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"We make war so that we may live in peace." -aristotle

"If you judge someone right away, you will not be able to learn to love them."

I'm Hayley, I'll try to help you as best I can. I'm 18, and a senior in high school. I like art, music, and clothing. I'm a vegetarian abd have been consistent with it for four years. I have two dogs a westie named misty and a Maltese/poodle mix named mally. I know a lot about dogs because any time
my dogs get a scratch, I research and call the vet haha.

advice

Okay me and my boyfriend have been going out for 11 months, and we were talking about a dream i had and then he started to tell me about his dream but then he stopped. i had to force him to tell me because he kept saying no, but he shouldnt have to hide anything from me. anyways he told me his dream. it hurt me so bad, i didnt show it because he seemed pretty upset and bothered by it also and ashamed but it realy hurt me , his dream was ; he was in his room or a room idk , with two other girls. having sex with them and stuff them doing stuff to him and stuff .......WHY W0ULD HE DREAM ABOUT THAT .. I DONT UNDERSTAND WHY THAT WAS IN HIS HEAD . he said he didnt know who the girls were, that they werent anyone, i want to belive him on that but i dont know . i dont know it hurt so bad to know that he was dreamin about fuckin two other girls. and i mean wht if this isnt the only time, i kno its just a dream but dreams mean something....does anyone know what this means?=/

I doubt it means anything, I've had a dream or two about that kinda thing too. It didn't mean anything, because.. the people were like people who I usually forget their names whenever I talk to them. Sometimes dreams mean things, like if you're running away from something, or something in the back of your head. But, you can't control your dreams for one, & those dreams I think don't really mean anything. So chill out, its no biggie. (:

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I had a horrible day today in school. I prefer not to go throught the details, but all I will say is that i have not had a day like this in a long time. How can i relax myself and forget about this terrible day?

Ouch... I hate having bad days. ): But, you gotta remember, life goes on, & the bad day is over. [thats how I think of it] Taking baths is like super soothing, & it helps me forget about it. Or maybe you like listening to music.. you can do that. or i think telling someone about it & letting all out helps tooo.

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I`m already worried about starting
high school next year, especially the drinking
scene. My best friend was given 20 minutes to
live this year after I found her severly drunk
at a soccer game. (Keep in mind, we're 8th
graders) Well, I had no idea any of this was
going on and I'm not sure if I can handle
my other friends getting into drinking next
year. How do I keep myself out of it?
I'm not up for risking my life like she did,
but I am curious about trying it! Thats the
problem.

I think everyones curious about it, I tried it once.. & the one kind kinda tasted like pop, & the other kind was just plain gross. So, you're not missing out on anything. & a couple drinks could really ruin your life. My cousin told me,that people are pretty much cool if you don't want to or not, most people don't try to get you to do it..because they basically know if your interested or not. They may ask you a few times, but all you gotta say is no, & its all good. (: Don't worry about it. & there is probably a good chance you won't keep the same friends. Inless you're SUPER, SUPERR close. But, most people make new friends anyways, & you find people who have the same type of beliefs, interests & junk like that.

Hope I helped a little, kbye.

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I am jealous when my boyfriend goes to hang out with females I can tolerate but dont like. I dont know why or how to tell him that I am jealous without him getting angry with me. I need some advice quick because he will be over to my house in a few minutes and then he is leaving to go hang out with his "friends", who are initally girls. ;x

I went through this, & I got all jealous too, & without thinking, I told him how it annoyed the heck out of me that he hung around other girls & that I don't do that & then we got into this whole, I don't trust him, he doesn't care about me, junk. It was stupid. We then ended up breaking up, a couple weeks later. Ever since then, I'm no longer the jealous type. Because, that whole thing basically broke my heart. Now, I don't want that to happen to you.. so I'm gonna give you some advice, I wish someone would have gave me.

You know those other girls?! CLING TO THEM. Even if you don't really like them. Become friends with them.. soo then, when he wants to go hang out with them.. you can be all "Oh my gosh, can I come!? So&so is so nice!" Then, you're there & you can see exactly how he talks to those girls & everything..you're technically kinda spying on him, which I guess would kinda mean it makes you look like you don't trust him, which isn't true.. you just have a little bit of jealousy in you, but if you don't tell anyone you don't really like those girls, then what no one knows, can't hurt them. & hey, maybe you'll actually really end up liking those girls & making some new friends in the process. (:

I hope that helped, byeee.

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okay so i'm a little scared i'm 13f and my boyfriend wants to have sex with me and i havn't even started my period yet and i'm afraid if i have it with him something bad might happen can someone please help me i'm afraid.

I went through this, my boyfriend wanted me too to, when I was 13. Don't do it, if your scared. You're not ready then. My one friend did it with her boyfriend, when she was 13.. & she didn't want to lose him thats why.. but she ended up losing him anyways. My boyfriend ended up respecting me for not doing it however..I don't know if your boyfriend will or won't.. but if he doesn't, he isn't worth your time.

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what exactly does it mean when somebody's getting laid? like, what happens and stuff?

it's Sex.

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Okay well this going to sound werid but I have this internet boyfriend he use to live by me but he moved and like now im datting him and i really want his number but im afraid to ask him and like I don't know how to like ask him like being all nice and not tring to be like I want it so bad ya kno? and what should I say. And I'm also kinda like afriad to hear his voice so what do i do to like make this fear go away. can someone plz help me.

I always get nervous with these things. Even just IMing boys. Just be like.. I have to get off online soon, wanna call me? or something like that, if he says no i'm busy or something..then just say ok. Or, what I've done before is when I have friends over I have them talk to him, & they'll be all, whats your number will call you, & then that makes it alot easier. Its hard I know, but thats what I do..

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14/f
theres this guy that ive known for like ever [9 years to be exact] and we've always had feelings for eachother and we've always been close but he doesnt exactly live very close to where i do. but when we see eachother its like we were nvr apart. so im going to spend a week with him and his family because we very close and im kinda hoping that maybe him and i will do stuff [sexually]. and im not sure if its wrong for me to be hoping or wanting it to happen. i mean in some ways im nervous about doing anything but then the other part of me is like yes do it. I'm not sure what i should do?

is it wrong for me to want to do stuff with him?

[hes 16 & im 14]

Its not wrong to want to do those things. But, it is wrong if you actually do those things.If your nervous or asking any questions about it, you're not ready. Don't rush into things your not ready to do.

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i love abercrombie and hollister. well today at school my friend told me that there was going to be another store thats coming out made by abercrombie called Concept 5. she didnt know anything else about it and i googled it and didnt find anything on it, and well does anyone on here have any information at all about the store? thanks in advance!

My cousin is actually encharge of designing the building or something. I don't know too much information about it, but its suppose to be really cool. My cousin said it may be a little bit more of a dressier store.. but shes not entirely sure. She doesn't know too much about it, just that their is a knew store coming out from those people.

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theres this kid in my class that constantly gets picked on. i feel so bad for him.. I mean I thought at first he had autism, but my friend said he was just real stupid. Even though he made fun of me once.. really stupidly. then my friend shut him down. but i cant be mean to him! i just think its wrong.. cuz hes a person too. but like nobody else seems to care but me. i mean.. these are the people who do the high school shootings! i dont want to be his friend.. but like.. I dunno. I dont like seeing people get made fun of like that.. I dont even know if he takes it personally.. cause hes really weird... but....... AHH! why am i so nice?

I'm exactly the same! I always take pity on the kids who get made fun, espically sinces its my friends who usually make fun of them. & I always feel so bad. & the kid that I feel bad for is like tottaly weird too, like he had a 'hit list' & stuff. & its not like I try to become friends with him, I just smile at him if he looks at moe or something. Thats all you really gotta do. & then hopefully if these type of people ever do become crazy.. then you most likely won't be on their hitlist type thing too, thats how I think of it. Theres always a good thing about being nice. (:

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OK for this weekend i have been asked 2 hang out with like 4 differnt ppls. 1. my boyfriend 2.my friend thats wicked mean 2 me 3. another friend that i never see 4. my friend and she wants me 2 see her basketball. My boyfriend is starting his 2nd job in like 2 or 3 weeks and we won't see eachother much and its so hard because we are so close but my only chance 2 see him is on saturday. my friends game is on saturday and like 2 weeks ago i ditched her and didnt go. the friend thats mean wants 2 go 2 the mall or maybe movies i dunno wich yett and we would go wit other ppl and she would ignore me the whole time 100% sure she would and she wants 2 do that on saturday but i could always change it 2 sunday but then again im mad at her. the friend i never see i will see her next weekend and we are goin on a ski trip and are busy every single day so yeah. Who should i hang with? Oh and my friend that plays basketball will have plenty other games but no one i kno is goin 2 her game cept her and her really mean family. So my question to you is ... If you were in my place who would you go with?

Do both. That girl that your seeing next week, well then you can chill with her then. Mean girl, ditch her. You don't need that, let her see what it feels like to get ignored. Go do something with your boyfriend at night. or whenever. Like if her basketball game is in the moring more, then you can go to that.. & then later on at night you can go with your boyfriend or whatever. (:

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my fucking mom treats me like im still 7. my siter is 9 and every friday and saturday night they go out to eat. im fucking 14 years old so why the hell do they think i want to spend my friday and saturday nights EVERY weekend at a gay restaurant with my parents and my mom and sister dont get along so i end up having to listen to them fight.

im at the age where i can go out with my friends and i can stay home alone, i dont need to go everywhere with my parents. i scream at them and tell them how much i hate being with them and they never let me go anywhere with my friends. i dont have any fun

once again on a friday night my parents a sister are going out to eat, and they said i HAVE to go. but i went LAST week and the week before that and the week before that. its a fucking friday night i want my friend to come over but NOOOOO my mom has to be gay and say "o ur going out to eat you cant stay home alone with your friend"

how can they expect me to go everywhere with them????


i need major advice. i cant deal with this shit and watch all of my other friends have fun without me

K first off, screaming doesn't get you very far. So stop that. If you wanna do stuff then you're gonnah haveta act maturer. Like, sit your mom down.. or somethingg.. & be like, "Mom why can't I go out with my friends? I need a social life. I like hanging out with you & all, but usually all you do is fight with my little sister. & so therefore, its pretty pointless to do stuff togethber because all i do is listen to you guys fight in public & its embarrassing & stuff." I think that I should be able to go out with my friends on Fridays & saturdays.. why can't we make family night, sunday?" or something similar to that. Stay calm & stuff. If you are mature.. by like little stuff, like cleaning your room..do your homework when your suppose too.. & stuff like that, you can also add that into ur arguement.

I hope that helped, kbye (:

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ok i'll first start this off as i am 19 years old and not immature. i just dont get how some s enjoy giving head i mean it just seems completely disgusting. like sucking on someones dick then all that cum going in your mouth? it just seems really gross. if anyones ever done it can you tell me about it and if you havent can you tell me what you think? thanks lots.

Personally, I think its degrading & disgusting. Girls that do that, I consider, are major slutss. You're selling yourself short, just to please a guy. You don't get anything out of it, besides his cum in your mouth. Doesn't sound very enjoyable to me..

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ugh okay so im only 13 and i hate my life. like its not bad or anything but im always depressed and ive had a lot of stuff happen to me latly that i just cant handle and it doesnt take much to make me sad or mad and ive already tried to commit sucide but that didnt work and i want to run away so bad but i dont think i could go through with it and im just to confused as to wat to do becuz i dont wanna see a counserlour and i really dont think im depressed so i dont need to take any pills but is there something wrong with me and if so how can i fix it? this has been going on for way to long and i just want to give up and run away so bad

I went through this too, I didn't tell ANYBODY. & it was a hard thing to go through alone & once I started to realize all the good things in life, that I have & stuff, it got better & better. If I were you I would go to a counselor, its a hard thing you face alone, & you just don't want to go through it. You sound like you're just like me. Little things can quickly get me sad or angry. I get sad easily, because I have very low confidence in myself, & the minute someone doesn't act like how they usually do to me..I immediately think they don't like me. I realize now, that wasn't true at all & they were just going through some problems of their own. I've tried to commit suicide & run away, I think I only did that to get attention.. maybe thats all you want to? I have two brothers, & their both huge athletes, so my mom is constantly talking about them. Which really rained on my parade. I didn't think I was depressed that much either at the time, but now looking back.. I was badly. I needed help more then more easy. You know how you can take those quizzes or people post up signs of being depressed, I used to get all of those. I never realized how bad I truly was intill it ended. It probably stopped for me in like the summer. It started the summer before that. So it lasted a year. Even if it turns out you're okay.. well better safe then sorry.

I hope I helped. good luck =]

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how do you know your in love.

You'll know when you have no doubt there the right person. & that you'd do anything for them.

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okay so..im14/f and my boyufriend is 16. and over holiday break, his family went on vacation. they went on an 10 day cruise on the carribean. jealous? ya, me too. but while he was gone, new years happened. and i did something that i couldnt regret more. i hooked up with his best friend. but i couldnt really help it. we were at a house party. and it got crazy with liquor. and i drank. a lot. i was really wasted and out of it. but the point is, i have a very guilty conscience(?). i know that i wont feel okay untill i tell him. but how do you tell the person that you love with all of your heart that you cheated. how do you cheat on them in the first place. i feel dirty. hes the only person that i have ever been intimate with, and i know that i love him and he loves me back. its so hard to live with guilt. and i feel like a tramp. once again, how do i tell him. btw, hes incredibly strong and im sure he would hurt one of us. most likely the friend. what do i do to stop everything.

You are my age & getting drunk? tsk tsk, you deserved what you got then. I know you're not gonna wanna hear anything I'm about to say, but if you're going to start drinking & espically getting drunk..at 14. You deserve to get dumped by this kid. I mean the poor kid goes away for a little while, & you can't even behave. You should be ashamed, seriously. I don't know what time of family you have, that lets you drink at such a young age, but where I live, you're known as a major slut/loser. Thats another thing to be thinking about. Since its the new year, maybe you should have a couple resolutions.

Anyways, what you just wrote, about how you love your boyfriend & how you'd never do it again, just tell him that. & just say, how it was an accident & you were stupid. & say, you have every right to break up with me. but, i really don't want you too. because i obviously care alot about you, that i told you what i did, because i want us to be honest with eachother & i just really care about you.

& junk like that. if you're lucky he'll accept the apology. & relize everyone makes mistakes.

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There is this guy I'm interested in, and I am pretty sure he is interested in me.
The thing is, he is quite rebellious. He drives fast, gets into violent fights, and pretty much questions and ignores all authority.
He acts like he doesn't like anybody, and acts like he is emotionally disconnected from the world around him. Is this a macho act? I don't know for sure.
The thing is, I seem to be an exception to his normal rule. I want to be the exception (He is very hot). He seems to want to connect on a personal level with me, like I'm different from the rest.
What are your thoughts?

hahaha. I went through where I lovedd guys like that. Boys like that are fun, go for it.

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ok well i've known this guy for a year now. We met through his twin sister who reads some fanfics i write and post up. well i think this is gonna be two questions but she asked me to talk to her brother did she think i was rite for him? and I really do like him and he likes me we said it to each other. Well he's turning 16 in april and i'm turning 15 in july i don't think he minds my age. he lives in flordia and i live in Texas and like i know that next year when my dad hopefully gets back from iraq we're suppose to go to Flordia to disney and they don't live far if brought along a friend do you think i could meet him? I really like him. oh one more thing heh i've never had a bf before not cause i'm ugly it's because i've wanted to date the right guy suppose well not just any guy i guess so what do you think?

I wouldn't do it.

One:Long distant relationships never work.
Two: This guy could be some 40 year old pyscho.

If you've never known this person, through school, through a friend, family member or anything at all.. then seriously don't do it. Thats practically asking for a death wish. & places like disneyland, or other active areas with alot of people around, well one its probably easy to get lost in the crowd, so this guy could easily take you. Just, trust me on this one.. don't do it. Don't give out any personal information. & ask him a ton of questions.

I once actually, found out if a guy was my age or some older pyscho.

Ask alot of questions. & see if he changes it larer on. Like ask a month later.

Its a horrible experience to go through finding out someone is a stalkerr or whatever.

So, good luck.

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I'm a 15 yr old sophmore and i like a 13 yrold 7th grader, is this wrong? I skipped a grade so i dont think its that weird but im afraid my "friends" would if they found out.

Ehhh. Your friends will probably think your a little weird, for liking a 7th grader. But, if you don't care about that, then go for it.

The only thing is.. even though, you arn't far apart in age, your far apart in maturity. Atleast, I can deff. see me way more mature then kids younger then me. & considering your already in highschool, & hes only in his first year of junior high.. that will also be hard for you guys to find stuff to talk about. While, he'll be wanting to talk about, some kid show, or i don't know..whatever, you'll be wanting to talk about stuff a little more exciting. You know? I mean, I don't know you or this kid personally, but when I dated a kid younger then me, thats how it was, he like would pout & stuff, just if I was talking to some other boy! Which is, retarded.

Anyways, I'd look for someone in highschool, theres a ton of boys there. I'm sure you can find one (:

Good luckkk.

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hey massie ur books are awesom i am like totally like u. but anyways i like this guy, but he is a year younger than me. i go to a private school and you just dont ask a younger guy out. i mean no one does that at our school. what should i do


13,female
jamie

I also go to a private school. & no girls liked younger guys. once i went out w/ one every1 else did.

Be a leader not a follower=]

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