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I am a 13 yr old girl.Okay so my boyfriend and I recently broke up because he smokes weed and drinks and cuts. Anyway, when we broke up I took it really hard because I didn't understand why us broke up with me. Then like 5 days later I get a voicemail. from him saying sorry for something but I didst know what for. So I finally get hold of him and ask him what that was all about he tells me that he was gonna kill himself, and of corse I say you broke up with me. And he was like not because of you. So I was like well why, you know you can tell me anything we'be been friends since 5th grade. (We are now in 8th) and he didn't tell me. Now whenever we talk its just "hey" " what's up" "nothing much you". And that's pretty much the end of it. So now I like don't know wjato do I've told him how I'm sad that we aren't best friends anymore and he is like we are I still love you. But its just not the same as it used to be. And o jist don't lnow what to do anymore. Please help and sorry for it being so long :/ (link)
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Being a teenager is full of a lot of (mostly unnecessary) drama. At that age, everybody is growing at different rates and people will outgrow each other frequently. This could be what is going on here. Don't take it personally. It happens and is just a part of life.
Now about his threat to kill himself: you should tell his parents. The threat was probably bullshit and just part of the usual teenage sulkiness, but you won't really lose anything by informing his parents. If the threat is real (and you have to keep in mind that suicidal people often work to clear their plates and put everything in order before they finally commit the final act) then you will have given his parents a shot at getting him some help. If the threat is just extreme whining, you still did the right thing and your relationship with him was over anyway.
If you don't tell his parents and he does kill himself then you will feel guilty about it forever. So sending his parents a note about it or something would be advisable here.
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I am a 13 year old girl and I would love to get into modeling. It would make me more outgoing and I would wanna be a model for pictures not so much the runway type and everyone says I should cause I'm pretty and have as good body (I'm not bragging, sorry) but anyone have tips or advice on how to get started. Please help! :) (link)
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You are going to be better off the more educated you are. It will give you more sophistication that will imbue you with added sexiness. Getting into modeling is really tough and a lot of really cute girls don't make the cut for one reason or another. No big deal. Don't take it personally. Just make sure that you get that education so that you will have lots of options open to you.
Finally, one piece of advice: never allow anyone to write or cash a check in your name. Handle all your payments and deposits yourself. Do not allow your parents to have any of your money (unless they want you to pay rent for room and board, which is a reasonable request, but the amount must also be reasonable). Don't allow a manager or accountant handle any of your money. You take the check yourself from the employer and then take it right to the bank and then move on from there. Good luck.
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So all summer long my moms been complaining about how I haven't gotten a job.
I'm getting really sick and tired of listening to her constantly complain and belittle me because she's jealous that I'm on summer vacation and get to stay home while she works.
Every summer she treats me like crap and it's pretty much like being grounded for 3 months and i'm tired of sitting around because she never lets me leave the house and listening to her scream and whine and complain about how I "never do anything" and she even told me earlier it pisses her off to see me not working when she is and that just seeing my face or hearing me talk makes her angry.
So I went to the Barnes and Noble Website and downloaded an Application and now i'm filling it out and I intend to send it to them and I think I have a better chance at getting the job then most people do since I have a pretty much perfect school record along with being a certified associate of Microsoft Office and the Adobe Suite (they ask on the resume if you know how to work with Microsoft Word).
My only worry is that I'm only 16 (minimum age) but in a month and 14 days i'm going to be 17. I'm very charismatic and I've been a counselor at a camp for the past few years during the summer so I know how to deal with people as well. I'm also a member of FBLA and have the Presidents Volunteer Award among other certificates and I've taken "Leadership Training".
I don't see how it could be a bad idea so I think I'm going to just go ahead and do it even though I haven't asked my mother. I mean she's the one who always complains about me sitting at home "doing nothing" and has told me on multiple occasions that I need to get a job.
I'm filling my resume out on the computer so everything will be neat and tidy but I want to know, should I should put all of my achievements down on an extra sheet of paper and attach it to my resume or would that be overkill?
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Let it all hang out. The only thing I would advise you to NOT do is give your social security number. Just write in that you will give it when you are hired. This is to help prevent identity theft since you don't know how well those applications will be protected.
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so today there was some fourth of july events and i was expecting to see my two best friends there (lets call them sue and sally) i saw sue with this other girl who i know and i walk over and im like heey! and she keeps walking looks at me for 1 second says hey then says to the other girl "oh there they are!" and just leaves me.. then later i see sue and sally together and i walk over again and im like heey sup? and they say hey we're leaving and i make a joke awkwardly and they just leave. now sue had texted me yesterday asking me to hang out.. and i havent saw sally in forever so i wanted to hang out with both of them. So now like 6 hours later i see on facebook they're with sally's sister, another girl, and MY good friend who sue said she hates and sally's sister said she hates. So yeah. AND i asked sue earlier today on email what was going on and i know shes online but she never replied.. ;\ and just like friday we were all hanging out and having fun so i dunno why they're ditching me.. (link)
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As hard as it is to imagine, friendships come and go. The relationships you had with the girls in question is obviously over. So move on and make new friends. Sometimes people grow apart. Don't take it personally. It happens.
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what are you supposed to do when a married man wants you (link)
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Walk away.
As a woman who is in competition with other women all the time, you secretly like the thought of taking another woman's man. You also like the danger and daring involved. However, you are opening yourself up to a lot of drama and maybe, depending on the state, an alienation of affection lawsuit (this tort is almost never undertaken anymore and most states have repealed the enabling legislation, but there are still a few states where such suits are still viable). And you as "the hussy" in front of a jury, which will most likely be made up of retirees and housewives? Hope you have a big bank account because you will get the shaft.
The thing to remember is that he will not be fully available to you as long as he is trying to hide a relationship with you from his wife. Plus he could also be screwing around on not just the wife, but on you, too, since the wife being in the picture gives him a ready excuse for not being around as much as you would like.
So it's up to you. A lot of single guys wear what look like wedding bands at singles bars because they draw women like you. Either way you're a dupe.
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we were doing this class concert thing and decided to sing for the fun of it, i told people before that i can't really sing but after my friends were like wow you're great and some other girls in my class said so too so i decided to record my voice on my phone and when i played it back i sounded so gross like a little 5 year old my voice was all high and stuff. My teachers from my old school said i was a good singer too but i think maybe they were just being nice to me even though i told them i don't really care if they say i sing bad, i was wondering if it was the recordeed or i just can't sing and people are being nice? (link)
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Yeah, it's hard to know when people are either pulling your leg or just being nice. I have seen a lot of crap singers or players on You Tube and comments saying, "oh, you're so great." Most of those comments are from friends and family. So I understand your anxiety, especially as I am definitely the worst singer in the world (pretty fair guitar player, though), which means you are at least better than me.
Also, remember that phones have a very constricted dynamic range, which makes everything sound kinda tinny. And, as an earlier commenter noted, everyone hates their voice when it's recorded anyway. So you have a confluence of things there that may be convincing you wrongly that you are a bad singer.
The only other way to find out if you REALLY are good or bad would either be to put something up on You Tube (where the criticism can be rather harsh at times) or go see a vocal instructor. That's about it, unfortunately.
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I have $90 and I'm a 13 yearold girl. I can't get a real job but I'm trying to lay for my own things not have my mom do it so how can I make money quickly? And a lot, please help! Any advice and tips help. :) thanks! (link)
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Study homepage design and offer to make websites for people for pay. That's about all you can do other than yardwork.
Keep that work ethic. It will stand you in good stead the rest of your life.
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hi, i'm 34 and my boyfriend is 47. we love each other and have been dating for a year. he always asks me if he could come inside me during sex and and recently he's been texting me saying he wants to come in me. we have a long distance relationship and but we'll be living together soon. we're happy. we always speak on the phone and text each other everyday. just wondering, is he hinting me to get pregnant or am i thinking too much. thanks so much. (link)
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He hates condoms (who doesn't) and just wants to spill inside you. I can't blame him. And I'm sure you would like it, too.
If you guys are using the pullout method as birth control good luck with that. An old buddy of mine became a teenage father to twins using that attempt at birth control. So get on the pill and keep moving forward.
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Ok ima 14 year old girl gone semi wrong. I haven't killed anyone or robbed a fricken bank at gun point, but iv befriended a 33 year old pedifile (dudes that rape kids), a rapest, and have gone onto sites I sooooooo shouldn't have been on!!! Iv got these voices in my head telling me to kill myself and in all honesty I hate my family, or at least a good portion of them. I'm planning on getting a dragon tatoo on my neck and acquire a taste for strong liquor. All im asking is how the hell am I supposed to get my act together? My grades have plummeted and so has everything else and informing out like my uncle and my dad that left befor i was born. Can anyone tell me how to straighten out???? Ppplllzzzz??? (link)
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I smell troll.
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im 18/f
i'm currently in a relationship with an amazing guy. he's the first boyfriend i've ever had and the first person iv'e had any sexual contact whatsoever with. I also recently lost my virginity to him as well, and he wore a condom both times we've had sex.
Since we've started dating we had many discussions about sex and protection, and we both decided it would be a smart idea for me to go on the pill. However now that i actually might have to go on it, i'm having second thoughts...
You see, a year and a half ago i started to get EXTREMELY bad period pain that would leave me bedridden for up to 2 days. My period ever since i got it when i was 13 has always been irregular. The pain went away for about 4 or so months, however the irregularity was still there. My mum said back when i first got those pains a year ago that i might have to go on the pill, it was the only option left (we tried everything to lessen the pain and whatnot) however i was scared to go on it back then knowing how much weight my friends put on and their rapid mood swings. I have just lost over 19 kilo's that im proud of losing and the last thing i want is to put it back on. plus i like my personality and i dont want the mood swings or anything to change really.
but now that i have a boyfriend, i also want to be protected sexually from getting pregnant, i want to be very safe. Today i got my period, and im currently bedridden due to the extreme pain that im in at the moment. like i mentioned earlier the pain subsided for 4 months or so and now its back. Mum thinks i should go to the gynocologist and get checked out, and thinks that i may have to go on the pill.
and even though the pill would be bennificial to my period AND my new sex life, i cant help but not want to go on it due to the side effects that i may/may not get.
i dont know what to do
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I've never heard of the pill causing mood swings. The greatest possible risk (and it is risk, which means that you are more likely to experience something, but not anywhere near guaranteed) is with blood clots.
Yes, everyone is different, so their interactions with drugs can vary quite a bit. Given the situation you are in, the pill is the best option. Sucking down lots of Ibuprofen or Tylenol to deal with your period pain isn't an option because the former is addictive and the latter can screw up your liver function if taken in more than the recommended doses.
If you continue to have concerns about the pill and it causes you anxiety, you can go on a shot (depoprovera) or use an IUD such as a cervical cap in conjunction with a spermicide. Unfortunately, neither of those alternatives will help your period pain. Ask your gynocologist about all the options open to you. For now, though, I would suggest you get on the pill.
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Yesterday I did not talk to my boyfriend at all. He stopped answering me and I was getting worried. Finally after so many hours of trying not to contact him too much, I asked his friend if he knew where he was and he said no but offered to call. So his friend called and my boyfriend answered right away, saying that he was out for drinks and he had his phone off for a long time. I was very upset. I was upset my boyfriend didn't tell me, even if his phone was low on battery and he had it off all day. It would've taken five seconds to tell me he was busy so I wouldn't worry all day. So I texted him and told him that he should've told me what was going on so I wouldn't have to worry because he knows I worry a lot. He said "sorry" and that was the end of it. I told him he didn't sound very sympathetic and a simple sorry wasn't gonna instantly fix it. We're always honest with each other, but he got pissed and said, "Fuck it, turning off my phone." I called him but he didn't answer and I texted him that I was only being honest and I hope he had a good time and we can work things out in the morning. As far as I know, we are still together. This is our first argument as a couple and we've been going out for almost two months. I only acted like that because I was upset. I know not every boyfriend can be perfect, and I can't expect so much out him at times, but this situation was crazy. We're supposed to hang out tomorrow, so this morning I texted him asking if we were still hanging out and turned off my phone. He doesn't wake up until like one anyway.
honestly I'm sure this is just a little bump and we will get over it and things will be just fine but I am a worrisome person. I really feel strongly for this guy and he makes me happy and we have a great relationship. Surely he won't end it over something this stupid? (link)
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So you're saying that he basically gave you the silent treatment?
I personally have a rule about this: a girl gives me the silent treatment for more than half a day I boot her ass out the door. I never, ever try to get her to talk to me. I just carry on with what I want to do and leave the ball in her court.
Now you don't say why he cutoff communication with you. As a guy myself, all I can guess is that he had enough of your act and just wanted some space.
If I were you I would just leave it up to him. If he doesn't call or come over in a given time frame then you declare yourself a free agent and go seek other companionship.
And here is a piece of advice for your next relationship: RELAX! Don't overthink everything to the point where you not just turn yourself into an emotional pretzel, but the guy feels cornered into a no win situation. Keep things simple and rational because guys are pretty simple in their relationship thinking. We don't like women who aren't, and pardon me for the way I'm about to state this, "user friendly." So slow your roll and relax or accept the consequences.
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So I've been with my boyfriend for two years now and we just recently started having sex. I'm 17 and I've been on the pill since I was 15. We're both eachothers firsts and I just wanna know if I really can have sex without a condom. Like all doctors say always use a condom but they're so gross and the lube always burns me. We've both been tested so I really just wanna know if the pill really does mean I can have sex without one. Are there things I need to do? Only specific times during the pill cycle I can have sex without protection? (link)
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Since he has been tested and you are the only person he has been sleeping with, go bareback (that is, without a condom). If you want to up your chances of not being pregnant, get a cervical cap and use it with a spermicide (kinda messy, but having a baby is much messier, no?).
Also remember, that ALL OF THEM HAVE TO BE USED CORRECTLY. If you forget to take your pill one day that means either you use a condom or IUD for the next month or no sex.
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I am actually 13 but I started wearing a G-String(thong) when I was 10. Is that to young? People say that they are uncomfortable but I think they feel way better than normle underwear!
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Whatever turns you on.
But I wouldn't broadcast it to people around you just because this country has really screwed up ideas about sex (thank you religion!) and it might hurt your public image. Yeah, it's stupid because it is only underwear, but you gotta recognize reality.
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yM boyfrined and i are very worried. He touched his pre-cum and than touched me dowm there? Could i get pregnat from this even if i started my period today?
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Unless he stuck the finger into the vagina your chances of getting pregnant are just about nil. If you had your period after this happened you're golden. But do let the stress you have had over this question be a warning to be more careful in the future. Get on the pill and do it now and couple that with condom use to lower your chances of getting a disease.
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Me and my ex gf were in a long distance relationship for like 5 months and we decided that it was to hard to keep a long distance relationship at our age, were only 17 and couldn't see each other in person, so like less than a week after we broke up she had sex with a another boy and she knew i wanted us to loose our virginity together but i guess she couldn't wait. so I started to think that she was talking to this boy for the longest and was secretly cheating on me, but i don't know for sure,but were just friends right now and she texts me everyday, so should i just ignore her and leave her alone or just be her friend cause i don't think i'll get back with her any time soon. (link)
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Dude, best way to move on from a relationship is to have no contact with the ex. Stop living in the past and yes, you are too young to be tied down.
Here is the thing with guys, too: we are competing for some kind of dominance and the thought that you may have been cuckolded by another male is making you feel like a loser. However, you have to keep in mind that your chances of ever marrying your teenage sweetheart is just about nil.
One other thing: you can only control you. You cannot control others, especially when they are a fair distance away. Therefore, worrying about stuff you can't control is just wasted time, energy and emotion. Try to learn from everything you encounter, including relationships, keep yourself in a position where you have all the options open to you (that means getting an education, not being in debt or addicted to drugs and not knocking a chick up) and keep moving forward.
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My boyfriend of 1 and half years was confused about what he wanted, and all he kept saying was "Im confused, i love you and thats why we cant be together :/" No, not a long distance relationship, No,both our families know and are completely okay, he just doesnt want me and doesnt know how to end it basically right? im not an idiot, im just wondering. thanks. =/ (link)
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Men don't use terms like "I'm confused" when it comes to relationships unless they are doing a song and dance because something else is going on. I would guess he's gay or, at the very least, bisexual.
Listen, here is another piece of advice: when your gut is telling you something ain't right it ain't right and you need to bail on whatever situation is causing you that feeling. So boot Mr. In the Closet and go find someone who does know what he wants.
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16/F
Okay, my friend always asks me how my boyfriend and I are doing and I always just reply with 'fine. After all, I like to keep my relationship with him between us, that and we're both too shy to start gushing about how we cuddle and stuff. Not to mention, our relationship involves mostly talking to each other. I like this relationship and it's my longest and best so far. Well, my friend exploded one me the other day about it and she asked what the sex was like and I was like what the heck?! She's younger than me by a few months and she already has weird problems of her own. Yet, she kept saying that I should've had sex with him by now, three months is enough. Uhm, nooo, I'm only sixteen and he's younger than me, so there's definitely no freaking way it's legal. Is there anyway I can get her to shut up about it without actually being rude? Because I think she might be trying to anatagonize me... You don't HAVE to have sex in a relationship, right? Especially at age sixteen?! (link)
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Tell your friend that minding one's own business is a good thing.
No, you don't have to do the wild thing at your age. It is your body and your life, so do what is right for you and don't let others try to control you. You are the only one who can live your life after all.
Now when you get into adulthood the guy will assume that you will have sex with him, especially since you are old enough to obtain birth control by yourself. It is still up to you whether you guys actually do it, but adult men will quickly leave when no sex is forthcoming because they can get it from other women.
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Could someone tell me what effects does the computer has on our health , mentioning each and every effect, please?
And if you may ; tell me the maximum of hours that a person may spend infront of a computer?
Thnank You - Help Apprechiated :D (link)
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Aside from eye strain, there is carpal tunnel syndrome, which is a nerve problem affecting the hands by exhaustive typing. However, if you are more of a casual web surfer you are unlikely to get it.
The only other effect has to do with the time you spend in front of the computer when you could be out exercising. A lot of people chow down on junk food while perusing the net and that, combined with the lack of exercise can contribute or cause obesity.
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this lad and me have started hanging out and he said he loves me i dont know if i believe him because he keeps saying its a joke then says ts not. he has hugged me alot and held my hand, even kissed me on the arm but i still dont know if he loves me? (link)
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Kissed you on the arm? Interesting. :p
Yeah, he wants to get with you. He says it as a joke as a half pullback strategy because he doesn't want to feel like a doofus if you reject him after he poured his heart out to you.
So you have to show your interest in a more obvious manner since guys are real dumb reading signals from women.
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Okay so here's the thing, I'm a 13 yearold girl and one of my best guy friends liked me, but apparently he stopped cause he has a girlfriend and I don't really like her and I dont wanna see them go out cause I don't think there good together. But the day before they started going out I started to get feelings for him. I dont no what to do and I know I shoudlnt be upset by this but I am. and sad, so if anyone knows how to help me with this. PLEASE do :) (link)
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You feel competitive with the other girl for him. This isn't a constructive way to think. You have to accept things as they are and move on. It is likely that if they break up he will turn to you since relationships at your age tend to be rather shortlived. So relax and deal with what you can control rather than what you cannot.
Besides, it gives you more of an opportunity to meet a guy even better than the one you're interested in.
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