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Possibly sexually abused?
16/f. me and my sister used to play "games" in the shower when we were little (I was like 10 or 11) but people told us it was what all the little girls do. I don't want to get in to detail just because it makes me sick to my stomach but we used to touch down there vvv and stuff like that. Is that considered being sexually abused? If so, is it my fault since I'm the older one out of the two of us? I barely realized it was wrong last year when I learned all about sex. I started doing drugs to try to forget about it but i feel like I'm going insane and I just need help. Anything else that you might think will be useful will be highly appreciated.
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First off calm down. I know it may be very stressful to you, but you can not dwell on things that happened in the past. You both were young and didn't know what you were doing. That does not make it sexual abuse. Alot of young children (siblings) do this. It is actually very common. It is NOT sexual abuse. Turing to drugs will only make your situation worse, even if it seems like an escape-its not. You dont need an escape anyway, since its nothing to hide from. I would just try and forget it happened and live your life. You cant go back in the past so just move on with the future. If you still are stressing over this situation, talk to someone about it. A close friend, parent or even a pyschologist or social worker. (if it is needed)
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No no no... of course you feel embarrassed about this, but it was just two small girls being curious about their bodies. If it makes you feel better I did the same thing when I was a kid. I'm a normal, married adult with normal children and a happy life now. It wasn't because I was sick, we were curious and since we had the same body parts, it seemed natural to "explore" down there. You didn't do anything wrong. The fact that you feel so bad about it now says that you have a normal, healthy attitude about right and wrong, so you're not a psycho! Forgive yourself. You were a little girl doing what most other little girls do at one time or another. It was for a short time and then you grew up. Don't beat yourself up. The drugs are making this worse for you, not better. They are keeping you from thinking clearly about this and moving on. Forgive yourself and leave this incident and the drugs behind. Move forward with your life knowing you are not a monster, just a human being like the rest of us.
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That's not abuse. You were both prepubescent and it sounds as though you were exploring in a normal, healthy, age-appropriate way.
If this is damaging your life you need to talk to a therapist and be honest about everything that happened. They can help you through it, and maybe even get some help for your little sister if they feel she might need some support too.
It is normal for young kids, even toddlers, to explore their bodies and the pleasure they get from them. It's only as adults that we learn shame and fear about our genitals.
You and your sister are probably just fine, but since you don't feel fine about it, you really should talk it over with a professional who can help you deal with those negative feelings.
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That's not sexual abuse. You were not doing it intentionally as a form of sexual release,etc. Your sister was not either. Small children are often curious about their bodies and the bodies of other and that is perfectly normal. Talking to your sister about it would probably be helpful in calming your mind.
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