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You Want To Be More Then Friends
My question is I have know this guy for almost fifteen years. We have known each other since the third grade and the whole time I have known him I like more then just a friend. We used to be good friends but in eighth grade he asked me if I wanted to have sex with him and when he asked me I didn't say anything. But after that day we weren't good of friends like we were before because I didn't know how to act around him. But in high school I noticed that he still likes me because I use to catch him looking at me and smiling and sometimes we would smile when ever we looked at each other because we always had a class together through high school. When we graduated he wrote something really nice but the thing is I don't know if he is the type of guy to write the same thing in every girls yearbook or if he just did it in mine. But to this day I don't know if he wants to be more then friends or not. But I found out that he hoined the army and I am thinking of writing him a letter but I am not sure because we haven't keep in touch in almost four years so what should I do.
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Write to him!!! If he does or doesn't feel the same to you...a person in the armed forces looks forward to mail...He could probably use a friend. In one of your letters tell him how you feel...you may be pleasantly surprised.
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I'd say definately go ahead and write him. I'm actually in a very similar situation myself with and old girlfriend from highschool that I just recently looked up after nearly 5 years of no communications. There won't be anything happening between us (she's now happily married with 2 beautiful kids), but it's great being able to catch up with old friends. The army is a rough place frequently, and getting a great letter from an old friend can make your whole week better (believe me, I know... I'm a soldier myself). So yeah, even if all that comes of it is that you get to have a few laughs reminiscing about good times in highschool, I think it's still time well spent.
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Write to him. Tell him that you were thinking about all of the good times you used to have together and tell him that you really respect his decission that he is going in the service and you would like to have dinner before he leaves. Act like that day never happened and that you simply haven't seen each other in a while. Hopefully if he really cares about you still he will call you up and you two will have dinner. If he doesn't have the time maybe he will write to you while he is away. One way or the other ask him to keep in touch and make sure as soon as he writes you that you write him back right away. Don't push just let him know that you are there. Best of luck and let me know what happens... :)
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talk to some or one of his friends, and ask what he is like now... if they're really his friends... they should know. From that, you should be able to come up with something to write him about!
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Write the letter explaining things to him, and maybe you should ask him out for dinner . It would be good for you and he might be wondering why you're doing this . If you really want him, go for it . I think that your possibility of getting with him may not be that strong(because, you haven't seen him in four years) , but still talk to him . Write him and keep in touch . You may never know, he might be the one . Oh and tell him why you never did this in High School .
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I think that you should write to him. Maybe you dont want to tell him everything you feel about him on the first letter but just let him know that you were thinkin about him. If he writes you back then write him again. And then when you are ready tell him how you really feel about him. And when time comes that he is going to be able to come home... make an arrangement so that you can get together and go out somewhere. Good Luck sweetie!
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i think you should definitely write him a letter!! And definitely add in there u've been thinking of him! it sounds like he liked you teehee!! :)
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Regardless if he wrote the same thing in every girl's yearbook, I think you should write him a nice letter describing all your feelings that you have had for him over the years. Send him a picture of you, and that your wishing him the best in the military...you really do not have anything to lose, and who knows, maybe he will have someone to look forward to when he returns home....
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I think you should write him. You dont have to spill your guts to him on the first letter, you said yourself you havent talked to him in 4 years. So just write him a letter, tell him bout friends, family, your life etc...ask him how hes doing..after a few letters back and forth...tell him you like him! I hope I helped. Good luck!
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