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there's this guy who i've met at school and we're getting really close. we like eachother but we didnt start dating... yet.
well his parents and grandparents died and he really doesn't have a permenant home, he just goes wherever and is constantly out on his own. he doesn't really have anyone to support him and buy him clothes and stuff
but im afraid if i date him, my parents will not approve because we've always been brought up from good homes and families. it doesnt bother ME at all but my parents always look down upon "poor" people. also, what should i do/say to him? he doesnt know that i know. i feel bad. should i offer anything? help! thanks
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Well if u really like him... maybe go out with him. Buy him a nice pair of clothes for, say its for a one week anniversary or sumthin... just make something up. have him put that on. or u can skip getting it for him if he has a nice pair of clothes. But have him put on a nice pair of clothes and introduce him to your parents. See if they like him (but don't tell them he's poor) and if they like him then u could tell them hes poor and they should react ok if they like him. If they accept that ur going out with him then maybe he can move in with u. (after a while of course). and for the part about if you should offer him anything, I'm not sure he might take it as an insult, or he might accept it, it depends on how he is.
hope I helped
-Sirna
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tell ur parents u relle liek this guy and all the great things about him, if ur parents are agianst poor people its relle something to talk about because this guy u like proably doesnt have anything to do with how he was brought up, maybee let ur parents meet him if ur comfortable with it and i no if my parents said i couldnt go out with sum 1 for a stupid reason liek being poor i would stil do it..follow ur heart xox tessa
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Hey~ well first of all its not his fault he is poor and your parents should be able to understand and maybe sometimes offer him some meals. Your parents shouldn't judge him on how much money he has. Maybe you should ask him out on a date, because he has been through a lot. Well I hope it works out! ~Paige~
Let me know how is goes!
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Yur parents should like him for who he is, not how much money he has. Tell them that u really luv this guy, and if they really want u to be happy, then they shud let u go wit it. Tell them that he's goin through a hard time rite now, and he really needs support. U wanna be there for him, even as a friend. Tell yur parents, and hopefully they'll learn to appreciate him more and let u be happy :)
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^_^ Maybe they won't look down upon him so much if they know you like him. Those who got it bad shouldn't be looked down upon. They're stronger and have lasted longer.
If they still feel this way while you date him, try to influence them, or....outwit them. Say things like. "Is it because he's poor?" or "Why don't you want me to date him?"
It always works to let them know you know they're wrong. XD
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Your parents look down on poor peopel, wow that's messed up since most poor people can't help that there poor but anyways if you like him and care about him than you should help him out it doesn't really matter if your parents looks down on him just because he's not as 'fortounate'as your family. You can agree with me or not but if i were in his shoes i'de want help from any good careing person who'de offer it.
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No. Don't offer anything. I'm sure he wouldn't want a rich girl,feeling sorry for him. Espeically one he likes, because he'll think you don't like him that way, you were only feeling sorry for him.
Thing is, you can't really do anything about him. Let him be his own person, and date who you wants, you 'rents aren't there to down every guy you day, espically based on if he is 'poor'.
The best of luck, Dear.
AskMegan
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TO: (anonymous)
act like you dont noe...if he hadnt told you then dont say anythin...he prolly dunt want anyone looking down on him and pitying him just coz he dunt hab a home...also date him for HIM and not for wat he HAS...yor parents would understand sooner or later that money idnt the onie thing a person shoold hab...a heart of pure gold is more than any amount of dollars anyone can hab...ya noe?
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Wat eva u do,do not offer him anything cuz he might have already had so many offers fron ppl that think he can't survive on his own, but if u really like the guy then it shouldn't matta to ya wat ur parents think it should matta wat u think and how u feel abut him. Just remember that ur parents can't decide who u go out with!!
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