know it is unwanted, and unless he can offer some verifiable reason why you should believe his crap, then he needs to shut up. Inform him that for a friend, he's not being a very good one.
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Talk to Jon about it and make him prove to you that he isnt doing anything behind your back, or make Tom prove that Jon's cheating on you
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