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Bad Dream?
Okay me and my boyfriend have been going out for 11 months, and we were talking about a dream i had and then he started to tell me about his dream but then he stopped. i had to force him to tell me because he kept saying no, but he shouldnt have to hide anything from me. anyways he told me his dream. it hurt me so bad, i didnt show it because he seemed pretty upset and bothered by it also and ashamed but it realy hurt me , his dream was ; he was in his room or a room idk , with two other girls. having sex with them and stuff them doing stuff to him and stuff .......WHY W0ULD HE DREAM ABOUT THAT .. I DONT UNDERSTAND WHY THAT WAS IN HIS HEAD . he said he didnt know who the girls were, that they werent anyone, i want to belive him on that but i dont know . i dont know it hurt so bad to know that he was dreamin about fuckin two other girls. and i mean wht if this isnt the only time, i kno its just a dream but dreams mean something....does anyone know what this means?=/
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Dreams really don't mean anything.
Even if it did mean anything.. it represented a fantasy.. kind of like we girls would all love to make out with Chad Michael Murray.. but that doesn't mean we're going to go cheating on our boyfriends for CMM look-alikes...
It's just a dream. I have a bf and I have wicked weird dreams about other guys all the time and its just something natural and shouldn't be worried about.
Make sense?
Good luck!
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i dont think it really means anything, thats how guys are, they like sex. haha. but dont spazz its perfectly normal.
everyone gets a little horny someimes =]
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I doubt it means anything, I've had a dream or two about that kinda thing too. It didn't mean anything, because.. the people were like people who I usually forget their names whenever I talk to them. Sometimes dreams mean things, like if you're running away from something, or something in the back of your head. But, you can't control your dreams for one, & those dreams I think don't really mean anything. So chill out, its no biggie. (:
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i kno your worried and it hurts, buti bet you anything if you looked at your relationship there is no reason to believe he would want to cheat on you, im guessin he's a teenager and you are too. well rightn ow we have hormones runnin around, so although he loves you with all his heart, some hormones kicked in while he was sleeping and caused him to what's refered to as a wet dream. that's all. he doesnt want that to heppen or else he wouldnt seem ashamed and sad and not want to tell you. you think he stuck around 11 momths to cheat? all it is is hormones, and belive him onthe "he didnt even know him part" be cause as a guy i kno that we tend to have dreams bout people we dont even know and have never met, the hormones just go wild. nothin to worry bout
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It means he's normal.
Really, you need to lighten up a bit. People are NOT responsible for the content of our dreams! They are uncontrolled manifestations of the subconscious, and for you to get upset with him over his dreams is about the most unreasonable thing I can imagine. How exactly would you like him to control his dreams?
For that matter, it is not your place to police his thoughts. If he's like most of the male population of the world, then he DOES occasionally fantasize about sex with multiple women, along with a lot of other wild scenarios that you might find appalling. As long as he doesn't try to turn that into a reality behind your back, he's doing NOTHING WRONG.
Furthermore, if you continue to go overboard in your reactions after asking him to be honest with you, it won't be long before he begins to tell you only what you want to hear. If you want to preserve the honesty in your relationship, then don't get on his case when he shows the courage to bare his innermost thoughts and feelings. He'll stop sharing them with you if you do.
You're right: he shouldn't have to hide anything from you. He should be able to talk freely with you without having to worry about whether you'll go ballistic over silly things like what he dreams at night. If you want him to be honest and forthcoming with you in the future, then you need to apologize to him for overreacting. I think, however, that no matter what you do this is the last time he'll feel comfortable sharing a dream with you for a long while.
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okkay. he's a boy.
he's gonna have dreams
like that and they dont
mean anything. everyone
has a dream like that once
and a while. dont worry about
it. :]
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Dont stress about it. Hes a guy, guys think about other girls. Every guy does. haha. It will be okay. just try not to think of it. i know it hurts but it was definitely just a dream. If you notice something strange with him, signs of cheating, flirting or liking other girls, tell him about it. tell him how you felt about the dream also. just talk to him about it. it will make you feel better. i always talk to my boyfriend about things that bothers me. and everything gets worked out. talking is better than arguing, and misunderstanding things!
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