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Should I talk to my boss?
I am a female in my mid twenties. One of my best friends is dating my boss's ex boyfriend. My boss and her ex were together for at least 5 years, and they are still really good friends. My boss's ex knows me because I sometimes hang out with my best friend and him. I know that my boss knows her ex is dating someone new, but I do not know if my boss knows that I am a really good friend of this person. My gut tells me she probably has a good idea. I feel like I am being deceitful to my boss by not acknowledging the fact that my best friend is dating her ex. I am going to be working on a big project with my boss soon, and I am afraid it is going to feel like there is a giant elephant in the room when we work together. Should I talk to her about my friend's relationship with her ex or just keep my mouth shut?
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Keep your mouth shut. Do not talk about your boss and her ex to anyone in the office. If you boss brings it up, be professional and say something along the lines of 'Oh I wasn't sure that was the same person' and don't tell her anything about the relationship that he is currently in with your friend. Its best to keep your personal life out of the office.
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i would keep my mouth zipped unless she ask you a question. if she has a good idea about it she knows you are just being proffesional by not saying anything , but if she brings it up then your free to talk if not then she isnt comftorable talking about it so just let her be :)
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Just keep it to yourself for now. There's no place for it in your work environment anyway. If, in the future, she mentions it to you, just tell her you didn't bring it up earlier because you didn't want it to seem weird. If she's a mature person I'm sure she'll understand.
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Personally, I wouldn't mention it. Your boss's love life is between herself and her ex, and I would guess she'd prefer keeping her personal life seperate from her professional life. It may seem like you're stuck in the middle, but you have to consider that if she DOES know, as you suspect she does, she probably hasn't mentioned it because she doesn't want to talk about it. You may not know how she feels or what she and her ex went through, and it's a very personal subject to bring up. What if someone you work with started talking about your ex? Wouldn't your reaction be thinking "It's none of your business"? Just a thought.
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