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I'm currently in the process of obtaining child support,i have my daughter 24/7,her father hasnt seen her in 5 months and am currently in another state and am thinking of moving here,i'm just wondering what my next step should be and if he has any rights(even though he hasnt had any contact with his child)? (link)
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He does have parental rights. Unless he is some sort of criminal or dangerous drug addict you have no legal right to keep him from seeing his child. Of course, you can arrange visitations through the courts and limit his time, and still maintain full custody, but is that what would be best for your daughter? Even if he is a screw up, he's her father, and every little girl needs a dad. The relationship you have with him should not affect the relationship SHE has with him. If he is moving closer and wants to be a bigger part of her life, you should let him. You will be glad you did in the long run. Statistics show that girls who grow up without fathers are more likely to become promiscuous, and fall prey to teenage pregnancy and drugs. A father is an important influence on a girls life. Even if he isn't the best father, you would do well by your little girl to encourage any interaction and relationship with him at all. Believe me, right now its all you, but there will come a time where she will need her father to point her in the right direction. Please don't rob your daughter of the chance to have a father. He may not deserve the chance, but she does.
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Hey guys, I have a bunch of stretch marks on my stomach/sides area. Anyone know of a good waterproof cover up that hides them pretty well? ALL help is appreciated! Thanks you guys rock :) (link)
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I don't know about a cover up, but I was watching someone talk about it on tv the other day, and she said that self-tanner helps a lot. Since stretch marks are always lighter, tanner helps to blend them in with your natural skin tone.
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i want to loose 10 pounds in 2 weeks.
i was really looking into doing the maple syrup diet since you loose 20 pounds in ten days! but i think its a little extreme for me and i dont have the right enviornment for it.
since the detox is kind of starvation i was wondering if i could potentionaly loose ten pounds quickly by doing a starvation diet.
id idealy like to simple eat coffee, fat free frozen yogurt, and chicken for a week. just that. maybe an apple or some fruit but nothing more.
would i be able to loose a lot of weight by reducing my calorie intake that much? or will i simply go into starvation mode and my body will gain weight...
i really am not educated enough in this department to know if this will work.
YES I AM AWARE THAT STARVATION IS EXTREMLY HARMFULL but i simply want to loose ten pounds thats it. i do not want to get an eating disorder or anything like that! i LOVE food. that is why i need to loose the weight!
so, can i go on a starvation diet and succesfuly loose ten pounds?
if not how could i? i need to loose ten pounds in 2 weeks or less! (link)
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You can lose it that way. But it'll just come back even quicker once you start eating again. Very bad idea. Unfortunately, there's no quick fix to losing weight. If there were, EVERYONE would do it!
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Hello.I have recently had to cut off a relationship with a woman I j=have known for 13 years.We were always friends,and there was always flirtation and warm feelings.Three years ago,she got married.She cheated on him epically,(but never with me).A year ago,she contacted me out of the blue,and resumed contact.It was friendly and exciting,as always,and she always promised the hope of a relationship.She always complained to me about her husband.Then,she said she wanted to have sex with me,which I have always wanted,and,as I was not in a relationship,was a sitting duck.Long story short,it turned out that she was only using me for control and attention,and still cheats on her husband.I have never committed adultery before,and this was the only time in my life that I came close.However,I did get emotionally involved,and now feel very lost and hurt over this.It is a cionch she is not thinking about me at all,and was a sick game.What do I do? I still want an explanation,or better,some clairity,or have something work.I feel very less than,and when I asked her what was going on,she told me not to be sensitive.I told her that unless she was clear with me I had to let her go.She came back with a fake e mail saying she would 'never break her vows'.I told her that I was not buying it,that I have known her for 13 years and know what she does,and that she should be honest with me.I have not heard from her since,but notice she has put me onl about 120 sex oriented spam sites.Please tell me what is going on? This woman has recently had a child,and is a teacher,and I am afriad for both her child and her students,but there is nothing I can do,and she will hold her child up as a shield rather than look at herself--Confused (link)
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Walk away from this woman now. Cut off all contact. Don't call her, text her, email her. Don't accept any communication from her. She used you. Its unfair, but that's life. Do yourself a favor and don't make it any worse for yourself by continuing to hang on, waiting for a good explanation. Anyone who would be unfaithful to her family like would never be able to give a good reason why. Some people are jerks. That's just the way it is. Walk away and chalk it up to a lesson learned. In time your feelings will fade.
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I will do my best to keep this short! My family and I are going on vacation soon and my inlaws have decided to invit themselves to come up for a night. They asked us last year while we were on vaca if they could come up for the day and we were ok with that but, again they assumed they were going to spend the night. Wheny husband told them nou father-in-law got so mad that they just left in the middle of the day and did not talk to us for 2 weeks. well here we are again bit this year they did not ask and just told us they were cing because they have to see the girls on their birthdays. We work full time all year and never get time alone with the kids. We worked alot of overtime to afford this trip and only take 1 week a year off for this. My husbands parents live in the same town and our 6 year old is there atleast 2 days a week and my mother in law is here almost everyday of the week or we are doing things together on the weekeneds. See my point is that we see them constantly and on top of that she disrespects my wishes and buys the girls whatever they want. My 6 year old gets what ever she wants the most and acts like a baby around her. They are always telling us how to be parents oraking comments about my family toy face. On top of that she makes rude comments about my 18 ur old from another marriage to my face I do stick up but, at the same time nite my tongue and my husband will not say anything. My question is how do I tell them that we do not want them there without a problem like last year? Mind you my mother whom I see once every 2 weeks did not even think about asking!! (link)
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I don't think you can.. or should. These are your in-laws. For better or worse they are your family. You're stuck with them for the rest of your life. Surely one day of inconvenience on vacation could be worth keeping the peace in your family for the rest of the year. It seems like it would be worth it to avoid the stress of a strained relationship. We can't choose our family and sometimes we have to go out of our way even when we don't want to. That's just the way it is. Maybe, like you, they want to spend some time with their family in a special way, away from the day to day grind of life. Perhaps if you make it clear that the visit can only be for one night. Plan an activity out with the kids for the night they are scheduled to leave so there is no confusion that your time with them is over and you are moving on with the rest of your vacation without them. You may have to sacrifice 1 day in order to enjoy 6 days of peace with your family. As for your your MIL buying spoiling your girls, keep in mind that that's what grandparents do, and should do. Once when my son was whining for some candy and my MIL gave it to him I said "You know you can say no to him sometimes. Its ok". Her response? "Oh no! I've raised my kids and said plenty of no's! That's your job now. Now I just get to say yes to my wonderful grandchild!" Don't look at it as her undermining you. Look at it as her enjoying her grandchildren. Its a special relationship, one that's different from parenting, and one that is good for both your girls and the grandparents. Your girls are certainly blessed to have so many people around them that love them! And as for rude comments about your son, I always say kill 'em with kindness! If she picks at you, ask her what her advice would be for the situation. She'd probably fall right over that you even asked in the first place. Then, when she gives you advice, politely say "Thank you, I hadn't thought about it that way. I'll think about that" and move on. Even if the advice sucked and you'd NEVER do it, she doesn't need to know that. And you don't have to follow it. The point is you can't change her, you can only change how you react to her. So work on that, and try to think of her as a member of your team, even when she makes it hard for you. I promise, your life will be a lot easier if you do that. Remember, she's not going anywhere - neither are you.
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Female. 15. 10th grade.
This is a story back from my years in the Jr. High (7th grade to 9th grade). People think my band director and I had a little bit of a strange relationship. I was close to him, everyone has their favorite teacher. He was mine. He was a sweetheart, he cared about his students but he was stern when he needed to be, he wasn't a pushover. I am now in the Sr. High band which is a lot more difficult due to competitions and all of the practices but one thing my Sr. High band director brings up a lot is how we weren't properly trained in Jr. High, which makes me think of my Jr. High band director. I didn't really think much of the way we acted in Jr. High but looking back on it, our relationship was kinda strange.
-In seventh grade I didn't really care what I looked like, so I wore my hair up a lot. When I started wearing it down and making it look pretty like curling it, my teacher noticed and said I looked different, that it was a nice change.
-If I was late for a class, the teacher would tell me to hurry but they would always ask me to do things for them, I would wind up being late but they would never write me a pass because they warned me to hurry. So, I would walk to the band room and my band director would write them for me. Every time.
-If I wanted to skip a class like gym or something, he would excuse me from the class by telling the teacher I needed to practice my instrument, we had a concert coming up or something.
-One day at sectionals, it was me, my close friend and my band director. He sat next to me on the right and my friend sat next to me on the left, two seats over, so it was him-me-empty seat-her. I kept trying this part that I couldn't get down and once I finally got it, I was really excited so I was like "yea yea! woo!" and accidentally put my hand on his thigh, in excitement. I know it was wrong now, thinking about it, I shouldn't have touched any part of him but it wasn't intentional, like trying to make a move, I was in seventh grade.. gimme a break. But he didn't look shocked nor move my hand, I moved it when I actually realized it was there.
-His office is right in the music suite hallway so he always keeps his door shut to keep the noise of the practicing instruments or chattering kids out. I would go into his office to talk with the door shut and the other kids would look in on us.
-He would know when something was wrong with me, because of the way I acted, I'm usually talkative and happy so he knows when something's up with me and he'd always ask or when I wasn't being myself in band, he'd look at me a lot to notify me that he knows I am not okay.
-He always called me my full first and last name and I would always tell him he can just call me by my first name but he never did. So, one day I said that I am going to start calling him by his first name and I did sometimes and he didn't seem to mind, when we were with other kids, though, he would tell me that his name was Mr. ___
-He had since had his first child when I left for the Sr. High and we had always joked that he was going to have a girl and name her after me and she's going to play the same instrument I do and he joked back he would put her up for adoption if she was ever as talkative as me. He doesn't joke around like that with other kids, especially about his family and such.
-He would be walking out of the band suite and I would be walking in to practice and say hello to him and we'd stop in the hallway and talk for a few minutes.
-He let me sit in on his music classes (if you teach band or orchestra you also teach music class) and sit in on his study halls.
-My mom said a few times "if you had this relationship with any other teacher, I would be worried.
Be completely honest, just don't scold me or yell at me if you think we crossed the line. Do you think we passed the student teacher boundaries? Why do you think that we did or didn't? Maybe he just favored me.. do you think he kinda liked me?
I know I was in the wrong for some of these but I didn't look at our relationship as anything more than playful, then.
Thank you. (link)
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It sounds slightly inappropriate, but I don't know the teacher and what his intentions were. From your end I don't think you did anything wrong. You were responding to positive attention from an adult role model. Any girl your age would do the same. But maybe it really wasn't anything creepy. Maybe he saw a talent in you that he wanted to nurture and encourage. It would be easy for others (or yourself) to misinterpret that as romantic feelings. If he were still your teacher and you were spending a lot of time alone with him I would say that was a red flag. But you're in high school now and he's not your teacher anymore, so just look back on your time with him with a fondness, being thankful that such a kind person took a personal interest in your life, if only for a while. Every one we meet has an affect on our lives in some way. Some people are a part of our lives forever, some for only a short while. Be grateful for the encouragement you received during your time in Junior high and move forward with your life, knowing you didn't do anything wrong. Good luck.
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16/f. me and my sister used to play "games" in the shower when we were little (I was like 10 or 11) but people told us it was what all the little girls do. I don't want to get in to detail just because it makes me sick to my stomach but we used to touch down there vvv and stuff like that. Is that considered being sexually abused? If so, is it my fault since I'm the older one out of the two of us? I barely realized it was wrong last year when I learned all about sex. I started doing drugs to try to forget about it but i feel like I'm going insane and I just need help. Anything else that you might think will be useful will be highly appreciated. (link)
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No no no... of course you feel embarrassed about this, but it was just two small girls being curious about their bodies. If it makes you feel better I did the same thing when I was a kid. I'm a normal, married adult with normal children and a happy life now. It wasn't because I was sick, we were curious and since we had the same body parts, it seemed natural to "explore" down there. You didn't do anything wrong. The fact that you feel so bad about it now says that you have a normal, healthy attitude about right and wrong, so you're not a psycho! Forgive yourself. You were a little girl doing what most other little girls do at one time or another. It was for a short time and then you grew up. Don't beat yourself up. The drugs are making this worse for you, not better. They are keeping you from thinking clearly about this and moving on. Forgive yourself and leave this incident and the drugs behind. Move forward with your life knowing you are not a monster, just a human being like the rest of us.
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I'm bulimic and tonight I just relapsed after 2 months of sobriety. I feel really down and I'm really just looking for motivating and inspiring words to get me back on track and to stop feeling like such shit. Anything will help.
Thanks in advance. (link)
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Every journey has hills and valleys. You are recovering from bulimia. That doesn't mean you have BEAT it already. Of course you are going to have times when you mess up and make bad choices. But that's what you did tonight. That doesn't mean that you have to do the same thing tomorrow. Tomorrow is a new day and you get to decide who you want to be all over again. Don't let one bad night trick you into thinking all is lost. Just let it be one bad night. Let tomorrow be a new day with new choices. Forgive yourself. You are fighting a vicious and tiring battle, one most people will never know themselves. You are in a war. You are going to take some hits, but the fact that you're even fighting in the first place says a lot about your personal strength and character. Forgive yourself. Enjoy your new day, with the new you. Good luck! You can do this!
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I have been married for 22 years and am still married after a 3 1/2 year separation. I have been living with another man for 2 1/2 years. He is very good to me but I haven't been able to set a date for our wedding. I still think about my husband a lot. I'm so confused. I'm not sure I know what love is or ever did. The new man has lied to me about minor things but still a lie is a lie. That's something my husband never did. He says he's changed and will never say mean things to me again but everytime he gets mad he does it again. Everyone says its because he's still hurting. What do u think? Please ask any ? 'S you'd like. I need help. (link)
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Dr. Phil always says that 90 percent of divorced couples give up too early. Its obvious you have unfinished business with your husband. Whatever issues the two of you had, you're finding out that the grass is not always greener on the other side. You'll never find a perfect person. Every relationship has its ups and downs and struggles. If you're going to struggle, better to do it with the one you've invested decades of your life in. You can't set a date because in your heart you know you are not finished with your husband. You have 22 years together. Go back to your husband (if that's still an option) and get into marriage counseling. You'll never regret trying, but if you don't try, you'll always wonder what could have been.
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that's what my friends call blood clot. because it looks like strawberry jam. no, but seriously i get it sometimes. but how is it caused and why? does it have anything to do with using tampons ('cause i use them-)? i am 13, usually every time i bleed i get that strawberry jam. is this normal? (link)
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Yes, its normal. Those clots are actually older pieces of tissue from your cervix. Its like your skin is constantly replacing itself. We don't notice because we shower and clean our skin and so we wash off the old skin. But the only way for the "old skin" on the inside to get out is through your period, which is why you have one. It may feel gross and we all hate getting it, but its actually a cleansing process that is quite necessary for your body to remain healthy. So don't worry about it. You're fine. Its all natural. Good luck!
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I had a dream that my dad touched me and almost raped me. My boyfriend and mom were also in the dream and they didn't do anything to help, they even dressed me up for it. I'm just wondering what this could meannn. Please helpp. (link)
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Dreams are your minds way of dumping all the random thoughts and images your brain makes in a day. Even though dreams can get weird, its necessary for your mind to clear itself each day. It sounds like a really weird dream, but I think its just that - a really weird dream. Think of all the other dreams you've had where you were doing something that would just NEVER happen in real life. I once had a dream I was making out with my MOM (I'm a girl)! Yeah, it freaked me out, but I understood it was just a dream. Chalk it up to crazy dreams you've had and move on. Its weird, but its just a dream. I think the only time you should be concerned about a dream is if you keep having it over and over again each night.
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I am 36 years old Female and I have been living with my 34 year old sister for 12 years. Neither of us have ever had a boyfriend and I feel that we hold each other back. I have been feeling trapped and I don't feel that I could move out because it would really upset her and I don't want her to hate me for leaving or feel abandoned. But I really need to leave or else I think I never will. My leaving would not only hurt her but also my parents and other sibling ( who lives with us when she is in school). How should I tell them? I keep things to myself so this will be a total shock to them. I'm scared.... Help! Our lease is up in September. (FYI) (link)
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This is going to be a difficult transition, but you already know you have to do it. At some point you have to decide to live your life for yourself, not for your family. Of course they will be disappointed and maybe even angry. And maybe they won't understand your decision and be upset. You have to make it up in your mind to be ok with that. Eventually, they will get over it, but for now, you might just have to be brave and do your best to handle their anger. You are right to feel that living with your sister has been holding you both back. You are doing not only what is right for you, but right for her as well. You both need to be your own people and come to know yourselves better. That will breed confidence and confidence is attractive. Make your plans to leave. Plan a time to sit down and explain yourself to your family. If it helps, write out a list of things you want them to know about your decision, just to make sure you don't forget anything and you can stay on target. Explain yourself calmly and rationally. If they get angry, let them have their say but DON'T change your mind. Your heart is telling you its time to grow up. Don't let your family keep you from doing that. You can still love and support them and love yourself at the same time. This is about YOU, not THEM! Good luck. You can do this! It will be scary, but exciting too!
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Hey, I'm a 16 year old female. So, I started the P90X a couple weeks ago, but I haven't been following the diet plan since anyone who has the program would know how costly and tedious that diet plan is. For those who have done the P90X workout, did you follow the diet plan? Will it work effectively without the diet plan? If not as effectively, will there still be a difference? I just want to know if continuing with the program will be worth it in the end. Thanks in advance!
I'm also not overweight or underweight. I'm in healthy shape. I'm a dancer and an avid volleyball player, but I have a little gut that most women have, so would I be able to get rid of that and obtain at least a flat stomach, if not get abs, with this workout? (link)
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I love P90X! I'm doing the lean program right now. You can still have great results without doing the diet plan, but those washboard abs you are dreaming about do take a specific diet to achieve. Ask any fitness hound and they'll tell you washboard abs are found in the cupboard. So if you want that really cut look, yes, you need to follow their plan because it is specifically designed to achieve that result. But keep working out because even without the diet it is a great workout for your body and you'll see results at the end. Good luck.
"So, I can still see a pretty big difference, I just won't have those great abs, right?" Right. You'll still have nice abs, just not those super cut ones without the diet. I think you'll like the results even if you don't do the nutrition, as long as you eat healthy and keep cutting out the bad stuff. Good luck!
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i have extremly large breast.
32-e/ dd
and i am 5 foot 1 and not that skinny, just thin and i feel like my boobs r repulsive. there so big and my body is small and im so insecure about them.
im on a really strict die tbecause im trying to loose weight and i hope it helps my breast issue to but idk.
are large breast bad? (link)
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I have the same problem and it does suck. I lost a lot of weight and the very last 10lbs came out of my breasts, so sometimes it can take a while. But you don't sound like you have a lot to lose, so maybe some other things can help. The right bra can make ALL the difference. Start by having yourself properly fitted at a department store or lingirie store. You want to find a bra that offers good support and style and doesn't pinch and give you that third breast look. Start working to understand what clothes look good on you and what compliments your body. Remember, just because they make it doesn't mean you should wear it. Shirts that are too tight or too small can make you look bigger than you really are. You can still wear fitted tops, just make sure its a comfortable fit. With the right bra and the right tops you can learn to feel good about your shape. Keep in mind that big girls like us have to pay more for our bras, so expect to pay a bit extra, but the right bra is worth the money, TRUST me. Don't be cheap about it! Also a good place to find sizes for girls like us (little frames, big boobs) is barenecessities.com Give it a look. Good luck.
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I've only in been in three serious relationships in my life. and I've never been single between the relationships. I have a feeling that something is wrong with me because I always pick the same guy..well the same type. but my question is. is something wrong with me? do I need to just "take a break?" for me? (however I hate to be alone!) but see now the circumstances just got more complicated..i'm pregnant and i'm in the realtionship with the father for a year and a half.but he talks to other girls, and I caught him cheating once..but he's not all bad or I wouldn't have stayed with him. Like everyone he has a heart and a hard past..and he needs love too. I love him.. so what should I do? (link)
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The fact that you even ask the question makes me think you already know you have a problem. You've even recognized that you pick the same guy over and over. I am a big believer in women's intuition and I think we don't listen to it enough. Your intuition is telling you that you are not in a healthy relationship. You said "he needs love too". Well so do YOU! What about you and what you need? You need a partner who is committed to you and your baby.. for life. Someone who puts your needs before his and who supports your dreams and goals. That man is out there, you just haven't found him yet. Being pregnant complicates things, but think about your baby. What would he/she learn about relationships and life from you? How will what you do shape how they treat the opposite sex, and themselves? Its time to do the hard things. You're becoming a parent, so its not all about you anymore. Its time to think long and hard about what YOU want out of life, and how you can get it. Its time to think about what you deserve, what your baby deserves. As far as your patterns in relationship, it seems obvious that you do have a problem. Many young women who have grown up without fathers tend to choose men who seem like they will fill some of the "fatherly" needs that have been missing. They also choose men who ulitmately will abandon them, emotionally or physically or both, like their own fathers. Do you have a relationship with your father? If not, this is a HUGE factor in your need to always be in a relationship. If you can afford it, seek therapy or counseling to get to the bottom of this. It will help SOOOO much. I can speak from experience. You can start by asking your doctor about referrals to therapists. If you can't afford it, do an internet search on free local counseling programs in your area, including counseling programs for unwed mothers. Many community centers offer these services at low or no cost. When you figure out what need it is you are trying to fill by constantly choosing the wrong guy, you will feel so free, and you'll find that you start to attract more positive people. Good luck to you. I hope you find what you are looking for someday. Until then, remember that the road to the good life is full of hard decisions. Don't be afraid to make those hard choices. You can do it.
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I'm a 20 year old female and my friend is a 22 year old male. We've been friends off and on for about 5 months. He likes me in a romantic way but I don't feel the same and I've made this clear to him. He ended our friendship a couple of times because he said it's too hard being friends with me since he likes me so much. After he ends our friendship he always ends up calling me saying he still wants to be friends. The most recent time he ended it, he called 5 days later saying he missed me. He said that those 5 days were so hard for him and that he even lamented over me. He's very emotional and dramatic. He calls me everyday and tries to talk for hours, he wants to hang out all the time and says he loves me. If I tell him I can't hang out he says, "If we can't hang out I'm gonna cry I swear to God." He says he often cries over me, especially if I don't give him a hug when he drops me off at home. He never wants to include other people when we hang out and says that there are certain activities that only we can do together because it's special. It's like he doesn't want to share me with anyone else. At this point he's really creepy and clingy. He can't go a day without talking to me and always leaves me voicemails. I don't know what to do because he doesn't give me space and he just drains me. I often feel like telling him to leave me alone and go away because he brings a lot of stress and drama in my life. I'm afraid that he might start stalking me because of the way he acts. (link)
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Start keeping a journal of all your encounters with him. Be sure to be specific about times and dates. This guy sounds like a potential stalker. He might not be, but just in case things get weirder down the road it would be good to have a record of his behavior. You're going to have to get a little drastic with this guy. He's making you uncomfortable. That's good enough reason to end the friendship without feeling like a jerk. Don't do it face to face. Next time he calls you to hang out, tell him his behavior has come to a point that its making you uncomfortable and you don't enjoy his company anymore. Say you didn't want to hurt him but he can't seem to stop being creepy, so you have to go your separate ways. Its important that you don't make it a CONVERSATION. Keep it short and sweet. It should be one side only, your side, even if that means you have to politely say good bye and hang up. Be sure to tell him you won't be accepting his calls anymore. Then change your number, pronto. Huge pain in the ass but so will his obsessive phone calls afterwards. Then try to walk a way without too much guilt. You tried your best. You just managed to attract the one creepy guy around. Your bad luck. You haven't done anything wrong and chances are strong that after a few weeks or months of NO contact (don't take calls, answer emails or return messages/ cut off all contact) he'll move on to some other sweet unsuspecting girl. Good luck to you.
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My problem is simple. I am an 18 female going into college this fall and I'm jealous of this one girl that my bf of 20 years of is friends with. I too have many guy friends that I hang out with as well. We both love each other very much and we have a healthy relationship. We both spend get time to ourselves, for school, to our friends and other important things so we are not smothered. The problem isn't him, it's me. I am the baby in my family and I know this sounds bad but I think I have this problem since I'm used to getting all the attention. I am not a snotty person but this one girl just really irritates me. My bf has never cheated on me and tells me to trust him. However, I always get mad at him when they hang out, they never hang out alone but I just feel jealous when they are together because she gets to be with him but not me. Other than this, we have no issues. I've had this problem for a long time and it would kill me if I lost him over this one thing. I feel like if I don't stop bitching at him, he will leave me (even though he says I would be the first one to do that). I drive myself crazy over this and I want to just stop and enjoy our relationship instead of freaking out over this girl. She's in the same friend circle as his other friends so she will be around even if I asked him to stop being friends. My point is, there's nothing I can do to stop it, I jsut need help in not freaking out on him and avoiding the whole "i-love-you-dont-worry-i-dont-like-her-and-you-are-my-eveyrhting" talk every time they all ahng out. Help? (link)
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The solution to this is to make friends with the girl yourself. Even if she's not your type, find something you have in common or one thing you like about her and concentrate on that. If you get to know her better you'll feel better about the friendship, and you'll also be able to keep an eye on the relationship. What you see may make you feel a lot better because you'll be able really see the difference between how he treats her and how he treats you. And, at the very least, you may make a new good friend. So let your insecurity go and make the effort to befriend this girl. I think you have more to gain than to lose by doing that. Good luck.
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I used to give myself brazilian waxes, but have stopped recently. The other day, a lil spot on my vagina mound (the flat surface) was itchy, so I decided to check what it was and I found a black thing, I dont know what to call it, covering my pore, the pore where a hair was meant to grow. And so I just picked it off. I literally just picked it up off my pore. It was a hard and black. I have no idea what it is. I'm hoping someone has had this before and knows what it is. I've had this before but I ignored it. I have it once in a while.
Thank you.
Any ideas or support as I am terrified will be greatly appreciated. (link)
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Its most likely an ingrown hair. It happens a lot. Pluck it with a tweezer, it'll be fine.
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Hi, I am 47 and am getting married in about 6 weeks. My friend who is 25 wanted to make our wedding cake. I wasn't comfortable with it at the time but said ok because she really wanted to do it and it was going to be our wedding gift from her. She can be immature at times and gets easily offended. We work together on a Board of Directors for a camp. She sat on some information I gave her and lied to one of the people in charge. She made it sound like I was the one who sat on the information when I gave it to her weeks before. I confronted her about it and she got mad and said she didn't lie and made some excuse to make it sound like what she did was ok. She never apologizes when she does something wrong nor when she hurts me. Now I would rather not have her make our cake nor be at our wedding, but I don't know how to tell her this without her taking offense. She is so immature that if something doesn't go her way, she will literally throw a tantrum and walk out, and I do not want our wedding day to be ruined because she isn't included in a photo or involved in doing something. When I didn't hear from her I asked her if she was still making our cake and if not I found somewhere else that can do it, and she took offense to that. I am just tired of all her drama. We used to live in the same area but she has moved to a different city so we do not see nor talk to each other as much anymore. This sounds terrible but it would be no big loss if I ended the friendship. She considers me her best friend but I never considered her my best friend. My future husband is my best friend. I am sorry this is long but I don't know how to shorten it without leaving out crucial details. Hope someone can give me some advice, and let me know if it is proper etiquette to "disinvite" someone from your wedding. (link)
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This is your day, you have the right to have things just the way you want them. While it may be awkward, you have every right to tell your friend you'd prefer to go with a professional for the big day. Tell her you accepted her offer in the first place because you thought it was so sweet, but the more you thought about it the more you wanted a professional cake. You already know she's going to be offended. There's no way around that. The best you can hope for is that she'll get over it. If she doesn't, her loss. Friends shouldn't CAUSE stress in your life. Friends should EASE stress. If she's doing the former and not the latter, then I wouldn't waste too much energy worrying about her. Let her go her way, you've got bigger fish to fry right now. Go easy on yourself. Your wedding day is going to be a very special day. The last thing you want to deal with is regrets about something like a cake. Have your day the way you want it. Your friend will either back off or get on board. Either way, you enjoy yourself! Congrats!
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My friends hair is about a lol longer then her Soulders. It gets poofy alot. Are there any products before or after wet that could make it less frizzy or porgy but not greasy or unhealthy? Also when I straighten my hair it gets frizzy after a while...Like flyaways. Are there any products for this?? Thanks in advance!! :) (link)
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Yes! I have frizzy hair as well. Frizz Ease has a line of products from gels to serums to shampoos...everything. It is an awesome product and it works wonders. Tell your friend to try that. When you straighten your hair, use this Frizz Ease serum. Its a clear almost greasy gel type of thing (but it doesn't feel greasy when its on). After you wash your hair, put a dab in your hand and apply it. Brush it through so you know its gone all the way through. Then blow dry with a brush. Blow dry on cool. Heat makes the frizz worse. Then apply a bit more before you use the iron. This will help a lot. Good luck.
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