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Sex with my best friend
I am 17 years old, a virgin, and I have a best guy friend who I have known for 6 years and fully trust. We have A LOT of history together and recently I've been really wanting to have sex. I know he wants to also, we've talked about it. He is sleeping over my house on Saturday night, and I think it's going to happen. I am really excited and not at all nervous, only because it is with him.
I am just wondering, what you all think of this? If you have any tips or suggestions that might be helpful? because i dont know a whole lot about sex..
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The best thing you could do is wait awhile longer. This way you can investigate other methods of birth-control to be used along with condoms to protect yourself. You don't want an accidental pregnancy.
At the same time you could get loads of fact sheets, books and other info so you feel ready and know or have an idea or confidence of what you are doing. Don't just let sex happen as that leads to bad experiences.
This doesn't need to happen on Saturday. Take your time and really talk to him about this before doing anything. You might both think that your friendship will remain in tact but once sex happens it changes everything about how you view each other. What if one person feels it was a mistake and the other doesn't?
I would figure out where the friendship was going first and if it will become a relationship with sex involved in it or not. There's not much more anyone can suggest except for be careful and THINK. Thinking ahead keeps you out of trouble.
Also, I should point out that it's against the law in all states for anyone under 18 to have sexual relations with an adult or someone under 18. I learned that here. It doesn't stop you from doing it but if you are make yourself educated on sexuality. Not knowing anything about sex and then jumping into the deep end can be disaster.
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I'm going to agree on what the last person said, Make sure you are sure about it first. Wouldn't you rather have sex with someone that you want to be with and that loves you? Remember, You only loose your virginity once and once it's gone there is no going back. Sex is a powerful exsperience, It's love, passion, trust and alot more to go with that. It's not something you rush into and say "Omg! I'm going to do it! yay" It's something you may want to seriously think about. If you are just friends and nothing more, Than why would you want to give that up? Well, If you DO decide to go with it, Make sure you use condoms and be safe about it.
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condoms, birth control, pulling out, anything to keep him from ejacutlating anywhere near you is important.
but your body and your life arent the only things that can be dented from sex. its also an emotional experience. are you sure you want to lose your virginity with your friend? wouldnt you rather spend this important time with someone you truly love and care about? a lot of girls get really emotional after they lose their virginity. and you could be emotionally hurt from it. you may find that you felt used by your alleged "friend".
having sex just because you want to is not a good enough reason.
im just saying you should put a lot more thought into this than "ohh! im gonna have sex! eeeeee!"
:) i wish you the best of luck, and if you do plan to go through with it, be safe.
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Since you trust him, and I'm sure you love him, because we all love our friends, especially our best friends. Don't anticipate it happening, just let it happen. If you both feel ready for it, it will just happen. Just be prepared. Have condoms ready, and make sure you guys set guidelines on what is okay and what isn't. Take your time! As a woman, your first time can be a little painful, but it will be a little more enjoyable if you have plenty of foreplay before hand. Don't worry about positions and stuff, just do what feels natural. Goodluck and have fun!
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