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A guy is interested in me but i have this nagging guilt
Well ya see i got outta a really serious relationship a month or so ago. I felt really betrayed becuase it was my first and he promised me he loved me and then he just dumped me after almost a year. the thought of love makes me gag because all i feel is its just fake. I've been really having a hard time even though i know my ex doesn't really care about me anymore. One of my friends, who is a guy, asked me to go with him to the movies. He's really a flirt with a lot of girls so i completely expected him to grab me when i sat down and like practically put me in his lap but it didn't really bother me since i knew we were just friends and he pulls this with all types of girls. The only problem was every few minutes or so he would put his face very close to mine and it'd be like we were about to kiss. I felt ridiculously guilty like i was cheating on someone and i couldn't stop thinking about my ex. He confronted me about the tension and said he wanted to go again but kiss me. I thought the guilt was just a silly thing and so i agreed. Then when he kissed me i felt like throwing up. I told him i didn't want to but i couldn't really give him a reason. I started trying to come up with crazy stuff so he wouldn't be hurt i tried to tell maybe we should just be friends or say i'm gay but obviously none of its true. He's a sweet guy, a flirt, but a sweet guy. I do like him but i don't understand why the thought of kissing anyone or actually doing it makes me wanna vomit and feel sick with guilt. Please i really need help. Because there really is only so long i can string him along with such unsure feelings.
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A broken heart can make people do crazy things. The insecurity, the longing, and the fear begin to control you.
Don't rush yourself to find love agian. It took you time to fall in love, it's going to take time to fall out of it. If you take it one day at a time the pain with fade, and you'll be able to love again.
If dating makes you sick...don't date yet! But remember that dating is just dating, it's not this big commitment.
If you're really not ready to date this friend of yours, tell him the truth! The uninsulting part of it anyway. Just tell him that you arn't ready for the physical stuff. Your still hurt over the breakup, and kissing just feels wrong right now.
If he can't except that, sending him packing, because there is no future in a forceful relationship.
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First of all I am truely sorry to hear about your ex.
I don't think you dislike love or the idea of having a relationship. You just got out of a relationship so it seems you are feeling emotional and confused and the more you think about it the more it makes you feel sick to your stomach. I've been there and I know how you feel it sounds like it's a little bit of emotional distress. Tell your guy friend that you don't feel comfortable being close and that you need your space to yourself for awhile if he is a great friend I'm sure he will respect your wishes. Try to focus on your for awhile find things you love too do to take your mind away from things hang out with your good female friends for awhile trust me there are more fish in the sea.
Good luck
-BahaiMa22
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