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i have ben with my boyfriend for nearly three months and i really feel like we need to breakup but i cant bring myself to it. for the past month i have thought we needed to, iv even tried to piss him off and iv brought it up to him but covered it up because he is head over heels in love with me. i feel horrible about it but i cant bring myself to do it at all, how do i go about doing this without hurting him too badly? and dont say just do it. any tips, tricks? 16/f (link)
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Unfortunately there is no way to let him down easy. He's going to be hurt. That's that. You'll have to make your peace with that. You can do him the favor of doing it face to face. I would suggest looking at it like ripping off a band-aid. Quickly. There will be pain but the sooner you do it the sooner the pain will disappear. This is one of the lessons in love you will learn throughout your life. Sometimes we hurt people we care about, sometimes our feelings change and its nobody's fault. But we have to do what we know is right, even if it means some pain along the way. In the long run you'll understand it was all for the best. Good luck!
P.S. - Ok, to answer your question "but how"? The only way to do it is to come right out with it. There are no words that will make it hurt less. So sit him down and say "I'm sorry. I know this sucks but I want to break up" then if/when he asks why you can explain that your feelings have changed, it wasn't him, you just don't feel the same anymore. Sometimes that happens. Be prepared for him to be upset, but don't let it throw you off. Of course he'll be upset, but he'll be glad in the long run. Who wants to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you? That's not a very fun relationship. Just do it and get it over with. You'll feel better.
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Why do you I feel really lost and unstable???
For the past year and a half or so, Ive been going in and out of jobs...Ive had really bad luck finding a job that I really enjoy doing and settling into it.. I'm smart, creative, ambitious, intelligent and full of enthusiasm and nothing seems to be working for me... Because of this I'm obviously finding that I don't have any sort of routine in place as I don't have any money and I'm genuinely confused in what direction I'm going into... My energy has been very low and my partner is always criticizing me on this.. sometimes he's not the best when it comes to laying it down to me nicely and supportively and instead says it in a critical sort of way, which then makes me defensive and upset... Then he tells people that know me about my situation which I'm sure is all in good intentions but these people end up criticizing me saying that I'm all over the place and that I should be more stable.. I get very upset with this as I feel I could really use some of these peoples tips and advise and support. Rather than anyone coming to me to show they really care I just end up being criticized and told how weak and unstable I am. It bothers me how people are so quick to judge yet no one has the time to show some love and care.. this in return makes me have to explain myself more and it just looks like I'm just coming up with excuses. Ive seen many people that don't feel good about themselves and there lives, and because I'm a caring person I'm there for a person that really wants to talk and I dont judge because its very important for any human being to have someone that will just talk to them and not judge them because when someone is at there lows they don't need negative criticism etc. they need a bit of a boost and some advise.
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It sounds like you're at sort of a crossroads. You are not happy where you are in your life and its affecting everything else. You're energy is low because you aren't feeling excited or motivated by anything. You need to take a little while and evaluate what you want to do with your life. Sit down with a piece of paper. On that paper, write down what you would do if you could do ANYTHING in the world. I mean ANY job. Don't think about all the reasons you couldn't do it. If you had all the time and money and ability, what would you do? Ok, now look at that. Now start writing down what steps you could take to start to get there. Need to go back to school? Need to find a job or internship in that area? Need to start working on the ground level of a company and work your way up? Start a business? My point is, you need to find out what you're good at and what you want to do. When you figure that out you're going to feel a lot better and people will start noticing that about you too. You have to be proactive and realize that it may take time and a lot of work, but you could really be working in a job someday that really makes you happy. Go for it. Don't listen to the negativity or people that will try do discourage you. You can do this and you just might even surprise yourself.
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hey. my name is evan. im 15 years old and a freshman in high school. i have been diagnosed with malignant melanoma which is a skin cancer for the 2nd time. im tired of trying to keep the secret that im sick again. im gonna do chemo this summer but i feel like im gonna burst if i dont tell my friends. my parents said not to cause i already get made fun of alot and i dont wanna get teased about this. what should i do? should i tell my friends or keep the secret like my parents want. i just feel like i need to talk to someone. thanks for the help.
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You're parents have good intentions, but in the end they're not the ones having to deal with the affects of this disease every day. Tell your friends. You'll need all the support you can get and its only fair to tell the people who care about you what you're going through. They deserve the opportunity to be there for you and you'll also need people around you who can just treat you like a normal person sometimes and help you laugh and enjoy things. You may get teased by some people, but it would probably feel worse to have to deal with this again all alone. Good luck!
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im going to florida and i was going to bring my friend along but i was just wondering if it would make it hard on everyone but i dont mean it in a bad way at all shes my best friend. she is 17 im 16 and theres a guy thats 15 and then nineteen 18 year olds. plus she doesnt know all them to well but were all in the same tiny school.
Were driving 14 hours to florida, we will all lay out in the sun most of the time and she is the only one thats black and she doesnt like to she sits with a towel over her even at pools so i would feel too bad, she also is the only vegan so food choices would be hard but im with her everyday im perfectly fine with it i just dono about everyone else. I am the only vegetarian but im not strict enough i would eat a lil meat if i have no other options. Also she isnt responsible at all shes over a year older than me but i take care of her for everything and yea were gonna be partying i dont want her to get hurt. she only drinks, i only smoke. she also cant swim. this would be the best vacation in the world if she could come. i love her to death she is my best friend but i dont want this trip to be a hassle on everyone else.
what do you think i should do? bring her or not? if she does come what are some good destin florida area vegan restaurants? and what do we do about us tanning and on the beach 24/7? (link)
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You're not responsible for her good time. That's all up to her and what she wants to do with her time. If you really do want her come, invite her. Ask her if she would like on a beach vacation with you. Just be sure to let her know up front that you plan to be planning a lot of time in the sun and by the pool, maybe in a joking way. That way she understands what kind of vacation it is and what kinds of things you'll be doing and she can make her own decision about if its something she would find fun or not. If she goes with you, do your best to release yourself from being her caretaker. She's a big girl, she can do what she likes, and if everyone else is having a good time and she's being cranky then that's on her. But just see what she says about it. She may surprise you. Good luck.
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what will happen to my son if he keeps dating his girlfriend when he turns 18 and she will be 14 (link)
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If they're sexually active and the wrong person finds out, he could be arrested for statutory rape. I don't know where you are. The legal age of consent is different in different places. But I'm pretty sure its not under 15 anywhere.
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19/f. I'm in college and I still live at home. I live with my mom and my grandparents and I love them all very much. But, my mom, especially, is driving me crazy. She use to be my best friend. I still love her, but, she's just too difficult for me. She just doesn't let me live my life. She wants to drop me off everywhere I go. If I'm going on a date, she wants to drop me off. If I'm going to someone's house or to the gym or to work or to school, she wants to drop me off. It's getting to the point where it's just upsetting because there's things I don't need her for. I fight with her about everything. I'm kind of dark blonde now and I wanted to go brunette and she had a major fit about it and she was just like "no, you can't do it." In the end, I know that I can do it because I don't need her permission. It's my money and my hair. I was just asking for her blessing. But, it's SUCH an argument about it. She makes me show her the clothes that I'm going to where to school to see if their "sexy enough." It's so weird because it's not like she's overprotective. I've led a normal life, had friends, boyfriends, and a scholarship to college. But, it's an argument about every little thing. Today, I was dizzy and I didn't want to go somewhere and she got so upset. It was a big fight just because I didn't want to go there. It's so strange. Usually, we're like friends. But, right now I just need my own personal space. I'm not asking for a lot. I just need her to take a couple of steps back and stop invading everything! Recently, I also found out that I was adopted. I don't know if that may have something to do with it. Like, she doesn't want to let me go. I am moving to my own place at the end of august. But, I need her to start backing up a little bit so that i could "independicize" myself before I move out. That's all I'm asking. Thanks and I hope you can offer some advice as to this situation. (link)
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Ahhh, this is the age old struggle between a young woman trying to gain her independence and a mother who doesn't want to let her little baby grow up. Your mom is sounding crazy right now, but you have to realize its all coming from a place of love. Its just coming out all crazy because she doesn't know how to deal with your changing life. And yes, maybe this recent revelation about the adoption is adding to it. Maybe there's a little part of her that feels like she's not only losing you to your future, but also she's losing you to your past too. She may feel like as you become more independent, you won't need her as a mother anymore. The best thing to do is sit down with your mother and have an honest, CALM conversation. You have to do this in a time of peace. Meaning, do it when nothing crazy is going on, not when you're fighting already. Maybe even make a lunch date with her. Go out to your favorite restaurant to talk. Then you know she's not going to blow her lid in public, at least. But tell her all the things you said here - that you've never thought she was overprotective but it seems like she's gone off the deep end lately. Tell her you love her and always considered her your best friend and always will. She'll always be your mom, but you know that its time for you to grow up now and become your own woman, even if that hurts her a little bit. Tell her you respect her opinions, but she needs to be able to let you make your own decisions now, and deal with the consequences of those decisions. And tell her that she's always raised you to be intelligent and respectful and hardworking and she has to trust that the work she did with you will help you be an independent woman capable of taking care of herself. Your mom loves you. You won't truly understand the depths of that love until you become a mother yourself someday. Until then, try to have patience and don't quit moving forward with your own life. You sound like a fine young woman and you're going to make your mother proud. Good luck!
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A guy That saw me walk buy one day when he came to my job asked his friends for my number. He got it and started texting me, finally he asked me out but wanted me to come to his house I said no and explained why I did not think it was appropiate and told him I'd meet him somewhere for a date. He then got ome and texted me to come to his house again so I just did not reply and went to bed he called me later but I did not answer.
He called me the next day we spoke and then he asked me for a picture I sent it to him and he did not call since. Do you think the main reason he didn't call is because he thinks I am ugly. (link)
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Sounds to me like he figured he wasn't going to get into your pants right away and lost interest. Some guys are like that. He did you a favor, trust me. You don't want anything to do with dopes like that. You'll realize that once you find a truly nice guy who wants to be with you so badly he'll respect your wishes and boundaries.
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I have been dating my current boyfriend for about 9 months now and he is absolutely amazing. Truly, he has been my rock and I have never been so in love with a person. But I am afraid I am going to ruin this relationship because I get incredibly insecure about him talking to other women - especially his ex girlfriend. Granted, he is a flirt; but he has not done enough wrong for me to feel this way. This is how I realized that it wasn't him - it's me.
I trust him but I get so upset over little things, but don't tell him because I know they're irrational. But then they just bottle up. Honestly, a girl saying hello to him triggers something in my head saying "Stay away!" and I feel like I'm losing my mind. My question is how do I move on from these feelings? How can I learn to be more understanding and not let other girls constantly bother me?
I have never been an overemotional or irrational woman, and that is why these feelings bother me so much. I don't want to be a crazy girlfriend, please help :( (link)
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It sounds like you've hit the nail on the head. You're insecure. And that insecurity makes other girls look like a threat to you when they're not. I'm wondering what the rest of your social life looks like. You said he's your rock, which makes me think you've had to lean on him for some type of extra support over these last months. That leads me to believe you may not have many other close friends or family nearby as a support system. Its good that you feel so close to him, but if he's your only support, then that makes you all the more anxious about hanging on to him. You're right. If you keep on this path you will drive him away eventually. My suggestion is to start (if you're not already) planning more activities outside of your relationship. Start hanging out with friends and acquaintences more often. Join a book club or group or something you like to do. Meet people and start cultivating friendships more. When you have bigger group of people who support you and are there for you, you won't feel so desperate about losing your b/f. You'll have other outlets for your time and energy and you'll be able to stop seeing your boyfriend as the only source of support and when that happens, other girls won't get you so stressed out. You'll have the security of knowing you are enough for him, because you feel secure in other areas and that shows. You won't even notice other girls. In fact, you'll start feeling flattered when other women flirt, because you'll know you have a hot guy that other people want who is only interested in you. Good luck.
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My boyfriend says we have a normal relationship. I try to tell him it's not. He expects me to tell him everyone I pass in the hall way at work, what they say and send him pictures. If they come in my office he says they only made an excuse to come and see me that things should be controlled differently and men should not be able to just walk in my office. He takes these things out on me as well. Last Friday my boss called me in his office because he was about to leave for the day. When the boyfriend called I wasn't at my desk. he called and left vmails that were rude and ugly and when i called him back and explained he Said "you were in the office w/ 2 men?" "What else happened" Would you feel as if he is suggesting that something un professional could have happened by saying something like that? I'm at wits end and he seems to think he is doing no wrong. He says he has the right to know who I talk to and what is said and where I am and thinks if I have a problem w/ it then I have something to hide. (link)
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These are all the warning signs of an abusive boyfriend. Abuse doesn't start with hitting. It starts with controlling and isolation. First he starts asking you to spend less time with friends and family. Then he gets overly jealous about people at work. My guess is the next step he'll take is to ask you to quit working there. If he hasn't become physical with you yet, its only a matter of time. I know from experience. He sounds really crazy and you need to get yourself out of this relationship as soon as possible. Then you need to seek out counseling so you can figure out why you attract men like this in the first place. I know you have feelings for him, but please, for your own safety and sanity, get out of this now. It will only get worse. This is not normal. It is not typical. This is not an overprotective boyfriend. This is a real problem that will escalate quickly. Run, don't walk, away from this one as soon as possible.
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I will be moving to another city with my boyfriend in a couple of months, and right now, he is constantly being manipulated by his mother for money. She will say things like "we can't pay our bills this month" or "we really need the money" but most of the times, she will take the money from his account without any acknowledgment at all. He works full time, and 75% of his paycheck goes to her; he is still living at home.
He refuses to talk to her about it, and when I try to talk to him, he gets upset and says that no matter what, she's his mom, and when she asks him for something, he'll give her anything.
He needs to start saving money for when we'll be living on our own, but no matter what I try to do, he will give all the money to his mom.
We know that she has a gambling problem; she also treats him unfairly. He has three other siblings, and they are given generous birthday presents, while my boyfriend has not received acknowledgment of his birthday for the past 3 years. Also, he is given almost no Christmas presents, while his siblings, again, are give generous gifts.
I know that he is being treated unfairly, and he knows it, but will not do anything about it.
What should I do?! (link)
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You need to put off moving in with your boyfriend until this is resolved. This is SERIOUS. DO NOT move in with him unless you want to be paying all the bills all the time. Why would things be any different just because he lives in a new place? His mother has access to his account?! I'm sorry, that's not normal, healthy or advisable. Your boyfriend has a dysfunctional relationship with his mother that has nothing to do with you. You can't change it. The only thing you can do is keep it from hurting you too deeply, and you can only do that by not getting yourself tangled up financially with this guy. I'm sure you love him, but if you make this move now you will almost surely regret it in the not so distant future. He's not helping his mom. Your boyfriend is letting his own feelings of guilt and his desire to please his mom run his life, and his finances. Look, he basically told you he'll give his mom ANYTHING. Picture yourselves depending on each other financially soon, for rent and bills, and you need new tires on your car and his mother needs $1000 for the casino. Who is he going to help first? He's already given you the answer. You're heading for a rough time. I know its hard to give up plans when you've been looking forward to something, but he's giving you red flags everywhere. If you move forward with this plan to live together you are setting yourself up for stress and heartbreak. As for what to do in the meantime, all you can do is be a good friend to him if he needs someone. His situation will never change until he wants it to, and no amount of talking or nagging from a loving girlfriend will change that.
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lately Ive been having feeling towards the same sex. And it kinda freaks me out. My bestfriend says Ill get through the stage. But It freaks me out whenever Im out bra shopping or bathing suit shopping. My family is like super christian and they flip out everytime I bring over a gay friend. Im scared that this isnt just a stage of my life. What do I do if I really am gay? (link)
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You need to find someone you trust to talk to about this. Here's the thing - there are a lot of people out there who are going to tell you to get over it and just say you're gay, just be proud and don't care what others think. But those people don't know what it is like to be you, to live with and love your family and to carry with you all of the truths and lessons from your faith. You are having a real issue here, one that will have consequences for your whole life, and you need to be able to talk to people who have been through what you've been through and know the challenges and questions you have. I have many gay friends who are Christians, and I have many Christian friends who were once gay and actually left the lifestyle (yes, its possible, don't let anyone tell you its not, they don't understand), so there are many different paths for you to take, but you need to be informed. Exodus international is a group of Christians that deals with this issue specifically. They have online forums, counseling services, local groups, and its not just holy-roller religious judgemental crap. Its real people who are actually really nice and know all about this kind of stuff. check out their site - http://www.exodusinternational.org/ - I think you'll be able to find someone who can help you be more clear about what you're going through and what to do next. Good luck. It may seem scary right now, but you are not alone.
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well my computer recently crashed and we lost all the itunes files. when i redownloaded itunes on the new computer and plugged my ipod in, only the songs i had purchased showed up in the library. however i have alot of songs that i got from cds and what not so i was wondering if i plug my ipod in again will it put the rest of the songs into the library? or will it put the library of songs i have now onto my ipod and i will lose all the unpurchased songs? pleaseeee help meee. it would really mean alot (link)
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Yes, you'll have to make a choice, replace the library on your ipod with what's on the computer or keep that library and just buy a new ipod for your new stuff. It sucks. Same thing happened to me, and I lost a lot of music. You should back up your library. I know, it takes a lot of time and money for cds but its worth it. You could also purchase an external hard drive and back up to that. I use a service called carbonite.com. Its a back up service. It backs up the entire contents of your hard drive using encryptions and guarantees your privacy or they will compensate you. It is $55 a year and after the initial back up (which takes a couple of days) it just backs up every time you're on line. Now I never have to worry about loosing my music (or family videos and pictures) again.
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ok heres whats going on soo far. We didn't get to see each other this weekend but it will be next on momerial day weekend. I miss him alot... I"m trying not to let it get to me. I left him an email saying wishing we can see each other sooner so maybe he'll pick up on it. Plus I've been getting stares from people at church.. including some of the worship team, he doesn't know aout this cause I haven't told him. Is this normal. I mean we held hands about 2 weeks ago for the longest time, i'm starting to think thats why. he took the lead on that though. What do you make of this so far??? How can I cope with the feelings of missing him. I even tryed new activites nothing works lol.
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Well, obviously whatever is going on is starting to be noticed by other people. Not knowing the kind of people you go to church with, I don't know if that's a good thing or a bad thing. I tend to think it doesn't really matter too much what they think as long as the two of you are consenting adults and there are no spouses or significant other involved. As long as he is still leading the church in a responsible way, it shouldn't matter who he is involved with in his personal life. Hopefully he'll respond to your email with something positive. Until then, or until you see him again, I wish I could tell you what to do to stop going crazy! LOL. Unfortunately this is all part of liking someone. What can you do but go with the flow and do your best to get on with the day to day stuff. A time will come soon when all of this is sorted out one way or the other.
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wat will you do if you ever get your heart broken?? :( (link)
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You feel sad and cry for a while then you pick yourself up and move on with your life, knowing that every heartbreak gives you the chance to learn something.
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I watch a five year old little girl and everytime she goes to the bathroom she doesnt wipe. I try to remind her everytime and even if tell her to she usaly doesnt. Well its getting to be a hard thing to deal with today i was out with my mom and she had to go to the bathroom, i took her and told her to wipe. she comes out wash her hands and we go back to hang with my mom she wont sit down i ask her why she said she didnt want to. i told her to sit down she does then she gets back up after a few mins i smell something. she didnt wipe, she isnt my child so i dont feel right wiping for her or check so me and her have to leave and come home to change and take a bath. how can i make her wipe she refuses to and doesnt seem to care if she gets in trouble. HELP please (link)
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Oh, I had to giggle when I read this. I don't think your girl is much different from many kids her age. My son is 8 and recently has entered the "I don't need to wash my hands" stage. I have to remind him EVERY time he comes out of the bathroom. Keep on this one. She'll grow out of it, I promise. Think of it this way - remember when you were potty training and you had a day or two where you were like "Is she EVER going to be able to use the bathroom". And then she did. She'll do this too. Just keep doing what you're doing. Don't give up. The key is to keep pushing through. Eventually there will come a day when you notice she's doing it by herself. Also, have you tried those disposable bathroom wipes? They're wet like baby wipes but you can flush them. They really helped my son when he was learning to wipe. Even though its a pain in your butt, go with her when she goes to the bathroom around you. If she complains about privacy explain that until she can wipe her bottom like a big girl you have to watch her like moms watch their babies. You can do this! She'll be fine. I know she will. You'll back on this stage and laugh someday. Happy wiping!
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tonight me and my bf where talking. i am 22 he is 30, i asked if he was happy he said yeah. then we started talking about karma, got onto the topic of how bad this year has been and i say "as long as we have each othere we are ok" he tells me thats not enough. should i take the personily he said he ment love wont keep our heads above water, it really hurt me should i let it go or talk to him about it? (link)
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I don't think you should take it so personally. He's actually right. Love is great, but if its not accompanied by positive actions and hard work, its not enough to keep your life afloat. I believe that he meant he loves you, but that love doesn't pay the bills or get the promotions. His male brain is thinking about providing. Your female brain is thinking about nurturing. Its a classic gender disconnect, not related to how he feels about you. With that being said, you were hurt, so maybe its best if you just acknowledge to him that you might have misunderstood what he said. Then at least he can have a chance to explain himself better and you'll have peace of mind. But don't get too crazy over this. I really think its more of a misunderstanding than anything. Good luck!
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I am a female in my mid twenties. One of my best friends is dating my boss's ex boyfriend. My boss and her ex were together for at least 5 years, and they are still really good friends. My boss's ex knows me because I sometimes hang out with my best friend and him. I know that my boss knows her ex is dating someone new, but I do not know if my boss knows that I am a really good friend of this person. My gut tells me she probably has a good idea. I feel like I am being deceitful to my boss by not acknowledging the fact that my best friend is dating her ex. I am going to be working on a big project with my boss soon, and I am afraid it is going to feel like there is a giant elephant in the room when we work together. Should I talk to her about my friend's relationship with her ex or just keep my mouth shut? (link)
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Just keep it to yourself for now. There's no place for it in your work environment anyway. If, in the future, she mentions it to you, just tell her you didn't bring it up earlier because you didn't want it to seem weird. If she's a mature person I'm sure she'll understand.
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My friend (we are both 16-year-old girls), was recently sexually assaulted by a 15-year-old boy at school who is her ex-boyfriend. The police are involved and so are the teachers and school. (the assault happened at school. It wasnt rape, he just touched her innapropraitely and tried to do stuff. Also the boy and her broke up months ago and he seemed ok with it)
My friend is taking it ok. She is upset and angry and stressed, but she is a very strong girl and hasn't been emotionally affected as bad as people usually are.
The thing is, I dont know what to say to her. When this subject is brought up i dont know what to say. When she told me about it i didnt know what to say. And recently she told me that her dad cant look at her and called her a "slut" and he "cant belive she is her daughter". I think that this is completely outrageous and horrible, but i dont think i should say that to my friend because it is her father.
I just need advice on what to actually say. Should I just say nothing at all? What if she just says "I dont know what to do" which she does say alot. How do I respond to that? How do I respond to someone telling me they have been sexually assaulted by their ex?
I just need to know what to say and how to comfort her. (link)
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When she brings it up just listen to her. Remind her that she doesn't deserve to be treated that way. Sometimes people who go through things like that just need a friend who will listen to them and remind them about their good qualities. If you feel awkward and you really feel stuck for words, tell her that you know nothing you can say can make it better, and you may not always know what to say, but you're there for her and you care about what happens to her. Let her know you have her back no matter what. I'm sure that would mean a lot to her.
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ok heres whats going on so far... I emailed him I told him how I was feeling towards him he responded but not towards my feelings I"m assuming he's gonna tell me in person he said he'll see me next week so I'm assuming this sunday. We spoke to each other threw email on tuesday. Anyway's... I'm very tempeted to call him again. We haven't seen each other in about 2 weeks. My gut feeling tells me something good is going to come out of it I just don't know what it he going tell me. I can tell you that I've bee feeling love for him. What do you make of this??? (link)
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Hang tight. See what happens this Sunday. Its just a few more days. Don't call. Just wait and see what he does this Sunday. : )
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I am 46 yrs old and am thinking about getting a bachelors in healthcare administration--I got an assoc in rad technology 24 years ago. I would like to do it online and it is expensive so the question is do I risk going into some debt to pursue this new career. I don't think I have what it takes physically to do my current job for another 20 years so that is why I am thinking of continuing my education and it is something I always thought I could do--just worried about risk versus reward I guess. (link)
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Anything worth having involves risk. But what would you be risking by NOT pursuing it? Your health, your sanity, your peace of mind? Yes, it will be difficult, but think how much sweeter it will feel when you finally do get that degree. You'll know you worked hard for all the good things you get in life. You're 46 now. You could be in the career of your dreams by 50. But what if you keep waiting? Imagine turning 50 and thinking, "Oh, if only I had started 4 years ago, I'd be done by now". You don't know what the future holds, but you DO know that if you do nothing, nothing will happen. Good luck.
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