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my new boyfriend
my bf and I made out last night. he slept over at my place. when we started making out, he tried to put his finger in my vagina. before the finger entered, I felt pain. he tried it the second time and the same thing happened. am scared because am a virgin. I just want to know if am still a virgin.
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I generally don't go anywhere near questions like this, but clicked "Random Question," ended up here and do have just one comment:
If your hymen was compromised by anything EXCEPT penetration by a penis, you ARE still a virgin.
(I know from our daughter that a tampon can break the hymen and obviously not change the virgin status.)
To suggest otherwise is irresponsible at best...
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You are still a virgin. Generally I agree more than I disagree with missundersmock. Unfortunately this is not the case today. A missing Hymen is not how virginity today is defined as active women can lose their Hymen through many different sporting activities.
Today the definition of a non-virgin is when a penis has penetrated a vagina. The moment of penetration is when virginity is lost either by the male or female. If only your boyfriend's finger penetrated you then you are still a virgin.
Technically you could use a dildo or vibrator to prepare for first intercourse and make it less painful. Technically by definition you would still be a virgin as a human male penis has not penetrated you.
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the pain you felt could have been the sharpness of his fingernails having not been clipped properly and cutting your vaginal tissue, it could have been him thrusting in and out with his fingers too fast or what have you, theres really no way to tell you there. If the pain is in your hymen or WHERE it was then yes he popped your cherry and your no longer a virgin.
check and see if things feel "different" then they did before or is its suddenly "easier" to slide a tampon in. Sometimes that can be a good help.
good luck.
To update this, let me say i apologize, generally AS I KNOW IT in "street lingo" between young people this would be considered the case but the other posters ARE right, until a human penis has been in you, then your still a virgin.
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