Ok so prom is on Friday and I feel all bloated and gross right now. Are their any quick remedies that'll help me not be bloated by Friday?
Drink water and exercise. It should be gone by Friday.
Darby(:
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so the day before we broke up we were kissing and he said "i feel like a jerk for saying this but i want you so bad right now" (guessing as in sex). we're going to prom together this weekend...do you think he'd like it if i did things with him? i want to. but we broke up like 2 weeks ago so would he not want that?
17/f and 17/m
I'm sure he would still want to do stuff. But you need to be emotionally ready for being snubbed afterward or being 'used' just for that. If you don't want to get into a friends with benefits type deal, I wouldn't do it. You're not dating now so he has no commitment to doing it only with you.
Hope this helps!
Darby(:
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Earlier when I urinated I had this really sharp, kinda stabbing feeling down there. Since then I've had the feeling like I have to urinate every few minutes. I only go a little bit & I'm still having that pain. Does anyone know if this is the start of a UTI, bladder infection, or what? Thanks!
This sounds like a UTI. When you feel like you have to urinate often, but have trouble going. And especially when it burns like that when you try to go. You need to make an appointment with your doctor. They'll have you take a urine test and give you some meds to clear it up.
Hope this helps.
Darby(:
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And what's the quickest way to get them to inbox?
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Hello im 17 and my mom is 34. She recently brought up that she wants to get mther and daughter tattoos. I really like the idea. I just have no idea what to get! Is there any websites that have good ones on there. I just want something small and cute. Like a heart with something. I dont know but we want to get matching tattoos. Does anybody have any ideas or websites that would help? Thanks a bunch
My best friend had me draw a heart and she took it to the tattoo artist and got it tattooed on her foot. I thought it was a really cute idea. Maybe you and your mother could draw a heart or something similar for each other and get it tattooed on the same part of your body. That way it's unique and personal.
Hope this helps!
Darby(:
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soo when i masturbate, i find it more pleasurable to just rub my clit. i dont actually "finger" myself, i dont really find it to feel good at all.
does this mean that when i do decide to have sex, it wont feel good?
is this normal?
That's very normal. It doesn't mean that when you have sex it won't feel good. A lot of girls only rub their clit while masturbating.
Hope this helps
Darby(:
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there's this guy i really like, and well... i have no strength to talk to him. he's one grade above me, and i'm scared to talk to him. all my friends know i like him, even some of them like him too! we try not to get jealous. but i can't help it! half the school likes him! and there's nothing i can do... i've thought of telling him i really like him... but he probably won't even care... i want to stand out to him, i want him to notice me more than the other girls. but i have no way of doing that. i feel other girls have a better chance, but i really want to have the chance. i don't really want to date him... i want him to see me, and i want to be friends... but it's hard when he's a grade above. i want to talk to him, but i can't, especially when he's around his friends. i want him to see me, and i want him to know me. i want to make him feel like i'm unique and great... but i've never had that happen, and i'm not sure it will happen now...
what should i do?
You should be yourself around him. If half of the school likes him, he's used to girls following him around and trying to impress him. He'll be much more impressed if you're down-to-earth and human. Try to find his MySpace or Facebook page and talk to him on there first if you're too shy to talk to him in person. Once you make his acquaintance, try to find similar interests. Do you like the same music, sports, movies, hobbies? If you find a genre of movie, or hobby you like (such as, bowling, golfing, basketball, rollerblading) ask him to go do one of the activities with you. See if he wants to see a new movie that's out in theatre or if he wants to go to the local skating rink. Remember not to try too hard to impress him. He's only human, just like you.
Hope everything works and feel free to get back to me once you start talking to him if you have any further questions.
(: Darby
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what does it mean if you hear water in your stomach
It's totally normal. Especially when you drink a lot of water, or any liquid, on an empty stomach. It's a mixture of air, water, and stomach acid. It's just sloshing around in your stomach. You can hear it well when you jump around sometimes. Kinda gross /:
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this past week ive been finding myself...needing porn i guess. i never watched it before until recently and i cant get enough of it. its bad because i feel liek im going against my family or my boyfriend or something...what can i do to get my mind off porn? and is it really bad that im watching it? thanks =[
You're most likely just having a 'honeymoon' period with it. Since you just recently started watching it, you've gotten a short-term infatuation. If you feel guilty, stop watching it. Just don't let yourself type anything in about it. Try spicing things up with your boyfriend to get your mind off of it. Soon, the urges to watch it will go away. You haven't been watching it long enough to have a bad addiction to it. Personally, I don't think it's really bad to watch it every once and a while. As long as it doesn't become an addiction.
Hope this helps!
Darby(:
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14/f
freshman
D = ex boyfriend
J = close friend
I still realyl like D. Last week I broke up with him and I had reasons. I still really like him and I regrett breaking up with him. This past weekend I was talking to J about this and she told me that if i really like him then I should go back out with him. J just got out of a three year relationship with her ex and she dated him on and off. Yesterday after school I was going to tell D how I felt but J told D she liked him and asked him out. I feel so betrayed. Now D and J are going out. I really like D and J and D himself know that. D says he likes me too. I already talked to J about this and she is trying to comfort me but I am still mad because Im close to being in love with her now boyfriend. I tried talking to D but he wouldnt talk back. U cried today when I got to school seeing them together. I really miss him. What should I do?
You need to leave both of these people behind. That is a really low thing to do. J has absolutely no right to do that. I would be infuriated. She's supposed to be your friend. And any ex that will date your close friend is not worth your time. Do your best to forget about these people. They're sketchy characters and you deserve a better friend and boyfriend. Try hanging out with your other friends. Go out and try to meet new people. It won't be easy to get over this, but you have to do it. Don't set yourself up to be hurt even more.
Darby(:
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I sent the wrong text to the wrong person i was texting a girl but i accidently texted my guy friend i first sent on that said "do you have classes friday" then one that said " i don't either do you want me to come earlier or later" does that sound to you like i was sending a message to another guy to hook up
Haha, not necessarily. If it's bothering you, just clear things up about what you were talking about.
Darby
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I just want a second opinion on this.
I'm about to go off to college, so I am trying to not get too attached to my boyfriend of 2 months whom I will inevitably have to break up with some time soon. Anyways, we fool around a lot and sometimes he sticks his penis like halfway inside of me, and he doesn't move it, and I don't let it go in all the way. I still consider myself a virgin, because I think that sex is more physically and emotionally than having a penis half way inside of you. I don't consider what we do to be sex. And I still consider myself a virgin, even though he accidentally popped my cherry once by fingering me. Does anyone agree or disagree?
I just don't think I'm ready to be not a virgin, or to have sex with him, given I won't be able to be with him much longer.
I'm sure a lot of people would say you aren't because technically a penis has been inside of you, even if it hasn't been all the way and he hasn't moved it a lot. But I think if you still want the title of being a virgin then it's fine to consider yourself a virgin.
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If I want to delete a question that I answered on my advice column, how do I do that? I don't want it to show up on my advice column anymore. Thanks
On the FAQ's it says that you cannot delete an answer, you can only edit its content.
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Im pregnant, and my boyfriend doesn't want the baby, neither do I, but he would like me to get an abortion, and I don't believe in that. What should I do?
Give the baby up for adoption to a loving couple that are financially well off and really want a baby.
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so i started dating this guy that REALLY liked me two months ago. after a month he already said i love you. i was not completely ready to love someone because i dont think i was over my ex. but so then for two months we had a great relationship the only problem is that I knew that our relationship can not last. we both want different things and he wants to start a family and im not there yet, seeing as im younger than him. i still want to party and have fun. i told him that at the beginning and he said it didnt matter. so we went out but we of course had our differences and now two months later he realized what i was saying about us being different and wanting different things. i told him it was a matter of when things would end between us and we both agreed we didnt want to let feelings intensify. but the problem is that i though i was okay with breaking up, which we did on friday, and now i realize that i care about him too much. he was really sad that we split as well, and i missed him today a lot, but when i called him he never answered or called back...i think he knows we wont work in the long run... idk what to do? should i move on or try to get him back? our love will never last but should we just live in the moment and not think about that?
It's time to move on. You've only been broken up for 3 days. Of course you're going to miss him right now. You want to party and go out and he's older. He wants to mellow and start a family. You're at two completely different places in your life. Sometime down the road, when you're older and ready to settle down, you can catch up with him again. If he's not already settled down, try to spark something again. Until then, go your separate ways. And don't worry about missing him right now. You'll move on soon.
Hope this helps,
Darby
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Okay so me and my ex were best friends before we started going out like couldn't get any closer. Then we decided to take it further and we started going out. We were together for just under a year and were in love with each other. We split up just because it felt like we were just friends like the romance was kind of gone we're 17 and decided that it would be best to see what else is out there. Problem is that as much as i try i can't stop thinking about him, when we're out tgether we act like what we used to before we were in a relationship with him, he txt me after a night out saying he found it hard to not kiss me and he still has feelings but we're trying to ignore our feelings and he's just turned 18 so he's out at weekends hooking up with these girls but i've not managed to get that far yet i'm totally in love with him and don't no what to do.
The reason i'm saying this is because its not the ususal in love bad break up don't nowhat to do. The problem is we still love each other its soo confusing =S we tried time apart but we reli struggled with that but its hard being together too sometimes, we don't want to be together i don't think its just because we were tgether a year and are in love still.
Any advice would be grateful lol
x
It sounds like you guys have a great relationship. Be it friendship or something more. What's confusing about this is that he's telling you he still has all these feelings for you, but he's out on weekends hooking up with girls? Tell him how you feel. Tell him that you'd like to give it another chance and that you can't stop thinking about him. If he decides to give it another shot, make sure he stops hooking up with the weekend girls (obviously). If he says that he wants to stay separated, it is time for you to move on. Unfortunately, he's already moved on as far as the sexual side of things go. If he doesn't want to pursue something again, keep your mind open to new relationships. Even if it's just becoming friends with new guys, it'll give you other options and keep him from your mind more often.
Hope this helps
Darby(:
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19/f
There's these three guys... Let's call them Jason, Liam, and Greg...
...Liam is my ex-boyfriend (that I broke up with because he thought I was cheating on him so he stopped coming to meet up with me at school 'cuz he didnt trust me anymore, but he would say "I did wanna see you,... but I don't know...", and I hadn't seen him in a month, and since it felt like we weren't together anymore already, I made it official so if I wanted to see someone else I could so so freely, and I wouldn't be waiting around to see if he decided that he wants to spend time with me or not...)...
..Jason is a guy that I initially started talking to on myspace last summer or before. He's 22. I have talked on the phone with him, and I usually text him. We got to know alot about eachother and we have this special thing and this connection and understanding... I know its not like knowing him as in having met with him in person and having spent time with him, but despite that I think I want to be with him, and want to meet him sometime hopefully soon. And now he lives in an area closer to me, but I cant drive and he cant pick me up and I have limited freedom to go places because of what my parents will or wont allow me to do.
..Greg is a guy I met at school, and he's my friend. He wants to have sex with me, he made that clear on the first day we met. I went to his house the first day I met him, even though maybe its not a good idea to get into the habit of that, but I didnt want to wait 5 hours at school for my mom to come pick me up, sitting by myself, bored, reading and trying to keep myself occupied and looking and feeling like a loser. So I went with him and his dude cousin to his cousin's place so I wouldnt be bored. I wasn't taken advantage of, but a little bit of "stuff" happened between me and Greg... So, I kinda like him, but I don't want to be his girlfriend or have sex with him because he isn't the type of guy I'd actually do that with.
..With Jason I see a meaningful relationship. With Greg, I don't see that, and I don't want to have sex with someone who doesn't love me. With Liam, we "attempted" sex, but it hurt too much and I wouldnt let him get in... So he was not a no-good dude, he loved me or at least thought he loved me...
...Anyway,... I like all of them,.. and I think Liam probably still likes me.. and I think we can still be friends,.. but if we keep hanging out it might get to where we were before.. But I don't know if I made the right choice the first time I agreed to be his girlfriend, because I was still thinking about wanting to be with Jason. And Liam said he loved me, but I couldn't love him because I felt like I loved Jason.
... So, should I have greg as my "boyfriend for now", because I like having a boyfriend, it makes me feel good.(and don't say that I should feel good about myself and my life even without anyone, and I don't need a man to be happy. Because i do! =[)... Or should I actually meet Jason..(even though people and especially my mom are always saying "you don't know him. Dont meet people from myspace. They may not be who they say they are. Meeting guys in person is better than meeting up with guys from myspace..".. But Jason did not lie about who he is or anything. I mean, if someone is going to lie to impress someone, it would be what they think I want to hear and be appealing. Why would they tell me things about themself that would have to be honest, because why would they lie about something like that, that isn't trying to impress me..) And if I don't meet him, I wont be able to get him off of my mind, and my whole heart can't go into another relationship. .....Or if Liam wants to be in a relationship with me again, should I be with him... ... or should I just get back on my pimp sh*t and just casually date dudes......... uuhhhhh... idk what to do ooohhhhh =[... I like 'em all, but each choice either has an obstacle or a down side....
Okay, here we go(:
First: Cancel Greg out. He only wants sex.
Which leaves us with a 50/50.
Okay, Liam: He thought you cheated on him when you didn't. He made you wait around for a month without letting you know whether he wanted to be with you or not. And he never let you know, you ended up breaking things off. This relationship probably would not work unless he 100% in his heart believes that you didn't cheat on him and is ready to move forward with you. He doesn't seem to have made a great attempt to do so thus far.
And, Jason: Honestly, from all you've written. It sounds like you have your mind set on him. You're 19 so no one can tell you that you can't date him. It might just cause a little bit of drama for a bit. It sounds like you really won't be able to put your whole heart into a relationship unless you meet Jason and try a relationship with him. You say you guys have a connection and understand each other. I would meet him if I were you. BUT, do it in a public place. (You never know these days.) Meet him at a cafe or similar place. That way you can talk and get to now each other in person, and in public, before you spend time alone.
Hope this helps(:
Darby
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I have been going out with this guy for 6 months now. I totally love him. But before i started going out with him he was going out with this girl. He actually cheated on her with me, but broke up with her to be with me. But when the girl found out he was with me she got mad and started stuff with me. I guess she is hurt and stuff. We even got in a fight in school (she goes to the same school as me.) But i found out my bf still talks to her. And it is late when they talk. I never told him to stop talking to her but he said he did but I know he hasn't. Why is he lying to me, does he still have feelings for her?? Or what is it?? I dont know what to think!!
This kid is a cheater. He cheated on his ex for you. What makes you think he's not going to cheat on you for his ex? He's just playing games. It doesn't make sense for him to lie about talking to her if there's not something going on. If it was just a normal friendly chat a) it wouldn't be so late & b) he wouldn't have told you that he doesn't talk to her. You have every right to think something is up here. You need to get to the bottom of it. If you find out that he is cheating on you, move on. Don't try to fight his ex or anything like that. They're perfect for each other if she would take him back after that.
Hope everything works out,
Darby(:
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I'm young,16, and i tend to be one of those girls that gets too involved when i'm in a relationship. I get too attatched. I'm not looking to get married or anything or serious stuff, i'm finally trying to have fun and just talk to different guys but still being careful. So there is this guy he is so cute and i like him. he is a player, but i don't care cuz this time i'm not going to get too attatched. but i just want to know if it truly sounds like he likes me. He'll text me all the time. Calls me almost every night, one problem is sometimes he says he will call me back and he doesnt. Why?...He wants to chill for his birthday. He flirts like mad when we are around each other.
He seems to like you, but you need to be very careful. If he's a player, he could be acting the same way with five other girls. You say you're wanting to just have fun now. But how are you going to feel if you find out he's talking to other girls the exact same way he's talking to you? If you can think about this without it bothering you, go ahead and chill with him and keep talking to him. Just be careful because players are hurtful, even when you're not trying to get attached.
Hope this helps(:
Darby
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Ive been in this relationship for over 1 year now, but we never have sex, we never kiss with ne tounge action we never cuddle or do nething like that we argue over stupid things and we now have a baby boy. i dont wanna have to stay with him bcuz of our son or bcuz i feel bad but im just not happy. Hes not abusive in ne way physically or mentally but something just isnt right i need help?
You and your bf/fiance should take a break. If things aren't working now, don't think they're going to work when you get married. You need to talk to your boyfriend about why you haven't been intimate and why you fight all the time. I'm sure you've already talked to him about it. But really sit down and talk to him about it. It does suck for your baby boy. But it's going to suck even more for him if he's living with his parents that constantly fight over stupid things.
Maybe some time spent away will remind you both why you started dating in the first place.
Hope this helps(:
Darby
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