Name is Layne, age is 17, occupation is babysitter. still answering questions on here even after 3 years is awesome, right? no, just proves i don't have a life. so. if you have a question, feel free to ask it on here or you can IM me on my screenname. i can answer most questions about the categories i have listed. i don't know much about sickness or physical health, or stuff to wear when your husband just died but the man who killed him, whom you're having an affair with, is going to be at the funeral. :) have a wonderful day.
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Okay, so I hann't had sex in over a year. Maybe a year and a half? Well, anyways, I was told that everything basically goes back to where you started, like your a virgin again. Like, your cherry hole thing closes, and your hole gets smaller? Is that true? And If it is, how bad would it hurt? Like the firt time, or maybe a little better? I'm so confusedddd:( (link)
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the hole DOES get a little smaller, but not as small as it was when you were a virgin. it may hurt a little, but not much.
it also really depends on who you are. its different for everyone. like, when i went about 7 to 8 months without sex, it hurt me as bad as my first time. and my hole was reaaaaaally small. i was basically a virgin again, but like i said. its different for everyone. :)
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I have been dating my boyfriend for 6 years, however after our 3rd year we kinda aparted because he was talking to another girl but inspite of it i gave us a chance and have been trying to work with him, our relation have been inconsistent since then we don't talk for months and then we talk again and end up fighting because he suspects me of dating other guys when we don't talk. He refuses to hear or consider anything I have to say against his allegation on me, he is on denial.I have very strong feelings with this person and I don't know how else to fight for us or on is it even worth it based on history of its existence? .Any advice/input would be appreciated!
Thanks (link)
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if he keeps thinking your cheating on him, he obviously doesnt trust you. and trust is a huge part of a relationship. even if you've been together for 6 years, and he still doesnt trust you after all that, id say its time for a serious talk. talk to him and tell him hes totally wrong and that if he doesnt trust you after 6 years, then you guys shouldnt even be dating. you need to be with someone who will trust that your theres, and no one elses. unlike him, who actually DID cheat on you at one point.
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im sorry, and i hope it works out for the better.
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i never ever had a boyfriend before, i just welcome some suitors and that's it. But when this guy came along, i thought of giving him a chance and finally, we're dating. But the worst thing had happened, we broke up after 4 months and he admitted to me straight up that he had a fling with someone else. he had a lot of exes and one of our friends told me that he can easily change his present girl to a new girl in just 2 weeks or less... before i met him, i was told that he's really a playboy but when we're together, he changed BIG TIME! i felt it. but how come he had still the guts to cheat on me? He told me, that i was the only one who really changed him and that he felt true love.. but how come it was that easy for him to give me up??
and it's been 2 months now, he still has no girlfriend to replace me... why is that?? (link)
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the truth is, no one knows why guys are like this. the same thing happened to me basically, and before that, the guy was telling me he loved me and that he'd never break up with me EVER. this happens all the time. guys are impossibly immature, and thats just the way it is. guys always mature a LOT slower than girls. they always have. most of the time, whats going through their minds is either sex, or nothing at all.
im so sorry this had to happen to you, but he just wasnt the right one. you need to look around. usually, the less outgoing types, more artistic and such, are the better ones. i found myself a boyfriend a few months after that last ex, and neither of us have moved on for a long time. maybe talk to this guy and ask him what his deal was. demand an answer from him, and if he doesnt have the decency(sp) to answer you, then forget him. he wasnt worth it to begin with.
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18/f
okay...so this boy and i well,he moved awhile ago and we kept in touch (he loved like 10 states away).We both liked each other and its been like 2 years since he left and i still have feelings for him as does he.He comes up here like twice a year because he still has family up here but ive never gotten to see him again until last summer.When i saw him all my feelings came back,i coudl talk to him for hours.So we were talking last week over text message,and he said that he likes his girlfriend and he feels like he cheats on her with me i guess because were flirty with each other but he said that he dosent care because he feels like hes allowed to do that stuff with me,i guess it feels right to him? and that im very important to him or whatever so he's still gonna talk to me and such.So we had this thing where we were thinking since were going to college next year that maybe we could try being with each other even though were still gonna be in two different places but he's planning on maybe living back up here after college.It's weird saying this but i feel like he's "the one" you know? hes pretty much perfect. And i think he feels the same.My question is this its kind of comlicated but if you think you found "the one" but you both date other people (and they like them alot the person their dating) but you both know you want to be with the person who's the one but you just cant be with them because it cant happen as of right now like its not a good time? or i guess in otherwords,the person you want to be with is with someone else that they like,but they also like you but they cant be with you because it cant work as of right now.saying as if they love you but they like someone else? because this guy and i cant just stop dating or seeing whats out there you know?but even when im dating guys i still dont like them as much as the guy who moved,i guess you could say i compare the guys with him.So yeah i know this is very confusing if you need me to explain anything better just let me know.But i just really wanted to know,and if anyone ever experienced this before thanks! (link)
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ok, im just trying to pull out what i know you were asking. some of that was a little confusing. ^.^
so, it sounds like you really love him, but you dont want to stop dating whomever your dating, correct? everyone goes through the "i have a boyfriend, but i cant get him off my mind" phase.
and also, if you both are dating someone else, you shouldnt be flirty with eachother. whether it means anything or not, your boyfriend and his girlfriend will both be very upset if they found out.
talk to the guy who moved. tell him you really like him, but you guys cant be more than friends right now. you're both with someone else...but ask him if theres any hope for something more than friends in the future. like you said, its just not the right time. :\
i really hope this all works out for you. :)
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I just found out my dad cheated on my mom when she was with us (she passed away)....what would your normal reaction be?
It is it ok to be freaking out and mad?
I'm a 16/f. (link)
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however you react is a normal reaction. you shouldnt react a certain way just because someone said you should.
whether your mad, sad, irritated, pissed off, freaking out, or just whatever about it, its normal.
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15/f
So I'm 15 but I'm sure I look younger. I really would like some tips on how to make myself look older. I don't mean in order to get into clubs and stuff (so I don't necessarily need loads of answers telling me how to dress up etc.), I mean just generally.
So, I'll tell you what I look like.
*I'm really short, about 5'2 I think, which is a big factor to why I look younger. Everyone I hang around with is a lot taller than me, which doesn't help.
*I'm a size 6/8, but I'm not a really skinny girl - I have very big boobs and big hips, and a small waist.
*I have pale skin.
*My hair is just below shoulder-length, straight, dark brown (although naturally it's lighter), with a lot of layers, short and long, and a side fringe.
*I have big blue-green eyes, average-sized nose, a small mouth, high cheekbones and a square-shaped face.
*I wear a normal amount of makeup.
*My style is quite indie rock, that kind of thing.
So any tips on how to make myself look older, with makeup, hair, clothes, anything...?
Also, how can I act more mature? What are some do's and don'ts on appearing mature?
Thanks, x (link)
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you sound 15 to me. but if you want to look a bit older, here are some makeup tips:
take some black eye liner. LIGHTLY put it on your bottom lid. do it in a really thin lining, including the piece of skin between your lid and your eyeball itself. now take some liquid eye liner and put a normal ammount on your top lid. with blue-green eyes, get some light green eye shadow and lightly put some on. not WHOA but just a light dab. you can use some mascara if you feel thats necessary.
lipstick is kind of iffy for this age, especially if you're kissing a boy, so to be fair, but subtle, use some clear lipgloss, just to make your lips pop.
i cant tell you what to do about your clothes...since i dont really know what an indie rock style is. O.O but just dress in whats comfortable to you. maybe get some heels or something to make your legs look longer. two/three inch would be good, if you're into that.
if you feel the makeup thing is too much, dont do it. like i said, do whats comfortable to you. i dont wear any foundation or blush, so i cant tell you how to put that on. :)
good luck!
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Ok, to sum it up;;
I always feel that im not pretty, and im fat. when i knw that i am average weight for my age. what can i do to stop feeling self-consinsious about my self?? (link)
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just from reading this question makes me believe you're a teenage girl, obviously.
there are only about 3% of teenage girls in the world who think they are "hot" and "pretty" and "beautiful". the rest of them, like you, think they can never measure up to pretty girls in the showbiz; perfect skin, gorgeous hair, great figure, etc.
what you need to do is take about 30 minutes out of every day, or every other day, if you're a busy person. and just stare at yourself. force yourself to stare at the girl staring back at you. and instead of focusing on whats "gross" about you, think about the positive things about you. even if you cant think of anything physical-wise, think of emotional. maybe you're a very friendly person, you have lots of friends, you're sensitive...something that brings out the beauty in you, even if you cant find anything attractive about yourself.
now, i know ive never seen you, but im sure you're very pretty. i might just think your gorgeous because of your nose. :) (im a nose and eye brow person -.-'') there is something in everyone that lights up a room and lets people know that (your name here) has shown up.
and dont think im trying to be all "disney" on you with "oh, every girl is beautiful the way we are! the inner beauty will shine through and through" no. you asked for help, and im trying to help you.
if it still doesnt do anything, ask your parents if you can go talk to a counselor once a week or every few weeks. they can also help. :)
i wish you the best of luck. :D
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Before you read this, please see http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=558514
we made up AGAIN, but the next day we went to my house to play. But, she started to get really moody again. We decided to go downstairs to take some pictures and i suggested that we change our clothes. We changed and then Lo said, 'nevermind, i'm not going.' so we went to find Fi and asked her to come with us. We asked lo again if she wanted to come, she said no, even if shes gonna be alone at my house. So we went down and took a bunch of pics and had lots of fun, but when we went back up we asked if lo wanted to leave with Sarah, Dion and Fi. She said she'll go herself. THIS IS MY HOUSE, does she think if she wants to stay she can stay?! So after that she stayed in computer room and played the computer. Then she went to find me and asked me what time she should go and asked if i could see the pics we took. After that she left saying a happy goodbye, like not even a moody goodbye. OK, so we're ok now? NO we are not. After that she said she officially want to stop being friends with us. Then she made up with Fi thru msn, even if i told fi i don't want to be friends with lo and neither does dion. but fi said she doesn't want to see lo being sad everyday.and we have a project together for school, without lo, we cant do it because also we already told the teacher what groups we'll split into and with whom. What should i do?! I really dont want to be friends with Lo but i want to be friends with Fi! And to do the project! and i'm also locker buddies with lo! ARGH!!!! Any advice? And she just got her period like 2 days ago, is it pms? (link)
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im like that all the time. and its mostly because A) im deeply depressed 87% of the time, and its also because i have slight bipolar disorder.
you may want to talk to her parents or talk to her, just you and her. and try to get deep into her mind to see whats really bugging her. or, use reverse psychology.
just end the friendship. go along with her "wishes" and end it. and if it really is because shes bipolar, she'll change her mind quickly and run back to you. then, and only then, you can get the answers you want, because she'll do anything to keep your friendship if she really appreciates you. :)
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Ok so my boyfriend and I have been going out for about a year. I'm 15 he's 18. I was wondering if this was cute for a Vday gift?:
Bake him a chocolate cheesecake or regular cheesecke because he does like cheesecake haha(:
And then fill a glass jar with pieces of paper telling him what I love about him and cute quotes.
I don't know if the second one is good or not? I'm not sure if guys would like it haha. He's a really sweet guy with a sensitive side but then he is also like a rock at times. So if you have input I would love to hear it! Thanksss(: (link)
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i think its a bit too much. id just make him the cake, and that be it. sometimes, guys dont like to know what little details about them a girl loves. sometimes they just like to eat. :)
hope i helped.
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I'm 19/f
Looking for any sad/depressing books to read. Something that made you cry. Any suggestions?
Or maybe any movies? But I would prefer books.
Thankyou in advance (link)
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the only book that has ever made me cry was twilight...but thats only because i was single and lonely and wanting to find my own edward.
the best crying movie ever is "the notebook" i cried the whole time during that. you can also try "the lakehouse"..or something like that. my boyfriend said it made him cry, and he never cries. :)
have fun..?
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I'm a 17 year old guy..
About a year ago I lost one of my best friends who I hung out with all of the time. We quit being friends because I was an annoying obsessive suffocating friend. Recently I became friends with a different person. How can I be sure not to annoy this one like last time? (link)
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only call when its important, and ask him/her to come over every now and again. between those times, you can do something to keep you occupied. i know usually when i have an obnoxious friend, they usually call too much. or visa versa. so now, i only wait till people call me. and i dont get as annoying. :)
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i need urgent help, well not really urgent but, ya, my bf won't make out with me, i know he's not ready, but in really anxious becouse i have made out with my previous ex...
how do i cope? (link)
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obviously, your bf is shy or has a very low self esteem. what you do is respect his wishes. he'd do the same for you, if you werent ready.
give him time, and breathe easy. its just making out. :) take care!
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me & this guy have been hooking up and having sex for a month now. we see eachother usually once a week cuz he goes to college and im in high school. he used to talk to me EVERY day & say really cute stuff like i miss you. then, after i went to visit him last weekend (and everything went realllly well) he hasnt talked to me as frequently .. and when he does he's kind of short with me. what should i make of this ? (link)
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you shouldnt make anything of it, because you two arent committed. you said it was just "hooking up", and that hes in college. he may be really busy, he may have met someone else...
guys who "hook up" tend to like to hook up with more than one girl at a time, if it was just you, that would be a relationship, and that may not be what he wants right now.
just breathe easy. you're probably making something out of nothing.
take care!
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http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=558067
Its a biggie for me
Im not letting him go/see down THERE (link)
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he/she kind of has to. in order to determine what is happening, he/she has to. but he/she isnt going to do a full gyno exam, or whatever. he/shes just going to ask you to lay on the table, and pull your pants down.
its a normal procedure. and it has to be done.
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So....I've known this guy for 2 years now.The first day I saw him I immediately felt a connection between us.But lately I havents seen him at all.And everytime me and him are with a group af friends he always bothers me and makes fun of me.And Ive been nothing but nice to him since the first day we met.And sometimes (like 30% of the time) he can be sweet to me but we are usually alone.So I wanna know what does this mean?
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all guys are that way around their friends. mostly because they dont want their friends to know that they are lovey dovey and sweet to a girl. a guys automatic thinking is that he needs to be tough and macho.
dont think anything of it. its nothing personal. but next time you get him alone, tell him its really immature what hes doing. or, turn the tables and say something that might bother him. i dunno. do what you feel is right, but i recommend asking him to cut it out. :)
hope i helped.
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what is a website that i could actually go to, to see 2 girls and 1 cup i've been hearing really gross things about it and i want to see it for myself but every time i try to see it something pops up about puttin in all of your important information such as your credit card information and alot of other garbage so could you please give me a site to find 2 girls and 1 cup without going through all that and please let it be just one click away. (link)
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thats a russian porno. and its really disgusting. i dont know why anyone would actually WANT to see it. it will literally change you.
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http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=558003
You answered my question
The link above this
No there is no bleeding at all. Does that mean anything?
Thing is. I know I wont tell anybody
Because Im too embarrassed
& if I DID tell someone, would I doctor have to like, look down THERE?
& what would a doctor do? (link)
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you probably just have a regular bladder infection. but like i said, you're going to need to see a doctor ASAP if it really is one. just tell your parents that you think you need to see a doctor because you're having pains. and yeah, the doctor may check down there to see if you have any irritation. its no biggie. :)
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I am 17 years old, a virgin, and I have a best guy friend who I have known for 6 years and fully trust. We have A LOT of history together and recently I've been really wanting to have sex. I know he wants to also, we've talked about it. He is sleeping over my house on Saturday night, and I think it's going to happen. I am really excited and not at all nervous, only because it is with him.
I am just wondering, what you all think of this? If you have any tips or suggestions that might be helpful? because i dont know a whole lot about sex.. (link)
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condoms, birth control, pulling out, anything to keep him from ejacutlating anywhere near you is important.
but your body and your life arent the only things that can be dented from sex. its also an emotional experience. are you sure you want to lose your virginity with your friend? wouldnt you rather spend this important time with someone you truly love and care about? a lot of girls get really emotional after they lose their virginity. and you could be emotionally hurt from it. you may find that you felt used by your alleged "friend".
having sex just because you want to is not a good enough reason.
im just saying you should put a lot more thought into this than "ohh! im gonna have sex! eeeeee!"
:) i wish you the best of luck, and if you do plan to go through with it, be safe.
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My best friend got a boyfriend a week ago and were 14 .we ve been best friends since grade 2 and shes had a lot of boyfriends and i havent had one yet and ever since she started to date him shes been blowing me off .She used to pick me for everything and now she always talks about him and is always with him.Eveyone At school is like "when are you going to get a boyfriend " . Ive tried to send her hints that its bugging me but she doesnt see it that it is . (link)
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you shouldnt be jealous that she has a boyfriend. but, you are only human, afterall.
instead, try to be more happy for her. its not fair for her to be happy, but her best friend only be jealous.
but its also not fair to you that she always spends time with him. i have a boyfried, too. and my friends always get mad that i spend more time with him than i do with them. but its not my fault i make plans with him before they ask me to hang out.
so what you need to do is call her and ask her if you guys can hang out sometime during the week. and be sure to plan it sometime ahead so her bf doesnt all of a sudden ask her to hang out. tell her you want to go to the mall or go to her house to watch a movie or just do something that you guys always do. and ask her not to talk about her bf, because this is you guys' time together.
i hope i helped, and good luck.
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15/f
well, for starters i'm in 10th grade and this kid 'cody' is in 12th. right at the beginning of my freshman year i began talkin to him and we ended up becoming really good friends. we're so alike, we have the same favorite color, same music taste, even our names are 2 letters apart. we get along really well and everything like that.
theres only one problem, hes had the same girlfriend for about 2 years, 'brooke'. brooke i guess felt threatened last school year because she used to send me stupid messages on myspace like 'stupid ugly freshman, stay away from my boyfriend.' and threatened to kick my ass (which she got to scared to do in the end :D) but this was waaay before we even knew we liked eachother.
well, at the end of freshman year he stopped talking to me and i had NO idea why. i passed his house and i couldnt take it anymore. i texted him and said 'look cody, i dont know why you dont talk to me anymore and it really hurts. ive liked you all this time and its killin me.' and we ended up tellin eachother about our love for eachother.
he broke up with brooke, and around the same time i got in trouble with drugs and was grounded for the summer so i couldnt hang out with him. i told him to wait for me until i was off groundin and that i wanted to be his girlfriend. he said he'd wait. but then, of course, he starts going out with brooke again and i was purely crushed.
now, he sits with me at lunch sometimes and he ended up telling me he still had strong feelings for me. now my hearts hurting again because i want him so much but brooke will always have his heart and i cant trust him because of it.
its been two years now that we've liked eachother and we're still in this shitty situation
i dont know what to do :( (link)
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if hes still hung up on brooke, theres nothing you CAN do. boys that say they're going to wait, but end up dating their exes are just assholes. he doesnt deserve you. i say, continue being friends with him, and at some point, when the time is right, tell him you still love him but hes hurt you really badly in the past. try to move on from it. but no one said that friendship is a bad thing. you never know. he may end up dumping brooke for you again. :)
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