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I was wondering if its true if baking soda really whitens your teeth?
If its true how do you go about the process (link)
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No, not significantly. If you want to whiten your teeth a few shades try Crest Whitestrips (or similar products). If you need something more dramatic then your dentist can do it for you, but insurence usually doesn't cover it and that may cost over $1000.
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My husband and I have been married almost 2 years.(A shotgun wedding) After relocating to his hometown, faraway from my own, he recently told me that he is not ready to be a "family". He takes care of our 1 year old son, but he doesn't want to be a husband anymore. He really did try for a long time. We were supposed to buy a house and I was going to take care of our baby and go to school part time. He said he will still support us financially and get a house for us to live in, which he will not stay at. What should I do?
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Do you really want to be married to a man who isn't happy? You didn't say if you were happy, if you love him or not. He is being honest with you, and he can't go on like this. You deserve better too, you deserve to be with someone who loves you and wants to be with you. You won't find it if you are stuck with a man that is wrong for you. I don't think that he is doing the wrong thing here, it sounds like he really tried and wants to take care of his child as a first priority. My advice to you is to talk to a good lawyer and start looking at your financial situation. If you don't already have a job, then get one. You might still be able to go to school part time, but get on your feet first. Don't rely on him to give you money or take care of you unless it is established by the courts. Good luck honey, remember that it is for the best.
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okay well.. my mom she is putting me on a pill. and before i go on it i need a exam at the ghynecologist (sp?) she said it was only partial but im terrified. is there any way i can make this experience less scary, i tried using a tampon before and i was crying hystericall cause i got so scared and it hurt. please help me
im 15
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The GYN isn't as scary as you think it is, you'll see that once you get there. Just make sure you tell your doctor how stressed you are feeling before they start the exam. Try to get a female doctor if you can, that should make you feel more comfortable. She'll tell you everything she is doing as she does it, and the exam itself is really only a few minutes long. She is there for you to ask her any questions at all that you might have about your body, so make a list if it helps you. You should tell her about how it hurts to use tampons too, and how you have problems putting them in. Don't stress so much, you'll see that it isn't all that it is hyped to be.
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hey im a 26/f married,and i recently found out that im pregnant and i need some creative ways to tell my parents and my inlaws, im my parents only child so my pregnancy is really going to be exciting for them and i'll be the first pregnant out of my husbands family too so i need some thing really good and creative. thanx a bunch (link)
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I have no advice, I just wanted to say congratulations!
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OK My mom just got fired because she had a blood clot in her lung and now can't do anything. My dads job dont pay enough. We have the bills and my dads ex-wife is a jerk. She makes us pay child support and now that my mom is not working we will only be able to pay her. Then we will have to hunt to get food. The bodem line. I dont know how to help her. I just wanna die. What can I doooooooooo? (link)
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It is not fair for your parents to discuss these sort of problems in front of you. You are young so you don't see what the issue really is here. This is not your problem AT ALL. All families have to deal with this, it is a very common adult problem that adults are perfectly capable of handling themselves without unloading their stress on you. If you overheard these issues and they never actually discussed them with you (I certainly hope that is the case) that is different, but again, do not worry. I can not stress this enough honey, adults have many more options, more then you can imagine, for situations just like these and there is no reason for you to be concerned. The best thing you can do is to help your mother get better. If they do (and I really hope they are not this irresponsible) talk about this in front of you, then please tell them how much stress this is causing you. They really need to stop.
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Thirteen Female; My life feels boring but its not at all. There is something seriously wrong and I have no idea what it is. I use things as escapes like reading writing music sometimes even pot but those things ware off while I'm in school. I have no clue what’s wrong with me. I'm always frustrated, tired, tense and sketchy. I have tons of friends and my family life is perfect with the acceptation of my father but I can't blame everything on him. I know what your thinking-shrink. But see I’m not aloud to go to a shrink because of my father and issues so what do I do. My friends are all upper class richies who could never understand. I feel as if everything I do is inflicting pain on me and I can’t stand to even breathe anymore. My friend went to a hospital for depression but she’s fine. I just want to know what to do because all this makes me so out of it all the time and I really miss my friends and family. See there a rip in all this though because when I'm with this one guy I forget everything and I am all myself but at the same time I can't remember what I have to tell him but that's okay because he makes me feel okay. This is also a problem because we talk less and less every day so now I’m like dying. I rate high. And I really am not insane. Believe me. (link)
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Of course you are not insane, you really do have a lot of symptoms of depression so you should talk to a doctor about it. Forget about "not being allowed to", this is your health you are talking about. You might be young, but you ultimately have to be responsible for your own health. Tell your school counselor that you would like information on the subject, show him or her this very letter in fact. They will help you even if your parents won't for some reason.
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hello everyone. Im 14/f/cali and i have a friend that is very close to me with a problem. she told me that her left breast is a b cup and her right breast hasent grown. she wears a padded bra on that side but this makes her so sad and i want to help her . she has already been to the doctor. it still hasent grown (1 year after)have any of u heard of this or have it or HAD it? any advise will help! I will grade you high . thank you so much. (link)
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Most women do not have breast of completely equal size. Your friend is most certainly still growing so there is no reason to worry and nothing she can do but even out the appearance with padding. I wouldn't worry, I'm sure they'll even out fine.
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we have a question in science class i'm not sure how to answer. does sperm live in toilet water er any liquid?? i heard since the circumstances have to be very specific, if it's in the air & then stays in water for even a few seconds er minutes, it does not live & cannot be active. is that true??
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Sperm can live inside a woman's body for up to 7 days...it can be frozen by itself and thawed to still be active. As far as other liquids, they don't provide a very hospitable environment for optimal living conditions and the sperm will not live long. More then a few minutes, yes but not for hours and hours.
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I have a question about my stomach muscles. I have been working well on my abs, doing regular crunchies and sit-ups, etc. But the area right below my bellybutton and to the left and right of it push out more(If I look at myself in the mirror sideways). What are some ways I can reduce this so I have a flatter stomach all the way through? I'm a freshman in highschool and I work out 4-5 days a week, running atlesat 1-2 miles a day. Thanks! (link)
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It might be that those muscles have been overworked and that is why you have more definition there. Defined abs are great, but if you don't like the look then lay off the ab exercises for awhile and just run. Why do you work out so much, are you training for something?
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ok well i have this problem....well everytiem i go to soccer pratice i always feel left out and like i have no really close friends on the team and i never talk..i may say 2 words..like i dont really feel comforatble around them...but with my school friends im like the loudest person you may ever meet...so im basically asking how can i get more social at soccer...i mean ive tried before but they just like ignore me and go off with there other friends....becuz everytime i go to soccer i get depressed now..so plzzz help me so i can become more social like give me tips or watever please!!
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If you have already tried the obvious solutions, like being nice and friendly and striking up conversations and it still isn't getting you anywhere...then maybe you just don't "click" with these people. It really sucks to feel left out, especially when the whole point of the sport is to work as a team. I wouldn't be able to continue very long if nobody was friendly to me.
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My mom never wants me to pluck my eyebrows on my own, so she takes away the tweesers. (I don't think I do that bad of a job) But usually, I find the tweesers and fix up my eyebrows.
But I can't find them, and my eyebrows are really growing back. All I have are these big tweesers that open real wide and are really hard to use.
I should get them professionally done, but I'm embarrassed to ask my mom. help asap? (link)
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If you aren't old enough to go out and buy your own tweezers or to go out to the salon yourself then I'm thinking your mother might be right on this one. There isn't any reason why your mother would do this unless you aren't doing a good job and are embarrassing yourself. You apparently don't realize this. If you don't agree with what I'm saying, why not ask your mother if she thinks you look bad, and maybe ask her to puck them for you.
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OK, I am a little interested in this guy. Yes, we are both married, but, I am not saying I want to build a relationship or anything like that. I am just curious. We talk a lot when we're altogether, he picks on me, makes sexual comments sometimes and I always catch him staring at me. Does he like me or is it just "friendly flirting?"
Also, what are other signs guys give off when they like you. Thanx in advance. I rate 5's for real answers. (link)
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Yes, he is interested in you. Maybe not enough to actually cross the line in any way but I wouldn't be comfortable with it. If you want to just be friends then I would suggest backing off a little to sort of send him a message without putting him on the spot. Of course if you are looking for more then that....it sounds like you could have it.
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HI,
Im currently talking to this girl who happens to be my friends ex. We dated for about a week and broke up because things were kinda complicated. She was scared of me losing all my friends. She went out with my friend for 9 months and they broke up 3 months ago cuz he cheated on her. I talked to him about it and he gave me the okay, and told me it would be akward. But im affriad of all my friends talking shit behind my back. Every time i talk to this girl i like her more and more, what should i do, is this right?
I dont want to lose her??? i know she really likes me, but she just doesnt want to be the cause of drama..... but i really think shes worth it?? what should i tell her??? what should i do????
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If it is really and truely ok with your friend then there is no reason not too. But I have to wonder where all the drama is coming from if it IS really and truely ok with your friend. If he secretly has a ploblem with it then that could be the reason who other mutual friends might dissaprove. Find out what is behind all this first...remember though, never diss your friend for a girl. That should be your first priority. Make SURE it is ok with him.
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ok so here's the thing, I am not as comfortable with sex as I want to be. Like I get nervous like i'm going to do something wrong or not be able to keep him 'interested'. How can I get more comfortable with my sexuality? (link)
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Don't be afraid to ask him what he wants (specifics) and tell him exactly what you want. It may seem like dirty talk at first but trust me, you get used to it and it is a turn on. Make sure you are comfortable with your own body too. Do you think you are a sexy woman? Confidence is key.
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I know we all have insecurities, but I'm pretty sure no one is as paranoid as I am. I'm not fat, but I'm not really skinny either. All the girls in my school seriously look like they are anorexic and the guys are all over them. I thought guys like curvy girls. Anyway, my best friend is a freakin' twig, and she has all these guys all over her. Seriously. It doesn't stop. Two of them even came to her house when she was sick because they're like obsessed with her because she's so beautiful. And I know I'm not ugly, but something inside of me keeps telling me that I am, and I need to get skinnier and more slutty and wear more make-up or stop wearing my hear a certain way. I used to be a really confident girl, but it's all changed now. I know like 2 guys think I'm hot, but that's TWO guys out of the whole school. Everyone likes my best friend. I mean everyone. It makes me sick.
So, my question is, how do I make that little voice inside my head stop saying "you're so fat, you need to be more like Danielle" or "don't do your makeup like that, that looks gross"? (link)
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You didn't say how old you were but it SOUNDS like you are still in high school maybe? If so, let me tell you something. Boys at that age are still developing their taste for the type of woman they are attracted to. Most of them fixate of whatever the "it" girl of the moment is, and if one popular boy is outspoken about one girl, the other guys will follow suite. Very similar to how young woman act. I promise you, different men (not boys)like different type of woman. Some I know really only are attracted to big girls, some are straight up nauseated by skinny girls, some guys do like them stick- looking. Same with things like make-up and how you dress. Don't make the mistake of trying to tranform yourself based on what guys like or what is trendy OR what some other girl is doing. Do your own thing, because plastic clone girls are a dime a dozen but intelligent, attractive, confident women with their own interest are a rare breed. I have one more secret for you...body type is something guys look for, but confidence overrides physical attractiveness every time. If you have the attitude that you know you're sexy and F anyone who doesn't agree, then I promise you everyone will start wondering what they are missing out on.
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I'm in a relationship right now, and it's such a drag shaving down there like everyday. I hate it; it makes me itch constantly, makes me break out, and then i have stubs (it's gross). Is there anyway I can get all of it gone w/ out waxing and/or shaving. Like I know there is Nair & Veet for your legs, but is there some like that for down there? Thank-you. 14/f (link)
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I have tried those creams and found that they are often irritating and don't totally work sometimes. Shaving is the best for me, but if you aren't already, make sure you use fresh blades and a good razor like Venus, thick shaving cream and an affter shaving creave to prevent bumps and iching. You could always try a dap of regular hydrocortisone cream....that works for me. Also, shave everyday to prevent itching as it grows back.
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15/Boy.
I have a problem with my mom's way of life.She
doesnt care what she wears or looks like. She wears always nasty dresses (kinda exposing ). I hate the way the men stairs at her.On last tuesday I was watching tv with my friend (boy), she came in the room, wearing a loose frock, when she bend to collect magazines from the floor, her frock was up and her nude hips were exposed to us (she was not wearing panty as usual). I was soo embarassed in front of my friend.
How should I mend the ways of mom. Pl. advice.
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That is a terrible example she is setting for you, thankfully you recognize it as embarrassing and not attractive. You really need to talk to her (in a nice way) and tell her that this bothers you, and embarrasses you in front of your friends. She may get defensive, but if she refuses to change I would tell her that you don't want to bring your friends around anymore and you would prefer to not go out in public with her when she dressed like that. She needs a wake up call.
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ok well i drink slim fast i wanna no if it really works and if it does how long will it be before i see results thankz i rate 5s :] (link)
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Don't waste your money, it doesn't work. If you want to loose weight you have to cut calories (eat less) and work out. Lots of fruits and vegetables!
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19/f. Me and my b/f have been havin sex for over a yr but it still hurts. My docter doens't think theres anything wrong but another suggested a pap. What do you think could be wrong with me and does any one else have this prob? (link)
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There are lots of potential (and legimate) medical reasons for this. Tell your doctor that this is a big problem, if they dismiss your concerns then find another doctor. I'm sure you have tried all the regular stuff, like more lube? It could very well be a medical problem.
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ok,well,i have split(some) ends,but i dont have the time to cut them off.I heard there was this thing from fructics for split ends but i dont know the name.is there one from frutics and if so whats the name?thankyou :] (link)
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There is no way to "heal" split end besides to cut them off. Get regular haircuts from a professional, and go easy on heat styling and exessive brushing. Try a hair serum to smooth out the look of your hair in the meantime. I don't know what your price range is but ask your stylist for a recomendation.
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