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Did I go too far, help me get his heart
Okay, so there is this guy who i have gone out with unofficially about four times (video games and movies at his house and cooked him dinner at my house and drank with him and his friends at their house) and on one date with him(movie). He is an ex-coworker. He is not my type and i am way cuter than him but i decided to give him a chance, i have been lonely lately. Well, yesterday we went out I gave him a blow job and he came after like two minutes :( and that was it. NO ME. OH, and a few days before i told him he can be my mr. right now (didn't tell him this but it is because he is not my type at all). Now I want more, i like him. He is like no other, but he won't answer my phone calls today. So initially i was trying to manipulate him i guess, now is he trying to get back at me? I don't want to play games anymore, how do I get his heart? Or after what I did do you think it is impossible? It is so not like me to do that so soon into things, but I did. And now what do I do? I need some guy opinions here, please....
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Well, I think like a guy so here is an answer. You are manipulative and you deserve whatever you get. Own up to it. Have you ever heard of karma?...
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Love is partent, fear is desperate. This is what confuses me, "and a few days before i told him he can be my mr. right now (didn't tell him this but it is because he is not my type at all)." At least you admit that you were trying to manipulate him. You suspect that he is avoiding you already just to get back at you? You really do expect that he should be immediately whipped and at your beck and call just because you are cuter than him? I would not suggest starting a relationship with anyone you start out thinking is above or below you in any way. It is egotistical sounding at best, but I think that closer to the truth, it is a cover for you own deep insecurities with men. You purposely go after someone you think is not worthy of you, in case it does not work out and so that there is less chance of him rejecting you. Now your true self is showing more in your desperation to get this guy whom you previously judged as undeserving of you. Why play games in the first place? You clearly have set up a number of defenses in order to protect a fragile self-esteem. Until you deal with those issues, my dear, you will never be satisfied or happy in love. A man cannot give us ourself, it is not his capability or job and one or both of you will end up in resentment for it. Look deep within and heal yourself, before you seek another. Then, you will act out of love and not fear.
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Alright, You mustn't be thinking too much, making it all too complicated. Life is easy as pea.
Quit all the drama.
Approach him, call him up for coffee or something.
Come clean and talk to him honestly, what's on your mind. Put your ego away
What made you behave or say the things you said.
You have to understand the rules of love.
There is none. Love breaks all the rules, that's the beauty of it. It changes people.
You're not used to go into rs so fast, well, here's love in action.
This is SilkStuy.
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Well, I'm not a guy, but heres my thought on the matter:
Theres no reason why you shouldn't go out with this guy. You may not be attracted to him right now, but after a while if you actually start loving him, you will eventually love the imperfections and start to not care about them.
Why in the world did you give this guy oral sex? And why do we all need to know when he 'came'? We don't need to go into that much detail, about half of the teens that come on here are 13 to 16. Let's show a little maturity here.
I honestly think it was a bad decision to even go that far when you havn't even officially been out with him. Now you're freaking out because you want him and he hasn't returned your calls. I think you need to slow things down and the next time you get a hold of this guy, tell him straight up that you're interested, if anything, don't rush into a sexual encounter with him. Unless you are going for a relationship full of sex, then it's not a good idea to do that with him before you are even with him.
-TheTeenGirl
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