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I am a 13 yr old girl.Okay so my boyfriend and I recently broke up because he smokes weed and drinks and cuts. Anyway, when we broke up I took it really hard because I didn't understand why us broke up with me. Then like 5 days later I get a voicemail. from him saying sorry for something but I didst know what for. So I finally get hold of him and ask him what that was all about he tells me that he was gonna kill himself, and of corse I say you broke up with me. And he was like not because of you. So I was like well why, you know you can tell me anything we'be been friends since 5th grade. (We are now in 8th) and he didn't tell me. Now whenever we talk its just "hey" " what's up" "nothing much you". And that's pretty much the end of it. So now I like don't know wjato do I've told him how I'm sad that we aren't best friends anymore and he is like we are I still love you. But its just not the same as it used to be. And o jist don't lnow what to do anymore. Please help and sorry for it being so long :/
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Being a teenager is full of a lot of (mostly unnecessary) drama. At that age, everybody is growing at different rates and people will outgrow each other frequently. This could be what is going on here. Don't take it personally. It happens and is just a part of life.
Now about his threat to kill himself: you should tell his parents. The threat was probably bullshit and just part of the usual teenage sulkiness, but you won't really lose anything by informing his parents. If the threat is real (and you have to keep in mind that suicidal people often work to clear their plates and put everything in order before they finally commit the final act) then you will have given his parents a shot at getting him some help. If the threat is just extreme whining, you still did the right thing and your relationship with him was over anyway.
If you don't tell his parents and he does kill himself then you will feel guilty about it forever. So sending his parents a note about it or something would be advisable here.
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sit down and explain to him how you are feeling and tell him that there needs to be some change you need more communication and time with him... if he doesnt understand and is not willing to change then I suggest you move on good luck I hope everything works out
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Move on toots. We all have a first love and in 8th grade you have tons of time. Trust me they will come and go. Just cause it didnt end up working out its just not meant to be?
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