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Asked for my number at work
Right 3 days ago at my last day at work I was asked for my cellphone number and we had been (from what I can take from it) flirting. I said yes and wrote it down for him. But he has not texted? Is he not interested? Or am I overreacting? By the way I am 16 and a girl, the only reason I could think he wouldn't contact me is because of my age ( he is older but not by too much). What do you think?
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It is indeed one of those wait and see what he does scenario. If he genuinely likes you he definitely will call. I would give it a week or two and see what happens. He may have your number but be a little intimidated even if he asked for it to go ahead and call.
After a week or two pop him a text and ask how he's doing. If he doesn't respond to you than forget it and move on. I doubt he would have asked you for it if he didn't intend on following up. Give him time to make the first move.
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I think he will text you when he is ready, could be a lot of reasons he is waiting , if he is more than 5 years older that could be an obstacle , u could always text him and ask him ? Billy
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If he's 18, then regardless if your okay with it, he shouldn't be considering a dating relationship with a girl under 18. It is just a temptation to have sex if all goes well in the dating and most guys would have a problem waiting 2 years until you were of legal age so he couldnt get in trouble, reported by someone and end up in jail.
I realize teens under 18 have sex all the time and that is not the issue as theres no federal law there governing that but there are some laws that differ state to state.
If he's under 18, and asked for your number, it does seem to mean he is interested in you or was at the time maybe just due to the flirting. You were responding in the flirting but you did not ask for his number when he asked for yours, did you? If you didn't, he may have had 2nd thoughts, questioned what he picked up in the flirting and felt that maybe you weren't as truly interested in him as he was in you so he hasnt called. Maybe he's having cell problems, maybe he's really busy in his schedule when not at work and its gonna take some time for him to have a chuck of time free to sit and chat for a couple hours. If he's still showing the same attention in passing at work, I'd say he's still interested. You don't have to wait for a guy to ask you for a number or ask you out and then feel like you owe him the return a ttention and have to feel the same way about him. If he flirted, you gave your number but you aren't interested in him r eally or just not sure, then dont worry about it. If you like him or any other guy, you get their number and ask them out. Or if it feels less intimidating to you, just ask if you could hang out with him as friends away from work. This shows its not a serious thing like dating and commitment yet but you have enough interest to want to hang out with them, and then let nature take its course.
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OK first off, you are kinda young to be worried about things like this. But not here to judge you, just being honest. He has other things going on basically and men flirt sometimes just to prove to themselves that they can win you over. If he was really interested, he would have called. You are young and beautiful, so full of life. Concentrate on being all you can be so you can attract a wonderful man.
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He may not have realized just how young you are. Depending on the age of consent in your state if he is over 18 he could get in a lot of trouble just by dating you. It all depends on the laws in your state.
Some states allow a 3 to 4 year window between ages in dating under age teenagers. It goes both ways. A girl over 18 could be in just as much trouble dating a boy under 18.
Things that are in play here are statutory rape. To be charged with this crime sex does not have to happen just being an adult, someone over 18, being with a minor, someone under 18, a person can be charged with this crime. This is a sex crime and that person could be made to register as a sex offender for life. Then there is the charge of being a child predator as well as a host of other charges again depending on the laws in your state. If you and this man cross a state line then there are federal charges that come into play such as the Mann act.
I cannot say with any reasonable certainty that this is why he has not called or texted you. It certainly is a possibility. What I suggest is you check the laws in your state specifically the law concerning age of consent as it is this law that governs the rest of the child predator laws.
If you and this man can legally see each other safely within the bounds of the law then you might want to consider contacting him. You could say something to the effect I have wondered why you have not contacted me. I assumed it was my age. I checked the laws in this state and as long as we stay within this state we can see each other without you being in danger of the law. Tell him where you checked and include the URL so he can verify.
The other option is he was being kind because he knew you liked him, in which case just write him off. Your 16 and I can assure you there are plenty more boys in your life. Being a teenager is a once in a lifetime opportunity that should be enjoyed to the fullest. The best way to enjoy these years is with someone your own age.
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