My name is Angel, and I love helping people. I'm anything but perfect, and I don't expect anyone else to be. I don't judge, and I don't try to make peoples choices for them. I simply try to help in the best way I can. I've been through some very good, and very bad times in my life. They have sculpted me into the beautiful mess you see before you today.
I'm here for anyone who needs anything I have to offer, so don't be afraid to ask, or vent. Whichever will help.
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Location: Georgia
Age: 19
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ok, i'll try to make this short and sweet. i've been with this guy whom i've liked since august for 3 months, officially, but we'd been "talking" since january. he's a great guy and i like him sooo much, starting to love him. not "in love", but you know.
recently, my first love has come back into my life. we were together for a year and a half, and one night he sexually assualted me. i ended things and we had a very painful break up. then we didnt talk for a few months. that one night was the first and only time anything like that happened, otherwise we were inseperable and completely perfect together. i said i would never take him back though, because that hurt me soooo much and really kinda messed me up for awhile. now that he's back in my life and we've been talking, i'm realizing that i never got over him. he was my first love so i guess a part of me always will. but he's not over me either, and holds back saying i love you to me since i'm with my new guy, even though he's almost slipped up a few times, and says he still misses me. i do miss him alot and he wants to come visit me at work one day, which im fine with, for the most part. i just dont want to fall deeper and deeper for him. on the other hand, i dont wanna quit talking to him, because we're finally ok as friends again after having gone through a lot of sh!t.
i DONT want to hurt my current boyfriend at all. i love being with him and i wanted him for so long, i dont want to screw that up, but my ex and i were so much more... compatible? and honestly, i dont think he would do what he did again. i dont even know what im asking. i dont want to mess up my relationship, i guess i just need to be able to get past my feelings for my ex, while still talking to him. i cant just tell myself that i cant be with him in hopes that that will work, because i know i cant be with him, but he still has a part of my heart. help !? (link)
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Honey there so many things I feel but don't know how to express in a way that won't upset you.
He hurt you, and you know that. Did you expect it the first time? Probabaly not. Back then you thought this guy would never hurt you, but he did! So what makes you so sure he wouldn't do it this time?
It one thing to forgive someone, but letting him back in is only an invitation to do it again. I'm saying people can't change, but don't take the chance. it he didn't respect you back then, history says he respect you now.
The only way you'll get over him and what he did to you is to just get him out of your life. Your kidding yourself if you think you can keep talking to him, and kill your feelings for him at the same time.
It seems like your new boyfriend really cares for you, and you for him. The only thing holding it back from becoming more is you. Your refusing to let go of this boy, and i suspect your also refusing to let go of that pain he caused you.
Do yourself a favor and walk away.
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Well couple of weeks ago my boyfriend had girls over at his house & he lied about it. Well now i just cant trust him & its so hard not to be with him all the time to make sure , he lives in a neighborhood FULL of freaking whores & his friends are the greatest influence on him either. He says he's getting tired of it because i always have some smart stuff to say about it , Im just SOO scared its going to happen again even though he says its not but im scared because of my scaredness & not trusting him that its eventually going to break us up because he says he's already tired of it , idk what to do & tomorrow he's getting his license so it makes things worst on my part . idk what to do , helpppp ! (link)
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I know that sometimes we feel like we can't live without someone, so we latch on so tight to make sure we don't loose them. But you just can't do that.
You can't control your boyfriend, or otherwise your going to make him run away.
You have to learn to trust him. If you can't trust him, then what are you doing with him? Where do you think a relationship like that is going to leave you?
It takes trust to truely love. so it sounds to me like you have two opinions. You either learn to trust your boyfriend and leave the rest to fate, or you let him go save the both of you a world of hurt.
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He's really nice and smart, but kind of quiet at times. He has a fun personality though and I guess most girls would not consider him "hot" but I like him for who he is. I want someone who I can relate to in a non superficial way, and someone who will help me grow as a person, and hopefully I can do the same for him. The thing is I only see him in one class and he probably does not suspect that I like him. I try to compliment him when I can and talk to him more, but I don't sit next to him so it's kind of hard to. And I don't hang out with him during lunch or outside of school. Basically I need some kind of a way to give him a hint before summer break. I won't see him all summer, so I want to plant some kind of seed in his mind that I like him so that when school starts again, we can hopefully talk more and become closer that way. Any ideas? Thanks =] (link)
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Do you know what he's interested in? If so approach him in the hall. Start by complimenting him, and then casually bring up something he's interested in, so the conversation can carry on. After that make sure sure you always say hey when you see. If all goes well, he wont forget you.
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19/f
So a lot of people that know me think that I'm a player or a tease, but they really don't know what I'm going through. My problem is, is that whenever things are going good with the guy I'm dating, I seem to always find something wrong with them that really annoys me and eventually I stop talking to them. Then I just move on to a different guy and the same thing happens. . I don't know what's wrong with me?!?
I did get out of a relationship, but that was like 7 months ago. My ex has already moved on and starting dating other girls. Things didn't end very well with him and me, we fought a lot and the situation was just bad. Long story short I still had feelings for him but he couldn't stand the fighting.
I just wanna know, could that be the reason I tend to push guys away when things are getting good???? Do I need to wait longer before I date again?!? What should I do!? Am I just a Tease?
Thanks in advance :) (link)
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Your young! Stop listening to all these people that want you to grow up to fast. Youth is about finding out who you are and what you want. All this dating is your way of doing that.
The reason you haven't been in a relationship sense your last b/f is because you haven't found anyone that makes you feel as good as he did.
BUT don't worry about that. Just keep dating until you find that special guy.
If someone has a problem with that, tell them to back up, it's your life and your doing what's right for you.
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i just broke up with my boyfriend and i realized how pathetic i was, i devoted my whole life to him and became so codependent. now im deciding to grow from this and become more independent. what are some songs that have to do with being independent and finding myself? music helps keep me inspired =]
ps. i already have independent by webbie, so no need to write that
thanks in advance! (link)
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The Real Me-Alexis
Ready-Cherie
Watch me Shine-Jonna Pacitti
Don't Need You To-Samantha Mumba
Poster Girl-Baskstreet Boys
I Will Survive-Donna Summer
Supergirl-Krystal
Ain't nuthin' But A She Thing- Lil. J
Hold On-B*Witched
The Journey-Mpulz
Respect-Pink
18 Wheeler-Pink
What It's Like-Britney Spears
Cinderella-Britney Spears
do what you do-pink
life goes on-leann rimes
suddenly-leann rimes
sign of life-leann rimes
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My friend Amy and I are in the 9th grade. We went to the same elementary school together but we did NOT go to the same middle school or high school, so we have grown a bit distant. Amy has a huge crush on this guy Ben, who went to elementary school with us. Amy and Ben also went to the same middle school together.
Amy is confident that Ben likes her and she wants to ask him out. However, I talked to a few of my other friends from my elementary school and apparently, everyone knows that Amy likes Ben, but Ben doesn't like her because he finds her personality to be annoying.
But Amy doesn't really understand the way other people see her---she thinks she's popular even though she's not.
Amy genuinely thinks Ben is interested in her and is absolutely going to ask him out. But I know for a fact that he won't.
I don't really want to tell her that Ben doesn't like her, because it would really hurt her feelings. I'm afraid it would be mean to tell her that Ben finds her annoying. But if I don't say anything and let her go ask him out, she'll just get hurt anyways.
What should I do? (link)
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It's easier to get bad news from a friend.
Get her alone, and just break it to her gently. True friends are honest with one another. If you don't she's going to make a fool of herself. She'll be the walking joke at her school, and you don't want that for her. If it comes from you, it'll lessen the blow. She may get a little upset at first, but she'll be thankful later.
BUT be prepared, if she's the kind of person i think she is, she may ignore you all together and ask him anyway. If thats how it works out, just be patient. She'll be back when she's over the shame.
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Well ya see i got outta a really serious relationship a month or so ago. I felt really betrayed becuase it was my first and he promised me he loved me and then he just dumped me after almost a year. the thought of love makes me gag because all i feel is its just fake. I've been really having a hard time even though i know my ex doesn't really care about me anymore. One of my friends, who is a guy, asked me to go with him to the movies. He's really a flirt with a lot of girls so i completely expected him to grab me when i sat down and like practically put me in his lap but it didn't really bother me since i knew we were just friends and he pulls this with all types of girls. The only problem was every few minutes or so he would put his face very close to mine and it'd be like we were about to kiss. I felt ridiculously guilty like i was cheating on someone and i couldn't stop thinking about my ex. He confronted me about the tension and said he wanted to go again but kiss me. I thought the guilt was just a silly thing and so i agreed. Then when he kissed me i felt like throwing up. I told him i didn't want to but i couldn't really give him a reason. I started trying to come up with crazy stuff so he wouldn't be hurt i tried to tell maybe we should just be friends or say i'm gay but obviously none of its true. He's a sweet guy, a flirt, but a sweet guy. I do like him but i don't understand why the thought of kissing anyone or actually doing it makes me wanna vomit and feel sick with guilt. Please i really need help. Because there really is only so long i can string him along with such unsure feelings. (link)
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A broken heart can make people do crazy things. The insecurity, the longing, and the fear begin to control you.
Don't rush yourself to find love agian. It took you time to fall in love, it's going to take time to fall out of it. If you take it one day at a time the pain with fade, and you'll be able to love again.
If dating makes you sick...don't date yet! But remember that dating is just dating, it's not this big commitment.
If you're really not ready to date this friend of yours, tell him the truth! The uninsulting part of it anyway. Just tell him that you arn't ready for the physical stuff. Your still hurt over the breakup, and kissing just feels wrong right now.
If he can't except that, sending him packing, because there is no future in a forceful relationship.
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I'm 15/Freshman/Female, my really good friend is 17, and he's a senior and is graduatiing in about a month. We both know there is sexual tension between us, but I think we are both trying to ignore it beacuse he has to go away in the fall for school. He's actually only about an hour away but still he'll be in college and I'll be a softmore..
Have any of you been in this situation?
Is it better to just ignore it , and stay friends?
Should I even bother?
..Help. (link)
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Do not let sexuality be your guide! The most important thing is making sure you have more than sexuality between you. I know that on TV they make it seem like sex is nothing, and things like ditance and age don't matter.
We live in the real world.
How are you going to feel if the two of you have one romantic night and he just up and leaves? Trust me it's not a good feeling, I've been there.
He didn't love me, and though he still talks to me every now in then the only thing on his mind is 'hooking up.'
If you really like this guy see how far the friendship takes you, but if he's in a rush to have sex, he's in it for the wrong reasons.
Take things slow if the connection is real, he'll be back.
Just know that having sex with a guy doesn't make him yours!
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good songs and bands ?
i like atl, wtk, ftsk, mayday parade, rocket summer, the spill canvas, dashboard confessional etc.
if you have anything like that its appretiated :] (link)
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boys like girls, Greenwheel, hinder, bleu, the strokes, daughtry, alice in chains, foo fighters, fuel, dropbox, disturbed, crossfade, matchbook romance, cartel, goo goo dolls, everlast, papa roach, ataris, all-american rejects, breaking benjamin, fall out boy, system of a down, iron maiden, Augustana, stone temple piliots, 30 seconds to mars, incubus, sister hazel, sublime, american head charge, as i lay dying, the acedemy is, the click five, 10 years, stone sour, theory of a dead man, seether, faithless, falling up, modern day zero
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If you work out, can you get smaller breasts? Is there any exercise to get firmer or the appearance of smaller breasts? I can't find any clothes that look good and cover up. If I have a little cleavage showing compared to the other girls showing a lot, I get in trouble. =| All of the clothes I've seen in online stores only look good with a B cup or a small C. But I'm not those anymore :[ Am I only limited to tank tops and halter top sort of things? (link)
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Your breast are mostly fat, and have no muscle tissue. If you work out, and lose a little weight it is possible that they will get a small bit smaller. Remember that working out will only strengthen the muscle that supports your breast.
*Try taking 5lb weights in each hand. Spread your arms and bend them so your forearms are perpendicular to the ground and your upper arms are parallel with the ground. Bring your hands together using your whole arm. Then bring your arms together so your elbows touch. Do 3 reps of 15 every day.
*Push-ups
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I have this guy friend I really like! We have so much in common and we get along great but I told him I am currently in a relationship that I am trying to get out of. I just wanted to be friends for now and maybe in the future we could possibly become more but he calls me everyday at least 10 times maybe more! and he is extremely pushy..trying to get me to say "I love you" by saying "I know you love me!" "You know you want to say it" etc.. and I feel highly uncomfortable and I've told him before but he seems to keep on pressuring me and I don't want to block his number or tell him to go away because I could be missing out on something for the future and he is VERY Stubborn and he continues to keep asking me all kinds of personal questions including "marriage, kids etc"
What should I do?! I'm going crazy!
-BahaiMa22 (link)
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This is an age old problem, is the grass greener on the other side. Your problem is that your being too nice.
Are you really wanting to end things with your boyfriend? If so, get to it. The longer you take the harder it's going to be on the both of you! The right thing to do is be honest and up front with your boyfriend. If he's not the one for your, then you can't be the one for him.
This friend of yours isn't acting to much like a friend or a lover right now. It sounds to me like he's trying to control you. You need to be firm with this guy. Tell him that if he really cared about you he'd give you a little space to work things out.
It sounds to me like your more interested in the idea of this guy than the real thing. Do you like the constant calling, and the being pushed into things your not ready for? If you don't like what he's doing now, do you really think things are going to change if ya'll get together?
Don't be so quick to worry about what might be before you take a good look at what is!
Put some distance between the two of you, and don't worry about him not coming back. If he really loves you, he'll be patient. If he doesn't then he'll run.
True love knows no pride, test him.
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there is this girl that my boyfriends sister hangs out with and she tried getting with my boyfriend, and now shes saying that he likes her and im really about to beat the living crap out of her. I'm about to reach my breaking point and i cant hold back when i reach my breaking point. please help me, give me advice because she always tries to piss me off and it works. & she wants to go to my boyfriends bday party on saturday with his sister & his sister doesnt live with him so its not her house.. and if this girl shows up at his party im going to fight her! (link)
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The first thing you have to do is calm down. You remind me a lot of my little sister. You're territorial, and hot-headed. Don't get me wrong, those arn't bad traits when they're kept in check!
Take a step back and look at the situation as an outsider. The question isn't does she want your boyfriend, it's does your boyfriend want her?
If it's one sided then just play it cool at the party, and if she gets a little to close, then calmly but firmly make your stand. Tell her that if she can't respect your relationship than she isn't welcome there.
On the otherhand if it looks like he's enjoying the extra attention, approach him. Don't do it at the party, and don't be to quick to accuse him of anything. Just calmly ask him what he thinks of her. If he's not really into her, then he'll feel good that care enough to get jealous.
But if it seems like he's really into her, get rid of him before he hurts you.
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16/f. I'm normally a person who is never really depressed or sad (even on my period), but for the last two weeks at least I have just been feeling like crap all around for no reason. Even when I'm with my friends, I can't seem to have fun like I used to. I'm artistic/perceptive and I've just been in a zombie state for two weeks. It's like all I can listen to is Nirvana, which is not normal for me. I'm a good kid and I get good grades but I have also been incredibly stressed out lately. Do you think my stress is causing this temporary depression? This is really not normal for me at all, and usually I handle stress well. Does anyone have any insight or advice for me? Thank you all so much. (link)
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Depression never happens for no reason, you just need to isolate the problem.
Think hard about what's been going on the past two weeks. Is anything different?
Maybe the problem is that everything is too normal. Maybe you need to add a little spice to your life. If your the artistic type try broadening your horizens.
Just try new things. I'm the artistic type as well, so i'm guessing that your problem is just a lack accomplishement, your getting to comfortable in your own skin.
Paint something you wouldn't normally paint.
Listen to something you've never heard before.
Write something you wouldn't normally right.
Bottom line- the only way to solve your problem is to first find yourself.
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I'm only a freshman but I've been thinking about class colors, song, and that kind of stuff since graduation is comming up and I'm seeing all of the seniors enjoy everything.
The Seniors class song is, "Dancing in the moonlight" by King Harvest. I'm really jealous of their song, it's a feel good kind of song but it also is sad when it comes to graduation. So any ideas for our class song? Something just as good if not better as Dancing in the Moonlight? I was hoping for something not too new, not something that plays on the radio every day. I want a song we'll all remember 20 years from now and say wow, what a good song.
I thought maybe "Don't Stop Believin'" by Journey but I wish I could think of something better..
PLEASE HELP ME WITH SOME GOOD SONGS ! :) (link)
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Ride Of Your Life-john Greyory
I'm Not Gonna Cry-Corey Smith
Burn This City-Cartel
Don't Blink-Kenny Chesney
Thunder-Boys Like Girls
100 Years To Live-Five For Fighting
My Friend-Plus One
Time Of Your Life-Greenday
Living In A Moment-Ty herndon
Friends Forever-Vitamin C
How Far We've Come-Matchbox 20
Thunder-Boys Like Girls
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my question is how do you get her to be over him and she want's a realtion ship with me (link)
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You have to be patient with her. It takes time to fall in love, so it's going to take her time to fall out of it.
If you want her to fall for you, show her you can wait. Be everything the perfect boyfriend would be. She might not notice at first, because when a girl's brokenhearted she's blind to the world around her.
Just be there for her, so when she's ready, you'll be the first to know.
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I've been friends with my best friend since I was in 10th grade. I'm now 23, so that's 8 or so years of friendship. Obviously, he's my best friend and we do everything together. He used to come over to my house everyday and we'd hang out and talk. Then all of a sudden, he got a girlfriend and he never calls me, when she's around. She lives in Mexico and she comes up to see him for two months and then goes home for two weeks. The thing that irritates me is I won't hear from him for two months. And then as soon as she leaves, he's on the phone with me asking if he can come over, or what I'm doing because he wants to hang out..
Basically, I'm annoyed that he can't call me when she's over. And I don't really know what to do.. (link)
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It's difficult for some people to balance their relationships with their friendships, so don't be to hard on your friend.
The best advice i can give you is, talk to him about it. If he still chooses her over you, then he wasn't a real friend to begin with. I know that's hard to handle, and not so easy to do, but it's the only way to put your own mind at ease.
Another thing you can do is try to become friends with his girlfriend. If she gets used to you, and realizes your not a threat, them he might be willing to spend more time with you.
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I'm finding myself to be sad often now.. and i'm gettin mad at people really easy now.
I am crying over this guy, and my social and family life is just messing up right now. im gaining weight, and i just dont know how to be happy ..
HELP! (link)
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It's normal to get drepressed, and it's even more normal to get depressed over a guy. The best advice i can give you is to just take it one day at a time. Life has this funny way of working itself out.
So in the mean time, stop concentrating so much on whats going wrong in your life, and realize all the good thats in it.
Like your friends, or your family. What about your hobby's.
Don't have one. Find one! this is the best time to try new things.
You just lost something you cared about, try filling the void with something productive. So when you get cranky you have a way to unwind. Even better, you'll come out of the mood swing having accomplished something.
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what do you do when you're with a guy that you liked for a long time and were so much fun together but when you started going out everything went down hill. nowadays after only 4ish months there's just as many bad times as good, if not more. when we're good, we're great. but when we're bad, it sucks arse. like ridiculous. what do you think, does the good cancel out for the bad? (link)
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Only you can decide if the good outweighs the bad, but remember this, anything worth having is worth fighting for.
Every relationship has it's problems, because they involve two people! That means two opinons, that are usually very different.
Ask yourself one question, would you want it to be perfect? Would you want someone who never sparked passion in you. Someone who never made you want to fight for something. Someone who never cared enough to want you to fight for them.
It's my experience that people usely disagree as a way to get to know each, to find each other. More importantly to keep things interesting.
Think of it this way, you fight with your family right? So would you trade them in just because you don't always get along?
Remember to be thankful for the rainy days, they're what make the sunny one's so sweet.
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My friend chris asked me out by a note last year in like february of 10th grade and now im ending 11th and i never responded and i feel really stupid because i really like him and i did then too i think but i dont know why i never responded and he liked me a lot and i have no clue if he still likes me and we never see each other any more and i want to write a note to him and tell him everything and try to give it to him if i see him but im not too sure if i should. he would always tickle me and make me laugh and the day that he found out that i read the naot he came up to me and we hugged and it was really swett but i just dont know what to do! does anyone have any advice that i could do? because i really like him and would really like another chance to be his girlfriend and he is the sweetest guy that i have ever met!!! thanks for taking the time to read and answer this! (link)
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Remember last year when he worked up the courage to pass you that note? Well return the favor. Give him a note of his own, and hold nothing back. If you don't you might miss out on the best thing you ever had.
Never be afraid of failure. Love's about taking chances, making sacrifices, and being fearless.
Even if things don't work, he'll appreciate knowing that his affection for wasn't wasted.
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so my boyfriend likes to play these games i guess you could call them where he pulls the strings of my hoodie and sometimes he hits me in the face like never hard just little taps and like yesterday it went to far he hit me really hard and it left a mark.. he knows i dont even like it when he does it softly and i told my best friend because i was crying.. and she was like im gonna go after that stupid a**hole and then some of my other friends found out and said the same thing.. im really afraid if my ex finds out hes gonna like beat him up really badly because my ex is like one of my best friends now and .. if he finds out my boyfriend will like end up in the hospital everyone says i should dump my boyfriend .. the thing is he said he was joking and it was an accident but we were arguing while it happened so and we definitely wernt joking around so i dont know what to do.. what do other people think i should do? (link)
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I understand that it's hard to believe that someone you care about is capable of hurting you. We want to see the best in those we care about, and that's a good thing, but it doesn't mean you have to overlook the bad.
He hit you, there is no excuse. You may think, it's not that bad. 'He just tapped me.' Well you've seen first hand that with time it grows worse. The tap turns into a slap, then the slap turns into a punch, and so on and so forth. I've seen it first hand. my mother spent ten years with a man like that, and it almost cost her her life. If he left a mark this time, what happens later?
Are you will you risk your health, confidence, happiness, maybe even your life over this?
Walk away now, while you still have a tomorrow.
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