I have been married for 22 years and am still married after a 3 1/2 year separation. I have been living with another man for 2 1/2 years. He is very good to me but I haven't been able to set a date for our wedding. I still think about my husband a lot. I'm so confused. I'm not sure I know what love is or ever did. The new man has lied to me about minor things but still a lie is a lie. That's something my husband never did. He says he's changed and will never say mean things to me again but everytime he gets mad he does it again. Everyone says its because he's still hurting. What do u think? Please ask any ? 'S you'd like. I need help.
Additional info, added Saturday July 17 2010, 4:31 pm: They both have faults of course. I am attracted to my husband more than the boyfriend. I think I trust my husband more. But the boyfriend is more stable and reliable at least compared to the way my husband use to be. When things are good with the boyfriend I Can be and usually am happy but I doubt things he says because of the "minor" lies ive caught him in. He does everything he Can to make me happy but he almost tries too hard. My husband has only had one girlfriend in 3 1/2 years and still says he loves me. He's been "hanging on" waiting and hoping that I will go back to him. The boyfriend also has an 8 year old daughter. She's very smart but seems to do things I ask her not to do. My kids are grown. Idk if I can or want to go through raising another child. I have health issues and don't deal with stress very well.. Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category? Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life? dearcandore answered Sunday July 18 2010, 2:34 am: Dr. Phil always says that 90 percent of divorced couples give up too early. Its obvious you have unfinished business with your husband. Whatever issues the two of you had, you're finding out that the grass is not always greener on the other side. You'll never find a perfect person. Every relationship has its ups and downs and struggles. If you're going to struggle, better to do it with the one you've invested decades of your life in. You can't set a date because in your heart you know you are not finished with your husband. You have 22 years together. Go back to your husband (if that's still an option) and get into marriage counseling. You'll never regret trying, but if you don't try, you'll always wonder what could have been. [ dearcandore's advice column | Ask dearcandore A Question ]
nonameboy70 answered Saturday July 17 2010, 9:11 pm: alright im here to help you seem special ussually i get questions like this but i ussually answer call JERRY SPRINGER! but with you ill help. ok the kid will be a kid not much you can do about that. that has nothing to do with the 2 men. look who do you love more yo;u cant love people the same... [ nonameboy70's advice column | Ask nonameboy70 A Question ]
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