Hey! I'm Andrea.. my cousin has a column here, DarkChocolate794.
I've been giving advice here for a long long time. I've been through more than you'll know. I've managed to stay normal thanks to Jesus.
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14/m there is this girl who i kinda like. the problem is that she is out of my league. she is in all honors classes and im only in honors math and we're not in the same class. there is also this other guy that likes her (a friend of mine) and he has a better chance at going out with her than me cuz they are closer than she is with me. how can i get close to girls, so i'll have a better chance with them than other guys? (link)
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You need to talk to girls to get to know them.Talk to her whenever you see her.Start to flirt with her when you become friends.Don't wait for her to talk to you,because if she is really out of your league,she may not even know your name.
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sorry, this is kind of long but i really need help
Ok, im a thirteen year old girl. in 7th grade i was popular...but indeed a train wreck when it came to looks. now i have slimmed out alot, done my hair differently, my skin cleared up, and i guess i have fun grown up a whole lot more(body/face).and lately i have been noticing that guys have been a lot more flirty with me. they always liked my personality but now i think they actually see me as a woman. some of my guy freinds are always telling me how georgiouse i am. but anyway...our school resently split into 2 schools, one is across town now. alot of my freinds left, including this boy that i was freinds with. and i havnt seen him since this party i went to last weekend. before the school split, we were freinds and all, but i never really think he thought of me as a REALLY FUN girl that deserved more attention. anyway, at the party, he started REALLY to joke around with me and flirt(i think) and give me a lot of attention. plus he looks at me very differently. when i left he came over and made sure to say goodbye. i felt so special. What does this mean? Does he like me or just want to be freinds with me? personally, i think that attraction isnt the most important thing, and yet is is really important. if anyone could help me i would really appreciate it!!! thanks!! (link)
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We all need to learn this.THERE IS NO SUREFIRE WAY TO KNOW IF A GUY LIKES YOU.This guy is definetly flirting with you.Does he do this to other girls?If so it may mean nothing.If he doesn't,he may be into you.Try talking to him more,or flirting.Maybe something can happen.
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ok i hav had a bf for almsot 2 months now but ive been friend wid benefits with him for lyke a yr....well hes really causes alot of problems....he started smokin weed bout a month ago n then he told me he quit lyke 3 weeks ago n we wer surpose to go see a movie last frieday n he backed out last minute bc he had no money bc he blew it all on weed...so he lied to me bout quiting and he can never go newhere with me n emore bc he always spends his money on drugs. dont get me wrong when he isnt lyke this he is s0o gr8....but hes stopped calling n stuff n always has excuses and always backsout of our plans or will b lyke o ill callu bak n let u kno if i can go n then hell never call back....well heres the deal my brother plays soccer and theres this guy on his team named rafael....and omg he is so cute...so i told my bro to tell him wassup sexy LOL at practice....n he DID and ever since...rafael n me always stare at eachother n make eye contact with eachother at the games....wer both 2 shy 2 talk to eachother...but last game he told my brother to hook me n him up!!! he sed he wants to get to knno me n stuff...so today b4 my bro left 4 his soccer practice i was like tell rafael i wanna hok up with him 2...and so he did and rafael called my bro n then my bro gave him mai cell number n he just caled me!! it was my furst time talking to him!! hes soooo sweet! he was like ur brother tells me stuff (like that i like him n stuf) n i was like o ya lyke wat he was like go ask him n i was like i will later n then rafael was like just 2 let u kno i think the same about u.....i wa slike omg and i started blushing...hes so sweet and he actually calls when he says he will unlike my boyfriend...rafael is gonna call m tomorrow! well....idk wat to do....should i dump my boyfriend who i really lyke (but lately hes been a real ass) and take a chance n get with rafael? or wat do i do? bc it wouldnt b fair 2 rafael to be gettin with him if i hav a man,.... (link)
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I'm sorry but ISNT THE AWNSWER OBVIOUS???!!! Let's narrow it down.
*Your bf does drugs
*Your bf lied to you
*Your bf spends all his cash on weed
*He never calls you.
*then a sweet guy comes along and you ask me this question?
*I have made my point.
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does anyone know some cool places to shop for jeans? i've been looking for some but everywhere i go they're either too expensive or not my taste. (link)
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I get jeans from one of the Cheapest stores around.Wal-Mart. It's cheap but they fit right. You can also go to Abercrombie and Fitch.That's my second favorite store.Third I would say Macy's or Khols.Cheap stores rock when it comes to jeans,but if your looking for something that looks expensive,but is an ok price,go to Fashion Bug.It's good for everything.
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Do diet pills really work? I know there not healthy or anything. But i was thinking that if I went to my doctor they could perscribe me some healthy diet pills. Has anyone ever took them or a family/friend? And did it actually work. And yes I DO need to lose weight. Not a little about 100 pounds or so by next september or december. --And im also talking about the diet pills you can by in the stores. Thanks! (link)
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My best advice to you is lose weight the hard way. Diet pills,patches and other things don't work.
Eat right,exercize,and watch the pounds go away!If your looking for a quick-fix weight loss,go under the knife.Most rapid weight loss is unsafe so don't bother.Pills and surgery will kill you,so stay safe and go to the Gym!I know this because my dad is a doctor,and i've ben reading medical books since i was 5!
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well see, my friend Ricky like just broke up w/ his gf. And he was really into her. I mean REALLY. he loved her more than anyhting in the world. And now she broke ^ w/ him for another guy and hes soo fuckin depressed now. he started to cut himself again ((which he hasnt done once since they went out)). And hes attempting suicide. Im so scared idk what to do. And im mad cuz mad becouse i cant do anything. so if u guys have any ideas please tell me. im desperate. i dont want him to die..... (link)
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You should talk to the girl and ask her why she broke up with the guy.If that does'nt work,you should try to console your guy friend. Tell him that that girl is'nt worth anything If she doesnt like him for him,and tell him shes not worth giving your life for.Try and help your friend in his timeof need.
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i have a crush on this girl..Chrissy..... she knows i like her but i am too shy to talk to her and ask her out... does anyone have any advice for me to get over it and talk to her or give me something to say to her to start a convo.... please help me out ... thanks - (link)
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Ask her to a dance at your school or something.If you don't want to ask her to the actuall dance,ask her to dance with you.(slow dance of course) It will take the pressure off.
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i am in love with a girl, she used to like me but she for some reason "stopped"...i found out recently that she snuck out with her friend and two guys and went somewhere and was making out with this guy for like 2 hours and i thought me and her had something, she said he was really nice and they just clicked and hes a sophomore at my school, although me and her "clicked" supposedly and i was nicer to her than any guy could ever imagine being to her...she told me not to be mad at her, hate her, or stop talking to her because that would be fucked up...please dont tell me to get over it and everything...ive tried and theres more to it but im sure youll get bored reading this long page...ill rate a 5 if you give me a helpful answer...WHAT DO I DO!?!?!?! (link)
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This is a very old fashioned way to do this,but be persistant. Come to her house with flowers,post letters on her locker,even a picture.Always make it anonymous so she wont know.Also,tell her about you-something you know she would like that she never knew about you.Or be at least her friend,and see if you can work your way up.If this does'nt work,the pesimistic way to put this,(I am NOT going to say forget about her,) is get her jealous. I usually never get down and dirty,but this is love. Date her best friend if you have to.Yes it makes you look like scum,but if your sure you want to get her back this way.
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i told my boyfriend i was holding this guys hand as a friend and he said he dont get how you can hold someones hand as a friends..does anyone else kno a way of explaining that?? (link)
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Men,they get jealous a lot.Yes,you can hold a guys hand as a friend- most guys dont have female friends. You've explained well enough.Maybe its time to chat,after that if he still doesn't trust you,a relationship is no good without trust,so say bye.He's not good enough for you.
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I am always always depressed. I find myself constantly upset and moody. I have very little self confidence and right now I am in a rocky patch with my friends so I feel even worse. My boyfriend and everyone around me tells me that I am pretty and people like me but I don't feel that way. (link)
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Your boyfriend loves you for you. Your a good person and remember its not what others think about you,its the way you feel about yourself.If you appear confident,more people will see you thatway and you'll wake new friends.Strut what you got,be friendly.You need to be kind and friendly to get friends,and for your old friends,say bye to them if they don't like you. You deserve better than that.
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