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Best friend or forget him?
I've been friends with my best friend since I was in 10th grade. I'm now 23, so that's 8 or so years of friendship. Obviously, he's my best friend and we do everything together. He used to come over to my house everyday and we'd hang out and talk. Then all of a sudden, he got a girlfriend and he never calls me, when she's around. She lives in Mexico and she comes up to see him for two months and then goes home for two weeks. The thing that irritates me is I won't hear from him for two months. And then as soon as she leaves, he's on the phone with me asking if he can come over, or what I'm doing because he wants to hang out..
Basically, I'm annoyed that he can't call me when she's over. And I don't really know what to do..
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Tell him how you feel. (ie, "I miss you when your girlfriend comes over, because I feel like I never see you then).
If it makes you feel any better, him spending all of his time with his girlfriend won't last long. With time he will most probably start to get the friends/work/girlfriend balance right, and start seeing his friends (and you) more often.
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Hey, my name is Faith42 and I think I can help you
if she live in Mexico, and if your friend doesn't
see her that much he probably wants to be with
her as much he can, but I agree he should talk to
you once a while. Maybe you should call and
ask him Why he is doing this , and maybe he can consider
your feelings and call you up once in awhile.
I hope I helped,
Faith42:)
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It's difficult for some people to balance their relationships with their friendships, so don't be to hard on your friend.
The best advice i can give you is, talk to him about it. If he still chooses her over you, then he wasn't a real friend to begin with. I know that's hard to handle, and not so easy to do, but it's the only way to put your own mind at ease.
Another thing you can do is try to become friends with his girlfriend. If she gets used to you, and realizes your not a threat, them he might be willing to spend more time with you.
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