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My friend is 14 and is probably about 85-90 pounds. She almost completely refuses to eat and when I ask her if she wants help she always says no. Who should I tell? And any advice for me to give her would be great. (link)
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Tell your teacher and do it in confidence or consult your parents to figure out the proper way for them to deal with it correctly.
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So I ran into my desk this morning, and I think I broke my nose. Whenever I chew something or push my teeth together I get a throbbing pain on the top part of my nose, whenever I push it it hurts. I plan on going to the doctor soon enough to check it out, but I'm just really curious of what happened to it. (link)
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Does your nose feel bent or crooked? That is one tell tale sign. Also, if broken it should be incredibly swollen. You also shouldn't be able to breathe in easily and feel as though the sinuses are beyond clogged up. Another big sign here that should be present at some point is a nose that gushes blood.
If you are in doubt about your nose go to the emergency room for an X-ray and diagnosis. Any broken bones you may have are indeed considered an emergency. If your nose is broken you want it set correctly or it can heal wrong and indeed look crooked or flat.
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Right 3 days ago at my last day at work I was asked for my cellphone number and we had been (from what I can take from it) flirting. I said yes and wrote it down for him. But he has not texted? Is he not interested? Or am I overreacting? By the way I am 16 and a girl, the only reason I could think he wouldn't contact me is because of my age ( he is older but not by too much). What do you think? (link)
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It is indeed one of those wait and see what he does scenario. If he genuinely likes you he definitely will call. I would give it a week or two and see what happens. He may have your number but be a little intimidated even if he asked for it to go ahead and call.
After a week or two pop him a text and ask how he's doing. If he doesn't respond to you than forget it and move on. I doubt he would have asked you for it if he didn't intend on following up. Give him time to make the first move.
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I know this is going to sound silly, but I'm very worried about moving off to college.
First off, I'm 21 so I already feel like I'm really old and I'm worried about being in courses with freshmen/sophomores who are going to be 18 and 19. Luckily, I do look much younger than I am (I could pass for 15, so hopefully this means if I don't say anything about my age that I can fit in right???
I graduated from HS with honors when I was 17, but was already working as a manager by 18 and then met my (now ex) significant other who tied my life up for a few years. I actually appreciate this because it gave me insight to what career I truly wanted to go into and if I had gone to college right after HS, I would have gone for an impractical major. It also gave me time to mature and also realize how important going to college really is.
I started college a year ago, getting my prereqs completed at a small for-profit and am now transferring to a somewhat prestigious private school.
Having friends and a support group is a really big deal to me and I'm really worried that making friends is going to be difficult. Part of my worry is my age, but the other part of it is that because I was awarded a merit scholarship, the college put me in nicer housing that usually only juniors and seniors receive. So instead of being around newer students like myself, I'm going to be in an on-campus apartment with three girls who are likely to have a predesignated friend group and leave me out as they'll probably be juniors and seniors.
I'm hoping that by taking a transfer seminar with other transfer students for a semester, that it will help me make friends.
This will also be the first time I'll be living far from my family and friends. I'm moving several hours away to attend this college and will also be living within a big city, where as I'm used to my small town. It's going to be a massive culture shock for me and I'm not sure how well I'll be able to look out for myself when having to go out into the city for shopping, groceries, ect.
And then there's the matter of finding a new job and paying my car insurance, groceries, ect! I'm of course already looking for jobs, and I have one that said they'd call me back when I move, but who knows for sure if they'll really do that?
I'm so worried about everything that it's making me feel physically sick and keeping me up all night every night and I still have 4 days before my move!
What should I do?! :(
Any advice helps!
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You are worrying mostly about things that haven't happened to you and won't. Relax. You have got this and wouldn't have received a scholarship or admittance if anyone thought otherwise.
Secondly age really isn't a factor here. Maturity is and you'll find at the start that there are a lot of people who are immature and treating school like high school and finding out the hard way that drinking,drugs etc. gets them nowhere. The school weeds them out easily.
You will find that it will be easier to make friends and that there are people who are intellectual and serious as you are about where they are going. Also, the gap between 18 and 21 isn't that big and you aren't old.
Your life experience already has you prepared for this anyways. When it comes to the 3 people sharing a house give them the same benefit of doubt they would want from you. You have prejudged them without ever meeting them. They could be really nice people for all you know.
I know you will find a job and it's difficult to be patient. I would recommend you start putting resumes out to places you would want to work. As far as managing goes the places with a revolving door and constantly recruiting are fast food places or movie theater chains. I would seriously think of finding a job at a movie theater.
I would relax and treat this as a new adventure and be excited as everything tends to fall into place in these situations. You have a lot more going for you than you believe you do.
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Hey!
My guinea pig has a bald patch under his chin. The skin looks completely fine, no visible wounds or anything. I wonder if anyone that has a guinea pig has had this issue and whether they know if I need to see a vet for that. I realize the internet is not the best place to get advice about this, however I really really can't afford a vet and I'm freaking out. If this could mean something is wrong with my piggy I will go to a vet. Does anyone know whether I should be concerned?
Please only answer if you believe you can help with this. This is a scary situation for me and I need advice from someone who knows more about this. Thank you so much! (link)
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https://www.guineapigcages.com/forum/threads/66235-bald-patch-under-chin!
I'm not a vet but it sounds like other people who have a similar issue as yours have possible solution in the above article. They can get fungal infections causing the bald spot.
While you might not be able to afford a vet what you could do is call a pet store or breeder and ask if this is common with these animals or not. You could call a vet and explain you're a kid without funds and wanted to know if the patch is common. Maybe they will tell you on the phone or make it so you can afford a checkup. Try your parents as well.
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I play a Baritone bass clef in my school band, and I'm horrible at it. I do try to practice it, but I can't practice unless I have somebody else playing the same rhythm as me. I know I just need to practice, but I'm kind of in a pickle here. I have to play a solo in less than a month, and I can't play it, and I can't back out of it now. I'm freaking out and I don't know what to do! Asking my band teacher for help is out of the question cause if he knew that I still can't play it, then he'll be fearious! I don't really have any friends that can practice with me either, please help! (link)
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You cannot bank on what you THINK someone will do. They may in fact have the opposite reaction entirely. Now is the time to say something and get help. Imagine if you went out there and couldn't perform and you had the chance earlier to rectify that? I would think he would be furious then for you not trying.
I would tell him "I appreciate you giving me a solo but I do not feel ready or worthy of one." Point out you have been faking it rather than admitting what you don't understand over fear or getting yelled at. Tell him the very important detail is that you can't distinguish proper pitch or sound when you play and can only mimic someone else's playing to sound half decent when they are next to you.
Tell the truth. It's the only way to become a better player or make this situation better for yourself and the band. Your choice affects not only you but their performance as a group over all. Telling the truth and taking any consequences if there are any will get you farther than trying to fake it and hope nobody notices. Trust me--they would indeed.
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Hi so I have a friend who is in the group of friends that I'm in. She is such a nice and loyal friend, but the rest of the group don't really consider her their friend. Now don't get me wrong my group of friends are really nice and caring, I don't know why they don't but they don't really invite her to things that we do. When I did stick up for her and try to tell them that she should be invited to these things they just didn't really say anything because they don't like drama. So we have organised a big get together that everyone in our group is going to, but the person who organised it didn't invite her. I asked her if she invited her and she said that it's too many people. I think I will just not go to this gathering, and do something with her instead, but I'm really not sure because I will miss out on things that they will probably talk about a lot. I don't like drama either and I think they find it annoying that I keep telling them we should include her more. I don't want to miss out on it but I think it might be the right thing to do. I'm not sure. What do you think I should do? (link)
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Your gut has already told you. Trust it. I'm not sold on your friend's being the nice and caring people you think they are. They are sending this person a message by freezing her out completing by non-invites on purpose or balking if you bring her along. It's a form of bullying.
For whatever reason they hate and or don't get her and haven't the balls to tell her or you why. You did the right thing to stick up for yourself and for her. People don't have to love or include people they don't like but they have no right to put you and her in this position continually. You're at a crossroads unless they grow up ditch them.
As for your friend she likely wouldn't want to go to that party anyway but deserved an invite and it was obviously deliberate that left her out. I would instead spend the evening with her doing things that you both identify with and find fun than missing this party. Will you be missing out? Not really but you will if you don't focus on yur friend.
Why? She's loyal to you. No matter what happens with the others this one will stay and have your back. You have hers. That means more than the superficial friendship with the others who are acting like brats. Unless they can give you a legit reason for being so awful towards this girl you should give them no mind, send a message of your own and have your own plans with this new pal. That's what I would do. It's the right thing and will benefit you now and longterm.
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I am currently in a situation where I have to with my family for a few weeks and it's hard for me because I can't stand being around them. I need to block out their sound with headphones or else I go absolutely nuts and my anxiety level hits the roof. Finally I've found something that calms me and gets me out of my head: Netflix. As soon as an absolute miracle like this comes in to my life I have to give it up because the internet doesn't work in my room, which is my only place to be alone. What are alternatives to using the Internet, that will get me out of my head, give my mind something structured to focus on and is easy? (link)
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The Internet is the easy part to solve. They are paying for it and it doesn't work in the room you are in. They could tell their service provider and have one come out and see why WI-FI and connecting just isn't happening.
You could go another route. Tell them you have a NetFlix account you have paid for and that when you feel anxious or upset like to retreat to somewhere quiet to watch shows and movies but that you cannot connect t the Internet. Offer to let them use it if they can find you a quiet room in which you can connect when alone.
The most important part of this is the anxiety in and of itself. Have you sought medical help? While sounds and people can trigger an episode it's almost always because of something medical and not people or a particular situation. Medication may help you as would therapy. With doctors you could call them any time and tell them you are having anxiety and ask for strategies and assistance dealing with current situation you are in.
If watching movies seems to help you one thing you could do is get a cheap DVD or Blu-Ray player and set it up or use a PS3 or PS4 if they have one and watch movies on disc that you purchase or borrow from the library. You could also put $100 on a movie theater gift-card and see at least 10 movies off of that when you need to get away. I do this.
If something makes you anxious the best thing is to leave the area or situation and go someplace that doesn't bring on these feelings for a little while to be free. It could be as simple as taking walks alone, going to a library, exercising or finding a hobby r something you could do outside their home maybe a course or something at a community center, skating you name it. Look into what is offered where they are. That may help with living there for a few weeks.
You also should be direct with these people and tell them you have an anxiety disorder and are ultra-sensitive to certain noises and get afraid and that to block them out headphones are the only thing calming you. Try to work and see if there are ways they can alter routines to try and help you. Odds are they aren't aware of what you can't handle. They won't scorn you.
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I am 17/F, my brothers are 13 and 15. We are currently on Christmas break, have been for the past 4 days.
It seems their favourite activity is walking into my bedroom without knocking while I am reading and fiddling around with my stuff and talking to me about Minecraft (which I am utterly uninterested in) or trying to convince me to read Lord of the Rings (also not interested).
I really don't like that they continually come in, particularly because they just waltz in without knocking even though I have asked them to knock multiple times. I talked to my mom about it and she told me to just ask them nicely to leave.
There are a couple of problems with that idea. First, I don't want them to come in unannounced in the first place. Second, I can't always ask nicely. I mean in theory it's easy, but I can't always put it into practice.
When I'm in a good mood, I put up with them coming in, and I try to make conversation for a while, until they or I get bored and they leave or I ask them politely to leave. This works fine.
However, if I'm really tired or just feeling kind of grumpy, I find it really hard to ask nicely. Sometimes I let them come in and hope if I ignore them they will leave(it doesn't work, I should stop trying), but most of the time I tell them to leave. I know I shouldn't tell them, because they won't leave unless I ask nicely, but I tell them, and then either they or my mom tell me to ask nicely, but at that point I am frustrated and I can't seem to control my tone of voice, so I say "Would you please leave me alone" but I say it in an annoyed way, so they don't leave because I didn't ask nicely enough.
How can I stop this? Is there a way to prevent myself from getting so frustrated? (link)
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They are bored. For whatever reason they find you interesting and or more likely an easy target to get a rise out of. Don't give it to them and you'll find they will disappear. More or less that's all that is.
The privacy and knocking before entering issue is the one to be concerned with. They need to know they can't do this and it's up to the adults in the picture to make it clear. Parent's don't like the idea of locks usually.
I would compromise and ask if you can get a chain latch so that when someone goes to turn a knob without being invited in it stops the door from fully opening. Your parents will know how to bypass this if they need in as will you. The two of them won't.
At almost 18 you are deserving of the same privacy any adult would get so I think addressing this is more important than them following you and bothering you. You need space and definitely a place to relax, not worry about changing clothes, or needing to be alone. They too need this and to know what respect means.
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In a few days I have to see an old friend who I've been crazy about for years but we never ended up being a thing. I've gone about a year now since seeing him last and have become a new person and don't want to fall back into the sense of admiration and respect and I used to have for him. He's overall a nice guy and a really good friend but also kind of an asshole and I'm SURE I still have feelings for him and they will all come rushing back once I see him and I'll be back to square one, trapped in this unrequited love I dealt with for years. I'm DREADING seeing him.
I just got out of another situation in which I experienced heartache with this other sleaze ball and I just feel really delicate and insecure and like this feeling is never going to end. Ugh what should I do to deal with this mentally? (link)
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What makes him an asshole anyways? Either he is one or he isn't. You cannot be in love with someone who you feel is one. That doesn't make much sense. You either love and respect him or you don't.
Have you ever thought he may not know where he stands with you either? Maybe you both have feelings but never put it out there. You will agonize over this until you actually sit down and hash it out. I'm sure if he's a good friend he wn't treat yu badly if not interested. At least then you can move on.
Next stop thinking of yourself as fragile and delicate. Yes, you got hurt by someone who wasn't a good person but you have to pick yourself up and keep going or they win. Heartache needs to be spoken about but you also need to work on moving forward and not in a rut. I would talk to your friend and go from there. I would also start meeting new people and socializing to get through the hurt with the other person.
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Sphere: +0.50
Cylinder: -1.50
Axis: 165
Can anyone explain what's going on with it? My left eye is just a little nearsighted, but this eye confuses me. (link)
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The average person is not an eye-doctor. Asking us won't help much. The doctor you saw will be able to tell you what Sphere +50 Cylinder-150, Axis 165 means as would the optician where you get glasses. They'll tell you what all that means for your prescription and eyes. Give them a call back or ask when you receive your completed glasses.
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I'm 15 and I know mood swings are common symptoms of puberty. One minute I'm moody, the next I am crying and then I'm happy. I can be such a bitch sometimes that it makes me feel bad afterwards but I feel as if I can't help but say the things on my mind. I can also feel VERY low about myself and at times I don't have the will to go to school or do anything but stay in bed. I also get sad, thinking about what I'm going to do with my life; I feel as if I'm just wasting time in the boring routine of school and feel unsatisfied with what I'm learning. I want to explore, go to new places but I just feel trapped. I think this might also be a phase but it's becoming common along with my other emotions. I need help on how to contain this at least.
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The first thing to do is tell your parents or adult you trust who can help. Ask yourself when did this start? How long has this been going on? You need to figure out how steady this is or if there is a specific thing triggering the moods.
Whey do you need to know? It may not be just puberty. The symptoms you describe are actually quite common for mood disorders especially if this is the norm with you and are rapid cycling. If your emotions are all over the place this may be why. In that event see a doctor and find out what can be done with medication treatment if this is the issue.
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So I started dating a boy who is 20 years old and i'm 19 years old and today on 10/28/15 he decided to tell me in a text I can't talk right now but we have talked everyday since September so is he needing a cool of break or is he just busy with his life. (link)
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Either or. Give him the benefit of the doubt. He could be extremely busy with school or other activities. That's normal. He needs that kind of space as do you. He could have been with family or in a situation where texting back and forth wasn't possible or appropriate.
The other thing is that perhaps always texting him and calling or talking daily is too much. Back off a little bit and let him initiate contact and don't be swift to reply. If he likes you and there is no indication he doesn't than he will eventually get back to you. I doubt he would drop you like a potato when it's normal you talk a lot.
I would lay off texts or calls and create the aura of being busy or get more active with friends and not wait around on him. It should be fine but some guys and girls vice-versa may see all the contact incorrectly as needy. Like I said backoff and let him be the person to lead this either to a conclusion or forward.
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I don't know if this is normal, my gyno says it is. I'm a 27 year old female, I have been with my partner for more than a year and it was the first time we had sex 4 months ago when we got married. I never had sex before and once we did it was really painful inside. I thought maybe by time it would be easier but no. I still feel the pain. Sometimes I don't if I've had a drink or was really relaxed with nothing on my mind but other times I get really dry quickly and then the intercourse becomes painful, even with lubricant. I also don't orgasm from penetration...normal? I've had orgasms without penetration but I don't feel like it's enough any more. How do I overcome this? My husband was really understanding when I spoke to him, we usually take a long time with foreplay, he goes slow and stops if I'm ever in pain but I'm worried something could be wrong with me, I don't want this to last I seriously want it to end. Please advise (link)
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There is nohing wrong with seeing another doctor for a different perspective. Maybe they will catch smething your other doctor hasn't thought of as te source.
One thing to ask about is vaginismus defined by Webster's as painful spasmodic contraction of the vagina in response to physical contact or pressure (especially in sexual intercourse) That might be it or something to rule out.
As for your second question this is quite normal and incredibly common. Most women don't unless in combination from self-stimulation, oral sex etc. The top two thirds of the vagina has no nerve endings by the way so penetration alone doesn't always work for people and that's okay.
That brings me to my next point that if you engaged in those activites I mentioned before penetration maybe it may help with intercourse. I'm not an expert on dryness but...
You have a fantastic partner in a husband who really wants you to feel comfortable and help figure this out so you aren't in pain. I hope you find the answer soon.
As for the gyno saying what you are describing is normal I would have a hard time hearing and accepting that as fact. Pain isn't ever normal. Not when it always happens. Consult someone else for a second medical opinion. Perhaps other women you can trust friend, sister, relative can give you a referral to someone else.
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Hi first off I'm a female adult, but still a young one living at home attending college. And I apologize for the long inquiry
My entire life I've been abused ( physically, sexually, and emotionally) by people my own age that I trusted. Ever since I can remember I've preferred associating with people older than me, they treat me better, make me feel safe, and I relate better to them. This also counts for guys I am attracted to. Unfortunately this has become a very big issue with people. People I know close to my age, and even my own mother, have started degrading me for my feelings. I'm called a slut for liking older guys (yes even by my mother) and pathetic for having older friends. My mom makes it a weekly point to remind me that none of my older friends like me, because what could they see in me, and that it's pathetic that I think they do....Are they all right? Am I really a freak for preferring older friends? A slut for liking older (10-15 years) guys? I can't tell anymore. (link)
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Your mother is a pill as are the others who are critics. I bet the same people wouldn't want you saying critical things about them. You should hit back with a remark of your own a few times until they see they can't do this. Shut them down.
If you are 18-years-old you are an adult and can date any age bracket legally. Should you? This is up to you but maybe mom and others don't approve because the world of a 20 something is different than the 10-15 years older men. Is there anything wrong here? Well no. You're an adult and can and should date people who make you feel comfortable.
However, you need to get some help to deal with all the issues you mentioned and lack of trust with people your age and move on to be able to include them. It's not good for your health if you don't overcome this issue.
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My boyfriend and I started dating back in June so we've been together for almost five months now. We've talked about sex before and he said he's ready but he's perfectly fine waiting for me. I'm 21 and he's 22, by the way. Our six month anniversary would be on December 11th, his 23rd birthday is the day before Christmas Eve and then Christmas will be here. Then, he is going on a twenty day road trip all around the west coast with his best friend during the month of January to go visit a friend that goes to college out in Oregon.
So, with everything exciting coming up in December, I want for us to finally have sex as it would be a special time with his birthday and our six months together and one of my favorite holidays. The only thing is that I'm not yet on the pill. I feel like I have a valid enough reason to want to go on it after being with my boyfriend for almost six moths, I think it's about time. It's just that my parents are really rather protective, I guess-my dad, obviously, more than my mom. They're getting better with him and our relationship, though, he is allowed to spend the night at my house as long as I ask them and I'm allowed to spend the night at his place as long as I tell them that's where I'm going and when I'll be home, which I can live with.
I just think discussing my sex life is going to be a really awkward situation and I think my mom will just make it way worse. I plan to tell just her but I know she's going to tell my dad and she already warned me that my dad isn't going to be happy about it but I don't think he'd be happy about a baby either so he should really pick his battles. My mom is just a little overbearing in that she tells me all the time that she needs to know when I want to go on it and that she hopes the man I decide to have sex with is the man I choose to marry and I just know she's going to want to talk to my boyfriend about it too.
I've discussed this with my brother's girlfriend and she said to just go and talk to my doctor and do it all myself but my mom has a very uncanny knack of finding everything out and that situation makes me also nervous in that her and I go to the same doctor and I know the doctor wouldn't just tell my mom but she is on all of my paperwork as the person to tell when something happens. Then my brother's girlfriend told me to not even get on the pill, just have him wear a condom and pull out but I don't think I'd really always trust that either.
My mom is great and I know she has my best interests at heart but this is my first serious boyfriend and I know it's hard for her and my dad to adjust. She tells me constantly, though, that when I'm ready, all I have to do is tell her I want to go on it but I know she won't make it that easy. I think she knows the conversation is coming soon because the other day I told her that I went to American Eagle with my boyfriend to pick up some jeans and they were having a deal that with every pair of jeans, you get a free panty so I was shopping for my free underwear and he was being so awkward about it so I was telling my mom that he asked if he should leave while I looked at those and my mom said "come on, are you meaning to tell me that he hasn't seen your underwear before?"
Anyway, I guess I just need advice on how to handle this. What to say to my mom. How to make the situation as normal and not awkward as possible. If you went through it with your mom and want to share how that went, I'd totally appreciate that too. I know she can't really tell me no, I'm 21 and my sex life is my decision, which is why I'm not sure she wants to know so bad anyway but I respect her enough to go behind her back when I know she is just trying to help.
I love my boyfriend, I really do, and I know he loves me too and I'm so ready to take this next step with him, I just want to be safe about it all first. (link)
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First things first it is illegal for a doctor to divulge anythng you tell them unless your life is in danger or in a medical crisis. Whether you have the same doctor or paperwork matters not. They cannot ever do it.
Next, you are a grown adult at 21-years-old and need to start living like it. Make decisions about your life on your own. If you want to have sex with someone and have thought it out and want to protect yourself with proper birth control that's a good thing.
Go to the doctor and get the pills. It's not ging behind her back either. If it ever comes up tell her you went to become proteced and responsible and that this aspect of your life is uncomfortable to discuss. I doubt she wants to talk about it other than knowing that but again as an adult you don't need to have said conversation or fill her in or have approval although it would be nice.
At your age you can see any doctor you choose. If uncomfortable going to the sam person your mother sees seek someone else out.
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Hi Im Jay and Im 15 and my boyfriend who's 17 is forcing me to send him nudes. I told him about 5 times that im not comfortable with putting myself out there like that but he says he doesn't care and that i should do it for him and if i don't I'll regret it big time. I hate how he gets mad at me if I don't do something he wants, and I'm scared of not doing it cuz he'll get mad and hurt me. I just really don't want to send him nudes and idk what to do he won't take no for an answer. I need advice please help. (link)
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Tell a teacher, parent or adult you trust. This is wrong and actually illegal if they were transmitted electronically or otherwise. You also have to get wise yourself. There's something wrong with this guy and it's NOT a suitable, safe or true relationship. No matter what don't do what he asks or threatens for. Tell an adult. They will handle it. If he psychically threatens you press charges. But get out of the situation NOW.
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Hi, he's star sign is cancer and mine's scorpio. he jokes and flirts with everyone but not in a gross way but in a playful way. stares at me a lot. caught him tons of times looking at me. everyone likes him. he wanted me to for a drinks few times together including others but i didn't as i was working the next day. so, guys is that the way of asking me out or is he just being friendly?
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He is interested or he wouldn't be doing this. The hard part is knowing whether it's as friends or if he has something else in mind with you. You cannot get ahead of yourself there. What should you do? If I were you I would take him up on the drink offer and see what unfolds.
Don't allow yourself to push for something. Go for drinks and see what happens a the very least you get a friend. If he's been asking a few times and shows a lot of persistance in being playful and flirting then in all likelihood he is. You'll know soon enough if you go for drinks. People who flirt etc. can be just friendly but I have a hunch it may be more. See what happens when you go out.
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i'm not sure how to word this properly. i'm 23/f and my entire life i've been curious as to whether or not i am as smart as someone my age should be. i don't feel like i'm quick witted and i never did well in school. i'm not sure how well i retain knowledge because i smoke weed, also. of course no one around me can answer this honestly because of fear that my feelings will get hurt. but i want to know. so i guess my question is what tests can i take or what can i do to find out this information? (link)
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I doubt you are "dumb" or have any developmental issues or intellectual ones. If you were different from peers and unable to understand or progress at same rate your teachers would be all over it. They would have tested for learning and other difficulties with a psychologist or your doctor would have told your parents you weren't capable of doing what your peers could do at certain ages.
I think you are fine but doubt yourself. Youdon't have to be quick witted to be smart. I think your problem is what you hit on earlier drug usage and it clouding your ability to think straight and to recall anything. If you quit doing weed you may find you fare better mentally and psychically.
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I am wondering if it would be sinful to get one just for fun. It s cheap. Would something bad happen if I got a reading? Would it open the doors to evil? (link)
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Consider it entertainment and a bit of a fruad. Nobody knows the future, nothing bad will occur either as a result. There's no way to open the doors to evil either. Whether it's a sin is open to interpretation and what you yourself beleive about it.
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