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Help?! I'm extremely nervous about moving off to college?
I know this is going to sound silly, but I'm very worried about moving off to college.
First off, I'm 21 so I already feel like I'm really old and I'm worried about being in courses with freshmen/sophomores who are going to be 18 and 19. Luckily, I do look much younger than I am (I could pass for 15, so hopefully this means if I don't say anything about my age that I can fit in right???
I graduated from HS with honors when I was 17, but was already working as a manager by 18 and then met my (now ex) significant other who tied my life up for a few years. I actually appreciate this because it gave me insight to what career I truly wanted to go into and if I had gone to college right after HS, I would have gone for an impractical major. It also gave me time to mature and also realize how important going to college really is.
I started college a year ago, getting my prereqs completed at a small for-profit and am now transferring to a somewhat prestigious private school.
Having friends and a support group is a really big deal to me and I'm really worried that making friends is going to be difficult. Part of my worry is my age, but the other part of it is that because I was awarded a merit scholarship, the college put me in nicer housing that usually only juniors and seniors receive. So instead of being around newer students like myself, I'm going to be in an on-campus apartment with three girls who are likely to have a predesignated friend group and leave me out as they'll probably be juniors and seniors.
I'm hoping that by taking a transfer seminar with other transfer students for a semester, that it will help me make friends.
This will also be the first time I'll be living far from my family and friends. I'm moving several hours away to attend this college and will also be living within a big city, where as I'm used to my small town. It's going to be a massive culture shock for me and I'm not sure how well I'll be able to look out for myself when having to go out into the city for shopping, groceries, ect.
And then there's the matter of finding a new job and paying my car insurance, groceries, ect! I'm of course already looking for jobs, and I have one that said they'd call me back when I move, but who knows for sure if they'll really do that?
I'm so worried about everything that it's making me feel physically sick and keeping me up all night every night and I still have 4 days before my move!
What should I do?! :(
Any advice helps!
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You are worrying mostly about things that haven't happened to you and won't. Relax. You have got this and wouldn't have received a scholarship or admittance if anyone thought otherwise.
Secondly age really isn't a factor here. Maturity is and you'll find at the start that there are a lot of people who are immature and treating school like high school and finding out the hard way that drinking,drugs etc. gets them nowhere. The school weeds them out easily.
You will find that it will be easier to make friends and that there are people who are intellectual and serious as you are about where they are going. Also, the gap between 18 and 21 isn't that big and you aren't old.
Your life experience already has you prepared for this anyways. When it comes to the 3 people sharing a house give them the same benefit of doubt they would want from you. You have prejudged them without ever meeting them. They could be really nice people for all you know.
I know you will find a job and it's difficult to be patient. I would recommend you start putting resumes out to places you would want to work. As far as managing goes the places with a revolving door and constantly recruiting are fast food places or movie theater chains. I would seriously think of finding a job at a movie theater.
I would relax and treat this as a new adventure and be excited as everything tends to fall into place in these situations. You have a lot more going for you than you believe you do.
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