hey please help! im really upset now! okay well ive had 7 boyfriends and one of them im going out with right now. well.. i love him the most out of all of the boys ive went out with! and today after school he came up to me and was like so your not gonna say ( just playin around ) i was like hi ! lol and he was like so ur not gonna give me a hug? i gave him a hug then we said our byes and then we went to our busses. well i was waiten for my bus and i looked and he was walken with 2 other girls and he hugged one of them and ive seen him with her at the ymca before with her and im really upset! what do i do??!!
You MUST be young. It's fairly obvious.
You're worried about your "boyfriend" hugging other girls?
You had better drop that jealously trait real quick or your relationship with ANYONE won't go anywhere.
A hug means nothing (except under special circumstances, such as someone's cat just died and they need a hug.) It's just a friendly gesture. Do you get mad when he smiles at other people too? Does it irritate you when he waves? If so, you are the most histronic person I have ever heard of. (Meaning, you crave being the center of attention, and hate it when the person you're speaking of is focused on someone else.)
You get upset too easily. Read my lips...er, text: GET OVER IT.
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my boyfriend says im not fat at all but im cubby..what i dont like bein either one of them! but he says he likes it and its "sexy" and a "turn on" i dont see how it is and im self cautious and so when this is started i was like WOAH!!..you know what kind of guy likes a girls belly??..its not real big but i dont like it!..and last night he said im going to keep talkin about it and you cant do anything..anywho..so my question is does anyone know why he would like it???
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There's nothing wrong with that. I think it's sexy too. A girl with no fat on her is unattractive to me. I don't want to run my hands down your body and easily be able to count your ribs.
Be glad he likes it.
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ok so i am a guy and at the end of my last year of 8th grade i told this other guy on AIM that i liked him but i wouldnt tell him my name...i was scared to because he was like the 2nd koolest person at my skool and i didnt want word getting out for feelings that i had about him...now i was very confused because i had never had these type of feelings before and i had many gurlfriends be4. But neways i eventually told him who i was after hes many guesses. (one reason i told him was because i asked him who he hoped it was and he said me) so neways he kept askin me alll these questions like would i do stuff with him..you know THAT kinda stuff so i said yea because i was very attracted to him.. i sont wana sound like some man hoe or nuthin but its the truth ..so everytime i would c him i would feel like i was gonna throw up and he kept sayin all this stuff about how we were gonna do stuff but we never did. So eigth grade ended and i still talked to him online and about twice he invited me over and told me that we could make out or hang out or w/e. I never went and i dont know why and i regret it soooo much now. So now i am to scared to IM him online and just say hey because i dont know if he would wanna talk to me. i kinda feel hurt but i cant help what his feelings are. My main question is should i just completley forget about this person or should i continue to hope that one day he will talk to me i mean i still have feelins for him and im just really confused..and o yea i think its been like 5 or 6 months since i told him
thnx for the help,
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Sounds to me like you have homosexual feelings, but aren't sure how to express them. You want to, and yet, since you've never done that before, you're not quite sure if you WANT to, or HOW to.
Remind the guy how you feel. A lot can change in a few months so there's no telling if he even is still interested. Don't be afraid to show how you really feel.
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My cat has a bad habbit of tearing up the toilet paper rolls. I have tried putting the rolls on backwards so the paper won't roll off when she plays with it, but she is still tearing it up good. I end up thowing away 1/4 of the roll when I go into the bathroom. What can I do to prevent my cat from doing this?
I have the same problem. Had, anyway. Keep the toilet paper under a weighted box on the floor next to the toilet...just heavy enough so the cat probably won't bother to move it.
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thank you so much. you're right. but still. i was adopted from russia and almost every night i dream about my real parents and wonder why they couldn't keep me
You're very welcome. It could be for the same reason. You can't blame your parents if they were in the same situation. They most likely wanted you to live a better life than they could have given you, and you should be thankful for that. I'm sure it was for a good reason, nonetheless.
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Alright I'm 15 and my boyfriend is 17. A while back, we were hanging out; and I guess you could say things got a little out of hand. Well, I recently found out that I was pregnant. Today, my friend Amber (who is also pregnant, but not from my boyfriend) pushed me into telling my boyfriend. He didn't freak out, but he was upset. He told me that it'd be too much of a burden to have a baby now, and so he told me he wanted me to get an abortion. I'm very against abortion. I told him this, and he respected my opinion, but still tried to push me in that direction. He also suggested this "safe baby" thing. I don't really want to put my kid up for adoption either, because I can just imagine how much it hurts knowing your parents gave you up. My boyfriend doesn't want to tell his parents either, but he said he will, but you can tell how reluctant he is. He told me he loved me no matter what, but it was too much of a burden. I know he's not going to dump me, but he is afraid to keep it because he's going to college next year nad still trying to figure out his own life. Someone please tell me what I should do.
Keeping the baby really is not a good option. You are both young, and cannot support a family. I doubt either of your parents really want to take care of it for you either.
If you are hardcore pro-life, then you obviously shouldn't have an abortion. Adoption is your last and best option. I can understand where you're coming from about knowing you were adopted, but would you rather have your child go through that, or live a life of poverty? You and your boyfriend could more or less forget about school if you keep the child. You'd work while he took care of the child, and he'd work while you took care of the child. So, by keeping this baby, you would both be denied further education, as well as the simple pleasures of life. All your money would go towards food, rent, clothing, diapers, etc and NOTHING ELSE.
Besides, if you put the child up for adoption and is given to a good family, it's not like you will never see them again. Keep in contact with that family. Make sure the child knows who you guys are. Support them in any way possible. Maybe later when you are financially secure, and if the child has the will to do so, they could move in with you. Just a thought.
You can't keep the baby and you don't want to abort it. What other option do you have?
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I have a friend who recently broke up with her boyfriend. They decided to just remain friends. She is troubled because he's everything that she could possibly want in a future husband and he feels the same way about her in viewing her as the perfect wife but for someone reason feels god doesn't want them to be together right now. She is trying everything to show her love to him? What should she do? She feels a lot of hurt and is heartbroken over this? She's willing to do a lot to have him?
Heh, that's the way I feel about my ex. I can easily see myself spending the rest of my life with her. Then again, I'm young, what the hell do I know about love?
If they broke apart, it was for a reason. But if they stay good friends, and stay close, the spark may light the flame again.
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Okay... so I'm 14, female, a freshman in high school. At the end of last year this guy in the grade under me all of a sudden wanted to be my friend. We didn't talk all that much but he is sooo cool and I really like him. Then at the very end of last year he wrote in my yearbook that he loved me. But now I'm just confused, because (1) I don't know if he was JOKING or not! ACK! ...and (2) We hardly ever talk because we're in different classes and he never does anything but wave to me in the halls. Of course, neither do I, but....
HELP.
You were an 8th grader at the time, yes? And that would make him in 7th, correct? Which would make him, oh, I dunno, 12?
The word "love" doesn't mean anything when you're 12. People just throw it out.
NEXT QUESTION
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i'm a 15 year old gurl wit hella regrets. this weekend i went to a party and got drunk...hella drunk! well when i get drunk i get really horny..and i was all over this really popular guy frum skoo! the gurl hosting the party hella liked him and i knew this..i tried to stop myself but i kept making hella bad decisions. the desision worst one was giving the guy head. well the next day hella people knew about it and are hella mad! some of his friends wont even talk to him cuz he messed around wit a slut and a gurl as low as me! i'm hella not a slut im usually hella innocent..befo that i only been fingered and never even touched a dick!i have no idea wut i'm goin to do tommarro at skoo...how shud i react to people that ask me bout it? wut shud i do how shud i handle this ?!sorry so long
I have no answer, but shut the hella up!
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Ok.. Im 14.. and I really love my boyfriend.. well.. last night.. we were talkin for a REALLY long time on the phone.. and he proposed to me. Its was really cute the way he did it. I of course said yes cause im so much in love with him.
What im wondering tho is: Do u think it can work out.. hes 16 and im 14... and also... do u think im too young to be engaged?
In a word, yes.
By the time you can actually get legally married, there's a pretty big chance you will not be together anymore. There's also the chance that he will move away for college and you may not even see him for a while.
In theory though, if you both stay with it, it could work. However, you are both too young to be tied down so early. Go out and experience life! There is so much you don't know about love. Pledge yourself now, and you will never know. I hate to use the word "experiment", because that makes me sound like I'm telling you to go out and have lesbian sex or something. But, you do need to try other thigns with other people at this point in time.
You're too young to be worried about love, let alone settling down. Why settle down before you ever get shaken up? It doesn't matter your mental age; you could be the Socrates of our time. YOU ARE TOO YOUNG.
Besides, the guy is 16. If he's serious, he seriously doesn't understand what he just asked of you. Especially if you end up pregnant, and you have to get married, and move out. I doubt he can land a job to support the both of you and a child. When you turned 16 you'd have to drop out to get a job...and I don't see a family working out with the parents working at a supermarket or something.
I think I've gotten a little ahead of myself. You are not engaged. You will most likely not be engaged to this guy when you get older. I say, do not worry about it.
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Omfg I was just outside, and its raining really hard. I was just sitting out in the rain. Is there somthing wrong with that?????? Please tell me if there is a problem with liking rain..bcuz when somone saw me they fucking went crazyyyy. They were yelling get the fuck inside, and acting like i was going to kill myself!!!!!! I am sooo mad!! It was my fucking brother too. TEll Me the truth. IS it wrong to like the rain and go outside when its raining??? I mean this is the first time iv done it but everyone in my family acts like its sooo damn horrible!! plz help. They make mee feel so fucking stupid. like im crazy or somthing for doing that. My bro thoguth i was trying to get struck by lightning!!! AHHHHH is wut i did sooo wrong????
Wha...?
People sure can be stupid sometimes. There is nothing wrong about liking to stay out in the rain.
I LOVE the rain. I find thunderstorms to be strangely arousing. When the wind is blowing hard, the rain is coming down in torrents, the sky is pitch black, and the only lights around are the lightning flashes that happen three times a second, you will find me outside, without a shirt on, on the roof of my house. I think that's the perfect time to go outside and train a little with my nunchaku, or my wooden sword. (Not my real sword, I do not desire to become the lightning rod for my house.)
There is nothing sexier that being with someone else out in a thunderstorm. (To me, anyway.) So, are you wrong about liking the rain? Hell no! In fact, would you like to go outside and play in the rain with me?
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okay well theres this kid and i known him for 2 years but we didnt know eachother 2 years ago because we didn't have the same classes but he always caught my eye,he was cute!! n then in 7th grade we became good friends and he was one of my locker buddies :-d!! anyways the year went by really fast n it was a funn year because me and him got close and i asked him out but he said no n he just wanted to be friends..i got a little upset b.c it really seemed like he liked me but anyhow this year we don't have any classes together but we still hang out n he flirts w. me alot like we have sports studyhall and we chill there until practice starts and me n him click very well together and i kept takin his hat n wudnt give it bak so he'd hold my hand n not let go... i really want to be more than friends w. him cuz he soo hott OMG lol yeah bomb diggity anyways how can i approach him? and how else should i flirt w. him then tryin to hold his hand...??
thank you
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Did you just say "OMG lol yeah bomb diggity"?
What the fuck is "OMG lol yeah bomb diggity"?
You crazy kids.
Anyhow, let me think about what I would like a girl to do when it comes to flirting...if you catch him looking at you from across the room or something, make a seductive face. Lick your lips. Raise a knowing eyebrow. When you're close up, put your hands on his sides. When you're just sitting there bored, give him a random back massage or something. If he has soft hair like me, run your fingers through it, and pet him. It feels good to me, anyway. Puts me to sleep, even.
Just some suggestions.
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I don't even know where to start. I am so overwhelmed right now and really mad and upset. First, I have been working at my job for three years now. The past couple of months I have noticed and I admit, I have been struggling, trying to stay motivated but it has been hard. I have not gotten a raise for quite a while and recently more work has been plopped on me. I attend school part time and work full time. I have to work. I actually don't mind working, I just know that what I am doing now is not what I want to be doing for the rest of my life. I have not missed work in over two years. In the past few months I have been late numerous times, but lately I have been doing much better. First, I was romantically involved with a guy who is one of my co-workers. The relationship fizzled out last year around this time of year. I wanted a relationship, he wanted just sex. It took some time to figure that out, but once I did, it ended. He never wanted to do anything together, and whenever there was any talk about doing anything together, he would complain about money, and how that is all women want from him. Bear in mind, there was no relationship and I never asked anything of him, it fizzled out about three months later, the usual time it seems that if things go sour, they go sour. Anyway, it hurt for a good couple of weeks and I thought I had come to terms with it until about a week ago. There had been rumours spreading that he was involved with another one of the women I work with, a women who works,often times, with me. He even came in one day and even told me that rumors were spreading, he did not deny it, or admit to anything. I didn't say much, I figured he was possibly trying to get a rise out of me and I played it really cool. Sometimes I can be a really good actress. Anyway, a couple of days ago, he is working on one of the computers in the back office. He is on the internet and is copying stuff off of his email site. He leaves the copies at this public computer at the desk. I was collecting my work and accidently grabbed the paperwork. It was a note from the women to him, saying that she loved him. Now, my brain says, who cares? So why did my heart sink? Why did he leave that around. This is affecting my work. How do I come to terms with this? I thought that even though things did not work out between us, and we have to work together, we could be friends, but now I think he is just a scum bucket. Part 2 is next.
The guy's an asshole, plain and simple. You did the right thing to leave him. Now all he is trying to do is make you regret your decision of leaving him. Turn it around. Be so cool headed that you eventually make HIM regret it. Don't rub it in his face or try too hard; that's what he's doing. Over time he'll realize his mistake. If he ever comes back to you that's your chance to really make it hurt. I know, all of this sounds mean, but that's the way it works!
Also, in today's business world, you usually won't get a raise unless you actually go up to "the man" and ask for it.
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im 13/f and my boyfriend is 15 well i just saw him on friday (its sunday) and i was with his for like 5 hours but see that was the first time in like a month in a half for us to see eachother and when i got home (11:30) i went to sleep at like 1am he called me at like 1:15am and i was sleepin but when i was sleepin i had this GRRREAT dream about us..now whenever i hear his voice i just get soo sad and i really wanna see him this friday but i dont kno if he wants me to but is this normal? ..to hav a really great dream about my boyfriend of almost 4months..and just get really sad about him because all yesterday i was just outside on the swing thinkin i wasent my self at all!!..cz i miss him..some help me please!!
Funny, I had a dream about one of my female friends just last night. (She was also topless, but that is not the point. Or is it?) Now, I'm waiting for her to get home so I can go over there. Coincidence? Probably not.
Dreams just have that effect on people. If you've been thinking about someone enough to dream about them, you will be inclined to think about them during the day as well.
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ok, this is for the guys! If your girlfriend kissed you and she was wearing flavoured lip balm, would you like that or find it disgusting?
Oh, I loved it when my ex wore flavored lip gloss. I wanted to lick her lips clean.
Best to find out first, though. Put some on his lips and see if he likes it.
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my ex-gf and i broke up a while ago and we both moved on with our lives. now every time i see her, i realize how much i wasn't over her. i'm pretty sure she doesn't like me as more than a friend, but she might(probably not). sometimes i really wish i could just tell her how i feel and win her back, but i don't think that would work. wut should i do?
Believe me, I identify with you more than you know. My ex broke up with me a little over a month ago but I'm still madly in love with her. We've kissed a few times since then and on occasion it's like we never really broke up. But I realized the feeling is more or less gone.
Getting back together with an ex is a bad idea 9 times out of 10. If you broke up in the first place, there was most likely a reason for it, and it could easily come up again. However if you still have feelings for her, you really should tell her. If you just hold it in it will only continue to bother you. If nothing else, just tell her so you can feel the weight lifting off your shoulders. Don't expect her to melt and fall in love with you again. (Although, that may be possible.) Just let her know you still love her and she will always hold a special place in your heart, and leave it at that.
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okay i have 4 questions...
1. when your goin to just give a "peck" on the lips do your lips go between eachothers? for example...your bottom lip goes in the opening of their lips or other way around
2. just where you make the "kissing face" with your mouth and kiss them like you would on the cheek?
3. are there any more ways?
4. if so what are they and any web-sites?
Forget kissing on the lips and face, try the neck. It always feels better on the neck! Also, nibbling feels good. Not too hard obviously, but a little nibble on the neck or on the earlobe can make a person melt in your arms.
Try it with someone you know well first. Don't start nibbling your mom's ear to see what happens.
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Ok this guy and me always like hold hands and kiss and stuff so I think were going out cause everytime someones like o ur g/f is so hott he doesnt say' o shes not my g/f" he just says I know she is and " o theres your g/f" he doesnt say anything should I ask him?
I've never been one to worry about "OMG are we going out or what". Not to sound so much like some rebellious goth, but that's just a label. The real question is, do you enjoy your time with each other? Do you see yourself getting more intimate with this person?
Besides, when someone asks "is that your girlfriend", it's a lot easier for him to say "yes" rather than "well actually, although we hold hands and kiss and spend a lot of time together, I never took the time to ask her out."
See? One syllable sure as hell beats thirty.
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I have these really cute pair of jeans that aren't flare. Theyre a little baggy, and they fit prefectly. But, I dont know what type of shirt or shoes to wear with them, because i dont want to look like a guy. lol. but does anyone have any accesorie, shirt n shoes ideas? That would help me alot!! Thanx!!
-Janine-*
I always liked it when girls would wear a sleeveless low cut shirt or tanktop. Then again I always prefer sleeveless on ANYTHING, even when we're talking about me. I can't stand sleeves; they irritate my arms, so I always roll them up. (Which is why I hate my long sleeved work shirt.)
As for shoes, just wear some cheap flip-flops. Take it from me: We won't be looking at your feet.
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My sister was like to me "what are you drinking" and im like "apple juice" and she starts yelling me calling me a heffer and crap! like im not even on my diet anymore...and im not even fat but she says if i eat stuff and drink all this sugary stuff im gonna be huge later on and im like..uhh its just juice. i was thirsty so i drake some. and she was like thers crystal light..and i didnt feel like crystal light so i drank apple juice..we always fight about this and i know she cares about me and she doesnt wanna see me get huge...but she always makes me cry and she makes me feel fatter times 200. idk what to do..i hate myself now i just wanna lose weight so im anarexic like her and then shes happy and she can get off my back. ugh! what do i say to her to get her off my back!!!
Somehow I doubt she wants you to become anorexic. I don't think that would make anyone happy. Besides, it was freaking apple juice. It's not like you were shoving Crisco down your throat.
If she makes you cry I somehow doubt taking her advice is the right way to go. Tell her to shut the hell up. Mean, yes, but effective.
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