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My name is Teza.. short for Tereza. I was born in Croatia and I speak more than one language. I'm 22 years old & I completed 2 college degrees in 3 years. My a bachelors is in Business Administration concentration in Human Resources and my Masters degree is also in HR.

I started this advice column about 9years ago and I was so young but it was something that I always loved to do. I am trying to get back to answering questions, at least a few per day. With that said, if you have questions about school, friends, make up, etc., feel free to ask.

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I'm 14 years old, going to be a freshman at my highschool next year. I've never made out. I've been going out with this guy for about a month. I've had previous relationships, 2 to be exact, that lasted a really long time and we never did anything because eh... basically the guys were pussys. I broke up with them. I'm the type of girl that likes outgoing guys that arent shy. Everytime I go out with someone they seem like that and they become shy and annoying and it just bothers me so much now. Well my current boyfriend, I dont know... He's only shy when we are with my friends and that's understandable I guess. But I seem to have lost interest in him because so far we have gotten together with other people and it's been awkward because he is acting shy. I'm basing the next time I see him [which we will be alone] to see how it is between us and if it's bad i plan to break up with him. However, the next time we're going to see eachother, he was talking about making out with me [trying it out] he knows that I havent done it before and he has done it alot. I'm nervous in a way. I want to do it but then I dont. I think that everytime the guy is making the move I just basically dont want to. I dont know why my previous boyfriends didnt make the move but when I knew I couldnt have it, I wanted to do it. Now that I know I could do it, I dont want to? I make no sense. I don't know what to do. I dont even know what Im asking... Well basically, what should I do?

Give your current boyfriend some time to get comftrable around you. I don't think you really know what you want. You broke up with your ex boyfriends because they didn't make any moves on you, but now you're not so sure about your current boyfriend because he will. It doesn't really make sense but I know what you mean. If he always acts shy around your friends, maybe you should talk to him about it and see why? If he doesn't always hang out with them, it's understandable. If you're not ready to kiss him yet, don't. Don't rush anything and if you're waiting for the right moment, let it happen. Maybe if you both are having a good time and you're feeling more comftrable, then go for it but just be patient and don't rush anything.

I guess you could say i have a problem with.. .. flirting. I flirt with like a lot of guys. I guess it's confusing to tell who i actually like. The guy i actually like, always tells me i like someone else and i should go out w/ someone else. I know he's interested in me but he just isnt picking up the hint that he's the one im most interested in. How do i let him know i'm most interested in him other than like just flirting w/ him more than other guys? thanks! =)

Stop flirting so much with the other guys. i understand that it's a natrual thing to flirt but I'm pretty sure that you know your limits. If he's the only that you're interested in, focus the flirting and attention on him and don't give it so much to the other guys. Talk to him and TELL him that you like him and hang out. That way he'll know you want him and the other guys don't mean anything but friendships.

Hi, I just started an Advicenator and no one has asked me any questions :( But this is mainly because no one knows that my site exists. So, could you tell me how to be made more known so I can answer some questions? Thanks!

Once I first started my column, I didn't have a lot of people ask me questions eather but you have to make your column known. You have to answer a lot of public questions on this website. Add people as a favorite columnist and they'll add you back and your column can also get known for that. Give good advice, be honest and polite.

is it just me or nebody else where whenever i love someone, they end up breaking me heart. everytime...

It's not you, it's just .. life. You're not the only one and it's hard but it only makes you stronger. You'll meet a great person one day and just don't give up on it. Not everyone is the same.

would you go out with a guy whos hot, nice and cool but he has a F or D in his classes?

I don't think that his grades should stop you from dating him. If you like his personality and enjoy being around him, then go for it. If his grades bother you, don't go for him. He might not be good at those things but there are other things that he may be good at.

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yeah, well i have a boyfriend now... but now when i talked to this one guy.. that used to lik` me.. and he waited for me because he wanted to, but i told him not to... but he said to wait for me anyways is mad now. he says that i lied to him and made him wait and lead him on when he was away from town... but i didnt.. well at least i didnt think so. but when i went out w/ the guy i am now i was goin` to tell him to not to wait for me, lik` i did last time, but then the day after he got mad saying that he shouldnt have fell for me and etc. i dont know what to do.. but i was pretty sure i didnt tell him to wait for me. he asked me out before but then i said that i felt a vibe and all.. but i didnt really like him. >.< help me please.. i want us to stay friends.

If you know that you didn't tell him to wait for you, don't try to convince him. You know you're right and he's only saying that out of anger. Just talk to him and tell him that you want to be friends for now and if he doesn't want that, there's nothing you can do about it.

how do you get your pictures rounded like that? its super cute.. im not like taking your stuff either i just like how it looks and ive seen it before but i dont know how to do that?

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i joined facebook as a regional network user of st. louis. well im a freshman this year, how do i convert from the st. louis network to my high school network?

When you log in, on the top, right side corner is should say Home, Account, Privacy, Log Out. Click on account and then click on Networks. Then just put in the school you go to.

Alright i'm a guy i tried to straighten my hair for the first time and it didnt quite go so well. one thing is i totally dont know how to do it. i used my mom's and it was clip on type thingy. i noticed it gets warm and then really hot to help straighten my hair. so do i put my hair between the hot metal bar and clip and how long do i keep my hair between it? i want my hair to be straight going down my forehead andi dont want it to curl up or in any other direction just straight down because lateron when my hair gets longer im gonna have an Emo hairstyle. so basically im a simple guy asking a simple question on how you straighten your hair. girls you can tell me every bit of detail on how you do this stuff and guys that straighten their hair tell me some tips. lol

When I straighten my hair, I do it in sections but I'm guessing your hair is probablly shorter than mine. When you plug the straightener in, it will get hot but if it's too hot, you can turn down the heat. All you have to do is put pieces of your hair between the metal bars and go down. You don't have to hold it or anything but go slowly so it straightenes better. It's simple :]

In your new picture, I love that shirt. I dont mean to copy you or anything, and sorry if it comes off that way, but where did you get it? I would like to visit that store, and get a similar style.

Thanks!
-WoahThereBabe

Thanks lol and it's from American Eagle.

Ok, well 3 of my best friends are graduating this year. I have this really amazing boyfriend and were like really close (you kinda have to be im the only girl in my class and im in a class of 9) but anyways the other nite my friend text me and starting getting really mad at me. She says i always ditch them to hang out with him and she didnt care if we were friends anymore and how hes always an ass to her and i made him that way and none of its true! Her and my 2 other friends are always saying these little comments like keep it PG over there that bug me and thats why im always hanging out with him. So how do i get them to stop acting this way and be my friend again.

You may not realize it, but sometimes you might actually put your boyfriend first instead of your friends. Most people don't want to admit it but other people can see it. I'm not saying that you are doing that, but just think about it. You have to make time for your friends and your boyfriend. You can't just hang out with one and not the other. It's complicated but your friends also need to respect that. When your friends say those comments it's because they are kidding around and don't take it so personally. If it bothers you that much, tell them to stop and that it's not funny. If that is the reason why you're always hanging out with him, you need to talk to your friends and solve this.

When you are on the phone with your boyfriend,
what are some conversation starts?
and what should you talk about?

Lol, because when i talk to my boyfriend on the phone we both are shy and we are a little quiet.

& me and him are supposed to hang out soon,
like this week.. could you give me some tips
on what to wear, and how to do my hair? [my hair
is brown with blonde highlights and its past my shoulders]and how should i do my make up ? [this is the first time me and him are hanging out]

Thank's so much! +Your picture is absolutely beautiful :]

When you're talking to your boyfriend on the phone, talk about things that interest both of you. Ask him what he's doing over the weekend or just bring up something funny. You shouldn't think about what things to say or if you're going to act stupid, but just say anything and don't be shy about it.

Since this is the first time you guys are hanging out, make it fun and special. Do you know where you're going? It would be easier for me to tell you on what to wear and such but oh well. All you have to do is be confident. It may sound a little cheesy or what not, but don't feel insacure or shy around him. Keep flirting, giggle and most importantly, be YOURSELF. If it's hot outside, you could wear some cute shorts [ or skirt ] with a cute tanktop and flip flops.

Shorts:
http://www.hollisterco.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/ProductDisplay?storeId=10251&catalogId=10201&productId=318612&langId=-1&categoryId=12625&parentCategoryId=12552&colorSequence=03

or

http://www.hollisterco.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/product_10251_10201_336690_-1_12625_12552

They don't have to be from Hollister or that color but they're in style and look cute with anything.

Your should leave your hair down. Since the straight is simple, you could make your hair wavy and natrual. Eather curl it or just scrunch it a little. As for make up, put foundation, a little bit of powder, bronzer on the cheeks and just a tad bit of blush. You don't need to put any eyeshadow on but apply mascara and eyeliner if you wear it and you'll look great. I hope you have fun & thank you :]

So theres this guy, i really really like him, i sit next to him in English and we talk and flirt alot. I went out with him before a long time ago and found out he wasnt really "boyfriend material" His friend told me he said that me and another girl were the only hott ones in my grade. All of the sudden he kinda stopped flirting with me becuase everyone was saying i liked this other guy and wanted me to go out with him becuase he likes me, but i definitly dont like that other guy. I really want to let him know i am interested and i want to hang out with him over the summer and sorta be friends with benifits? how do i know if he likes me, and how do i let him know that i'm interested? Thanks, and your really good at giving advice!

It sucks when other people always ruin things like that. He seemed like he was really into you. To know if he likes you or not might take some time. You should start talking to him and once you both are having a conversation, bring up the past and ask him to hang out. Once you guys start hanging out and talking more, just flirt and he'll know that you're into him. So like I said, it might take a little bit of time, but just start over again but things will move along good. & thank you :]

my frends keep ignoring me, first it was 't' then 'j' then my utter best frend 'b' they dont even talk 2 me anymore, they neva listen to my opinions and they just care about how skinny they are or how fat other people are. im bigger than all of them, i would leave there group but there is no where else to go, and i cant avoid them. please help

I know that this isn't exactly what you want to hear, but you need to talk to them. They might not be doing that on purpose but if they are, they aren't your true friends. Explain to them how you feel and if they leave you out, ask them to hang out. They seem really shallow and close minded and that's just how they are. I also don't think it's fair how you're only being friends with them and staying in their group because there is no where else to go. That's not true. You can meet other people, meet new friends so they aren't your only option.

what should you do or say when you find out your friend is cutting. because i have no clue what to tell my friend.

You need to comfort your friend. Your friend is going through a rough time and all you have to do is be there for her. Explain to them that what they're doing is not worth it and life is too short for those kind of things. Make them realize that whatever they are going through, that you'll be there to talk to and anything else. If your friend does not stop, you need to tell an adult or someone else. Cutting leads to depression, and worse things.

okay so my "b" and i went out for a few weeks and we broke up and i went out with his friend "z" but my friend likes z so i broke up with him because she was causing more drama. okay so today it was me one of my other friends and z and his friends and he was like kinda making fun of me but not in a really mean way...but idk if i would consider it flirting...and now that my friend doesnt like him and i still do, i want to go out with him again but how can i hint to him that i want to?

When guys are kind of insulting a girl in a nice way, it's usually because they are flirting. You need to start talking to him again and flirt back. He'll eventually get the hint that you still like him and possibly make a move.

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i want my hair like this for prom the darker hair on the left but the thing is i know her and i dont want to copy how can i some what change it maybe bangs or a few pieces out of the low pony tail any ideas? thanks

I think that if you left your bangs down with wavy curls and more volume would be really cute.

Well, I do have one friend. She's not in my grade so I barely see her besides weekends. & even then, she has other friends to hang out with as I used to...

Which brings me to the real topic. I lost all my school friends. They got into drinking & hanging out with people who do that & smoke & everything but.. I don't like doing that. Today I tried telling them that we're not even friends anymore & I feel stupid still acting like we are, when in reality I have none. They told me that they've changed & I haven't. & they wanna like, make the best out of high school. So I'm supposed to do what? One even told me to hang out with these other girls who I'm only sorta close with one of.. & I have social anxiety disorder so it's really hard for me to just ask people to hang out when I barely talk to them. This sucks. They made it worse by saying that I could make friends & stuff.. it just feels awful to know I have no friends at school. Even though a lot of people talk to me at school, they'd never think about asking me to hang out. Which is even worse than not having any friends besides a small clique. Now summer's coming up & I'm going to have no life.. I don't know what to do with myself right now. Should I say anything to my old friends? How do I make new ones without feeling like an idiot? How do I see my old friends & act like nothing happened?

This helps to get it out & I don't really know exactly what I'm asking here but if anyone can relate? shed some light? Please.

I understand that it's hard for you at school but friends and people change and you have to accept that. Your old friends are into the "party scene" and just because you aren't like them, doesn't mean you guys still can't talk and maybe hang out. I have different friends who do different things and when I hang out with them, I know better than to do it myself. I can stop myself and say it's wrong and just walk away, but they're still my friends. Do you get what I'm trying to say? If you want to make more friends at school, keep talking to those people and get closer. It wouldn't be weird if you asked them to hang out. Invite them over or go out somewhere. Just be yourself and relax. You drifted apart from some friends but it doesn't mean you won't make new ones. Things like this happen and it's not the end of the world. Get to know more people, talk to them and don't be shy. They'll like you for who you are. Even though people do some stupid things does not mean you have to follow into their footsteps.

i have EXTREMELY curly/frizzy hair and i can't find any straighteners that will work in it. Can anyone tell me any good ones (money is not a problem)

I recommend the Chi straightener to anyone. It works amazing and I'm sure you'll love it.

My family hit a tough stop =/ We have money, just not as much as we'd like. My friends always ask me to go to the movies, and place that cost money. Yes, we have money, but not enough for me to be spening it on things like movies, and jack n the box. I tell my friends I can't go, and they always ask me why. What do I tell them ? Personally, I don't feel like I should have to explain my family or their situation to them. I don't want my friends symthy.. So what kind of reasons can I give, so that my friends don't feel sorry for me =/ Thanks Teza !! BTW : you columns pictures are always cute.

Your family situations are your own personal buisness and you shouldn't have to explain yourself if you don't feel like it. You can tell your best friends what's going on but they won't feel sorry for you. I have a friend that was going through the same thing. Her mom got sick and didn't work for a while, but we didn't feel sorry for her, we understood and helped her out. No big deal. You can tell them that you didn't get your alounce [ sp ] and that you're not allowed to go. Also, you could start saving your own money. Maybe help out around the house and your parents' could give you like 5 bucks. Don't be embarassed that you don't have enough money to spend on things like that. Your friends will understand.

& thank you :] You're sweet.

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