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uh oh.
I think I may have ruined things between a guy and me. But idk why.
As soon as I go online he'll start talking to me first, and we have been talking since the beggining of 9th grade [we're in 10th now]. And yeah, that particular day I told him that last year I liked him. He didn't say anything really about, he replied 'oh i never knew! 'very neutral. and the next day he imed but then conversation was very different. It seemed very stiff, usually we act like two idiots talking about anything sexual. Then the next day I had to IM him first, which was extremely weird and still! A very stiff conversation. And now he doesn't im me anymore. Hasn't for days.
OH. and we were supposed to go to a haunted house together because he wanted me to be scared and jump all over him, but NOW he told my friend he really didn't feel like going. He said he didn't feel like working hard to make money just to go out for an hour.
So did I do something wrong? How do I say something?!
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He might just be scared or confused. He probably just though that this may have not happened you know. Just maybe talk to him about it. And tell him if it wierds him out or something that it'll be fine and you'll hide your feelings until he's ready.
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no he's probably confused with his feelings for you go ask hi if you don't like me fine just pretend it never happened lets go and chill like we use to. try to make him forget about what you have said try to show him your over him.
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Mm, the only thing you might've done is freaked him out a little. He just might find it really awkward and he might be recalling on past memories. Like, maybe if you gave him a big hug he might've been wondering,"WAS THAT SOME SIGNAL THAT SHE LIKED ME?!?!" or he might be wondering if any of the past things he's done might've given you signals that he had mutual feelings. And he just might not know how to talk to you at the moment, cause he might be worried you still have the same feelings.
I would just IM him again and start out the conversation with,"Did I do something wrong? We haven't talked in days, and I have to keep IMing you now, you never IM me anymore. Did I freak you out or something whenever I told you I liked you last year?" And just see how he responds. If he says yes, then just let him know that it's totally fine, you understand why he might be freaked out by that, but that was only last year. You've moved on to other ventures, and just try to keep the conversation flowing from there and make it as normal as possible. Or if it ISN'T that ( which I totally think it is ), then just ask him why he hasn't been talking to you as much or anything. Maybe he has been at work working really hard lately, or swamped with homework, etc. But the only way you're really going to find out why he hasn't been talking much, is to go to the source itself.
I hope I helped.
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Alright, I think you might have freaked out the guy. He probably thinks you want to get it on with him or something like that, and he's not really sure how to say.. "Ermm...eeuu.. not thanks.." in a nice way. So the only way to say it in a discreet way is to disappear till both of you forget about what had happened.
Anyways, some guys do not like the girls to do the first move, so maybe that could be one of the problem.
I suggest you clear things up, and have a slow chat with him, saying that the feelings are passing cloud, probably reached the other side of the world by now, and is not coming back anytime soon.
This is SilkStuy.
P.s: Or maybe, he's gay.
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