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Help!!! How can I get through work
I don't even know where to start. I am so overwhelmed right now and really mad and upset. First, I have been working at my job for three years now. The past couple of months I have noticed and I admit, I have been struggling, trying to stay motivated but it has been hard. I have not gotten a raise for quite a while and recently more work has been plopped on me. I attend school part time and work full time. I have to work. I actually don't mind working, I just know that what I am doing now is not what I want to be doing for the rest of my life. I have not missed work in over two years. In the past few months I have been late numerous times, but lately I have been doing much better. First, I was romantically involved with a guy who is one of my co-workers. The relationship fizzled out last year around this time of year. I wanted a relationship, he wanted just sex. It took some time to figure that out, but once I did, it ended. He never wanted to do anything together, and whenever there was any talk about doing anything together, he would complain about money, and how that is all women want from him. Bear in mind, there was no relationship and I never asked anything of him, it fizzled out about three months later, the usual time it seems that if things go sour, they go sour. Anyway, it hurt for a good couple of weeks and I thought I had come to terms with it until about a week ago. There had been rumours spreading that he was involved with another one of the women I work with, a women who works,often times, with me. He even came in one day and even told me that rumors were spreading, he did not deny it, or admit to anything. I didn't say much, I figured he was possibly trying to get a rise out of me and I played it really cool. Sometimes I can be a really good actress. Anyway, a couple of days ago, he is working on one of the computers in the back office. He is on the internet and is copying stuff off of his email site. He leaves the copies at this public computer at the desk. I was collecting my work and accidently grabbed the paperwork. It was a note from the women to him, saying that she loved him. Now, my brain says, who cares? So why did my heart sink? Why did he leave that around. This is affecting my work. How do I come to terms with this? I thought that even though things did not work out between us, and we have to work together, we could be friends, but now I think he is just a scum bucket. Part 2 is next.
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The guy's an asshole, plain and simple. You did the right thing to leave him. Now all he is trying to do is make you regret your decision of leaving him. Turn it around. Be so cool headed that you eventually make HIM regret it. Don't rub it in his face or try too hard; that's what he's doing. Over time he'll realize his mistake. If he ever comes back to you that's your chance to really make it hurt. I know, all of this sounds mean, but that's the way it works!
Also, in today's business world, you usually won't get a raise unless you actually go up to "the man" and ask for it.
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He is trying to make you jealous. He's showing you that he moved on, found someone that does want sex..and hes trying to make you feel like crap. I think its childish of him to leave something in his papers because he knows your going to go through it. You guys are not 12 years old, I bet your a lot older than that. So yup a 'scum bucket' he is..so just forget about him.
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Ok, the big deal is that you still feel emotionally attached to him. He probably has been circulating the rumors himself, b/c he wants you back. You may be jelous because (1)you think you are ready for what he wants in a relationship, or (2)you think that you can change the way he is now. Sadly, a lot of men are the same. They want sex, and when they cant get it, they try to play on your emotions so that you feel guilty. Why dont youy try to give him the note back and see his reaction. And, if you let what he has done get to you at thejob, then you might need to get a new one. :( Also, try to stay away from him, dont talk about him, and when you remember something about him, try to get it out of your mind by thinking of something else. Why not try to look up quotes for the company during break or spare time instead of wishing that you could talk to him?
**_Nicole_**
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