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a long one... if you feel like reading it... about idk which guy...
19/f
There's these three guys... Let's call them Jason, Liam, and Greg...
...Liam is my ex-boyfriend (that I broke up with because he thought I was cheating on him so he stopped coming to meet up with me at school 'cuz he didnt trust me anymore, but he would say "I did wanna see you,... but I don't know...", and I hadn't seen him in a month, and since it felt like we weren't together anymore already, I made it official so if I wanted to see someone else I could so so freely, and I wouldn't be waiting around to see if he decided that he wants to spend time with me or not...)...
..Jason is a guy that I initially started talking to on myspace last summer or before. He's 22. I have talked on the phone with him, and I usually text him. We got to know alot about eachother and we have this special thing and this connection and understanding... I know its not like knowing him as in having met with him in person and having spent time with him, but despite that I think I want to be with him, and want to meet him sometime hopefully soon. And now he lives in an area closer to me, but I cant drive and he cant pick me up and I have limited freedom to go places because of what my parents will or wont allow me to do.
..Greg is a guy I met at school, and he's my friend. He wants to have sex with me, he made that clear on the first day we met. I went to his house the first day I met him, even though maybe its not a good idea to get into the habit of that, but I didnt want to wait 5 hours at school for my mom to come pick me up, sitting by myself, bored, reading and trying to keep myself occupied and looking and feeling like a loser. So I went with him and his dude cousin to his cousin's place so I wouldnt be bored. I wasn't taken advantage of, but a little bit of "stuff" happened between me and Greg... So, I kinda like him, but I don't want to be his girlfriend or have sex with him because he isn't the type of guy I'd actually do that with.
..With Jason I see a meaningful relationship. With Greg, I don't see that, and I don't want to have sex with someone who doesn't love me. With Liam, we "attempted" sex, but it hurt too much and I wouldnt let him get in... So he was not a no-good dude, he loved me or at least thought he loved me...
...Anyway,... I like all of them,.. and I think Liam probably still likes me.. and I think we can still be friends,.. but if we keep hanging out it might get to where we were before.. But I don't know if I made the right choice the first time I agreed to be his girlfriend, because I was still thinking about wanting to be with Jason. And Liam said he loved me, but I couldn't love him because I felt like I loved Jason.
... So, should I have greg as my "boyfriend for now", because I like having a boyfriend, it makes me feel good.(and don't say that I should feel good about myself and my life even without anyone, and I don't need a man to be happy. Because i do! =[)... Or should I actually meet Jason..(even though people and especially my mom are always saying "you don't know him. Dont meet people from myspace. They may not be who they say they are. Meeting guys in person is better than meeting up with guys from myspace..".. But Jason did not lie about who he is or anything. I mean, if someone is going to lie to impress someone, it would be what they think I want to hear and be appealing. Why would they tell me things about themself that would have to be honest, because why would they lie about something like that, that isn't trying to impress me..) And if I don't meet him, I wont be able to get him off of my mind, and my whole heart can't go into another relationship. .....Or if Liam wants to be in a relationship with me again, should I be with him... ... or should I just get back on my pimp sh*t and just casually date dudes......... uuhhhhh... idk what to do ooohhhhh =[... I like 'em all, but each choice either has an obstacle or a down side....
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Okay, here we go(:
First: Cancel Greg out. He only wants sex.
Which leaves us with a 50/50.
Okay, Liam: He thought you cheated on him when you didn't. He made you wait around for a month without letting you know whether he wanted to be with you or not. And he never let you know, you ended up breaking things off. This relationship probably would not work unless he 100% in his heart believes that you didn't cheat on him and is ready to move forward with you. He doesn't seem to have made a great attempt to do so thus far.
And, Jason: Honestly, from all you've written. It sounds like you have your mind set on him. You're 19 so no one can tell you that you can't date him. It might just cause a little bit of drama for a bit. It sounds like you really won't be able to put your whole heart into a relationship unless you meet Jason and try a relationship with him. You say you guys have a connection and understand each other. I would meet him if I were you. BUT, do it in a public place. (You never know these days.) Meet him at a cafe or similar place. That way you can talk and get to now each other in person, and in public, before you spend time alone.
Hope this helps(:
Darby
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