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I wanted to let you know that our relationship is doing alot better and that woman he was working with came over to talk to me and told me that she is not interested in black men and if he was white she still wouldnt want him he is not her type, he told me that he loves me in front of her and that he wants to be with me. She got fired last Sunday so I have a big relief that he is not working with her anymore, and the trust factor is going to be hard for a lil while because of past relationships I never let them back in my life after they cheated, but this time I am married and kids are involved. We talked through our problems and are seeking counseling. Thanks for your advice. Now my next question is how do I charm him to let him know that it still bothers me but I want to work it out of our relationship, it can be sexually or non-sexually, just think of something good and let me know. Thanks again for your advice. I love that their are people out there that really care. (link)
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I am so glad that things are working out for you! If it is possible, try to find a sitter outside of the house for the night. and plan a romantic night alone... Surprise him and greet him in his favorite nightie or nothing at all. Tell him this is the beginning of the rest of your lifetime marriage....Love him and believe in him....the rest will follow....good luck in everything that you do!!
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My question is I have know this guy for almost fifteen years. We have known each other since the third grade and the whole time I have known him I like more then just a friend. We used to be good friends but in eighth grade he asked me if I wanted to have sex with him and when he asked me I didn't say anything. But after that day we weren't good of friends like we were before because I didn't know how to act around him. But in high school I noticed that he still likes me because I use to catch him looking at me and smiling and sometimes we would smile when ever we looked at each other because we always had a class together through high school. When we graduated he wrote something really nice but the thing is I don't know if he is the type of guy to write the same thing in every girls yearbook or if he just did it in mine. But to this day I don't know if he wants to be more then friends or not. But I found out that he hoined the army and I am thinking of writing him a letter but I am not sure because we haven't keep in touch in almost four years so what should I do. (link)
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Write to him!!! If he does or doesn't feel the same to you...a person in the armed forces looks forward to mail...He could probably use a friend. In one of your letters tell him how you feel...you may be pleasantly surprised.
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My mother-in-law is always accusing me of over-reacting to things, when I think my reactions are quite normal. She tells me to calm down when I'm only slightly frustrated about something, and her saying this to me repeatedly causes me to get more frustrated, then she's like "I told you so." For example, today she was giving my daughter a ride to school, and I went along because she was in her p.j's and it was a cold day and she was doing us a favor so I didn't have to walk her to school. Anyways, to get to the point, my daughter had made a suncatcher keyring for her teacher and I knew that I had put it in her backpack. My daughter wanted to show it to her grandmother, so she opened her backpack, and I reached back and got it. I looked in her backpack where I had put it and it wasn't there. So I simply stated "It's not here. I know I put it in here." I wasn't hysterical, just slightly puzzled. My mother-in-law immediately starts saying "Calm down, calm down. It's no big deal," as if I was totally freaking out, which I wasn't, and I kept repeating "It's not here," as I looked because she kept saying "Calm down." She was irritating me, and I told her so, and that I thought she was being rude. She just told me to "Drop it." She acts so smug and superior. My daughter found it in the back of the car, and handed it to me, which my mother-in-law didn't even notice because she was so busy telling me to stop going on about it. I told her she was rude and didn't repect my feelings and that anyone would say the same thing when they were looking for something and it wasn't where they put it. She probably didn't hear half of what I said because she was too busy telling me to shut up. I finally gave up, but I have a hard time dropping a subject when I think someone is unfairly judging me. I was trying to get her to understand my point of view. She is always treating me like this. I'm so sick of it. Does anyone have experience with a person like this? How do you handle it without making it look like the person is right about you? I know this is what I'm doing when I respond to her rudeness. But I don't know how else to handle it. She is hard to ignore. Any advice? (link)
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Mother-in-laws! Aren't they frustrating??!! First of all, the first thing you need to do is get your husbands support. You need to make him understand how she makes you feel. Then, the both of you should make a quiet time with her, with no distractions or children and explain to her how she is making you feel. Let your husband broach the subject first...then she may be more open to hear it.
If that doesn't work...try limiting the amount of time that she is around you..But whatever you do stand your ground!
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Hi I am Renee and my hubby Ray is working this job and he says it is for a better life for us but he is never home and when he is home all we do is argue, well he has cheated in the past so you know that runs in the back of my mind all the time but I took him back because I believe in my vows and it was great. Well now he works with this girl that is around all the time, and he comes home all hours of the night. My question is how do I make things right between us and get my point across with out fighting and make him understand me? I love him and I think I can trust him but I don't know how much. Please help me and tell me what I can do? (link)
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First of all....I hear you love your husband.... But the question is, Do you love yourself? I respect you for wanting to abide by your vows, but that stance only works if you both are. Also, if you trusted him, none of this would be going through your mind.
If you want to have a conclusion to the issue, you are going to need to stand up for yourself...and demand his respect regarding this woman. I would also reccomend that you seek couples counceling. Most churches offer some type of marital counceling. Good luck and please let me know how it works out.
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Okay, this may sound weird, but here it goes. I've never had a canker sore before, but recently, one grew inside my lower lip. I have always heard my friends complaining about this but they never said much about it. How do you get them and how can you make them go away/prevent them? (link)
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Canker sores are actually very common... Many people get them...however the cause is not really known. However, some experts think that they may be hereditary.
There are oral medications on the market, usually kept in the same areas as toothpaste in the store, they do offer dome relief of the pain. I would reccomend rinsing your mouth at least 4 times a day with warm salt water. It will help speed up the healing process.
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