Hi, my names Melanie.
I'm fifteen years old.
I love fashion, hanging out with my friends,
and drawing and writing along with a bunch of other stuff.
I used to have an old account here that was quite known for awhile,
but I sort of just lost touch with it,
so I decided to make a new one.
I'll try and help you the best I can,
just hopefully I didn't lose touch with my good advice, haha.
And feel free to IM me with your problem too.
I also put my myspace in a link down below,
if you ever want to add me & talk.
But incase you don't see it or something, it's:
www.myspace.com/themelinat0r
Website: my myspace!
E-mail: melledisko@hotmail.com
Gender: Female
Location: Pittsburgh
Occupation: student.
Age: 15
AIM: mel le disko
Member Since: July 2, 2006
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kevin broke up with me like 2 weeks ago it was a three day relationship but i did not want it 2 end i was being 2 shy and i know that i wish i could go back in time and change that kevin still talks 2 me and hugs me and daps me off and tries 2 be nice 2 my friends but i dont know if he still likes me and he even told some otha gurlz we still went out wen they asked me all i did is smile really big and walk away i dont kno if i shoulda did that but i really wanna go back out with him
Break up speech
well i think we shold be friends cuz its not working out we should try 2 make it work some other time (link)
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Well, he DID say he wants to try and make it work some other time, so which you two are taking this "friends" break thing, just show him what he's missing and show him then that you can be out there and not be shy and everything, and show him what'd it'd really be like if he were to date you again, and just show him all the things he thought you were too much of ( shyness ).
So just try to be more outgoing whenever you're hanging out around him and give him more hugs and try and flrt with him more often to send him those signals that you're still very interested, and see if he flirts back, and sends those signals back. And just keep hanging out with him alot, and then one day, whenever you're feeling gusty and comfortable enough to tell him, just let him know you still like him, and you know you were really shy at first, it's just you really liked him and were all nervous and everything, but were still wondering if he's interested in trying to make it work still, because you'd really like that. And just see where it takes off from there.
If he wants to, that's great! And just keep the momentum going and show him how great you are, and what a great time you two are going to have together if you two date.
If he doesn't, well, that's his loss.
I hope I helped.
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13/F
Is it ok to not know if you like your guy friend or not, and then go on a date? Just to see if it works out. If not, is it okay to say no to a second date?
Thanks! (link)
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Ha, yeah, it's perfectly fine.
That's really what datings all about. People nowadays always think that if they like eachother, but don't know eachother, they should still instantly go out. Dating's easier because you're still single and can look for a guy you really DO want to date and will fit your qualities and have already gotten to know.
If they ask you out a second time for another date, just politely explain to them that you're sorry, and you had a great time and everything, but during the date, you sort of just felt friendly vibes between the two of you, and you hope you two can still be friends at least, and you really hope you two can do this again sometime ; but just as friends.
I hope I helped.
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I have an aquaintance at school who I have 3 classes with. Shes OBSESSED with myspace its all she talks about which is annoying enough, but she kept asking me to add her which i did to shut her up. But I cant take it....shes CONSTANTLy spamming the bulletins saying
subject: OH come ON!!!!
body: MESSAGE ME!!!
COMMENT ME!!!!!!
CHAT WITH ME!!!!!!
AIM WITH ME!!!!!
PLZ ILL DO NE THING1!1!
I've told her before in RL not to use a jillion exclamation marks, netspeak and capitals but she didnt listen. I dont want to delete her from friends because I have 3 classes with her and my other freinds thinks shes just friggin dandy, the last thing i would need is to make someone mad. Can someone tell me what to do about this? Maybe some kind of code to block seeing a certain persons bulletins or a way to tell her to stop so she WILL and stop driving me insane? thanks x__x (link)
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Alright, well I've tried doing my research over google and everything, and I've found people who haved ASKED the same question as yours, but all the replies were to just remove the person who was posting all of the bullitens.
Either just let her know once again that she's posting way too many bullitens and if she could please limit them to maybe once every couple of hours or so or something. If she doesn't do it or at least try or anything, then I suggest just removing her off of your list. If she asks you why you did it, just let her know you're annoyed ( not just at her at anyone on myspace ) when there's thousands of bullitens from the same person on the bulliten posts. And just let her know it's not that you don't like her or anything, you do, and you do want to be her friend on myspace and everything, it was just driving you nuts and you didn't know how else to not view the bullitens.
If your friends and her are going to get upset.. over MSPACE? They really don't have very much of lives and are being way too overdramatic. Who cares if you're not her friend on the internet? She should just be happy you're her friend in freaking real life, haha.
I hope I helped.
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my bestfriend is realli obsee with this kid she likes and she wont stop talkin to him && shes really annoying me so i hope she shuts up before i kick her ass so waht should i do . (link)
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Gah, all girls do this. Once a girl gets a crush, there's no getting her to shut up about him ; I've been down this road before. The both obsessively talking road and the wanting her to shut up road, lol.
I would just ride it out for awhile more, and if she doesn't stop talking about him, just jokingly be like,"Hahah SHEESH! You GOT to get your mind off him! You're like, obsessed! Haha." And try to get her mind focused onto something else. If she STILL keeps talking about him, then just let her know she's talking about him so much, and could she please try to stop it. You don't mind if she does a little, but not all the time. Best friends should be able to talk to eachother about anything, and understand. Just watch how you say it so it doesn't come off rude and hurtful.
I hope I helped.
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There's this boy that I used to go out with, but broke up with him because I didn't like him like he liked me. But I happen to know that he still has feelings for me. Previously when I was talking to him and another one of my friends, he said he was tired of getting his heart broken, which really made me feel bad for breaking up with him. Now, there's this other boy who likes me, and asked me out. I turned him down because I didn't like him, and know he just keeps staring at me...which is really creepy. And now there is this other boy who likes me, but my ex doesn't know about, and I talk to him on a regular basis. And my friends keep telling me that he said that he wants to go out with me. I don't know if I should say yes because I don't want to hurt me ex-boyfriend's feelings again. If you can help me out, thank you so much!!! ~*Stephanie*~ (link)
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I know you don't want to hurt your ex-boyfriend, but you have to think about yourself first. If you like this guy, and he's going to make you happy, then you should go for him.
Breaking up, and dealing with heartbreak is all a part of life, that everyone's going to experience sooner or later, so this is going to help in sooner or later learn to move on, and how to deal with the pain. I mean, what are you going to do whenever if you're like, 24, and some guy proposes to you? I don't think you'd say no because your ex-boyfriends feelings are going to be hurt, lol.
So just do whatever makes you happy, and over time, he'll slowly get over it and realize you two are broken up, and he'll do the same as you and find someone else to date.
I hope I helped.
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i want a new screen name but cant think of anything! i want my name in it, which is hillary or hil and i dont want any numbers! can you give me some ideas? (link)
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Hm, well, off the top of my head:
"Hillary Hollywood"
"Hillary says"
"Hillaryyyy"
"Oh Hillary"
"x HILLARY x"
"Hil is chill"
"OMG HIL SAYS"
"OMG ITS HILLARY"
"Hillaryizzle"
"Hillary Hollister"
"x H I L L A R Y"
There's so many different ways you can mess around with x's and o's and spaces and everything.
I hope I helped.
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i have a best friend named kevin, and we`ve been friends for a long time. we helped eachother with problems, and we always had eachother`s backs. but he`s been acting really different lately, and i`m not liking it too much. ever since he got a new girlfriend, he`s been acting really weird around me. one day he`ll be really nice to be like he`s been, and then other days he`ll blow up in my face for the smallest things, and i don`t know what`s happening.
lately he`s been questioning our friendship, and the other day he messaged me saying "forget it, we`re not friends anymore". and now everytime i try to talk to him, he`ll smack rude comments in my face.
i know you might be thinking that i should just forget about him, but it`s harder than that. i know that deep down inside my best friend in still in there, but i just can`t find him yet .. so can anybody please help me figure all this out ? (link)
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This is a really complicated situation. I'm not totally sure why your best friend is all of the sudden acting this way. The only reason I could really think of, is that usually whenever there's a guy and a girl best friend, and one or the other is suddenly taken, that causes a bump in the road between the best friends because their boyfriend/girlfriend can get very jealous.
Maybe that's what he's trying to do is to end the friendship with you to show his girlfriend there's nothing to be jealous about. Sometimes, sadly, best friends tend to choose the person they're dating over their best friends, but like I said, that's just an option. I don't really know his girlfriend or anything to really be the judge of that.
The next time he's doing this to you, just confront him right then and there about it. Just be like,"I don't understand you lately. You've been really nice to me one second, and all yelling at me the next. What's going on with you? Is it something I'm doing or what, because lately I've really been missing my best friend." And just see how he responds, and try not to let it escalate. Just talk in a calm tone and try and resolve it peacefully so nobody winds up slamming the door behind them in a frustrated horrible mood where nobody'll ever talk to the other ever again.
I hope I helped.
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Ok. Well i have recently started hang out with this guy...and i like him alot. Well he has told me many times that im fucking hot and how much he likes me. But when people ask were always like were just friends...Im kind of wondering why he hasnt asked me out yet...and if i should just ask him out...i would definitely prefer him to ask me out..but im thinkin he either doesnt want to go out with me for some reason or he is just afraid of rejection...what do you think? (link)
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He might really just be afraid of rejection. Even though you know he likes you and everything, does he know you like him back? And with you being "fucking hot", haha, he might be worried you might not want to go out with him, or that you're too pretty for him or something.
I would just ask him to hang out with you sometime really soon, and just flirt with him and have a great time, and at the end of it, just be like,"You know, I really like you. Do you think sometime you'd want to go out on a date somewhere?" So you're not exactly asking him out as your boyfriend, but at least it's something. And then that obviously sends the message you're available and you really want to date him and like him, so hopefully he'll put together the pieces from there. If he doesn't sooner or later, you might as well just ask him out. Guys DO like a girl with alot of confidence and who asks the other out for once.
But like I said, ask him out on just a date first, and see where it progresses from there. Hopefully, he'll ask you to be his girlfriend then!
I hope I helped, and good luck!
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I'm a 15-year-old girl in need of serious help. My boyfriend and i just got back together afetr a ceating ordeal that he had for a while. Last night i went to a friends party and this guy(who's 20) had his arms around me and my best friend. i think i like this guy, and it feels as though i have just cheated on my boyfriend. did i cheat on him or was this just harmless fun?
signed,
Confused Girl. (link)
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You did nothing wrong. This guy put HIS arm around YOU, and you guys didn't kiss or do anything, so no, it's not cheating. It was like giving a friend a hug, basically.
Even though you might like this guy, I think it'd be best to stay away from him in the dating sense. He's too old for one, and he can get into alot of trouble for dating, or having intercourse with ( not saying you are going to but you know what I mean ), a minor.
I think you should stick with your current guy. You two have just gone through a humongus obstacle that most couples might not make it through, so this shows you guys really care for eachother. So I'd give your current relationship another shot and see how much better it gets now that the ordeals over with and everyone's better. :D
I hope I helped.
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Hi, I'm 13/f and there's this kid i know. Lets call him Bob. So, i went out with bob last year and then ended breaking up with him, because i reallly didnt like him anymore. This year, he asked me out again(like 3 times!!) and i kept saying no, but now im having some doubts, i dont know if i should go out with him or not, because there is someone else that i really like, but bob is also very sweet. Please help me! Thanks in advance. (link)
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Even though Bob is very sweet, you shouldn't go out with him if you don't like him. This is being majorly unfair to him, because you're not dating him for all the right reasons ( you kind of have to like him too ), and that'd basically be like pity dating him which is only going to hurt him more in the end if he finds out, and to yourself because you're not dating someone you like and who'll make you happy. Also, that'll ruin your chances with the guy you do really like because he'll figure since you're dating someone else, you don't like him.
I would just sit down with Bob the next time he asks you out, and just explain to him that you're sorry, and you think he's really sweet and everything, but you just like him as a friend.
And go for the person that YOU really like, and that's going to make YOU happy. Never do something that you don't want to do, just because it's going to the make the other person happy.
I hope I helped.
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How do you tell your 8th grade crush you like them and your in the 6th grade.does age matter.what do i do?help. (link)
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I don't think age really matters. I mean, you two are only 2 years apart if you think about it. There's some parents out there who might be like, 6 years apart. Which means whenever the one was in 12th grade, the other was only in 6th! It just seems like a huge difference because of the grades.
I would just hang out with him sometime soon, and just flirt with him a little and send him some signals that you like him, hug him a bit, compliment him, you know. And then during the end of the day, just let him know how you feel. Just be like,"Hey, _____, I really had alot of fun today with you. I just wanted to tell you.. I like you." And if he feels the same, great! If he doesn't, just tell him you hope the two of you can remain good friends still cause it's better to have him as a friend then nothing, right?
I hope I helped.
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at homecoming i danced. unfortunatly i danced like a complete slut. at least i felt like i did... i am not a slut though. i was just freaking with my date and we were doing it front to back, and we would sometimes get low. then we danced front to front, and we would 'get low' again. i am so ashamed!!!!!!
p.s. we werent kissing or anything.
would peoples impression of me lower? i am known to be the good girl and be all proper and reserved. i guess i was having to much fun out there. =( (link)
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I don't think they'll have a lower impression of you. Since you're known as the "good girl", this could actually benefit for you. This is showing people you can, every once and awhile, get crazy and dance around and have alot of fun out there. If anybody calls you a "slut", they have for one no clue what they're talking about, and are probably just jealous that you were having the time of your life out there and dancing with a guy. Nobody should be ashamed for having fun!
I hope I helped.
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ok i have this friend in 8th grade and she's reallyy cute and all but she's had soo many boyfriends and it's really annoying. and she claims they're all hot too and stuff. me on the other hand-i'm a freshman and i've like never had a boyfriend. and not to sound conceited but i think i'm prettier than her.. seriously my other friend who knows us both thinks so too and i dont know =/ but yeah whats up with that?
and also i have homecoming soon and im birnging that same 8th grade girl and another friend and they both are looking for hot guys in my grade lol. if that OTHER girl got a boyfriend in my grade or whatever i could seriously be happy for her but that 8thgrader.. idk if she got one i could not be happy for her. it's weird. i dont get it. but yeah, and i just don't understand why guys like her so much i mean she's cute but she's reallyy shy and she's way too skinny. (link)
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Alot of girls have this sort of situation. For some reason the one friend tends to get all the guys, and the other one may be prettier and sits there and wonders,"...why?"
I've wondered this too myself, really, and I'm not even quite too sure as to why. There could be loads of reasons. Even though she's shy, whenever guys might get to know her, they might find her funny or something or sweet ( and I'm not saying you're not ). Or, maybe if she's brunette and your blonde, they might prefer brunettes over blondes, blue eyes over green eyes, etc. Some guys even find that type of "way too skinny" even attractive.. some how. So she just might have a certain.. quirk, I guess you'd say, about her that guys might be really attracted to. I don't know, sometimes there's just something about people whenver you see them that makes you instantly like them wether it be pyshical appearance or emotional or what.
Also, I know I'm going to sound like a mother, but the guys might be intimidated by you. They might think,"Oh, she'd never go out with me","Oh, she's probably already taken ; I don't want to get rejected." They might think you're too good for them. I remember talking to my one guy friend once and they even told me,"I used to like you, but I never wanted to ask you out cause I didn't think you'd want to go out with me." Which infact I did like them while they liked me, but anyways, not about me here, lol.
So like I said, there could be thousands of reasons. It's just the way guys are. There could be a girl whose a complete jerk, and for some reason guys will still like her. It's just whatever type of personality the guy has and the type of personality they prefer on a girl.
Whenever you're hanging around her, just try and talk to the guys more, and flirt with them a little bit more than she does, to try and catch their attention and show them what you have, and what she doesn't.
I hope I helped.
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ok i go to your school and one of my friends asked the question about airplanes or whatever and you siad your dad was a pilot? he's not..so what the heck? (link)
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Um, haha, I think you have me confused with somebody else. I never said my dad was a pilot. My dad works for the Pittsburgh Catholic and he puts all the advertisments in the paper. Are you sure you got the right person? Whose your friend?
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14/f.
please readd. i need your help.
My friend, she has a cheerleading competition, on the same day as my halloween party. its like huge like 60 kids. & everything. I can't reschedule it, because its the only day they could do it.
Its our last year at the same school together, so its not like there will be another halloween party.
Anyways, I'm really mad.. that she'd rather go to some stupid cheerleading competition then be at my halloween party with me. is that being selfish? I mean there will be other cheerleading competitions. Right? Wouldnt you be mad, if that happened to you? (link)
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I understand where you're coming from and everything, and you do have a right to be mad, but not like, full on angry.
Since you're in cheerleading yourself, you know how time consuming of a sport that is, and how dedicated you really have to be to remain on that team and be good and everything. I'm sure she feels horrible about missing your party and she really wants to be there and everything, but she knows that if she doesn't show up, she might get kicked off the team, and that it'll throw the whole routine out of whack, because you need every girl in every spot to the lifts and turns and everything. It wouldn't be right if there was one girl missing from all of it, they might even have to change up their schedule to adjust it without her.
Just remember ; even though she won't be there, you're still going to have a great time at the part and have alot of fun. And just because you two won't be at the same school next year, doesn't mean you two won't get to hang out together anymore or go to parties together anymore. You two can always still keep in touch and hang out together and everything over the weekends and even still invite her to your parties and she can do the same for you. You even said so yourself, you go to the same place she does now, so you'll all still get to see eachother.
I would just be careful of your friendship and might want to talk to her about the fact that she's already ditched you four times. Just let her know that makes you feel upset whenever she always keeps missing out on everything together, and that this is your last year together, and you're just worried you guys won't get to hang out as much anymore. That doesn't sound like a very good friend to me. I'm not saying she's a horrible friend or anything, it's just friends shouldn't ditch eachother once, not to mention four or five times.
I hope I helped.
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there is this guy who rides my bus and he is sooo cute and sooooooo nice. he is a sophmore and i am a freshman and one of his friends who is also my friend says that he thinks i am hot and i like him so how can i possibly get him to ask me out because i really like him!!!!! (link)
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Well, that's already an advantage of having a friend whose friends with him! Just have your friend sit near him on the bus, and then sit next to your friend in the same seat. Then whenever your friend and him are having a conversation, just listen in, and just try and blend yourself into the conversation and have your friend introduce you ( if he doesn't know your name or anything already ). And just keep trying to ask him questions about himself or anything to keep the conversation flowing.
And then just try to do this daily, and then after awhile of talking to eachother, maybe ask him for his screename or something so you guys can talk even more online, and then on the bus, just blend in some tiny flirting and flirt some more and then some more every now and then. You just have to slowly add more and more each and every day, so you can slightly hint to him you like him without being really obvious.
If after awhile he doesn't ask you out, maybe try and ask him yourself! Or at least just let him know you sort of like him. Sometimes guys like it better whenever girls make the first move because it shows alot of confidence, and sometimes the guys to nervous to do it themselves because he might not even know you like him.
I hope I helped.
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Okay, well to start off, I'm 14/f. Well, my biggest crush is in my gym class(John)...along with the girl(Pam) he asked out few days ago. It was killing me to see them hugging and holding each other through out the whole class and don't get me wrong, I don't hate his gf or dislike. She's an aquantance..sp?
Anywhos, this year as high school started, I met this other guy that I have another huge crush on...and he's in a grade higher than me. Well, he's going to the homecoming with Kayla just as friends (he's emphasized that part so many times) Well, coincidently Kayla has liked this guy for over a year now and I've liked him for a few months. Kayla is sort of a friend of mine? She's in one of my classes and I talked to her a few times. Well, after knowing the fact that Kayla likes this guy that I also like, my friends and I went to the football game and met up with my crush and Kayla was there too.
The thing is we (this guy and me) flirted like crazy the whole time. And during that time, Kayla was right in front of us...and I felt really bad because I was probably hurting her like John and Pam were hurting me without knowing it. But the only difference is that I knew I was probably hurting Kayla and didn't stop.
Is this wrong and mean of me to do? (Note that Kayla doesn't know that I know she likes this guy) (link)
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It is a little wrong and mean of you to do, but it's not like he's dating her or anything, or anybody for that matter. And he's obviously emphasized to everyone that they're just going together to homecoming as friends, so she already knows they're just friends ; nothing more.
If you're going to flirt with him though, I suggest just not doing it in her face anymore, haha okay? I'm sure she was hurt, but I think she would've been more hurt if you were like, her BEST FRIEND and that she knew you knew she liked him. She doesn't even know, she she just might be thinking now that you like him too, which IS the truth. ( Does that make sense, lol? )
I would just sit down with her and mention him and the football game and just be like,"Yeah, I think I'm starting to like him." So that way she knows you like him too, and if you ever do flirt with him again, it's because you have a crush on him, and so she doesn't think you're just trying to steal him from her ( some friends like to steal guys from their friends just because their friend likes the guy ). So basically, then she knows: it's fair competition for everyone.
I hope I helped.
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OK I'm a female and I don't understand something. How is it I can help others like you guys but I can't help myself. Can you help me??? I thank you very much.
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Have you ever heard the quote,"It's easier said, then done?" I always ask myself the same thing, but can never seem to do what I tell the other people to do. It's because I already know who I am ; and I know I'm not able to do that, but these people are strangers, they might have the guts to do it, they might not so I think it's just easier to give them advice on everything.
I hope I helped.
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I think I may have ruined things between a guy and me. But idk why.
As soon as I go online he'll start talking to me first, and we have been talking since the beggining of 9th grade [we're in 10th now]. And yeah, that particular day I told him that last year I liked him. He didn't say anything really about, he replied 'oh i never knew! 'very neutral. and the next day he imed but then conversation was very different. It seemed very stiff, usually we act like two idiots talking about anything sexual. Then the next day I had to IM him first, which was extremely weird and still! A very stiff conversation. And now he doesn't im me anymore. Hasn't for days.
OH. and we were supposed to go to a haunted house together because he wanted me to be scared and jump all over him, but NOW he told my friend he really didn't feel like going. He said he didn't feel like working hard to make money just to go out for an hour.
So did I do something wrong? How do I say something?! (link)
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Mm, the only thing you might've done is freaked him out a little. He just might find it really awkward and he might be recalling on past memories. Like, maybe if you gave him a big hug he might've been wondering,"WAS THAT SOME SIGNAL THAT SHE LIKED ME?!?!" or he might be wondering if any of the past things he's done might've given you signals that he had mutual feelings. And he just might not know how to talk to you at the moment, cause he might be worried you still have the same feelings.
I would just IM him again and start out the conversation with,"Did I do something wrong? We haven't talked in days, and I have to keep IMing you now, you never IM me anymore. Did I freak you out or something whenever I told you I liked you last year?" And just see how he responds. If he says yes, then just let him know that it's totally fine, you understand why he might be freaked out by that, but that was only last year. You've moved on to other ventures, and just try to keep the conversation flowing from there and make it as normal as possible. Or if it ISN'T that ( which I totally think it is ), then just ask him why he hasn't been talking to you as much or anything. Maybe he has been at work working really hard lately, or swamped with homework, etc. But the only way you're really going to find out why he hasn't been talking much, is to go to the source itself.
I hope I helped.
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My good friend says he loves me, more then a friend. He has asked me out twice so far but then dumped me a few days after. Then a friend of ours that he dated before told me that after he asked me out, he asked her out on AIM. She knew about what was going on between us and said, "but you are going out with her," but he told her, "Ohh I am goin gto dump her tomarrow at school." Then later that night we got back together because he heard that I was going to leave him. He told me that he wouldn't dump me and then on Friday night we were going to teh ice den and he was at his friends house and he told him to text me that he wants to be just friends. We still say, "I love you," to each other and we are goin gto get together again, but I don't think he is telling me the truth about how he feels about me, I don't know what to tell him when he asks me out again? (link)
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I'm not trying to be rude here, but I don't get how I get 1 rating, when the person who below me practically gives you the same advice, gets nothing. You asked for people's advice. I at least tried to help you.
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